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fullmetalwindbreaker

The Sea Foam Dragon

One of the most heartwarming things I’ve ever heard a dog trainer say “A pushy pet who makes small demands and communicates their needs to you is a safe pet. It means they trust you and aren’t afraid of your reaction if they misbehave and push your buttons a little”

stuckinapril

They weren’t lying when they said that as an adult you have to fight for your life to practice your hobbies

stuckinapril

They also weren’t lying when they said that when you fail to do so your soul shrivels up inside your body and dies

morguesupplier

busty-shackleford

choose abortion

Life kills!

skygenders

There is something sooo deeply American going on with Seattle Children’s Hospital that I think would brick the minds of everyone outside of the United States.

skygenders

The CHILDRENS hospital has to restrict helipad landings because of noise complaints from the wealthy home owners living next to it. Only the most urgent patients can land directly at the hospital. While the other kids have to land a mile away and are taken to the hospital via ambulance. Which is an unnecessary risk to the child’s life and also makes the families pay for the helicopter AND ambulance.

skygenders

The hospital says some limits on helipad access add pressure when children need lifesaving care.

Apparently this has been going on for decades and is only getting traction because a pilot complained on Twitter.

catastrofries

Been thinking a lot about my 6th grade teacher who, when we were learning about the Holocaust and I was all,"RIP to the Germans. I would simply not be evil," looked me dead in the eye and said, "you don't know that. No one doing these things thought of themselves as bad people. They thought they were being right and just. They weren't inherently evil people. They were just people. " And the idea that I could unknowingly cause such a great amount of harm while being none the wiser scared me so bad it fundamentally rewired my brain, and made me a more thoughtful, empathetic person.

Because I never again thought of myself as an inherently good person. But as an average person susceptible to the banality of evil. And the only antidote was rigoursly inspecting my own assumptions and beliefs and learning about other people's.

Just wishing more people had that experience and also very very grateful.

lifeafterpsychiatry

"No one remembered my birthday-" Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?

"I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I'm fine-" Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you're doing?

"I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-" Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

"I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-" Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

"No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-" Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

"I miss my friend but they haven't texted me-" Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn't care!

snipertrifle

Having someone who knows you on such a deep level that they see past your mask, or sense you need a check in is such a deep satisfying fantasy. It's up there with living in a cottagecore farm, or buying all your friends houses when you win the lottery. But you have to make peace with the fact that this is also a fantasy. It is unfair to expect people to "just know" when to respect your boundaries or to push them.

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

The fantasy isn't the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work. And it sucks. It's embarrassing. But like the meme says, it's not rotten if it's YOU. So do it for yourself.

lifeafterpsychiatry

"The fantasy isn't the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work"! Thank you for that addition. Because it's not a naive expectation to want someone to care to treat you right. But it requires communication and mutual effort to actually get there

lifesgrandparade

I want you guys to all start making a bigger stink about Tumblr's Age Verification Horseshit.

lifesgrandparade

Like they tried to change Reblogs and people rightfully got up in arms, this is a LOT worse. In order to have access to any sort of thing dubbed mature, and We haveALL seen what they think is mature, Everything from a black and white photo of a black woman's arm, to posts about IUD recalls, to a nude painted by a 17th century artist, to anything involving the word Trans; you have to send your personal information to a third party site that WILL get hacked, and you will be doxxed. And they can say "Oh shit, well it wasn't us who sent your name address and gender identity to Moldovan teenagers, here's a couple extra minutes in the ball pit.

That's bad enough!!!!!!!! But the entire idea of needing permission from state authorities to access anything labeled mature by our friendly AI overlords is some fucking Boll shit. Die Gedenken Sind Frie baby. This is all a reaction to people getting uppity about their lowly lowly rights and is being propped up by the same bad actors tht have made life unlivable. Fuck that shit.

"Well it's only being rolled out in Brazil and UK" Yeah, to start. "Well they're being forced to do this by laws." YOu know it's always really funny when these tech giants (Or whatever you call owning tumblr dot com) get really antsy about laws considering they pick and choose which ones they abide by.

This is a breaking point and it's going to be very interesting to see how we proceed from here.

teh-nos

i get this now and it won't let me click through to any 'mature' blogs :(

rivendellrose

I've been here, what, thirteen years (hey, my TUMBLR is old enough to start an Instagram!) which should easily tell them that I'm over 18 if they had two brain cells to rub together.

And if the choice comes down to "upload my ID or lose access to this site," well, it was great knowing you all. You can find me on Dreamwidth.

keepcalmandcarriefischer

It's the last day of April

my-little-bologna

Wake up babe, new meta layer just dropped

sanerontheinside

I don’t know who needs to hear this

but it’s time to move the noodles to the pot

gossip-girl-of-middleearth

I’m absolutely obsessed with the reddit side of the Tolkien fandom, in particular, this discussion regarding how Sauron fits the ring on his finger, as well as penal compensation a la Lord Farqaud style