[beaft]

common advice for social anxiety is to tell yourself "people aren't going to think less of you just because you said something a bit daft" but the thing is. sometimes they will. and you just have to learn to be cool with that and to treat it as a dnd random encounter rather than letting it ruin your whole day

[kosmogrl]

oooh I get it it’s always gonna be because of the environment I grew up in

[aceofpans]

it’s because of the curse

[diana-lostandfound]

A big part of the reason I don't want kids is simply that I don't think I would be a good parent. I'm short-tempered and can be vicious when I'm angry. I hate loud noises, repetitive noises, sticky sensations, and being touched when I'm not expecting it. I like getting drunk and high. I like doing things quickly and efficiently. I always have to be at least 15 minutes early to everything. I have horrible sleep as it is, and that's living alone and having a big comfy bed all to myself and never having to get up in the night unless I need to pee. I love being alone and doing things by myself.

Other people have always rushed to console me when I say this -- "you can learn to get good at it! I was the same way before I had kids!" But like. I don't want to change. I like my life and I like doing things the way I want to do them. In many ways I'm a lot like the woman who raised me, who I can best describe through the anecdote that she didn't let us have balloons on our birthdays because there was a chance they could pop and make a loud noise that would hurt her ears. I love her and I always will, but there was a lot of warmth and comfort I needed that she just wasn't able to give me and I know I would probably be the same way. It wasn't her choice to have to raise me. I get to make a choice that she didn't.

Women in particular are shamed for possessing the qualities I've listed above. It's seen as morally wrong for women to not be intrinsically nurturing, endlessly self-sacrificing, interminably patient. I get that we will be shamed a lot for admitting that we aren't. But I hope that those of us who lack those qualities can just accept that, because it's a terrible thing to bring an unwitting child into the world just to prove to the haters that you're not a cold mean b*tch.

[kiefbowl]

it's big boobs don't kill yourself friday

[abysmary]

i wanna go home but i'm already home

[sawed-on-shotgun]

unfortunate truth of reality is that oftentimes 15 year olds will say/do/believe some stupid bullshit because they are 15 but telling them that they believe that because they are 15 is probably the most counterproductive thing in the entire universe

[vintageandroid]

i made a post like this before but I can't find it now. so. I'll just redo it.

What's the first "big news story" you remember from when you were a kid?

It's something I love to ask mixed-aged groups sometimes because I think it's really interesting to see the responses. I've gotten answers from the Olympics of [whatever year] to Watergate to more recent stuff from my niblings.

My first news thing I remember is the OJ Simpson trial. I vaguely remember watching the news with my grandparents before that, but that's the first story I remember, in part because my second grade teacher had us go play so she could watch the verdict 😂

[abysmary]

do you count a compilation of short stories as one book or as many as there are short stories? the stories are compiled on the basis of discussing the same subject or having the same author, but otherwise they exist as standalone pieces

one book

many books

Voting ended onJul 24

[valtsv]

"here's my original character, Man Who Sucks But Loves His Daughter Very Much" and it's a guy who worships at the altar of patriarchal violence and the woman he uses as an excuse and an effigy to absolve him

[valtsv]

well i think his daughter should tell him to kill himself

[ceruleanheaven]

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

[abysmary]

remember how i wanted pilaf some time ago? well, my grandma made it for me and it was best thing ever☺️

[kiefbowl]

I really have low tolerance for long ass argument posts where two women are just purposely misunderstanding each other like cut it out. grow up. get your shit together. be intelligent. enough already.

[abysmary]

the last time i had male OCs was in 8th grade, and they all were so painfully and intentionally unserious compared to my female OCs it's fascinating how i even bothered with them. though to be fair, i haven't since

[renthony]

It's wild to watch the phrase "tumblr sexyman" morph into "man that tumblr thinks is sexy," because when I first saw the phrase come into use, I always saw it used in reference to the phenomenon of "when presented with a wide array of fictional characters, tumblr will always pick the skinny white man to obsess over, and if the fan-favorite character has no canonical human appearance, the fandom will inevitably create a popular fanon of the character as as a skinny white man."

When I hear "tumblr sexyman," I think of Cecil Night Vale being constantly depicted as a skinny white man instead of literally anything else. I think of the background character white men who get elevated over protagonists that are women, people of color, or otherwise not the white man power fantasy.

"Tumblr sexyman" is, like. An insult. I DON'T want any of my blorbos to win a "tumblr sexyman" poll. "Tumblr sexyman" is the exact opposite of what I want my own OCs to be. If any of my characters ever get called "tumblr sexyman," I will have to immediately re-evaluate myself and the art I'm making.

[abysmary]

huh. took me a long time to realize that having to deal with other people's emotions is annoying if your own aren't resolved either

[akkpipitphattana]

no one talks about how difficult the world cup is for people who don’t give a fuck about sports

[abysmary]

must it be so hard to know what i conditioned myself to love in order to fit in and what i geniunely loved out of something popular