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Asexual Research Project Volunteers Needed
Hi, ace-spec friends! A friend of mine is doing a really cool research project on asexuality, but needs to conduct interviews with ace-spec people for that to work! If you'd like to participate or learn more please drop me a line and I'll pass along contact info. Interviews can be done over the internet, or in person if you're near Eau Claire, WI.
Asexuality Research Bibliography?
Is someone maintaining an up-to-date bibliography of papers (etc.) about asexuality? The one at Asexual Explorations stopped being updated a couple of years ago, and I don’t know if someone else picked it up and ran with it.
There isn’t one that I know of, but I did make a template for crowd sourcing an abbreviated bibliography that I just hadn’t announced yet, if anyone wants to contribute: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1grW1OcCv_Pd3_e8LHLxK8tlyHwteIPiN6hda8J1ik1M/edit?usp=docslist_api Once its more fleshed out I was planning to host it on asexualitysf.org and/or the asexual research tumblr.
I haven’t seen much support for aromantics that are romance repulsed, so let me give some shout outs:
Shout out to the aromantics who feel physically sick even when someone just mentions something romance related.
Shout out to the aromantics who love fanfiction, whether it’s writing it, reading it, or both, and have to deal with the constant, never ending romance shoved down their throats.
Shout out to the aromantics who have loving readers but are always flooded with comments on their story about how the characters should ‘get together soon’ and how they ‘need to be boyfriends/girlfriends/etc’.
Shout out to the aromantics who have friends that are all about romance and find it exhausting to be around them even though they like them.
Shout out to the aromantics who are constantly bombarded with questions of “do you have a crush yet?” and “what kind of person do you want to marry?” and “when will you settle down and find someone?” by their own friends and/or family.
Shout out to the aromantics who have to sit there and hold in their overwhelming anger/disgust/anxiety when couples near them are being overly affectionate and gross.
Shout out to the aromantics who aren’t taken seriously/are brushed off/laughed at when they gather enough courage to tell people about their repulsion, because “how can you not like romance?”
Shout out to the aromantics who are so desperate about having no romance around them that they avoid watching movies/reading books/etc because romance in entertainment and media is inevitable.
Shout out to the aromantics who want to cry because they’re surrounded by the thing they hate the most, feeling trapped and unable to escape.
Shout out to the aromantics who suffer from mental health issues as a result of feeling like they’re broken or wrong or bad for not liking romance.
Shout out to the aromantics who get so stressed over romance and feel like they can’t go one day without wanting to explode.
Shout out to the aromantics who are confessed to by friends they cherish and feel guilty for getting grossed out by their friend’s romantic feelings toward them.
Shout out to the aromantics who aren’t romance repulsed all the time and feel like they’re faking it.
Shout out to the aromantics who love the world of sex and feel absolute disgust every time they encounter the phrase ‘making love’.
You are all valid. You are all beautiful. You are all just as deserving of love and care as everyone else. You are not broken. You’re not bad for disliking something the world favors the most. You’re important. You belong. Don’t EVER question your worth because of your repulsion. You are you, and that’s the best thing you can ever be.
hi, I recently discovered that I was an agender, asexual and aromantic. I'm new to Tumblr and I found your blog and I love it! I was wondering if there were any blogs that you might recommend to me about being agender, aromantic or asexual?
*high-five for self-discovery!! :D*
asexual blogs:
theasexualityblog
just-another-asexual
asexuallalligator
life-of-an-asexual
acemeetup
asexual-snowflakes
aromantic blogs:
arosquad
arosupport
a-quiver-of-aros
aroadventures
the-flying-aro
perksofbeingace (also an asexual blog)
agender blogs:
agender101
hellyeahagender
i can find much on agender blogs, sorry about that :/
-mod shi
sheepyshavings replied to your photo:I am worried. I am worried about what it will mean...
can we reblog?
Of course!! :) But thank you for asking!
I am worried. I am worried about what it will mean to live on my own. I am worried that I have nothing in particular that I want to do with my life. I am worried that I am going to go to back to school to find purpose, and find too late what it is I really want to do. I am worried about what relationships will mean in my future as an arospec asexual person who craves companionship. I am worried that my cat allergies will continue to worsen. I am worried that I will never find something I love to do. I am worried that I will once again get an ingrown toenail so severe it will require minor surgery. I am worried that so many people I know are in such a similar place. I hope that we’ll all be ok.
Hello, I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and i desperately want to so here goes... I know that I'm nonbinary but nobody else does. Thing is, I just don't really feel like coming out. I'm lucky to be safe - I believe my family would be pretty accepting and I've got a great opportunity to do it coming up when I go to university next month. But still, I just don't feel like I need or want to come out as nonbinary. I dont mind any pronouns. But somehow, I feel guilty abt not coming out.
plenty of people decide not to come out to people they know in real life. it’s not a selfish thing, think of it as you just respecting your own space, and valuing your privacy. you’re not obligated to share private feelings or thoughts with other people. i hope you feel better, friend
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Oxford English Dictionary Adds 15 new Transgender and Nonbinary Terms to its Online Dictionary!
Oxford Dictionary has just added a slew of important trans and nonbinary terminology to its online dictionary, OxfordDictionaries.com. The following terms are now officially defined in US English:
Agender, Bi-gender, Cisgender, Cissexism, FTM, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Identity, Gender-fluid, Genderqueer, Misgender, MTF, Mx, Nonbinary, Transman, Transperson, Transphobia, and Transwoman!
