Aditi. 19. India

"words are so powerful that they can break hearts and make panties wet"

[brightwanderer]

I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

[aditiiiixx]

how fascinating it is that we humans are MEANT to be loving w each other. isn't it cute how our fingers get perfectly locked w theirs, when we hold someone's hand? or how perfectly our head lies on their shoulder when we hug somebody? or how is it that our hands perfectly cup somebody's face like that's what they're made for?!? or how is it that laps feel like the world's best couch?!? it's not a coincidence that our bodies are designed in a way to hold each other and be loving towards each other. We humans are meant to love each other💖💖

[starlingsongs-deactivated201608]

When trans women are mocked and made into jokes in the media, I get very upset, and I am often told “Kay, you can’t go through life getting offended every time someone makes a joke.” And I sputter and object but they don’t hear me. So I want to be clear for once, about why the jokes make me angry.

I learned to hate myself for being transgender before I knew I was transgender. I laughed at the jokes in stand up comedy routines, and prime time sitcoms, and animated comedy shows, and in the movies, and in books, and in games, laughing at trans women for existing, about “men in dresses”, about people who “got their dicks chopped off”, and I learned to think that was worthy of ridicule.

And then a day came when I felt a pang of envy at what my female classmates were wearing and I repressed it, and felt guilty, and a day where I felt incomplete because I had no breasts and I repressed it and I felt disgusting And a day when I realized the only images of romance that made me feel anything showed two women together and I repressed it and I felt like a monster And a day when I realized I felt sick when I looked at myself in the mirror after every shower before work and couldn’t bear to look at my own face, and I hated myself. And then there came a day when I hated myself so much, and I thought I could never understand why, and so I just wanted it all to end. And it was just a miracle that I swerved my car back into my lane in time.

And all of it started with a joke that I heard on TV, and then kept hearing from all the voices from the ether, over and over and over, worming an idea into my mind before I was old enough to realize I was absorbing it, the idea that a man in a dress is funny, and that changing your body parts makes you a freak, and that women who have penises instead of vaginas are liars and hurt men. And they’re still making these jokes. And somewhere out there right now, just like all those years ago, there is a little girl in a t-shirt and cargo shorts with buzzed off hair watching the TV, hearing that joke and absorbing it without knowing it, who will someday have to pry herself apart to tear it out of her head, just like I did.

That is, if she doesn’t kill herself first.

[starlingsongs-deactivated201608]

I know this is a really heavy post but if you read it and you appreciated it, I’d appreciate it in return if you reblogged it. This is really important to me and I want people to read it and understand it. Thank you.

[hugtheteadrinkthekitten]

The thing people who say things like “you can’t go through life being offended over every joke” don’t see is that it’s not just being offended over any joke. In this joke, the punchline is that the person is trans. Or gay. That’s it. That’s the joke.

From the TV tropes page called “queer is funny”:

“There is a tendency for works, particularly older works and works aimed at young men, to treat same sex relationships as being inherently funny. Obviously, gay people and gay relationships can be funny for lots of reasons — for example, if the characters are incredibly mismatched, or if the behaviour of one character is amusingly offputting, so this doesn’t just apply to any humour derived from gayness or from gay relationships, only when the punchline is that it is gay. Litmus test — if this were heterosexual, would it be (roughly, if not quite) as funny?”

And that is the issue. It’s not seeing a joke about characters like you that’s the problem - that’s just the strawman that people like to pretend it is so they can continue making/laughing at these jokes.

It’s when your existence is the joke. That’s the problem.

[2complx-deactivated20161228]

Calling me baby makes me so freakin weak

[aditiiiixx]

Or babygirl

[quote-diaries]

“Love is of all the passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and the body.” - Voltaire, Le Dernier Volume Des Œuvres De Voltaire

[saudi-lolo-deactivated20190325]

first rule: make her laugh.

[aditiiiixx]

second rule: buy me Nutella

[grimoirebabylon]

Color Correspondences

The associations/correspondences of colors are really interesting, particularly because these associations are sort of a thing embedded in the collective consciousness. Saying “black magick” immediately conjures up the idea of evil, we know “black hat hackers” are bad guys because of the word “black” (honestly, the black/bad - white/good dichotomy is kind of racist, but that’s a different post). I thought it would be interesting to analyse a bunch of data about color correspondences in witchcraft and figure out which correspondences are most prominent/consistent from list to list.

