In/Sanity?

My stumbles about Tumblr and my own posts are my examination of insanity and sanity. I'm looking to find a balance between the two, between my fandoms, between my hobbies, and so many other things. Welcome to the journey.

[wlw]

- Nikita Gill

[daily-barton]

Please consider the consequences of your actions. Okay, they’re considered.

[ithelpstodream]

[oneshortdamnfuse]

Anyways, shout-out to all the asexuals in relationships w/ non-asexual people. You’re not deficient because you don’t experience desire and/or attraction the way people think you should. You’re not a bad partner for not being sexually attracted to your partner. You don’t have to “fake” attraction in order to be a good partner. No one should guilt trip you for your asexuality.  

[jrdinbd]

Me: filled with love for my significant other

Significant other: is asexual

Dick: tucked away because I respect them and their choices about what they want to do with their body.

I AM FORCIBLY SNUGGLED BY MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER

[benedictscumbercollective]

As a thank you for 25,000 followers, I’m giving away two Doctor Strange 2016 Summer Convention pops to two lucky winners.

Rules:

Reblog and like this post once for 2 entries

No giveaway blogs

I’ll ship worldwide

Winner will be chosen by random number generator

Please have your ask box open so I can contact you if you win

Winner will have 24 hours to respond, and must be willing to give me their name/address

Giveaway will end on September 23rd 2016.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask. Good luck.

- BCC xx

[whatis2plus2]

Since joining Tumblr, I’ve met a lot of young queer people. Look, I’m a bisexual man in a gay relationship, and I’m approaching 30. I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard’s story was being covered on the news. I remember thinking, “I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings I’m having.”

And then I met Dominic when I was 12, and people could see how in love we were. And we got the shit beat out of us. The year I met him, some kids in the grade above me held me down against the bleachers in our gym and stomped on my hand until my fingers broke. Instead of sending me to the nurse, the teacher sent me to the assistant principal to explain the situation. She asked why the kids had beat me up. I said, “They were calling me gay.”

Her response was, “Well, are you?”

My, “I don’t know,” earned a call to my parents, and I was outed. Efforts were made to keep me from seeing Dom. Throughout high school, Dom’s stepmother intensified these efforts. He slept in the basement of the house. Although he was an incredibly talented student, he was prohibited from participating in any extracurriculars. He suffered a lot of physical abuse during those years.

The day he turned 18, he packed up everything he had and walked to my house, and we’ve lived together ever since. Things are better, but they’re not perfect. I’ve had trucks pull up next to me at stoplights and, seeing the pride sticker on my car, through old drinks and garbage into my window. I no longer speak to my dad’s side of the family. I haven’t been to see them for Christmas or Thanksgiving in years. One of my uncles had cornered me at Thanksgiving when I was 17 and said, “I’m not going to judge you, but I’d be happy to break your neck so God can do the judging a little sooner.”

I joined a support group for trans and intersex people. When I joined, 40 people attended regularly. Within the year, the group was half the size it had been. Some couldn’t make it anymore, because they were staying at the shelter, where their stay hinged on them agreeing to instead to attend homophobic sermons. Some were put in correctional therapy. Five of them died. Three of those, I didn’t know, but I knew Alex, the 19 year old who was fag-dragged in Kentucky and died a day later in the hospital, and I knew Stephanie, who went home to Alabama to care for her mom in hospice and was beaten to death with a baseball bat by her mom’s boyfriend.

Tumblr is not reality. The dynamic here does not reflect the dynamic out there. Here’s the part where I finally make a point, and it might be extremely unpopular - but guys, value your allies. Value each other. We are met with enough hate in our daily lives to enter an online safe-space and meet more hate from our own, over petty things. Don’t go after one another over every little thing you find problematic.

Learn to see nuance. Maybe the word “queer” bothers you, and you see a gay man using it as an umbrella term. Maybe someone called a trans man a trans woman because they’re confused about terminology, but the post where they did it was voicing support for the trans community. Maybe someone is just asking a question, wanting to learn more. Stop. Attacking. These. People.

