Dekiru's notebook

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[pvpmogai]

radically queer, non-radqueer

a term and flag for those who consider themselves to be radically queer, but not a part of the radqueer community or to fit in how the label is currently represented/perceived.

why might someone not want to be a part of the radqueer community?

the radqueer community is full of constant infighting, harassment, discourse, and callouts, especially over very small things (such as an anti-c unknowingly liking a post made by a comp-c getting harassed for "supporting pro-cs", or someone acting "weird" and getting labeled as a "secret anti" automatically and having baseless callout posts made about them, etc)

the rqc is known to harbor genuine abusers and terrible people. no, im not saying "everyone who labels themself as anything other than 100% strictly anti-c is actually abusing 1000000000 kids and animals daily", im talking about people who genuinely abuse others but label it as "conabuse", people who disguise genuine bigotry (especially nazism) as "transharmful transitioning" or being "cisharmful", etc. theres also a huge amount of xenosatanists, basedqueers, etc who are openly pro-rape, which is self-explanatory - despite how extremely anti-contact the community is, they for some reason are perfectly fine with xenosatanists/adjacent folks because "i have no empathy so i think rape is okay" (as someone with low empathy, this is not fucking true) or "well theyre still a valid part of the community and they should be supported".

theres also a fixation on coining terms, to the point where the same terms are coined many times over - many popular bloggers do this, and then their terms get labeled as the "originals" simply because theyre popular, and people who recoin or make alt flags for their terms are harassed for "stealing" because of how aggressive and reactionary the community is. we, and some of our friends, have experienced this personally - ive had many of my terms recoined and had the recoins claimed to be "originals" (such as transeverything, nulldisabled, transBPD, and more), and one of my close friends has been harassed for creating an alternative flag for a term that pup didnt even claim was hir original idea.

theres also a huge prioritization of what you bodily/chronologically/etc are over what you internally are. most people in the radqueer community see transIDs as something you call yourself just for fun but really arent, something you just "want to be" but will never remotely be. its honestly just completely transphobic - especially since, yes, people in the community do this with transgender folks as well and call trans men "ciswomen transmen" or act like someone whos AMAB will always be a man who "wants to be a woman". people are told that if they dont put their chrono-age in their bio theyre "trying to trick people", if they dont put literally everything they bodily are then theyre lying to everyone. this goes against the entire point of transIDs.

theres of course much more problems, but these are some of the major ones.

why would someone still be "radically queer" if they arent radqueer?

supporting transIDs, paraphilias, microlabels, contradictory labels, youthlib, etc is radical to wider society. these things arent widely accepted to many people, and the act of supporting people who are widely unsupported is radical.

the problem is, most radqueers are not very radical. many radqueers now are anti-para, anti-endo, anti-contradictory labels, anti-transid, etc. being radically queer is not being radqueer; most radqueers now are not radically queer in the slightest. being radically queer is about radically accepting, supporting, and uplifting marginalized non-harmful identities, which is not at all what the radqueer community is doing.

finally, stripe meanings:

black stripes: being radically queer and inclusive, while not being part of the radqueer community

cool colors: seeking to fix harm and help others access more productive solutions to dysphoria around bigoted identities, nonconsensual desires, etc

warm colors: loving and supporting people, supporting consensual contact, and not harassing or hurting others even if those people are doing something wrong

white stripe: unity and compassion between radically queer folks, even if you may disagree on some things

info about the coiner and why i coined this:

hi! im gene, of the dna system, and i joined the radqueer community around 2021 (although i didnt start coining until early 2022). after a lot of drama happened 2023, i left the community and became extremely anti-radqueer. and then in late 2024, i joined the radqueer community again, but the community was completely different than it was when i first joined. to put it simply: the radqueer community fucking sucks now and i cant stand being in it. i dont see myself as a part of that community anymore, but i still am very accepting and supportive of people in a way i believe to be radical. several of my friends felt the same way, and we started calling ourselves "radically queer" instead of "radqueer" and that felt a lot more right than being in the very shitty radqueer community. and then i made an official flag for it :3

[manniskodus]

（ ♡ ） angelkin / divinekin tips that aren’t just « wear flowy dresses » and ritualized domesticity.

- - - disclaimer :: this is what works 444 me & my divine self-concept. if it does not align with your tastes, aesthetic sensibilities, or general tolerance for angelic theatrics, that is entirely expected.

