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I'm so sick of amatonormativity

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Kingfisher for Birbruary, which is in support of Songbird Survival

Reference photo by Shantanu Kuveskar

Happy Arospec Awareness Week!

[hellsitegenetics]

i love you aroallo people i love you pan people i love you bi people i love you nonbinary people i love you lesbians i love you trans women i love you intersex people i love you everyone in every body or identity with discourse surrounding if you should exist or not i love you so much i love you i love you i love you. you are so so loved i promise you

a very tired but hopeful trans lesbian 🙏

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Closest match: Sepioteuthis lessoniana genome assembly, chromosome: 33 Common name: Bigfin Reef Squid

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[sirompp]

hi. i made some images.

feel free to take them and use for whatever you may need them for. no credit required

[eater-of-the-sand]

can you please make one for Ireland

[sirompp]

yeah okay

[god-mouths]

writing, repulsed

[aropride]

just thought of a funny post then imagined the annoying asks i'd get about it and got mad and closed the new post editor . then imagined getting to call them a dumb cunt and opened it again. then realized that was insane and started typing this. actually since i'm already in here (post editor) might as well make a fakepost of the entire situation so u all can experience it too

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anonymous asked: not everything is fucking autism i think youre just lame 😭 it's literally not that hard

🌃 aropride answered: autism causes motor difficulties you dumb cunt

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get their ass

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of COURSE

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obama asked: Do you want one Million dollars and also i will erase student debt forever communism style

🌃 aropride answered: yass omg #ask

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[aropride]

[stranglerfigpudding]

hey just a reminder, if you think aroallo people are an 'acceptable' group to make fun of, you are gross and we don't like you. yes including cishet aro people. especially cishet aro people since there seems to be a growing trend of targeting them

[pacificseaotter]

genuinely think everyone would benefit from learning about aromanticism and relationship anarchy. even straight, allosexual, alloromantics. because amatonormativity affects everyone, and learning about relationship anarchy and redefining how you think about relationships is so freeing. youcan do whatever you want 4ever.

[featuresofinterest]

it seems so strange to me that the only people it is socially acceptable to live with (once you reach a certain stage in life) are sexual partners? like why can’t i live with my best friend? why can’t i raise a child with them? why do i need to have sex with someone in order to live with them? why do we put certain relationships on a pedestal? why don’t we value non-sexual relationships enough? why do life partners always have to be sexual partners?

[greenjudy]

My grandmother and grandfather more or less adopted my grandmother’s best friend back in the 50s. After my grandfather died (before I was born, back in 1968 or so) they continued to keep house together, platonic best friends, and they hung together until they died, a few months apart, in 2007.

It’s quite recently, as far as I can tell, that living arrangements like that have stopped being regarded as normal.

[deathcomes4u]

It’s absolutely a new thing to find this stuff weird, and it has a lot to do with media pretending that the nuclear family and marriage are the only reasons to live with other people.

I’ve lived in a 3 adult household my whole life. My parents and their best friend. This was never weird to me, even though everyone my age thought it was because the media never portrayed these kinds of housing arrangements. As far as i was concerned, I just had an extra non-blood parent.

According to my parents, it was very common in the 70′s-80′s to buy houses with your friends, because it was financially smart to do so (so long as you were certain they were close friends who wouldn’t fall out with you and fuck everything up). Houses and house payments are much more manageable when you split the bills 3-4 ways instead of just two.

Millenials aren’t the first to think it’s a great idea to just shack up with friends. That’s housemating without the hastle of living with strangers. It’s still a good idea to shack up with people you’ve known a long time so you know how you’ll get on living together, but still. In the current economy, it’s pretty much now our only option for affording anything.

I think, and I’m not researched on this, but I think conservatives probably tried to suppress images of non-nuclear families because they likely thought it would encourage ideas of polygamy, polyamory, open sexual relationships with or without marriage, as well as other relationship types they thought of as un-christian or unsavoury. I could be wrong, but that shit wouldn’t surprise me.

(And i want to make a note that there’s also a disturbing amount of asexual denial around that makes people go ‘if they’re living together they HAVE to be banging because why wouldn’t they?’ and that shit both creeps me out and annoys me no end. People can be in relationships without sex. People can live together without sex. Sex is not the be-all and end-all and people being taught to think it is really need to stop).

Don’t let the media fool you into believing you can only live with a sexual partner or blood family. Someone somewhere has an agenda for making these seem abnormal, when really it’s just practical.

