ARE YOU STILL BREATHING?

closed in a venus flytrap like a seraph trapped in its own wings

[yurimom]

‼️ my blog isn’t for minors! i don’t post anything nsfw other than dirty jokes, but this still is not a space for people under 18 ‼️

if you have a question, feel free to dm me.

‼️ i cannot answer every ask/mention because i get so many. but if you ask me for mutual aid i will verify and then share your post. thank you ‼️

[gingik]

[thehappysmiler]

[thehappysmiler]

[bakugames]

a weird thing is that we got waves of people going "who cares if its cringe or youre annoying! have fun!" but no one really learned how to accept the fact that some people will find you annoying or think your art or your work or posts or anyrhing sucks and thats ok. rather it just became a weird "if people think youre annoying theyre just morally bad. let people enjoy things!". like no i think this yes man only biome sucks and people are allowed to not like artstyles and shows and media and other things

[bakugames]

if youre an artist, a creator, or just someone whos involved in hobbies: learning that no matter what you do, some people will find you annoying is extremely important for your mental health, just as learning that not liking things is normal and youre allowed to do it

[bakugames]

as people have mentioned in the tags, i think this yes-man attitude leads more people to make up random moral reasons to dislike things. if disliking something for no reason is bad, then you have to constantly justify yourself as to why this thing sucks, which is also not mature and sucks

[himejoshibutch]

happy pride month to hater lesbians!! i love u never stop hating <3

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[slimegirlwarlock]

[yurimom]

asking my friends if we were laced blunts what would each of us be laced with and why

[yurimom]

i know it doesnt actually apply to me, so im not rbing it. but theres a post on here thats like “If you were ever on 4chan seriously for any reason at all you should go to hell for real”

and i got this stupid pang of shame because i was on there. when i was 10 years old. for the /mlp/ board. i cannot stress enough i was 10. mlp had recently started airing. the board itself was brand new.

1) obviously i was on that board and desensitized to the things on that board bc of childhood trauma before then, but still…

2) i cannot even begin to tell you the kind of extra damage it did to me. in fact i think it heavily contributed to a fucked up domino effect that influenced the rest of my life.

i also want to say reddit was just as bad. i first got on reddit when i was 8 and told nobody my age, but it was obvious from the way i left comments/what posts i interacted with and how (childrens media related) i was an elementary schooler. my pms were filled with people trying to get me to do sexual things so desperately and send pictures by appealing to what i liked as a kid, that it was obvious even to 8 year old me.

if i had to rank how bad each website i was on as an elementary schooler was:

1) 4chan

2) deviantart (because the grooming was a lot more insidious but had a much more profound effect on me: this is where i had an “online gf” “my age” and it being one of the rare times my parents stepped in, it turns out it was actually her fucking MOM talking to me using her DAUGHTER’S pictures)

3) reddit

4) omegle

5) club penguin

anyway i still get this total hit of fear anytime a kid starts talking to me about how they’re on the internet, and then start talking about fandoms they’re in that are mostly populated by adults.

like. webkinz is still running and i never had a single issue there ever. make your kid a webkinz account or something. the internet is so fucking evil.

[crawfishcomic]

Mappa Mundi

[moldavite]

there's so much i don't know. how do i learn everything by tomorrow

[the-quasar-hero]

Very generally speaking, when you see a black man in a piece of media, be it tv show, movie, video game, etc. there’s something you often see a lot of writers do. To go against the stereotype of black men (and black people in general) being dumb and lazy, you’ll see this black male character being smart and an achiever. 

The Black Nerd. A common character type, the nerd will always be very interested in all things nerdy: science, video games, mathematics, etc. In an continued effort to combat stereotypes, the Black Nerd will be lack athleticism, probably being asthmatic (the nerdiest of conditions). The Black Nerd will dress smartly, suspenders and bow ties. They’ll always talk smart too, using proper English with complex words.

Now, I don’t have a problem with a black character being a nerd, indeed black people are a people; we aren’t all the same and we all have varying personalities. The problem I have is that too often we see a distinct disconnect between Blackness and the Black Nerd. The Black Nerd doesn’t listen to hip hop or rap, only classical music. The Black Nerd only has white friends, the only other black characters are into not nerdy stuff. The Black Nerd never ever uses AAVE at any time in any context.

And again I must say that Black people, not being a monolith, there are no hard fast rules to being Black. I’m more than sure there are Black people like what I’ve described above, I’m not saying it’s impossible; what I’m getting at is that the only Black Nerd we see. There are Black Nerds that play basketball, that bump Kendrick Lamar, and use AAVE since it’s an ever changing dialect. I’m just saying there’s no one way of being a nerd and no one way of being Black.

[the-quasar-hero]

Well @dumbey, seems we’re in similar boats

[the-quasar-hero]

This ain’t about him, this is about Black/Asian solidarity. Focus.

[yurimom]

i hate a bitch who panders during quiplash until im the one doing it then its awesome

[hustlerose]

i am begging you people to learn the meanings of genres before u talk about them. do not be the guy who thinks gorillaz is punk and taylor swift is grunge

[hustlerose]

i think semantic mistakes like this stem from not being very "well read" musically speaking. you listen to a song, you like it or you have strong feelings about it, and you want to talk about it in a way that reflects your enthusiasm. so you have a go at mimicing the language of critics, which means describing the music, putting it in context, trying to make a point about it

the problem is, this is the only band you've heard in this genre. you don't know the parameters, boundaries, and tropes of their genre. so all you can do is fall back on the 4 or 5 genre names you know about. and then you end up as the guy in the screenshot who thinks tally hall is metal

try going on the rateyourmusic or discogs page for the album you're talking about. those will tell you the actual genre of the thing you're talking about, which enables tou to have conversations with others about it. those sites also have a little blurb about the nature of genre, its history, and a list of notable artists in that space. maybe listen to some of them for a few minutes, so you know what to listen for when identifying the genre in the wild

doing this will enrich your experience with the music you love

[yurimom]

someone is baking fries at 1 am in my complex i can fucking smell it through my very pores

[faux-friend]

When a black person states that something you did was racist, chill the fuck out. Its annoying dealing with you panicking trying to dissociate yourself from racism. If you're not black, black people already assume youve said nigga or its variant at least once in your life. If they're interacting with you and bringing something up, its because they want you to stop doing that so they can still interact with you(if ur already friends)

You WILL be racist. You WILL do racist things. You have ALREADY done both. Learn and move on. There's no ideological purity you can hold on to, i promise. Proving you can take the criticism without making it a big deal and practice what you preach is better than any clean slate.

Be the kind of person black people don't have to gamble on. Shut up and lock in