Lenny

♒/music lover/guitarist/fighter/BLM

[literaturacademia]

ezra miller / damiano david

[toastbutteregg]

sharing this cause i wish i learned this sooner

[saltedcaramelwound]

But did you really forgive them if you aren’t willing to let them back into your life

[illvminavt]

[edgar-allan-possum]

Forgiveness is letting go of your anger at someone. It doesn’t mean you have to trust them again.

[urbanfantasyinspiration]

People often confuse forgiveness for reconciliation

[sinnahsaint]

My abusive ex once tracked me down and said he had done so because of a 12-step program telling him to make amends. He apologized. I told him “I’m glad to hear you’re getting help. Thank you for the apology.” He then tried to add me as a friend on Facebook. I told him “I accepted your apology but we are not friends. I hope your life continues to improve. Goodbye.” and thankfully he fucked off. I have to tell you though… I was sweating bullets the whole time.

I am honestly glad if he is getting help(I only 70% believe he was in the program and only 40% believe he will change because of it)…. but not only does an apology not heal the damage he caused… it certainly isn’t enough for me to risk further damage.

I owe him nothing. I didn’t even owe him a response to the apology. I did that for me because that is who I want to be. I want to be the person who can set healthy boundaries while being compassionate to those who have wronged me.

Hate is a heavy burden to carry for someone you don’t even like, so I choose not to hate. I do choose who I let into my life however, and there is a high bar.

[styrke-deactivated20240722]

you are allowed to be proud of the victories that no one else can see. like showering without completely hating your body, not breaking into tears at the thought of the future, talking yourself out of a dark mindset, calming yourself down in public, or like waking up every single day and choosing life. be proud of the progress no matter if it is visible for others or not. you’re doing great, keep up the good work!

[studentlifeproblems]

[trylonandperisphere]

Wow. The patience, kindness and calm communication skills. Outstanding.

From raindovemodel

[loveislattes]

This made me cry. I wish all situations could be handled as perfectly as this

[fatsexybitch]

I just want to point out the core of what the diffuser did in this conversation

They recognized that the mother was also expressing a vulnerable truth about herself - that she felt like a bad mother because her child was expressing gender feelings she wasn’t equipped to help with - and met her where she was, a concerned parent with limited information - to point her where she should be heading, research and resources.

Im going to make more of an effort to stop reflexively pushing people away when they express biases and make more of an effort to hear the underlying fears when i can

[redseeker]

“it’s easier to love ourselves when we feel loved as ourselves”

damn that is so  powerful though

[justnick612-deactivated20210723]

God this always makes me tear up ahaha…

[rehfan]

This is SO BRILLIANT. I wish I were this calm and collected.

[anxietyproblem]

[oldbloggoodbye]

really hate how so many people are aphobic, transphobic, etc without being OPEN about it. i just wanna follow some new people without having to search through their blog to make sure they dont hate me or other people for simply existing

[oldbloggoodbye]

no seriously if you hate ace people get the fuck away from me. do not even try to defend yourself. i literally do not care.

[adhbabey]

This is a safe space for ace, trans and nonbinary people. Fuck off, exclusionists.

[bumbleshark]

[anxietyproblem]

@psych2go

[anothersadgayboy]

Always busy, always irritated.

[dragons-study-too-deactivated20]

5/5

[studentlifeproblems]

[afeelgoodblog]

The mental image of this is just delightful

[solitarelee]

bro let me hold your hand bro just help me out i’m trying to figure out my girlfriend’s ring size BRO

[achievementhaunterss]

not be like “ugh the Youths” but i think kids nowadays have gotten Too Comfortable on the internet.

like i see these tweets on twitter like “hey im 14 and i just got kicked out pls rt so i can find somewhere to stay im in x state/city” and like HOLY SHIT i cannot emphasize enough how incredibly dangerous this is. you’re broadcasting to EVERYONE that you are young, vulnerable, and desperate AND information on how to find you!!!! like i know you meant for that to be just for your friends on twitter but that’s a public tweet!!! ANYONE could see it!!! like I saw it and i have no idea who you are you are not in my circle and yet!!! so like WHO ELSE has seen it!!!

