taking what's not yours

icon and banner art both by me mwah

[zzzombiegrrl]

my name is maddy, this is my blog. it's a little messy, but i never really clean up. just step around it.

i'm a member of @guildofghosts and i get my own sideblog because i'm special (extremely online <\3 )

i'm a transgender girl & xenogender + neopronoun collector, i'm some sort of nonhuman patchwork

i'm objectum (mainly power tools & plushies)

uhhhh. yeah. i'll put more here later (including a banner) but i haven't done it yet lol

i prefer that people under 16 don't interact (and i'm in my 20's / we're bodily an adult if that Matters),

and that people do NOT bring discourse onto my page. (or i will eat you sideways like a cob of corn.)

my ask box is open <3 go wild

tags:

#🤍 puts my paws on you = rbs from friends / mutuals

#🍽️ loved it so much i ate it = favorites of all time

#🪦 howling at the tomb = behold. shower thoughts

#🦴 put that thing away = suggestive / penis tag (mute if you don't want to see the occasional rb/post that has that kind of content)

#❔polls = polls. i couldn't think of a funny name

#🛌 woof = unserious venting / general complaining. stuff that makes me crawl back in bed under the covers bc living will always find ways to be difficult

#🖼️ paw prints = my art :4

[zzzombiegrrl]

never shave 🤍

[homunculus-argument]

If you're trying to tell someone that something they did inadvertedly hurt your feelings, and they treat this conversation like a debate where their goal is to successfully argue that they did nothing wrong, and that you have no right to feel upset, that's your cue that you should give up trying to have any kind of a real, genuine relationship with them. Everyone will sometimes end up doing something that you hadn't realised would upset someone you care about, you can't be constantly aware of every single thing at all times. But turning the following conversation into an argument of uncompromisingly justifying and defending their actions is a sign you shouldn't ignore.

They don't think that upsetting you is the problem. What they have a problem with is you thinking you deserve better than how they want to treat you.

[theonewhopoops]

While I ultimately agree so I'm reblogging, just adding an additional perspective of my own:

It might not be so malicious a motivation. Instead of having a problem with "you thinking you deserve better than how they want to treat you," it could be zero percent about you and 100% about them in their mind (even ifthey can'tconsciously express this). It could be that the problem they have with this situation is the idea that they're doing harm, ESPECIALLY the idea that they're doing harm when they think they aren't.

I've met plenty of people that fall into this alternative category, where they ONLY see how hard they're trying, how stressed they are, how "good" of a person they're striving to be (from their worldview), and then they're told that - no - in fact they are hurting someone. Which can sound like "you are wrong, you are bad, you do bad things, and this has always been true and will always be true" so they get defensive and reactive.

All that is to say, the end result is the same: they may debate and defend instead of purposefully listen to your needs. YOU don't have to be the one to try to walk them through "how to calmly listen to someone without becoming defensive" or "how to reasonably accept criticism and talk through interpersonal issues" either way.

[homunculus-argument]

It might seem callous, but I don't think it matters why someone is defensive about being allowed to do everything exactly their own way and will not consider doing anything different as an option. If someone starts telling you that doing things the way that upsets you is the only option they have, it's really irrelevant to you, personally, whether they do it because they have a traumatic childhood and too much on their plate and were never raised right, or whether they're just choosing to be a jerk.

If someone keeps shitting on your car windshield year round, and you're sick of scraping frozen shit off your windshield every single morning through the whole winter, it doesn't really matter how good of a reason they have to keep doing that. If you can't make them stop shitting on cars, the only thing you can do is make it clear they're gonna have to find someone else's car. If they don't want to do better, you can't change their behaviour. And if they truly cannot do better, you can't change their behaviour.

[kosmogrl]

things that can kill you:

- the night before your birthday

- late summer evenings

- the way the sunlight hits the kitchen a certain way on a summer afternoon

[joycomplexx]

by the way it's fine to like sexual content just for the sake of it. "we can't ban porn because other stuff will get banned" "sometimes nude art has value" "the government will classify queer people as sexual" this is all true but it's okay to just like porn. its okay to not want porn to be banned because you like it.

