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ADHD | Male he/him | 22 | Just a little bit lost in the world | ADHD as hell | Icon is Yayoi Kusama's The Silvery Universe from her "My Eternal Soul" exhibit.

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my adhd comes in two settings:

loud and annoying

spaced out and withdrawn 

[shubbabang]

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[abcsofadhd]

Me: Completes one(1) task I didn’t want to do Brain: Your Concentration Has Expired

submitted by anon (I dunno why they didnt want credit for this)

[roboco-san]

me explaining to my friends why I’m so bad at making plans: I have adhd and time isn’t real

[roboco-san]

this is my post but mood

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: this sounds like a terrible idea, we need to see what happens lets do it

[adhd-austin]

"This famous scientist had ADHD!"

Well yeah, did you read about what they did? What they did was fucking stupid is what it was. But they wrote it down and now we're all better off for it.

[abcsofadhd]

That ADHD feel when you can feel your brain be low on dopamine.. Its like the engine in your brain stalling when you try to do things.

[airearthandsunfire]

I commonly refer to this phenomena as “I’m running low on spoons. I have enough to either cook something to eat and try to regenerate spoons, or go to bed and sleep for a while.”

[abcsofadhd]

Why spoons?

[adhd-austin]

https://adhd-austin.tumblr.com/post/175852034856/adhd-and-spoon-theory

[adhd-austin]

So I just switched to Strattera this morning and holy shit I'm so tired. Is this normal? Does it go away? It's like every surface I touch is the comfiest bed ever.

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[adhd-austin]

ADHD is not having a basket to put your shit in

Neurotypical people having their shit together is like having all their shit in a basket. Different people’s baskets are organized differently, and sometimes things fall out or get mixed up when they get bumped, and some people have overflowing baskets that makes it hard to keep track of everything, but everyone has a basket to keep their shit in, and when they need something they can find it in their basket. What’s more, they generally have a sense of how much stuff is too much for their basket.

ADHD people having their shit together is taking all the stuff in the basket, but we don’t have a basket. So we use any other method of keeping the shit together, no matter how messy. So we very quickly end up with this ball of twine and duct tape and staples that’s connecting as much as we can. And sometimes some of us find far less… reasonable methods of keeping our shit together. And basically none of these methods work as well as just having a basket, but they’re much better than nothing. Without a basket, we lose stuff much more easily, and it’s a lot of effort to formally organize it. There’s usually some kind of method to the madness, but it’s not always a method we can explain. And because we don’t have a defined container with a load limit, our stuff keeps expanding like a spiderweb and tends to grow beyond a size we could reasonably fit in a basket.

And to get things to a level where we’re as together as someone who just had a basket to begin with? The options are basically 1) have someone share their basket with you (like a good friend, SO, or personal assistant), or 2) put in a crazy amount of effort in to finding raw materials for a basket, learning how to weave a basket by hand, and then make your own basket. Except your own baskets always seem to fall apart after a short time, while everyone else has industrial grade baskets that seem to last a lifetime. 

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and when you need to get something done, other people are like “sure no problem” and hook the basket over their arm and get to it. meanwhile you’re juggling twenty different things and you have maybe half a hand free at a time and people wonder why it takes you so long to get started and so long to do stuff

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everything is a big mood when you’ve got

no impulse control, baby

[adhd-austin]

I already spent $60 on Spider-Man (which was fun as hell!), do I want to bump that up to $100 by buying the Pathfinder game on steam?! What's that, I don't have a job yet and am still working on applications with deadlines that will fly by if I get absorbed in another game?

*continues to eye Kingmaker*

[abcsofadhd]

Does anyone else’s mind create expectations of how things are supposed to feel (being in a relationship, being with friends, etc) and when you are in that situation but don’t feel how you simulated it and it makes you feel like something is off? Its really dumb because it creates fantastical expectations (which are just unrealistic) and then makes you feel bad cause life isn’t like the fantasy you imagined. Anyone else feel that way? 