Life Outside The Binary does not necessarily endorse the particular definitions nor the wording therein. Many of these definitions may be overly simplistic or use outdated terminology. It is certainly more important to understand each individual’s understanding and relationship to a given term, and to understand their history and social context, rather than to differ to a broad general definition. There are also many other important words (such as transmisogyny, binarism and other identities such as neutrois and androgyne) that definitely deserve inclusion in dictionaries.
However, this is still a huge win for transgender and non-binary people! Especially words such as “cissexism,” “transphobia,” and “misgender,” (as well as several common transgender identities) being defined in a reputable online language resource may represent a huge step toward developing common understanding and acceptance of trans and nonbinary people and issues.
-Lane
The Language of the Ace & Aro Communities
I’ve seen a number of posts lately criticising language which originated in the asexual or aromantic community - compulsory sexuality, romantic, platonic and aesthetic attractions, new orientation labels etc.
I have my own opinions on various parts of this language, but that isn’t what this post is about. This post is about people from outside these communities engaging with the language they create - and, all too often, mocking it.
What people so often fail to understand is that language in the asexual community is created to fulfil a cultural need within that community. When we talk about compulsory sexuality rather than compulsory heterosexuality, it is a shorthand for the exclusion asexual people feel in sex-positive movements which are inclusive of LGB people but often fail to account for sex-repulsion. When we talk about an aesthetic orientation, it is a way of trying to make sense of feelings for which we have no cultural touchstone, which the existing framework of attraction utterly fails to account for - a way of saying that it is possible to feel for someone without wanting to have sex with or date them.
But taken outside of this context - glimpsed in a text post that’s part of a discussion you haven’t followed, skimmed from the description on a blog you have already decided to hate - yeah, it doesn’t make much sense. It’s easy to see the creation of a new model as an attempt to discredit the old, rather than an attempt to create a range of alternatives. It’s easy to see a new identity as attention-grabbing because you have to Google its meaning, rather than understanding that self-description isn’t always aimed at you. But that doesn’t mean that you’ve understood the intent and the context of what you’ve seen.
And oh goodness, there is discussion in the ace and aro communities that gets it wrong, and thoroughly deserves criticism. But when that criticism comes from outside the community, it’s all too easy to cross the line between “this way of conceptualising things is troubling” to “how dare you try and conceptualise things differently!”
Because too often that’s what I see when those outside the community try to engage with it: outrage that those who are not served by existing language have tried to create their own, rather than accepting that their emotions cannot be spoken, and therefore don’t really exist.
And when you’re getting mad at ace and aro people for daring to exist, that’s the point where you and I are going to have a problem.
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I don’t think people realise how easy it is to feel ugly when you’re South East Asian.
I know so many popular East Asian bloggers, who always get so many notes because of how elegant and refined and. Pale. They are. Those are standards most of us can never achieve. I’ve never seen a selfie set of a southeast Asian girl break 1k: but I’ve seen plenty, and I mean plenty of pale East Asians break 3k easy.
I know East Asian bloggers who go on about racism against East Asians and act like it’s universal. I know some who will talk about East Asian racism but never breathe a word about racism against southeast Asians.
I know East Asian bloggers who literally don’t follow any South East Asians. The ones who say that it doesn’t matter because “we’re all East Asian!” Technically. Or those who act like we’re a different breed and a different species.
I wonder if most East Asians know that their beauty standards get passed down to our countries. I wonder if they know how it hurts a lot of us.
So I’m giving a shoutout to every southeast Asian girl. Every one of you,if us, deserves to feel pretty.
I’m talking about the Indonesian gals with broad noses. The Malay girls who wear Tudung and are mocked. Chinese Singaporeans who are still not “Chinese enough” for mainlanders. Filipino girls who feel guilty about their curly or frizzy hair. Indian Singaporeans who are feel like they need to be pale to be worth something ( you don’t). Thai girls who are told their country is only good for farming rice. Myanmar girls who get asked mockingly if they’re domestic workers. Even if you are, there is no shame in that. Every Cambodian girl who felt bad about having thick lips. I know I left a lot of people out, and I’m sorry. But if you’re reading this and haven’t seen yourself here - you are just as worthy and my spirit and strength and good wishes are with you
You are all beautiful. Every single one of you. We are all beautiful. It’s hard to see it and it’s hard to feel it sometimes but we are. You are. Every one of you. Pride to our people!
I have never seen a proper positivity post for southeast Asian girls by a southeast Asian girl so could you please reblog this? I want any southeast Asian girl seeing this to know I love them
agenderootd needs YOU
specifically, your outfits, your makeup, your hair, your accessories, your AWESOME AGENDER SELVES to SUBMIT so i can populate the queue. we have tons of followers! if even a fourth of you submitted or tagged, the queue would be FULL TO BURSTING! so SUBMIT! TAG #AGENDEROOTD
AceStories Series: Week 3
I’m starting a series of first-hand ace stories, and I want to hear from you! This third wave of the #AceStories series will focus of Neurodivergent aces and their personal stories regarding both being a part of the ace community and how that intersects with their neuro-diversity.
Submit your stories via my submit box or post on your own blog and tag them #NeurodivergentAceStories and #AceStories
Today’s Gender of the Day is: a mess
there’s only one type of banging I’m going to be doing
Asexuality is not some exceptionally rare, impossible thing. Even using the common 1% estimate (which many people think is low), that’s 3.2 million Americans. If you met someone who said “Hey, I’m from Chicago”, you wouldn’t tell them that you didn’t believe them, because people from Chicago are only about 1% of the population. “You’re really from New York or California. Statistically, that’s far more likely.“ That would be ridiculous.
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