Allies are being driven away. Members of our own community are being ostracized. Others are feeling nervous and estranged, and it’s largely because of places like Tumblr, where the social justice movement is quickly becoming violent and radical. I am begging you, stop nitpicking “problematic” things and start directing your efforts to create real change. When it comes to comes to your allies, forget the “social justice warrior” mentality and put down your torch. Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving. And I’m certainly not saying that your anger doesn’t have a good place - when you are met with bigots on the street, congress members who want to pass hateful laws, violent protesters, abusive parents, prejudiced teachers, that is when you need to be a warrior. That’s when it counts. In the real world. When you have the opportunity to protect people from real harm. Attacking your would-be allies via anonymous asks is just going to lose us ground in the long run. And we don’t have time for that, not when trans women of color are being murdered every day, not when states are still fighting against marriage equality, not when there are politicians in office who believe that trans people are possessed by demons, not when we’ve just lost 50 brothers and sisters to one gunman, not when the media won’t even admit that the attack was homophobic.

Please step back. Look at the big picture. Look at where we are, globally. Don’t just log on to your safe space and attack your allies over small missteps. That’s like washing the dishes in a house that’s on fire, kids. Let’s fight on the battlefield, and when we come home to each other, let’s just focus on bandaging up our wounds so we can go out and win the war.

[stephrc79]

Signal boost to this unbelievably important message.

[sussexbound]

Thank you for this.

[pr1nceshawn]

What People Think Being Bisexual is Like vs. What It’s Really Like.

[alliealphena]

I have explaining this, but allll of this.

[horridwinter]

I was at a con recently. And while looking at some of the art, I made a comment to a guy who had a collection of cat avengers prints that he was missing the best avenger. So he goes, ‘oh and who is that’ and I just kinda look sideways at him and say ‘hawkeye, the only one you don’t have’. To wich he of course smirks and says 'is he really the best or is it just cause of jeremy renner?’

First of all… Jeremy Renner is a gorgeous human being and he is more than enough reason for Hawkeye to be awesome, so why the hell you got that smug look on your face like I’m just some random ass fangirl who don’t know shit about comics. I was fuckin dressed like Captain Marvel, 100% comic accurate costume thank you very much.

So my dad starts laughing cause he can see I got my 'fight me’ face on. And I proceed to list each and every reason why I have loved Hawkeye since waaaaay before the movies and why he gets even better with new movies and comics.

NUMBER ONE, he is the only fully human Avenger in every single story line.

To which of course I get 'well what about Black Widow’ well sir you must not know your comics very well because in the Earth-616 universe she has the Red Room version of the super soldier serum which gives her enhanced physical abilities as well as a very long lifespan.

Then comes the 'well Scott Lang is human’ well yeah but he’s got a mother FuCkiNG SUPER SUIT. What does Hawkeye have? Spandex or leather, not quite the same thing. And you take away that super suit, is Scott still a super hero? No he is in jail for being a thief. You take away Hawkeye ’ super sui… oh wait that’s right HE DON’T GOT ONE.

'But what about Black Panther he is human right?’ Do you know anything about comics dude? The dude eats a magical plant and is gifted his powers by the Wakandan Panther God and has enhanced speed, strength, agility, healing, reflexes, stamina, etc. NOT FULLY HUMAN he also is proclaimed King of the Dead and is granted the power and knowledge of past Black Panthers and gains the ability to control the dead… so awesome but still not human.

Hawkeye is 100% human 100% of the time (except a very brief moment when he borrowed pym particles just to help out on a mission) and still manages to keep up with super humans, gods and guys with fancy super suits.

NUMBER TWO, he is deaf, canononically.

'Well Daredevil is blind’ his accident enhanced his other senses… and not an Avenger… so your argument is not even relevant.

NUMBER THREE, he shoots a bow, usually a recurve, in battle with people that have magic and laser guns and other shit and he can shoot it with out even looking!

'But he has trick arrows’ wich are guaranteed to be weighted terribly and that weight changes depending on which arrow it is. So he not only has to compensate for the strange weight but he has to do it on the fly in the heat of battle for each individual arrow. Not to mention when he shoots multiple at once.

And come on, have you ever tried to shoot a bow and arrow, it’s not easy. It takes a lot of practice patients and skill. Especially to get as good as him.

NUMBER FOUR, I mean have you read the guys backstory? If you looked up tragic backstory in the dictionary, you would see a picture of Clint Barton. He was orphaned after his abusive father got into a car accident that killed his mother as well. Was sent to a children’s home, ran away to the circus, was trained by Swordsman and Trickshot who were not the best mentors, was betrayed and abandoned by Swordsman and his brother and left for dead, ended up severely injuring his brother, had to leave Trickshot, when he tried to do the hero thing he was mistaken for a criminal, was manipulated into trying to kill Iron Man, kept falling in love with women who didn’t love him back, left the Avengers at one point believing he was unwanted, was passed over because he was not super human, watched his brother die, was forced to leave the Avengers, had a bounty put on his right arm, lost former mentor Trickshot to cancer, split with his wife then watched her die saving him, sacrificed himself and came back, was almost assasinated, went to prison so the rest of his team could go free, was shot and conducted a suicide mission that saved the planet but killed him, lost his memory, was vanished into nothingness, doubted he was himself or even alive, faked his death, and that’s just the short list.

