let me make this clear
in theory i support sex positive feminism ideology in that sex is not shameful and whatever
however i strongly dislike how far the movement has grown away from this ideology and has become about defending pedophiles and misogynists in the name of combating kink shaming and somehow the notion that stealing your man and riding his dick reverse cowgirl will smash the patriarchy?? still do not understand that
the execution of sex posi feminism is very messy and actually does hurt a lot to girls (including myself) who get caught up in the rhetoric
sixteen year old girls need to be told “no you should not make your sexual debut with this guy six years older than you” rather than “yeah girl get that d you’re so empowered and liberated i support whatever choices you make”
I think that younger girls should be educated in a way that is comprehensive and they should be told about signs of abuse and about power dynamics like age differences and how people can take advantage of them. Because I think just saying “no, you shouldn’t do that” is often unhelpful at least partially because it makes a person feel disempowered. I think effective feminist sex education would empower girls by giving them the tools to think critically about their relationships and the people they let into their life, and to value their own autonomy. (I mean this as an addition to this post rather than a criticism, because I agree that sex positive feminism as it is practiced seriously hurts young girls– I’ve also been there!)
















