[222blauerhai]

This blog is mostly about transandrophobia and a place for me to vent about stuff.

[quastions-i-dont-ask-on-main]

Transmascs: A lot of us have vaginas and breasts and our health insurance can deny it for not being healthcare associated with men, which makes us have to disclose our AGAB or not being able to change the sex marker on our IDs. Transmascs suffer a lot of obstetric violence due to out gender, some even being denied abortions and prenatal care, or being forced to detransition if they want to carry a child. This means essentially we should consider a trans men genitals and decouple the idea that vaginal/uterine/breast care=women's care and to consider that physically, transmascs are different from cis men, therefore needing different care related to it.

People: why are trans men so bioessentialist???? Why they keep talking about having a vagina???? I bet it's because they're not really men.

[hibi-flower]

your feminism needs to include trans men because their existence is rooted in women's rights to self expression. btw

[perverted-asexual]

If you see me say transandrophobe and immediately jump on the defence of trans women YOU are the one making the assumption that all trans women are transandrophobes, not me.

99% of trans women I have spoken to are lovely, kind-hearted people and in general a whole community should never be blamed for the fault of some. Transandrophobia doesn't inherintly come from only trans women anyway, cis people can be, and often are, the ones pushing these ideals. I've spoken to trans men who deny the idea that trans men can be oppressed!

[quastions-i-dont-ask-on-main]

"Do you want trans men to be treated like a different kind of men????" Hmmmm yea. They have uteruses and vaginas so they need different medical care. They also have high rates of sexual abuse and there's no laws in place of protecting trans men being physically abused. Like yea, we do need them to be treated like a different kind of men because they are a different kind of man.

[transgenderperyton]

Am I misgendering myself or am I just talking about my own body parts and healthcare situation surrounding them.

Am I misgendering myself or am I expressing a genuine fear I have of my body being used against my will to forcefully detransition me, (a worst-case scenario for some).

Am I claiming to be more woman than trans women or am I talking about my lived experiences.

The fact that you see what is being discussed as "women's only experiences" is you pointlessly gendering those things. You are the one who's doing the misgendering, not me. It is my identity, I'm the one who gets to decide what aligns with it or not.

[genderkoolaid]

the thing about "trans guys have it easier" is that when you look into it its really more of a folk myth than anything. people come up with all sorts of stories to explain this "fact." people will tell you that people seen as men are gender-policed much more harshly than people seen as women and every little deviation towards femininity is noticed and punished, and that's why trans guys have it easier. but you'll also hear people tell you that people seen as men have so much more wiggle room, men can be all kinds of sizes and shapes meanwhile people seen as women have to fit into this tiny little box, and that's why trans guys have it easier.

these are two entirely contradictory lines of logic, but they lead to the same conclusion. because the conclusion is the point. its a backformed theory of gender. people believe, for whatever reason, that "trans guys have it easier" is an objective fact, and then storytell an explanation for why that is that sounds right to them. and this isn't necessarily something that's done maliciously, which is key. its not about people twiddling their fingers and thinking about how to contribute to a massive conspiracy against transmascs. its about people just feeling, on a gut level, that trans guys must have it easier, by which they really mean, transmasculine suffering isn't socially visible, and it isn't natural for me to imagine it, therefore it must not exist; yet, trans suffering in general clearly exists, so there must be some reason that transmasculine suffering feels so abstract and immaterial to me and others.

this is why anti-transmasculinity theory is so important. all kinds of people come to this conclusion, and the best explanation for why this strange thing happens and why no one talks about it is anti-transmasculinity & erasure as a social force which people internalize.

[lonelydesolate]

oh look! something approaching actual thoughtful analysis on anti-transmasculinity from a popular transfeminist. i wonder if -

oh okay. oppression specific to trans men can manifest sometimes as them being thought of as childish deluded unserious and in need of correction. ANYWAY here's why these loony whiny corny stupid liberal tboys dont know what theyre talking about and need me to give them a Real Term to talk about their own oppression.

[transfemgal]

There's been a lot on my dash about transandrophobia and while not my normal horny posts I do want to make my beliefs stated:

Trans men are men. Trans men are trans. Trans men experience hardship.

I only cracked my egg because of meeting an open and proud trans dude for the first time and learning no, not everyone does want to be a woman, not every spend their nights wishing they could be a lesbian instead of being a "disgusting straight man" (my internal dialogue about myself pre egg crack.

Trans men are fantastic, and the fact they get to be themselves makes me happy. It upsets me how erased they are in media and books and how upset some people get when they point out trans men exist.

They get shit on from folks on all sides: they're men, so misandrists hate them, they're trans so terfs and transphobes hate them, they're "women" so misogynists hate them. They're often excluded from queer spaces for having "too much privilege", those who are BIPOC, or disabled or some other group that makes people weird just has them double down on them.

Oh and God forbid they don't pass, then they're just "a small bean confused woman" which no. They're a man. I wish there was more trans masc rep. I wish our trans community wasn't so divided because of transandrophobia and transmysoginy.