— send emails !! write letters !! leave anonymous asks !! if your nature is that of a messanger, let your voice travel where your body cannot.

— study angelology across dispersed theological & esoteric systems. learning how divinity is structured across cultures, can in turn clarify your own noemata !!

— construct a shrine. it may be physical or digital. consider:

• what form could embody your presence ? (statue, effigy, framed likeness, abstract symbol) you can also make a statue out of clay.

• what sigil might function as your invocation mark ? make one !!

• what crystals correspond to you ?

• what plant/flower correspond to you ?

• what herbs correspond to you ?

• what incense/scent/oil feels like your atmospheric signature ?

• what candle colour corresponds to you ?

• what are acceptable offerings at your altar ? (dancing, singing, your favorite silly drink…)

• now, what offering would you reject ?hmm ???

• what ritual would petition your attention ? & conversely, how would you respond ?

• compose a prayer in your name !!

— engage with resonant frequencies such as 999 Hz or 1111 Hz, often framed as angelic harmonics. whether symbolic or perceptual, they function as auditory liminal spaces.

— pursue sacred linguistics. (hebrew, latin, arabic, indigenous languages..)

— DO BACKSTRETCHES !!111!!!111!!!! if you are of the angelic temperament, then the spine becomes a sacred column. loosen what has been carried too long. let the body remember it was not made only for endurance.

— try ancient methods of scribing if it calls to you. medieval scribal methods hold particular allure to me. you can age parchment with tea or coffee. vellum-making exists too, if you don’t mind the smell.

— if protective instinct is intrinsic to your nature, direct it at your favorite person with consent & clarity. being someone’s guardian angel, when offered freely, becomes a form of devotion rather than possession.

— seek elevation, both literal and perceptual. rooftops can serve as vantage points for contemplation. but stay safe please !!! height is meaningful only when it does not erase grounding.

— if your angelic identity is rooted in divine machinery rather than religion, cultivate technical literacy. learn systems of computation, networks, and code as one would once learn scripture.

that’s all for now, loves ♡ feel free 222 reblog this w/ more ideas !! — rem 🏹͙🪽⋆˙⟡

[trapnestmf]

⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ 𓂃 you’re trying to feel your dr with your cr senses

⠀a lengthy shifting guide

why is it so hard to shift from your cr to your dr but not so much vice versa? you’ve spent the first large chunk of your life believing this reality to be the full extent and foundation of existence. even if you now logically understand this not to be the case, the years spent curating and deepening a mental, emotional, and physical anchor to this reality has warped your perception of reality and instilled in to you the subconscious idea that your cr is the default. and in treating it as the default, the end all be all, and in compromising with it, you reinforce the idea that you are attached or stuck here—that it is even a place to get stuck in in the first place. not only do you trap yourself in this reality and grant it power over you that it does not actually have, you start viewing your cr as the “starting point” too, and shifting as some form of transportation from point A to point B. accompanying this belief is an imagined distance created between your current reality and desired reality. you might’ve already recognised this in yourself; the feeling that your dr is somehow faraway, a place that needs to be travelled to.

it’s important to make and internalise the distinction between a shift in realities as an act of metaphysical travel, and a shift in realities as a shift in focus. imo the former is a much better descriptor for what shifting actually is in essence. i will go into more depth later, but a byproduct of being raised the way you were, growing up knowing nothing but your cr and rooting & centring yourself wholly (confined) within it, is the over identification you end up developing with your cr self. you are not living reality, you are watching it. but after years of the constant unbroken immersion, the two become almost impossible to distinguish. you define yourself by and take on as if they were your own the thoughts and identity and feelings of the “vessel” you are observing, and let them dictate how you experience reality. the lines begin to blur between you; your cr self, and you; your awareness/the observer.