[sugarcoatednightshade]

This girl on among us have me her number and turns out she’s 13. It was like 3am and she proceeded to tell me the name of her town, what school she went to, both of her parents jobs, how she did in class, what her home life is like, the first names of all of her friends, ect. All of this mostly unprompted. The smartest thing she did was ask to FaceTime me to make sure I ‘wasn’t a 40yo catfish’ and she talked about the other kids that she had met on among us this way.

To any kids out there: I know that quarantine is stressful and we’re all depressed and lonely bu please please please don’t give out your information to strangers on the internet, and if you do there are dozens of safer options than just giving everything to everyone and just hoping for the best

My little sister is 14 and she gave out her information to the wrong person who shared it somewhere and she can now count on two hands the number of teens and young adults who have asked for nudes and favors and personal information. It’s really worsening her anxiety and anorexia so please I’m begging you don’t give out any of your information unless you explicitly trust the person you’re giving it to.

[crazybutconfidentaf]

Stranger danger yall. And if you’re ever wondering what you could do to keep yourself safe, here’s a list.

1. Use an alias (don’t have to but doesn’t hurt, especially when you have a unique name)

2. NEVER give your last name! (E.g. if you’re Jessica, aint no way they gonna be able to find you without your last name. Don’t risk it)

3. NEVER give your address (things like country is still vague enough. But if you tell anyone your street or something super identifiable)

4. You don’t have to post photos of yourself! (You can if you want to but remember to be careful! Street names and addresses should not be visible in these photos!)

5. Block creeps. Anyone that ya getting bad vibes from, just block em. Don’t be scared about being “mean”. Protect yourself.

This is all from the top of my head so if anyone wants to add go ahead. Let’s help protect the younglings.

[frogconnoisseur-remade-deactiva]

[sorrynotsorrybi]

I can’t stop laughing because…

like I don’t know how you can get more obvious than tweeting “I’m sure I’m bisexual,” but clearly The Sun isn’t convinced

[sorrynotsorrybi]

tbt to the time a bi woman explicitly said she was sure she was bisexual and “journalists” were like

[nudityandnerdery]

I mean, it’s a thing…

[sushinfood]

biphobia is rampant in all walks of life sadly

[ironwoman359]

The look on Bowie’s face in that last picture, he’s just like “how thick are you? I’m bi, deal with it”

[sarahwys-deactivated20220315]

[captain-snark]

This is the same tactic my 5 year old nephew uses when he doesn’t like the answer you give him. 

[whitepeopletwitter]

[birdandmoon]

How to tell a raven from a crow. Made with corvid researcher Dr. Kaeli Swift for her blog post on the subject!

[theprinceofsnark]

These are all well and good (accurate and informative and also fun) but here’s the best way to tell the difference between the two:

Ravens are FUCKING huge.

[gelana78]

It’s legit so fun to watch people react to a raven. One was chilling on the table outside the local fast food restaurant, and a small crowd was gathered, wide eyed, gawking.

[ithelpstodream]

Some guy just mansplained space to an actual fucking astronaut.

[clownsauce-deactivated20230729]

tfw correcting misinformation is written off as mansplaining

[darwinquark]

tfw when idiots on tumblr who know jack shit about thermo assume the dude is ‘correcting misinformation’ when actually he’s dead ass wrong. ‘Spontaneous’ is a scientific term - it means a reaction with a negative Gibb’s free energy, i.e. a reaction that will occur without an external energy input, i.e. water boiling because of low atmospheric pressure. Spontaneous is absolutely the correct term for what she’s observing, and that is ‘simple thermo’, and this is ‘correcting misinformation’.

Have a nice day.

[waitinghopingliving]

[weirdoughnut]

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