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"Everything Appears as it is: Infinite" by Alex Dodge

it's summer which means i am constantly asking myself questions such as "who is on my hockey team" and "is that a good idea"

thingsmk1120sayz

Zach Benson being a conspiracy theorist and illiterate is a big red flag for me

Sorry not sorry

ajlady

He was raised in a circus….

petewentzisblack1312

we seriously need to stop conceding to the personhood trap when it comes to abortion rights. is a fetus a person? thats a spiritual question. i dont care about the answer. should another person dictate what someone can do with their body? simple answer: no.

petewentzisblack1312

like if a fetus isnt a person it has no right to my body and if a fetus IS a peson it also has no right to my body because there is no other context in which we are required to put ourselves at risk of physical harm to preserve another persons safety or even life.

you dont have to save someone from drowning even if youre a strong swimmer. even in death youre not required to donate organs and that could save several people. you can kill someone if you truly believe your safety is at risk. we dont mandate preservation of life over autonomy in any of these circumstances.

shitapril

as @ned-in-net said, pengtwins ! 🐧💛

mysharkiee

claim your star here

fforsythiaaa

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

shblvd

get UPL’s name out of your damn mouth

1. winnipeg already drafted 2 goalies

2. why would sabres trade UPL for an older goalie (no offense)

ajlady

I think people forget that Ukko-pekka also has a NTC. He’s not leaving unless he wants to

tarotdaddy3-deactivated20231006

Delete your ex's nudes.

Delete anyone's nudes that doesn't fuck with you anymore.

Its creepy as hell to keep nude/lewd photos of someone who has CUT OFF that kind of connection to you.

Delete them.

Be a fucking adult.

starscelly

it is impossible to not look smug when your boybestfriend of almost 10 years spends thousands of dollars to buy the jersey he first met you in.

Manninen: Siellä muun muassa minun mielestäni Miro Heiskanen osti kymppitonnilla Hinen Hifkin paidan. Putkonen: Aika jykevä! Hintz: Pitää paikkansa. Putkonen: No ihan törkeen hyvä.

thank you as always to the wonderful @glimmermann for translating <3

yiiiiiiiikes25

queer-as-in-fuck-12

drug addicts deserve housing, food, water, and healthcare btw

mihai-florescu

derinthescarletpescatarian

Except, critically, at bedtime.

findersfeeders

Ravings and urges get miscoded over time. Let’s say you’re thirsty, and you live in a strawberry field. Strawberries contain some water and a bunch of sugar so, over time, you may start to crave strawberries when you are thirsty because you get a reward and some relief in shorter time from the need starting than the trek to the stream. This can happen for every need: sleep, food, whatever.

Trevor Noah has a great tip, that when he craves ice cream at night he breaks it down into parts: I want something cold, I want something sweet. He drinks a glass of cold water then waits to see if he still has the ice cream craving. Usually he doesn’t.

So listening to your body isn’t “follow every urge” but “decompose the urge to discover the underlying need.”

If you always feel like getting cozy in bed you may be: cold, dehydrated, and/or malnourished (maybe a need for high calories that are bioaccessible…not processed).

If you do not feel tired at bedtime you may: need to eat dinner earlier because your body is still digesting, need to exercise or go outside more during the day, get the fuck off your screen for an hour so your brain can enter sleep mode.

Hope this helps someone.

P.S. notice i said nothing about neurodivergence. Not that it’s not a likelihood but the over-pathologization of behaviors prevents us from taking simple actions to improve our wellbeing. Also, these tips are pretty accessible and applicable to most brain variations.