feel your hand. don’t touch it, but notice it’s weight and temperature, or the air around it. now feel the feeler. can you feel yourself? or your body, maybe? now go a step further and feel the one feeling. you probably aren’t fully able to, but this is the observer. “the observer”, or the state of being after breaking the immersion, is you in your natural or purest state. it has also been described as pure awareness, the void state, ego death, sakshi, the self, anatta, and interpreted in different ways across a multitude of different religions and branches of spirituality & philosophy, all used as a means to an end for different things. fyi—i’m not saying you have to completely forsake your cr identity or start ignoring/dismissing your senses or thoughts to shift, just understand that those things don’t define you or your reality. the means to the end here is just getting a point across and hopefully helping improve with the approach you take to shifting. all of this to say, you’re not travelling from point A to point B. point A and B are not places you can (technically) even travel to or exist in, because you’re just watching/observing/being aware of. shifting is not the transportation of a self from one location to another. shifting is simply changing what is focused on/experienced; from one stream of experience to another. a shift in focus.

to summarise, you as in your ego, the you in this cr as you know it, your body, your brain, your thoughts, your identity, don’t actually go or shift anywhere. you, your awareness, in favour of perceiving you, your cr self, the one sat at your computer or phone or whatever reading this right now, starts perceiving a different you/ego/self—one that could have the exact same personality, memories, and thoughts, just in another realty, or one that is a different person entirely. there is only a change or “shift” for the observer, not the cr self or ego. so stop trying to feel your dr with your cr senses. you’re not going to. you’re so immersed in your cr and cr self that you automatically rely on this reality’s bodies’ senses to gauge your success when you try to shift, waiting for your cr self to get a cue that it’s never going to get. the surroundings your cr self feels aren’t going to go anywhere. nor are your senses going to shut off. your cr body will continue to receive sensory information, because that’s what bodies do. so don’t lie there expecting your bedsheets to disappear or magically warp into your dr surroundings or something and feel like you’ve failed when they don’t. shifting is not about somehow willing your surroundings to change or lying in your room forcefully convincing yourself that your senses are feeling something else, it’s about acknowledging what’s beyond those senses. feeling and connecting to what your dr self feels.

if you can still feel your cr, it’s not you feeling it, it’s your cr self. and you are not your cr self.

you can apply this to your thoughts too. your thoughts are no less your cr self’s than your senses are. if you start getting doubts mid attempt or can’t let go of the thought or feeling that you’re not in your dr, remind yourself that you are not your feelings or thoughts or doubts. you are simply observing them. of course your cr self will think that they’re still in their cr, they are. just ignore them and shift your attention elsewhere. your focus and awareness are what dictate what you experience, if you relinquish your focus from your cr and direct it to your dr instead, that’s where you’ll “be”.

obviously there’s no one set way to shift, so if you want you can stop reading here and apply this information to your shifting journey in whatever way suits you. if you’re interested in my method though, here’s the compilation of all this info into practical steps you can actually take to shift.

get comfortable somewhere you won’t be disturbed. close your eyes and focus on what you can see. the light behind your eyelids, shapes, colours, whatever. but instead of automatically interpreting these sensations as belonging to your cr, allow them to become sensory input from your dr. light? that’s coming from the lamp by the xyz in your dr bedroom. or maybe your in a field if that’s a fitting setting for your dr, and it’s the sun shining down on you. shapes? that’s because you’ve been lying down with your eyes closed for a while now, you’re tired after your classes or job or whatever you do in your dr. even if it’s nothing at all, let it be your drs nothing. just feel it. do this for about a minute.

then move onto your body. whether it’s sinking, lightness, tingling, focus on it. and do the exact same as you did for the previous step, interpret it as input coming from your dr. don’t worry if you can still feel your body lying in your bed, because your surroundings aren’t going to change—at least not physically. again, those sensations belong to your cr self, and they don’t prevent awareness from directing itself elsewhere. the goal here is to shift your focus away from them and onto something else, so hyperfocusing on your cr and worrying about your surroundings is counterintuitive. just gently guide your attention back to your dr, really try feel your dr surroundings and what your dr body is currently feeling. if you can’t fully avert your focus away from your cr, that’s fine, at the very least just try receive/tap into the input coming from your dr alongside your cr.

finally focus on what you can hear. if you’ve already managed to make a connection with your dr through your sight and physical senses just build up on what you’ve already got. feel grass tickling your skin? deepen the connection there by focusing on the sound now too, the wind blowing through it. see light behind your eyes? focus on the hum of the lights.