NUMBER FIVE, he ran the West Coast branch of the Avengers, as well as other treams.

NUMBER SIX, he took on the mantle of Captain America for a short time.

NUMBER SEVEN, Caw Caw Mother Fucker.

So yeah, suffice to say that I left the guy speechless surounded by his friends who were nodding along and adding in their own bits of info and laughing hysterically at him. I turned to walk away after that mic drop and heard him mumble, 'well I guess I’m making a cat hawkeye’

[datingonlinesucks]

hi how are you? are you a natural redhead? mmm you look so sweet… and spiiicy. you do theatre? why don’t you come do some private theatre, if you know what i mean

OKC (via datingonlinesucks)

[datingonlinesucks]

Good day. I know it’s not every day you at a guy so handsome as me. So I decided to give you the privilege of receiving a personal message. Don’t respond though, you’re not pretty enough for me.

OKC (via datingonlinesucks)

[badluckbadger]

The sound my stupid cat makes when I move him from his favourite spot (on top of my jackets)

[hhjjjjhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhksl]

what kind of camera are you using this is like movie quality god damn

[sugarpiss]

HE SOUNDS SO SAD PUT hIM BACK

[themarysue]

what a whiny babyyyyy

[lightsginandbeards]

The major difficulty of telling people about any tech work

[alliealphena]

Just some personal thoughts. /my coming out, and what today meant in that journey.

When I was in High School, my best friend came out as bisexual. I didn't completely understand it, but I accepted that was how she identified. But I became curious with what she had said and other details. I became aware of things about myself. I knew I'd checked out women and admired beautiful women, and often found beauty in every woman I encountered. But, I liked boys and I was told by cues growing up, and media, and etc, that liking boys was right, and I just focused on it. I had a "gay experience" in college. I didn't think of it that way, I thought of it as a physical expression of the love I felt for someone. She and I didn't work out, but we're great friends. She told it was OK to be who I was. But even at that point, I didn't understand who I was. I was a woman, who like guys, but I was dating a woman and there was something right about it. And perhaps, if that relationship had lasted longer I would have been able to resolve that tension in my brain. Bit it ended and badly and I was like "nope never women again". I figured, it was a fluke, a college thing. But I kept looking at women. I flirted with everyone. I told some people I was Bi, trying it out. Seeing if it felt right. But I wasn't comfortable in my skin. Then, someone was like "omg there's this show and it's Sci-fi and brilliant and you'd love it, because it does history and futuristic!!!". And she handed me the season of Doctor Who on DVD with the 9th Doctor. And I was hooked quickly. I enjoyed Rose and I loved The Doctor. And then. I met Captain Jack Harkness. Honestly, the first few moments of Jack, he was not a favorite. Yeah, he flirted up Rose and she was smitten but I knew he was up to something and I didn't trust him. But then, I kept watching, and I came to love Jack. Even in that one season, I began to love him. And I began to associate with him. And I finished the season in tears. And with a need to know more about Jack. I didn't have access to another season for a few more years after this point, but I had the Internet! And I found John Barrowman. And I found him talking about being an openly gay man playing an omnisexual character. And I started following him. Because I didn't know many others that I thought would be interested, I did so quietly. But I was watching. And I rewatched the one season of Doctor Who, this time loving that confidence from the first moment. And I started accepting it was OK to like both. And then I watched Buffy. ALL OF BUFFY. And from the very first moment, I associated with Willow. Willow was a spirit animal for me. When she got together with Tara, I realized, I could totally find someone like that. And I cried, great mournful tears when Tara died. And I felt Willow's pain. But Willow could love Oz in a way her world ended when he left, and she loved Tara in a way she went crazy /evil / over the edge when Tara died. She loved them both. That said I could. And Jack Harkness said own it. And Jack said it's OK to flirt with everyone. And you can flirt a bit and not have it be sexual. Ask my friend Kelsey sometime. I know there's a line, but I flirt with her all the time, and it's not sexual in the world, it's just a sign of love. But these characters led to who I am. Who people I interact with now love me for. And I've always wanted to thank John Barrowman and Alyson Hannigan for their impact on me. Because I love who I am. I do. But I figured I'd never get a chance. Then Awesomecon came around, and John Barrowman was listed as a guest and had his own VIP, and I decided I had to do it. I couldn't express to anyone the importance, and I didn't realize even myself how much it meant. I did the Q&A, and I loved it, and validated and it was everything I wanted. And I just had a blast. And I did the photo shoot, and I had a blast and I got boob grabbed by John. /swoon for reals. And I did everything in the order so I could not go "hurr durr doctor who" when I got to talk to him. But I got up to him to get an autograph, and we could say something for a moment. So I walked up and I said "I just wanted to thank you for being you and for Jack, and your confidence in you and the idea it's OK to be me in my bisexuality, and that Jack could love everyone and own it. And I still have friends that don't understand and I use Jack kissing the Doctor and Rose to explain it. He said to me, "I'm glad, and if anyone isn't ok with you being you, well, fuck em. Just own it." I walked away with joy in my heart. And I walked to the group of volunteers, to ask another question, and I broke down in tears. Not only did I just thank him like I never thought I could. But I got validation. And I was so overwhelmed, I cried. And I feel more amazing for it.

