Being a trans man just puts you in such a weird space.
"I hope if they find a new roommate it won't be a cis man".
Well, the wording is better than what we've talked about in the past and thank you for being specific, and I get where you're coming from, but how about not all men are predatory in the first place?
You know that everyone else who thinks this way and doesn't know or care that I'm trans wouldn't want me to be roommates with them? I'm perhaps more "acceptable" because I'm "softer" in presenting my masculinity, how about passing trans guys with full-on beards and lots of muscle/fat etc? Would you truly be able to wire your brain to feel safe around them, because they ARE men, and look such?
How about cis gay men? You wouldn't room with [insert name]? As if you two haven't talked about being roommates before.
How about a cis man who would later turn out to be a trans woman? How would you even know?
It's just wack as hell, you know. It's like a backhanded compliment because it's simultaneously othering me from other men but also implying I'm deemed safe to be around. I get it, women face a lot of violence at the hands of men, and it's fair to want to live in a space with only women if that's what you're comfortable with. But enough with the disgusted faces and "men gross" shit, and othering me from men.
I wouldn't want to be roommates with people who don't accept cis men, because the moment I get too masculine for them I won't be "acceptable and safe".



















