no, really I don't want you to f*ck with me.

she/her• 21 • costume student, rococo–1780s &Edwardian fashion, my beloved • new-who whovain • always confused and a mess really • who knows what we're all aspiring too

[writhe]

just like enamored by this interaction i had yesterday and again today with this old gay man...not to be like ‘oh what a feeling to see someone who has survived’ but literally that & today we actually ended up chatting and he asked me “are you family?” which i didn’t catch at all until he gave me an extremely knowing look (chin tilt, raised eyebrow. and he really just had such a shine about him, too) and i just got flooded with this big stupid feeling thinking about how much he has seen and known...about many things but esp lgbt community as it exists offline and historically & how if i were to ask, and were somehow able to know, there are 1000 different lifetimes in his, i’m sure. his name is leonardo

[onetwistedmiracle]

oh how sad that "family" meaning queer is dying out. that's always been such a lovely code word.

[peach-pot]

asexuals on tumblr using hyperbole are not going to single-handedly bring a stronger wave of purity culture to wider society, let me post in peace.

[h0n3yk1tt3n]

I've had this sound saved for so long and now I'm finally using it, albeit not how I originally intended to

[depsidase]

[wiisagi-maiingan]

It does actually blow me away that amatonormativity (the societal belief that everyone thrives best in and should desire a monogamous romantic relationship) is not a more frequently discussed topic in activist spaces because it is so fucking useful to describe so many aspects of society relating to misogyny, abuse, financial pressure, medical restrictions, family structures, etc but it's either completely unheard of or treated as a joke.

And frankly, as an aro and acespec person, I am fully fucking aware that the refusal of a lot of people on tumblr to use the term amatonormativity is centered around aphobia because apparently no one else is affected by lressure to be in a monogamous romantic relationship enough to talk about it, right? I am tired.

[the-aro-agenda]

the thing is that i actually do enjoy romance in fiction but i also believe that romance-repulsed aros have the right to complain that NOTHING is made for them except maybe kids media. once you start to realize how pervasive romance is in every sector of society it's impossible to ignore. like you remember when there were barely any gay shows on television and straight people expected us to be grateful for the one gay side character on a network show? that's exactly how it feels with romance all the time. i want to see media created by adults for adults that doesn't involve romance anywhere in the plot. i want to see characters (main characters!!!) not want romance and not be treated as broken or crazy. i want a world where my romance-repulsed friends aren't confined to kids media (and even then, to only a limited selection)

[peach-pot]

recently saw a comment section full of people, primarily women, talking about loving living with their best friend and being sad about having to live separately one day. some people talking about missing living with their best friend, some talking about “getting” to live with their best friend “until” they find partners. saw one person mention that moving out to move in with a partner felt like a divorce. it makes me so genuinely sad… all these people recognizing the joy they can find living outside the norm, letting themself live with a friend instead of a romantic partner, but still feeling like they have to live with a spouse eventually. like it’s not even a decision, just an inevitability.

[aro-enigma]

JFC CAN WE STOP PUTTING RELATIONSHIPS INTO A SOCIETAL HIERARCHY MAYBE???

"QPRs are deeper than a friendship🥺" HUSHHHH YOU NEED TO HUSHHHH

a QPR is whatever the fuck you want it to be!! And trying to put them on a higher level than friendship in society reminds me so much of how people have basically made nonbinary into a third part of a trinary instead of a deconstruction of the binary.

It's like making a trinary of relationships lmao

[drop--pop--candy]

have you ever thought about how amatonormativity is so prevalent that it twisted the word "relationship" to generally mean "a romantic relationship" in normal conversation. saying "I'm in a relationship" should be an inane statement. everyone is in relationships dipshit it came free with your membership card to a social species. but alas

[paging-possum]

I think being aro allows you to unlock levels of haterism that most people can only dream of reaching

[timeless-childsupport]

[a-spec-intheocean]

Oh no, no going on the pull this fine pride mouth of 2025

[mads-schubert]

Part 17 in my weekly poster series of 2025

[fixing-bad-posts]

instead of being an ignorant Evangelical Christian be transgender.

[sergeantsporks]

"Aro/Ace person gets given a love potion" story but instead of them being immune or whatever, it DOES work, and they realize IMMEDIATELY that they've been fed a love potion because this feeling is so wrong and foreign but everyone keeps laughing off the idea of it being a love potion because "they were probably just a late bloomer" or "no, you just finally found the right person!" and it's just a horror story about how no one believes them even though they know, they KNOW this isn't right and they can't stand it.

[axel-ambassador]

Bruh did I just get clocked wtf

[lunazepotato]

People said that Tumblr isn't a great place to post original art that isn't fanart, but I'm doing it anyway because I haven't got the motivation to draw anything else

Happy pride month lads! 🧡💛🤍💙

from an aroace potato :)

[aromantic-diaries]

I don't think you can do show don't tell aro or ace representation not because it's impossible but because even if you do it right the fandom still won't get it