[useful-lesbian]

Ever since I started making the conscious effort to call adults “women” instead of “girls” it’s become disturbingly apparent just how normalized infantilizing women is.

“Girls’ night,” “Atta girl!” “Girl on girl,” “Baby girl,” “Good morning, girls,” “girl talk,” “I’ve missed my girls,” etc etc

It’s to the point where women actually shy away from the word “women” and prefer to be called girls, probably because to no longer be a girl is to be old, tired, useless, homely, motherly, boring, nagging, serious, etc.

On the flip side, you rarely hear men being referred to as “boys” outside of maybe pop music and tumblr’s “soft boi” memes. And I have never heard men ask to be called boys instead of men. That’s because being a man is something to aspire to and something to be proud of.

Another side effect is that by calling all females “girls,” it obscures her age. If you hear, “a girl was attacked last night” you assume it was an adult unless an age is mentioned. Versus if you said “boy” there would be almost no question.

It takes some practice, but using accurate language to differentiate between adult women and girl children is really important, especially when discussing feminist topics. Normalize calling women women, and stop infantilizing them into “girls.”

[renniejoy]

I’ve gotten the impression that in some languages, there isn’t really a word that distinguishes “not-adult women” from “not-married women”?

But yeah, in English, there is a difference and we should try to use it. 

[adhd-austin]

So, upfront: dude's perspective here. And I definitely try and avoid using "girl" to refer to adults, though not all the time (between habit and it feeling strange in some situations :/ for a short time I tried using "young woman" but that just sounded 400% awkward so I stopped).

But, I think at least part of the problem (definitely not all of it!) is that there aren't any great in between words between "girl" (which should represent a child) and "woman" (an adult), whereas guys have, well, "guys" and "dude" that fit between "boy" and "man." And there's probably some deeper linguistic and sociological stuff you could pull from that, but I think it's something to consider; I'm a college graduate guy, and I feel really uncomfortable when someone refers to me as a "man" in most cases, though it's hard to exactly articulate why. Calling someone around my age a "man" or "woman" feels unusual, unless they've hit certain life milestones (I usually think of a married couple I know with "adult" pronouns, for example).

I don't want to sound like I'm playing devil's advocate and justifying anything, just adding my thoughts on part of why this happens and isn't an easy, immediate fix for people once they realize it.

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Teacher: Ok class you are going to *brain stops precessing their words as sounds and it turns into unintelligible gibberish* ok, go

Me: what?

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adhd: we need to clean the space before we can get any work done me: ok, let’s clean then adhd: adhd: adhd: we need to clean the space before we can get any work done

[adhdissues]

when I was in grade 10 & 11, I couldn’t write to save my life, I’d get between 45 & 60% on my essays. at this time in my life I was not on medication for ADHD because I wasn’t diagnosed.

i just graduated in June 2017, during my grade 12 year I was diagnosed with ADHD and put on medication. My marks in English went from the 45-60% average up to 80-90% average.

the reason why I didn’t talk to a doctor about it sooner- i thought ADHD was just being hyper. i had no idea that it could also have the “inattentive” side to it.

October is ADHD awareness month. Please, please take a moment to talk about it or even share a post on social media. ADHD is not just being hyperactive. It’s so much more than that

[addminds]

having ADHD is the mental equivalent of running a nonstop marathon while everyone else is driving their cars. You keep running and running and running and you’re so tired but everyone in their cars are constantly yelling at you to just run faster, because they aren’t tired yet, but you’ve been running for so long and you can’t keep up or take a break because you HAVE to keep running

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: figuring out literally everything as you go

[adhd-austin]

There's a gif, SOMEWHERE, of a certain cartoon character literally building a staircase as he walks up it, and the staircase behind him is falling apart. I think maybe from The Thief and the Cobbler (which I've never actually seen)?

Anyway, that gif is ADHD.