These lists are organised from most common word to least common word, but all of the words listed appeared at least three times in the entire data set for that color.

white: purity, peace, cleansing, truth, spirituality

innocence, protection, healing, moon, unity, light, purpose, balance, consecration, divination, magick, clarity, lavender, balancing, strength, purification, death

pink: love, friendship, healing, harmony, romance

compassion, self, spiritual, emotional, affection, children, passion, cups, nurturing, femininity, beginnings, fidelity, partnership, protection, emotions, calming, honor

purple: power, spiritual, wisdom, psychic, spirituality

intuition, meditation, divination, royalty, sensitivity, insight, ambition, astrology, justice, healing, influence, contact, spirits, evil, independence, government, wealth, soul, clairvoyance, moon, connection, spirit, communication

red: passion, strength, fire, courage, love

sexual, action, power, life, lust, health, vitality, survival, war, anger, root, sex, potency, conflict, mars, physical, fertility, mercy, danger, independence, competition, ambition, leadership, astrological, aries, sexuality, protection

brown: earth, stability, animals, grounding, home

concentration, lost, house, animal, endurance, balance, locating, blessing, construction, pet, nature, protection, healing

green: growth, prosperity, luck, abundance, money

fertility, earth, healing, nature, love, acceptance, youth, success, employment, harmony, plant, peace, beauty, marriage, weather, envy, jealousy, life, balance, body, health

yellow: air, happiness, solar, confidence, learning

inspiration, imagination, communication, sun, creativity, self, intellect, memory, concentration, persuasion, charm, plexus, success, power, travel, life, healing, fool, knowledge, intuition, intelligence, divination, wisdom, mental, mercury, joy

blue: truth, protection, water, peace, healing

patience, communication, wisdom, meditation, focus, harmony, tranquility, moon, throat, forgiveness, astral, mind, calm, fortune, organization, projection, sleep, spiritual, understanding, happiness, power, sincerity, spirituality, creativity, justice, emotional, subconscious, people, jupiter, trust, psychic, calming

gray: loneliness, contemplation, negative, tarot, glamour

influence, wisdom, neutrality, knowledge

silver: moon, psychic, intuition, meditation, dreams

stability, goddess, communication, feminine, awareness, luck, gambling, divination, lunar, divinity, victory

gold: energy, sun, fortune, health, success

abundance, prosperity, divination, luck, justice, luxury, wealth, masculine, understanding, solar, attraction, god, strength, divinity, positivity

orange: success, energy, creativity, ambition, vitality

justice, courage, legal, joy, celebration, attraction, sacral, fire, action, opportunity, strength, communication, sun, happiness, encouragement, business, fun, harvest, opportunities, wands, adaptability

black: protection, banishing, death, negativity, binding

negative, grounding, repelling, absorbing, safety, unhexing, uncrossing, endings, patience, rebirth, wisdom, learning, reversing, releasing, defense, scrying, hexing, divination, banishment, justice, karma, strength, control, stability

[aditiiiixx]

listening to my name in your voice does magic to my heart. 🤍

[jupitersmusings]

good things will happen 🧿

things that are meant to be will fall into place 🧿

[overlord-fire-bubble]

THIS ONE FUCKING WORKS. REBLOG IT.

[essenceofrose]

Okay I reblogged and got into the entrepreneurship program I wanted. This WORKS

[magicalmerry]

Reblogging for some added help for the coming months

[crazystupidsloth]

You never know

[amargedom]

““You can blame yourself for anything if you think about it long enough.””

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[aditiiiixx]

And that's what careless and cold words do. They make people love you a little less.

[aditiiiixx]

If you ever give me a handwritten note, I'm keeping it forever 🤍

[aditiiiixx]

i'm so in love with cute little episodes of domestic sweetness.

you're making bed w your loved one, and you just jump on the bed and start giggling and laughing on the fresh sheets you just put on. <33

you're cooking, your boo is cutting vegetables and you take little kissing breaks<3

you're in bed fighting w pillows while tickling each other and laughing endlessly. the moment is just too wholesome and too precious.<3

Dusting the windows w your sweetheart while talking about random shit or listening to your fav music.<3

the feeling of having somebody you enjoy living with and making a home with is too frikkin comforting. 🤍

chores done w someone you love isn't a chore afterall 💗

[thinkofitasablessing]

[aditiiiixx]

it won't make you a simp. promise.💗

[aditiiiixx]

laughing endlessly with somebody until your stomach hurts will always be my favvv non-sexual act of intimacy 💗💗

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

reblog if you support boys expressing soft emotions

[aditiiiixx]

Fuck "be a man" or "don't be such a girl" shit and be a human being with emotions and a heart💗

[aditiiiixx]

re-reading old conversations at 3am hits real hard

#love #night #3am #nostalgia #thoughts #sad #life #miss #gloomy #writing