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efforts towards a "positive vision of masculinity" or whatever are so funny because what these guys are trying to figure out is literally "what's a way of being a good person that's Not For Girls™"
adding @unidentifiedfuckingthing 's comment
There's no positive masculinity just as there's no positive femininity. There's no version of "putting people into social boxes based on their sex organs at birth" that's good.
The Amazing Digital Lack of Consequences for Banning Trans Women from Existing on this Website
me as a teenager: man it sucks to have no privacy or autonomy but i guess its for a good reason. when i turn 18 i will realise how young i was and understand why they did all that.
me as an adult: teenagers are an oppressed class, their abuse is normalised and systemic and they need to start killing people
It was really something when a bunch of people who normally hold that anyone who joins the military is scum were bizarrely defensive about how a middle class guy who enlisted, in his own words, to kill people and went back to the Middle East as a private mercenary after so he could keep doing it was a uwu baby and a victim. You'd think a guy like that would be utterly evil in their eyes but no, beyond reproach
Really appreciated the bit near the end where Platner's apostles gave up on any pretense that this wasn't about gender and just started posting screeds about how you have to support him to defeat the "HR ladies" and "smoothgroins". Like if you're at the point of coining strange incel-esque terms to defend a guy you should probably think twice about doing that. This Whole Thing Smacks of Gender, I say as I turn a Senate race into a referred on my psychosexual hang-ups
i’m going to be really honest with you guys i think the tendency to read the absolute worst possible intentions into every action you don’t agree with is getting too automatic and it’s eating you from the inside out
Trauma is such a broad concept that it's basically useless at this point. Honestly, I kind of resent how it has come to be treated as a universal theory of human behaviour.
Like I've gotten into a car accident. I can't get behind the wheel. I think that it's fair to call that trauma, because i can't really think what else you would call it. Maybe I need a therapist for that, I don't know.
I spent, along with the rest of you, a year and a half under various states of quarantine. People call that trauma, but it's not remotely the same as the first one. I found it stressful, perhaps, but I've never had nightmares about it, and if they ever decide to shut everything down again, I'll just shrug and deal with it. It won't give me flashbacks or whatever.
And then of course, I've spent the last year, along with the rest of you, watching a genocide play out in real time over social media. Has that traumatized me? Maybe. I've had nightmares about it. I've had extreme outbursts of sorrow or (especially) anger over it. I've seen certain images that stay with me even when I close my eyes. But you know what, I don't think that I need a therapist for it, I think that what i need is for the fucking genocide to end and for the fuckers responsible to be brought to justice. Trying to medicalise this is not just useless, or even counterproductive; i think it's bloody insulting.
And, actually, I want to talk about the genocide a little more, because people also use discourses of trauma to excuse explain the behaviour of the genocidaires. "Oh, it's because of Israel's national trauma over the October 7th attack; it's because of generational trauma from the Holocaust!" which....okay, yeah. I fully acknowledge those things are incredibly horrific to live through, and I have no reason to doubt that research on epigenetic changes being passed down to your offspring is valid, or that it affects how you raise your children. But then you see pictures of IDF soldiers smiling and laughing together as they commit war crimes and, like...is their behaviour really so much different from that of every other bunch of genocidal thugs in history that you need to invoke a particular cultural history of trauma in order to explain it? What about the Germans? Were they all just reeling from their collective national trauma over losing the First World War? What about the American cavalries as they slaughtered their way through the West? Was that all just generational trauma over...fuck, I dunno, their Puritan ancestors being kicked out of England or whatever? Is anyone ever responsible for anything they do, or is it all just a vast human centipede of generational suffering stretching back in time to Adam and Eve's trauma over being expelled from Paradise?
Help, my generational trauma forced me to do a fire-sale of expropriated Palestinian real estate!