Keep doing your thing trans dudes. I hope we can all weather this storm and come out stronger on the other side.

[that-grassbro]

Dear all western trans guys:

Please DO be that 'obnoxious' guy who brings up non-western trans men whenever other westerners start talking about issues of transphobia and misogyny like we don't exist.

A lot of the time, the risks for us bringing it up ourselves is much greater than that of a fellow westerner. Or we may not even be invited to the table to be able to say anything. We genuinely do need others to speak for us.

They might call you 'obnoxious' or 'reaching' but in times like that please remember that we are not a rhetorical tool

Trans men in the global south are REAL PEOPLE. Bringing us up is never 'strawmanning' or 'missing the point' or any other stupid ass excuse because we are not an imaginary 'other'.

It is always a good idea to bring up global southern trans men. And DO NOT let them make you feel guilty about it

<3

[testosterone-tuesday]

The crazy part about being a trans man is that you live for a time as a woman/girl being constantly talked over and never taken seriously. Then you transition and people talk over you even more and take you even less seriously, including by cis women who were your allies before you came out.

And when you get one moment where you express your voice, you try to impress your existence upon the world, tell your perspective and experience and refuse to be minimized- people will for real treat you like you're just here to bulldoze over the conversation, like men (derogatory) always do, and that you need to accept for once it's your turn to sit down.

Like. You're kidding right?

I am granted no status upon transition, no soapbox, no audience, I am in fact belittled and diminished and erased- and you're telling me I'm motherfucking used to speaking over others? Dude I don't even get to lead the conversations about me, when there even are any.

People are literally so out of touch with reality. They seriously think manhood is some magical category with universal privileges and behaviors and social position. Gender in society isn't coming from magic otherworldly plane like that, and gender dynamics between men and women are not static constructs that just mystically transfer cis experiences over to trans ones without variable or nuance.

Literally engaging with trans men's realities at all would dispel this myth- but that implies listening to us in the first place.

But some people will first jump to calling trans men whiny entitled boys when we don't match up to their boiled down approximations of us based entirely off of cis men, and whatever ideas and attitudes they think are bestowed upon us automatically by the fairy godparent of trans inclusive gender essentialism. From like. The moment we come out, or figure ourselves out as trans, or have like boy brains from birth or whatever.

And they really think they're trans affirming for this. For telling us to shut up if we advocate for ourselves or mention existing at all. #manmoment amiright

Listen to us, even if it makes you uncomfortable. You owe it to us to listen, because no one else is. We can't and shouldn't shut up, because if we do there is no one left to speak for us. Maybe if you were listening, you'd realize we don't have a voice.

[razortouched]

"Trans men have male privilege, they just lack cis privilege"

Male privilege is predicated upon what the Patriarchy dictates as male. And I think this should be obvious, but The Patriarchy does not classify trans men as male. To lack cis privilege is synonymous with lacking male privilege, because The Patriarchy only considers perisex cis men to be male.

[tboy-cock]

shoutout to trans men who were distinctly different from girls their age but also distinctly different than boys their age for a reason they couldnt place or understand. shoutout to trans men who just straight up didnt get along with anybody their age before coming out. maybe even after. have you been diagnosed with autism yet

[squareic]

it does say something about the state of the queer community that no one really talks about or cares that since 1991 T has been a class III controlled substance in the united states. for decades now trans men and mascs have had our names tracked and traced if we were legally prescribed T. since before some of you were even born, the american govt has had a list of us.

you need to care about the trans men and mascs who have been on these lists for almost 30 years now. you need to care about more than the threat or concept of trans women and femmes being put on a list, because your brothers are already there.

[thesitharts]

Once you start noticing the erasure and exclusion of trans mascs in everything from media to academics you can never stop noticing it

[illdeactivateanyway]

I just stumbled upon an Instagram reel that said something like "I'm probably trans but I'm too much of a misandrist to accept it" with thousands of likes (including a couple of irl friends of mine who know that I'm a trans man...) but sure the queer community doesn't have a problem with men and masculinity and the radfem rhetoric that's been allowed to prosper in queer and feminist spaces these past years is not harmful to trans men at all (/s)

[molartplusotherstuff]

there's a brand of post going around now that annoys me so much, it's always like "the queer infighting is what they want!" etc etc basically reducing the transandrophobia denial/discussion going on to a petty squabble. now yes of course I agree there is probably astroturfing happening, now more than ever, and it's probably good for their bottom line that we remain disorganized, but still, two things can be true at once.

trans men demanding respect and equal treatment for themselves IS NOT a petty squabble. Trans men biting back at the increasingly anti-transmasculine sentiments going around the community IS NOT just queer infighting and giving the conservatives what they want, it's actually a fucking important part of our intersectional fight right now, and we need to be paying attention and listening to these men, not sweeping them under a rug of "terminally online bullshit discourse"