Let's talk Alter Pregnancy.
[Let's talk alter pregnancy]
This is an information discussion post because there are claims going around calling it an endo concept when it is not.
Trigger warning for mentions of miscarriage and rape. Brief mentions as examples no indepth talk.
- alters can become pregnant through normal means. Intercourse between two alters in the same sys.
- however there are other reasons at play; Desire for it (from that alter, the system or a shared desire between one alter and another be it from the same system or not)
- a form of coping from something trauma related,
- and a new alter forming.
Most often it is a combination but does not always have to be.
1. Its not an unfamiliar concept to most that alters in the same system can have sexual intercourse, and in some cases this can also result in a pregnancy. Though some alters can still have a pregnancy without it, in headspace with alters splitting and forming it isnt a required factor for every system.
2. For alters or systems who want children, sometimes the system will split children alters for them to take care of ti fill that desire, whatever the reason for the desire may be. But it can also split child alters in the form of pregnancy for alters who have an easier time with the concept of being a parent through birth rather than suddenly adopting a new alter, especially if the alter that split is a fragment and doesn't yet have an identity and may take time forming into a whole part.
For alters in a relationship between theirs and another system, that may desire to have children of their own between them, for whatever reason, the same thing can be said, it can be a full formed split of a child alter who's identity is a formed from a mix of them or a child from either of their systems that they adopted or it can come in the form of one of them being pregnant as said above. A shared desire for children like baby fever between one or more alters either in the same or across other systems.
3. Alter pregnancy can be a form of coping for many different reasons. It can be tokophobia the fear of pregnancy, an alter getting pregnant might be the brains way of coping through that fear, for us that's helped a lot. It can be coping with the loss of a child, if the body went through a miscarriage at any point or if someone very close has, it can be coping with the aftermath of rape, it can be an alter who isnt source separated coping with their loss of children in their source or any number of things.
"But headspace isnt real" argument dispute.
As we discussed before in this post, headspace is very real for many and very helpful for alters especially those just forming and as I explained above, alter pregnancy is another form of splitting alters.
Its just a more gradual formation that helps the system adjust in a different way. A lot if alters form for different reasons, a lot of systems treat their headspace differently. None of this is harmful.
Headspace is just as real as your alters, whether you can access it or not, so claiming that it isnt as a way to argue that the pregnancy isnt real is policing other systems experiences, you doing get to do that.
We cant control how other people treat their systems, what experiences their systems have and we cant get upset when it's different for us and hard to understand.
The brain is complicated and things take time to understand but you also don't have to understand in order to respect others.
Telling another system their expirience isnt real because headspace isnt real is telling them how they should treat their system. You dont know their system, their trauma, their experiences, you dont get to make those claims.
You can decide for your system that it isnt real, that your alters cant/wont get pregnant, you cant decide that for other systems and you especially cant decide that for someone else's alters who want children and who are coping.
To further clarify what I'm trying to convey by saying headspace and things that happen in it are real and that the arguments made against it are what I'm trying to fight, this post makes good points.
Endos, nontraumagenics, mixed origin, supporters and what have you dont interact, this isnt for you.
Endo neutrals and "singlets"/non systems you're on thin ice. Non systems can reblog but not add.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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