[allegedly-human]

nonsense words such as "blorbo" and "skibidi" are outliers and a minuscule minority and thus do not invalidate that statement

[zzzombiegrrl]

don't get me wrong i have a laundry list of things i dislike or wish were different about tomodachi ltd

but the crushes, specifically the part where a mii will be like "i think i like [name...", are you kidding

its either "must be love" or "it's all in your head" FUCK that. fuck that sm. like i know its not put in the game to upset me specifically but i hate that so much. i will often put off interacting with mii's with pink bubbles because having to tell them that phrase makes me so mad

[pocket-deer-belly]

it's really really funny to me that like "people under 18 might consume porn and that's generally fine actually" is some shocking take. like were you not also young once. is it not normal to develop sexually around the age of 12. is it not normal to experience sexual thoughts as a teen. like it's fucking absurd that we're suggesting mass surveillance of children to ensure they will never see a boob ever outside of a classroom instead of just teaching children how to interact with adult content safely. you're just arguing for abstinence again, plugging your ears going "lalala" when someone tells you that kids should learn about sex or they will have sex in worse more dangerous ways

[the-valiant-valkyrie]

i really appreciate seeing all the posts on my dash recently to the effect of "shutting down conversations about race/gender/minorities in fandom spaces because 'fandom is meant to be fun' is just an excuse to not think critically about the bigoted behaviors you are exhibiting". i hope that this energy carries over into the gaming sphere next pleaaseee

[semtitulo]

who else has fantasized about the Nutrient Brick

[diserbillyti]

Been playing a lot of "psychological horror" games lately, and man

nonschizophrenics will simply never understand that "what if it was all in the person's head?" will never be scarier than a monster that actually fucking exists.

oooh what if you're crazy :o what if you hallucinate a goobly gobbler? well mate you fucking deal with it. rent's due monday. but an actual real goobly gobbler coming for my gnuts? that's different.

[hbmmaster]

biggest regret with the paradoxes video is that I should have spent like one more sentence explaining the barber paradox because a lot of people somehow completely missed the paradox part of it and just said stuff like "uh why doesn't someone else shave the barber"

[hbmmaster]

common "solutions" to the barber paradox ("in a town where everyone must be shaved and there's one barber who shaves those and only those who do not shave themselves, who shaves the barber?")

someone else shaves the barber (that would make the barber someone who does not shave themself, which would mean the barber shaves them)

the barber shaves themself (this would make the barber someone who shaves themself, which would mean they aren't shaved by the barber)

the barber is shaved by a different barber (a different barber still counts as a person.)

the barber is shaved by a razor and not a person (if this counts as not shaving themself then nobody in this town is being shaved by the barber and this does not actually fit any part of the scenario described)

the barber is a woman (women actually count as people so she still needs to be shaved)

the barber is bald (bald people are people too.)

the barber isn't shaved at all (the barber is also a person)

[hbmmaster]

folks this isn't a riddle it's a paradox. if you think you have a solution you're not interpreting it correctly

[cruel-hiraeth]

if you build “community” around hating other people, just know that the second you step out of line—regardless of your moral uprightness or the hypocrisy on their part—you’re the next person they’re going to tear to pieces.

[faintlyhauntedsanctuary]

Leftists will be like "acab fuck the police they use their position of power to abuse people" but will wholeheartedly bootlick doctors and support the psych industry even though they do the exact same thing

[esthermika]

many girls deserve to be plushie. they deserve to be small and be held in the arms of someone who loves and they deserve to be gently squeezed and nuzzled under the soft and warm covers.

[leebrontide]

Good morning!

Please remember that glorifying the grind is an attempt to wrap the abuses of a corrupt and unjust system in honor. Do what you have to do to keep bread on the table but you don't have to valorize being ground down to dust in exchange for crumbs just so that corporations can continue to run the money extraction machine.

[salamanding]

this comic was originally meant to be a metaphor about my current depressive slump, but o was ironically too depressed to do more than 7 pages. i also didn't realize that it's kind of just Kafka's Metamorphosis but ✨for girls✨