[the-fuckboy-whisperer]

If a girl feels uncomfortable hanging out with you alone, and you get so offended by that, it makes you angry, she probably made the right choice.

[timeforsocialjustice-blog]

I know I’ve reblogged this recently but still so spot the fuck on.

[alliealphena]

My night last night.

[psych2go]

I like to imagine I'm fighting alongside superheroes with powers of my own and i know it's not real but am I crazy? Is this normal or not?

I’m pretty sure you’re not alone on this. Anyone want to confirm? 

[alliealphena]

I do this, I think of it as a fun escape for a bit. It's part of why I like Deadpool, because he doesn't ignore me.

[rat-librarian-deactivated202107]

Booklr, I need your help

I’m looking for YA books where the protagonist has sex. As many of you know, I have been working all semester on a project about YA novels and the concept of virginity, and I am now in the process of seeking funding to continue my research. I’m hoping to analyze the part sex plays in 20-30 YA novels of any genre (contemporary, fantasy, etc). So if you can think of any, please reblog with your suggestions, use the reply function, or send them to me in an ask or message. It doesn’t matter one bit to me if you loved or hated the book or if the sex in it is explicit or a “fade to black”. In fact, the more variety there is, the better. I am looking for trends and themes to emerge in the way sex is treated in the books, so its best if I don’t focus on any one particular type of YA novel before I start. 

So send me anything that comes to mind! You will have my undying love and gratitude and in the event that I ever publish my research, I will definitely link it to here so you can all see what I’ve been doing. Thanks!

[alliealphena]

It comes up a few times in Tamora Pierce's books. I'm only familiar with her Tortall books, but these are what I can think of. All of these books are Fantasy / Midieval setting. It regularly comes up as an issue of preserving image in the noble's eyes, but that also doesn't keep it from happening. (also, on an extra note, she handles girls growing up & experiencing their first menstruation very well. See Alanna the First Adventure for that.)

[Series: Song of the Lioness] In the Hand of the Goddess : Fade to Black / implied relationships The Woman who Rides Like a Man: fade to black / implied relationships Lioness Rampant: Fade to Black / implied relationship

[series : Immortals Quartet (this is my favorite, so the most detail) ] Wolf Speaker : this deals with rumors and keeping appearances - the importance of separate rooms. also an implied maybe affair. No confirmations. Emperor Mage: there's definitely an off screen mentioned relationship "she probably didn't want a chaperone for what she was here for". More rumors/keeping appearances. These rumors have specific effects on one of the main characters. In the Realms of the Gods : Fade to Black

[Series: Protector of the Small] Squire: discussion of her right to choose. More rumors. Some off screen (characters come out of the same room but the woman is only in a sheet) This series has other rumors and deformation of character dealing rumors of her sleeping around (while she's a Virgin) Lady Knight might have a fade to black, but I don't remember....

[Series: Trickster] Tricksters Choice: there might be other things, but definite highlight is they're telling the main character who is a slave at the time that the visiting Prince may ask her to bed, but she has the right to refuse him and the Duke would back get up. Tricksters Queen: Fade to Black

[Series: Beka Cooper] Terrier/Bloodhound : both have hints of other characters having sex. They also reference possible relationships. Mastiff: Fade to Black

That might be more detail than you were looking for, but I hope it helps!