Uhh Autism And Stuff

Dx’ed Lvl 1 Autistic, GAD Any pronouns 19

[snakeautistic]

An intro post to get to know me!

My goal is to learn more about autism and neurodivergence as well as connect with the nd community here on tumblr. I also would like to do my part in educating and sharing my own experiences as well.

I go by any usernames you find me using, or Rebecca .

I use any pronouns!

Lesbian and without a defined gender

I was late dx’ed with lvl 1 autism at 16. I was dx’ed with generalized anxiety disorder at 12.

I’m half white, half Korean. (I only speak English)

I live in the United States of America, specifically the Midwest

I’m fully verbal, without intellectual disability, and low supports needs, so I’ll try not to overstep in certain areas! I only have my own experience.

I consider myself strongly left wing, I’m anti-capitalist and anti-cop.

I am non-religious, but from a Protestant Christian background.

I try to follow a utilitarian philosophy.

I like to argue (/hj)

Snakelesbian

Minor Lesbian Autistic 🇺🇸🇰🇷 Pearl’s biggest fan

Link to my main/fandom blog

[status-quo-hater]

This might be a hot take but you absolutely need to learn the difference between someone who knowingly undermines and dismisses someone's boundaries, and someone who misinterprets where those boundaries are. These are not the same thing and treating them as equal is a disservice to your neurodivergent peers.

I have met a lot of autistic people who have said and done stuff that has made me uncomfortable. What I do about it is directly tell them what they did wrong and not to do it again because I don't like it. 99% of the time, it never happens again. Because the original action wasn't done out of disregard for my boundaries and autonomy, but due to obliviousness.

Being autistic doesn't make people turn into sexual harassers but it does make people more likely to miss, misinterpret, and misjudge more subtle social cues. Which can lead to behavior that bothers people and needs to be corrected.

Yes, if you're socially inept, and you're aware of that, you should be taking extra care to make sure you aren't doing something that makes someone uncomfortable. That doesn't diminish the importance of actually directly establishing when something is upsetting you, because it's not inherently obvious to everyone.

TL;DR, there's a difference between a guy who doesn't care about your discomfort and an autistic person who's really bad at flirting.

[asexual-amanita]

Autism actually can make people violent and aggressive, and I’m tired of “autism advocates” saying it can’t. Many autistic people, especially higher support needs people lose control of their bodies during meltdowns and times of high emotion. Some autistics have limited control of their bodies at all times. This body brain disconnect is a prevalent associative feature of autism. This is not to say that measures shouldn’t be taken to protect and teach the autistic person and others, but you can’t erase real, but stigmatized parts of a condition, and then dare to call yourself an advocate. Just because a symptom is unpleasant or unpalatable doesn’t mean it’s not a genuine part of the disorder. Stop ‘cleansing’ your autism advocacy.

[ryan-sometimes]

As an autistic/adhd person going through the job search process I’ve learned to phrase my autistic/adhd traits as corporate friendly things. Here’s some examples:

I have trouble reading between the lines and picking up on implicit information? Actually, I’ve learned the importance of giving and receiving precise, specific instructions in order to avoid time consuming miscommunications.

I’m easily bored with only one task? Actually, I have a curious mind and thrive in places with a wide range of tasks as I prefer dynamic environments where I can contribute to many projects.

I have trouble with white lies that are merely social niceties? Actually, I prioritize a transparent work environment where we can tackle issues head-on.

This way I don’t have to lie, but rather just spin my truth in a way that’s palatable to them.

[slugslop]

autism doesn’t make you morally better than other people. autistic people don’t inherently have a “strong sense of justice.” autistic people don’t have some unique supernatural ability to detect “bad” people or “narcissists.” nonverbal autistic individuals probably aren’t using telepathy, that’s just you trying to bargain with the idea that someone needs to be a “productive person” to have worth. autistic characters having obvious traits/symptoms doesn’t make them a stereotype.

sorry just firing my rent lowering shots

[respectissexy]

My absolute least favorite type of "neurodivergence" (used colloquially to only ever mean "Autism and ADHD") misinformation is the type that posits that being neurodivergent makes you a better person.

"Justice sensitivity" does not mean "neurologically I am a good person who stands up for what's right." It means you have a strong reaction to perceived injustice. But it does not mean your moral compass is calibrated well. The white dudes who are most obsessed with taking away Affirmative Action likely also have "justice sensitivity" -- their sense of injustice is just triggered by something different from what triggers mine, because we have different values. Some people's sense of injustice is triggered by pretty much any situation ever not working out in their favor. Those people can still be "justice sensitive" even if you wouldn't think of them as good people.