#important#I think “trauma” can be a trigger/excuse for bad behaviour#but like I think think the biggest motivator is it feels awesome to be superior to others
I feel like there would be a lot fewer arguments on this website if we stopped trying to define The Singular Transgender Experience.
there's a lot of talk about reading comprehension and one thing i think is the biggest barrier to people on this site getting better at it is simply... rushing. rushing to share something you haven't understood, rushing to have an opinion without taking the time to think about it, rushing to declare that you don't understand something
take these tags, on somebody else's post (condolences pip)
the thing is. this is what i would call an inside thought. nobody would have known you didn't get it if you didn't tell them that. if you recognised that it was important but didn't have the headspace to process it, you can reblog without commentary for others, or to come back to later. or you can save it somewhere and wait until you DO have the capacity to read it over a few more times, ponder it, consider what it might mean, figure out how to understand it, and THEN reblog it
but no. rushing to reblog while it is still opaque. rushing to admit to ignorance rather than spend the time to achieve understanding. perhaps hoping that somebody will break it down for you more simply, though to my mind it was quite simply phrased in the first place. never stopping to take the time first
comprehension is not always instant! sometimes it takes a bit of time for something to percolate after you read it; sometimes you need to read it a few times; sometimes you realise you don't have the context for it and either go and get the context or accept that it's not for you right now
please just simply slow down. you don't always have to respond to everything within a second or two. it is okay if it is not an instantaneous understanding. we all need to get more comfortable with thinking more slowly and more deeply and more carefully, and not letting our instant split second responses drive us all the time, because they are a barrier to genuine reflection
i do wish the response to the ai water usage concern debate (umm actually the water and mineral usage is roughly equivalent to all of our other constantly growing massive distributed information systems that require enormous amounts of resource extraction etc etc etc) was less of a "haha checkmate luddites" and more of a "hmm maybe we should reevaluate our usage of constantly growing massive distributed information systems that require enormous amounts of resource extraction" but idk
Moving around my whole life and having lived in 7 states has made me keenly aware of the fact that everyone thinks their city/town is uniquely terrible in exactly the same ways. "Everyone acts nice but they hate you," "The weather here is so unpredictable," "It's so hard to make friends here," "The buses are never on time," "This town is full of the craziest people," girl that's every town. "No but it's worse here" look you can't all be the worst.
According to popular opinion, I have literally never been anywhere with good drivers. And from what I've been informed, no one else has either.
Sooner or later leftists will have to deal with the issue that capitalism has made many people used to wanton excess and sooner or later we'll have to legit tell everyone we can't have plastic treats and luxury produce or cruises instantly available year round and it's gonna make so many people mad and call you a big meanie worse than stalin over it. It will not be popular at all but someone's gotta hold a firm no or the planet will never stop collapsing. We can't save the planet by living exactly how we do now just with a communist banner over it we have to take a loss sorry, shein product cycles shouldn't have been normalized to begin with.
The banana discourse really separated the wheat from the chaff of which "lefties" actually want a global workers revolution and which ones just want more stuff to be free
hate when motherfuckers try to talk to me about AFAB Experiences and how "we were all raised as girls 🥺" like brother i was socialized as a weird thing. i didn't have a "girlhood". don't talk to me
i was not included in the Girl peer group. i was also not included in the Boy peer group. i was in the freak peer group that consisted exclusively of autistic dudes and trans eggs of both directions and the one girl who thinks she's a vampire 😭
it's always in a thinly veiled way of trying to make me ally myself with them against trans women on basis of our "shared afab experiences" when closeted transfems were the people i was confiding my darkest secrets to at 14
NO LIVE ORGANISM CAN CONTINUE FOR LONG TO EXIST SANELY UNDER CONDITIONS OF ABSOLUTE REALITY EVEN LARKS AND KATYDIDS ARE SUPPOSED BY SOME TO DREAM
"we're all faggots in the eyes of the state!" "we all have it just as bad!"
ok. wage gap
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like. come on now
trans mennnn pspspsps understand your relative privilege over your transfem sisters and use it to support and uplift us instead of pretending not to have the structural leverage necessary to harm us. ooooo you know you want to build queer solidarity
one of the interesting features of this post is that there are sentences it doesn't have because they are sentences I am not saying. among them:
"trans men aren't oppressed"
"trans men have the same amount of privilege as cis men" (see: 70 cents to their dollar)
"trans men don't face their own issues that deserve discussion and attention"
"trans men are ontologically evil"
"it's bad to be a trans man"
"a trans man killed my grandma"
see, I employed a writing strategy wherein, if I don't believe a sentence to be true, I don't say it
You should be able to criticize gender as a construct without criticizing trans people in the same way that should be able to criticize nation states as a construct without criticizing immigrants. Unfortunately, TERFs like to use "gender critical" as a euphemism.
In fact, I would even go so far as to say that criticizing gender should be structurally pro-trans, just as criticizing national borders is structurally pro-immigrant.
REAL masculinity is about [traits and behaviors that anyone can have that youre gendering for reasons that are ultimately misogynistic]