[curlicuecal]

A lot of people acted like it was super weird when two of my brothers decided to move states with me when I started my postdoc. I got really used to giving a little canned speech about it because it seemed to bewilder people so much. (Their leases happened to be up! We could share rent! They wanted to try somewhere new!)

The notable exception was my grandma, who was just like, “oh, yes, when we were young my sister and I decided to move cross-country together and it was lovely.”

More of this kind of thing for everyone, pls.

[magickedteacup]

The implication that close sibling relationships must also be a warning sign for incest also peeves me off; what kind of society are we living in anyway

[ineptshieldmaid]

#my mom’s a historian#does a lot of research#one of the main takeaways from the census data of literally every US census since the beginning#is that the nuclear family has never been the actual norm#nobody really ever lived like that#and a lot don’t now#and it’s clearly artificial and not ideal for most people#every household in the census had at least a grandma#usually a cousin#some rando#someone living in the house who wasn’t mom or dad or kid#always someone#usually several someones#some uncles etc.#unmarried aunties#that sort of person#but often unrelated friends#we’ve never really lived alone#that’s not how families work#that’s not how humans work  

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[solarcat]

Having a multi-adult household unit also just makes a shit-ton of sense, tbh. Much easier to split not only the bills, but also the housework and child-rearing responsibilities. Communal living ftw.

[drtanner]

It’s also super a capitalism thing.

With only two working-age people in the house, it’s very difficult to make ends meet without one of them (or increasingly, these days, both of them) working away the vast majority of their waking hours to earn enough money to support the household. The other person, if they aren’t also working similar hours, is there to support that working person, full time, with unpaid labour.

The end result of this is that nobody has any time or energy to spend together properly, and they just end up tired and miserable and shackled to their work, throwing money at their problems because it’s all they can do. It’s very easy to convince tired, miserable people to spend their money in the ways you want them to, and it’s also very easy to manipulate and oppress people who don’t have the energy or the means to fight for their rights. Convince a whole nation that this is the way the world is supposed to work, and you’ll be well away.

Death to the cancerous myth of the nuclear family.

[yardsards]

this is exactly the type of thing us aros and aces are referring to when we talk about amatonormativity

[shadow-von-vamp]

maybe my mutuals just aren’t into marvel at all but i’m surprised i haven’t seen anything here about gwenpool straight up saying she’s aromantic asexual in the new comic & wearing the flags

[shadow-von-vamp]

[vang0bus]

reblog if you:

- are aromantic and want to kill

- think aromantic people should be allowed to kill

- think fish are pretty cool

[sootburz]

love is in the air? WRONG! flaming skull

[yao1-sex]

[humanoidpigeon]

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[sipping-on-thoriumg]

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[deepseatime]

idk where this idea came from but i couldn't not make it once i thought of it

[joeyridersvoid]

Polyamorous relationships are not for everyone. Monogamous relationships are not for everyone. Romantic relationships are not for everyone!!! We are all different people with different needs, maybe just stop trying to condense the human experience into a homogenous gray monolith!!! aaaaaaaa

[arowitharrows]

The duality of “If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you”

and

“being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience”

[pansexual-pied-piper]

[quiet-queer-questgiver]

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“The thing is that when other people imply that being aro and ace must condemn someone to a sad and lonely life, they are seeing aromanticism and asexuality as the root of the problem.

They think that not having that ‘special someone’ in your life means it’s not worth living.

they’re showing pity for something they think you’re missing out on

When I talk about feelings of isolation caused by being aroace‚ I’m talking about the way our (western) society is structured, about how people drift off into their bubble, about how the older you get the less and less time everyone has in their day, and how your role as a friend automatically becomes lesser compared to other relationships.

I’m thinking about how certain emotional and physical connections are suddenly reserved for romantic relationships.

About the conversations I can’t really participate in and I sit there awkwardly knowing they find it weird that I’m not opening up.

I’m thinking about all the times I get hit out of nowhere with a throwaway line, reminding me that people think there’s something wrong with your soul if you don’t love like they do.

That they think a life like yours isn’t worth living. That’s the kind of isolation I’m thinking about.

Not me missing out on having a romantic partner.

okay done now sorry I’m feeling gloomy”

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[entropy-sea-system-deactivated2]

I think some aspecs who are ace really don't understand the erasure that us non ace aspecs, especially aros, face. Aspec gets reduced to ace very often, and non ace aspecs as well as ace aspecs who have other aspec identities that are important to them are adversely affected by it.