repeat these exercises over and over, deepening the connection with each cycle. if you don’t manage to get anything the first cycle just keep going until you do. it might take some practice. like i mentioned before, after spending so much time here and being in constant attunement with your cr self, the sense that your cr is the default starts to take root and it can be difficult to shake the feeling that you’re just indefinitely “here”. it’s normal for it to take some time to learn how to question this feeling and push past it. since you've never (technically?) been aware of anything outside of this reality, learning how to do so can be a bit like learning how to use a muscle you've never used before.

this method operates on the idea that reality is something that is tuned into through focus & narrowed awareness and not something metaphysically travelled across, so for the most success with it, i’d recommend starting to make a conscious effort to see your dr less like a place and more like a wavelength or channel, a perspective already existing beyond your current focus. shifting to your dr then becomes an effort to notice and receive input from this channel/wavelength, input that already exists out there and that simply needs to be acknowledged. you’re just picking up on what’s already there, feeling something that a version of you already feels.

persist in the belief that reality is observed and flexible. you’re not "stuck" anywhere unless you believe you are.

[krmkworkshop]

radq blinkie

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smooth version:

[rqcmogai]

—　　radqueer　spinterest　　✦

a special interest flag[link] for people who have a special interest in the radqueer community, radqueer labels, radqueer history, or any other topic related to being radqueer.

© rqcmogai on tumblr. archival is appreciated. reuploads to other platforms are okay. adding PT is appreciated.

[chocolateheartwizard]

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[zu-saves4later]

[zu-saves4later]

[lungmold]

RAINBOW BLINKIES!

All ripped from this site.

[rainbow-rings-symbols]

could I please request some radqueer related symbols? words such as radqueer, contact stances, paras, adjacent, & community terms!

Obligatory "i dont think children or animals can consent to sexual interaction" disclaimer because people will always say some shit on anything that even Sniffs radqueer or adjacent. Also obligatory "this is an AAC / communication symbol blog" disclaimer , im not here for discourse im here to let people talk about different topics. If any symbols are associated with certain contact stances or discourse stances I don't know about don't blame me I just work here

Radqueer rainbow with strawberry, Radq flag with strawberrry, Blankqueer

Radqueer rainbow strawberry, Radq adjacent 1 + 2

Paraphile / Paraphilia

Mu symbol, Map

Alef zoo symbol, Zeta symbol

Consang 1 + 2 (sensory friendly version)

I'll make a separate post for contact stance symbols cuz I wound up making quite a few! I hope these work for you

[gay-toki-doki]

I keeps on seeing anti-radqueer posts in TikTok comment sections, and it pisses me off. This is why I try to avoid TikTok, it’s so toxic :(

[ushka-coins]

>> TransAO3Author

>> when someone identifies as an AO3 author in a trans way

>> Subterm: TransAO3CurseVictim

>> when someone identifies as being a victim of the AO3 writer''s curse in a trans way

>> there is no incorrect way to use our terms

>> ask box open for requests

[mdlouvre]

[violetearuby]

[custardfingers-graphics]

can u make some transsparkledog graphicz (this flag specifically: https://transid.org/uploads/images/gallery/2024-09/transsparkledog.png )

it can be literally anything :33

-🎉🐾

TransSparkleDog Graphics

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Blinkies here (link)

Stamps

Fade Div

Blur Div

Thin Dividers

Symbol Dividers

Userboxes

[star-----light]

transid blinkies of the main transid types. i had a lot of fun making these- i may even make more free to use, i don't care

[tobiosty]

General useful stuff!

Guides

How to make Crumbl Cookies!

How to bookbind!

How to pirate movies/shows

How to make frog plushies

How to make a Go-bag for emergencies

How to repair clothing

How to make different a03 kudos!

How to download videos/pictures/gifs from a website

How to make various chocolate desserts!

Tips and Tricks!

A03 formatting

Back stretches!

Depression tips

Adult cheat sheet

How to regulate and understand your emotions better

Disabling Windows 11 web search in search bar

Resources

Horror game recs!

Dca fic recs!

Hand references

Free Adobe photoshop

Artist resources

Free spotify

Pirating sites

Artist resources pt 2

Helpful random sites

Homemaking, gardening, sustainability

Free libraries!

Making stuff and doing things (free book pdf)

Healthcare (medicine discount websites, guide on how to pay hospital bills)

Alternative stuff to mega corporations

[daysleftofsecondterm]

Useful the next 1,110 days

[starmaker-astral]

Random bunch of useful stuff