Also, there is no neurodivergent condition that makes you automatically capital-H Honest. Some Autistic people aren't good at intentionally lying or find it very uncomfortable to intentionally lie, but others lie just fine and I've met some who did it all the time. "Intentionally lie" is also doing a lot of work here, as you can be very dishonest without intentionally lying if you are prone to lying to yourself, which neurodivergent people are no less likely to do.

There is no neurotype that confers superior moral reasoning or instincts.

[un-monstre]

In hindsight being a “gifted kid” is so funny. You have substantial difficulties with socializing and fine motor skills, but we’re going to ignore that because you’re really good at reading chapter books

[kuviraissues]

drawing her again after a year was definitely fun

[meowkarii]

The beginnings episode but it’s all rapunzel trying to hit on Cass. Pls we need more silly rapunzel flirting!!!!!

👍👍👍

[openmindpsych]

sometimes autistic people still come across as weird, annoying, creepy, rude, "unlikable", or incomprehensible even when they're talking to other autistic people. autism is a communication disorder first and foremost. even if we can generally have fewer problems communicating with one another than with allistics, that doesn't mean that it's entirely a "language barrier" so to speak. our communication is still impaired even when we're talking to each other.

[snakeautistic]

I hate autism moms™ so much because they come SO CLOSE to making a good point about how lower-supports needs autistics often speak over higher-supports needs autistics within our community but they have to add some random misinformation/ make the entire thing about victimizing themselves instead of advocating for their children.

[snakeautistic]

One of the weirder parts of being unaware I was autistic for me was that I simultaneously felt different and isolated from other people, and like I had to mask all the time, but I also assumed other people had similar innerworkings and just hid it better than me.

So like l'd come out of an interaction with a socialable NT and think like. Damn. They're a lot better at remembering to make expressions than me, I need to do better.

[angel-fruitcake]

i can handle one (1) Event™ per day. whether it be a phone call, an appointment, trip to the grocery store, play date with a friend, etc. only one, that's it. any more than that and i am Stressed

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

dear autistics who

white

low support needs

not need 24/7 support

can work independently

can pay taxes

language privileged

intellectual & cognitive privileged

who can fit in societal definition of useful & productive (yes, even if hard)

when fight back against eugenics & ableism, you NEED to fight alongside, fight with, n fight for autistics who

radicalized & POC

from places of world where there critically lack autism knowledge n support

visibly autistic

higher support needs

need 24/7 care

can’t work independently or even work at all

can’t pay taxes

nonverbal, nonspeaking, minimally verbal, without functional communication, or cannot communicate via language at all even AAC

w intellectual disability or cognitive disabilities

who cannot fit into society definition of useful n productive, no matter how hard we try

because we always are & always will be primary target.

because we most vulnerable most marginalized within our, OUR community, which you belong in.

because once they finish us off you won’t be spared.

[beefcake007]

I’ve been thinking all day about RFK Jr’s eugenicist tirade against autistic people, and specifically I want no one to let it slide how he denied the existence of autistic adults in his generation. It’s not enough that it’s plainly a crock of shit, but his aunt (his father’s sister) Rosemary Kennedy (born 1918, died 2005) was very likely autistic and LOBOTOMIZED IN HER ADULTHOOD. The specifics and extent of her disability are vague and vary depending on which family member you talk to (they are biased as they are uh… trying to justify the lobotomy), but Rosemary had a life and friends, and at age 23 she was SPECIFICALLY lobotomized to deny her autonomy because she kept escaping the convent her family had sent her to and they were worried if she were independent and sexually active it would damage the family’s image.

so they scrambled her fucking brains at age 23, and they kept her a family secret that never left the house ever again. RFK isn’t an ignorant ableist, he’s a fucking liar and a eugenicist. He knows exactly what he’s advocating for because his family has had a lot of practice. Hope he rots in a ditch.

[burntblueberrywaffles]

I LOVE being autistic and trying to communicate because every time it’s

[kuromiusagi]

“Don’t infantilize autism” should be used when people who aren’t autistic treat autistic adults like children.

It should not be said when people who are actually autistic have “childish” interests or stuffed animals and such. Autistic adults are allowed to find comfort and express their autism in ways that works for them (without causing harm), even other autistic people don’t get to tell them not to enjoy those things just because they dislike stereotypes or don’t want themselves to be infantilized.

You can’t tell someone else their life should be breaking a stereotype you dislike. That’s not up to you.