[queenjulia24]

HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS

[lichpire]

was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.

seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.

i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.

they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.

[prideknights]

Happy National Coming Out Day! 🏳️‍🌈⚔️

[digenovanicolo]

s/o to kids that know they’re probably not straight but won’t let them self think about it. You’ll get there

[digenovanicolo]

s/o to kids that know they’re probably not cis but won’t let them self think about it. You’ll get there

[an-ace-up-your-sleeve]

You’ll be okay

[steamdyke]

I am no longer sorry

I want to change my username again so fuck the watermark fuck the credits seize the memes ☭

[malicious-code-103]

NB problems

[nebulaniggatry]

[roach-works]

queer people aren’t pokemon you don’t have to goddamn sort yourself into such an absurdly specific category holy shit just do your thing and apologize to no one 

[mintedwitcher]

Femme and Butch have been used by bisexual people since the terms were fucking created. Femme and Butch have NEVER been “lesbian exclusive” terms. Exclusionists and radfems are lying to you. Femme and Butch are our terms too.

[princeofdoomrps-archive]

They weren’t even female exclusive when I was growing up, and into the late 2000s. Like people of all genders within the community could call themselves fem(me) or butch. Butch and fem guys were a thing. Butch and femme nb people definitely were.

[lady-feral]

My gay grandfather who died in the early 90’s called himself butch and exclusively dated femmes.

[apersnicketylemon]

For real though, we don’t need new terms. The old ones work fine, they were never lesbian (Or women) exclusive terms. They have always been used by the whole community. Demanding bi people begin referring to themselves as animals when they were always included under butch/femme is beyond biphobic and it’s real gross. Demanding they become lesbian exclusive robs huge portions of the community of talking about inter-community prejudices, and their identities which they have used for decades now. Hell, splitting men, nb, and women into totally different terms is weird too.

Butch/Femme were always for the whole community, and the whole community gets to use them. Every part of it. 

[worldsmostautisticdogboy-deacti]

Even the people who coined the new terms said that they regretted it

[assignedfaggatbirth]

Rbing bc a while ago I bought into this gatekeeping bs

[new-bitch-who-dis]

Hey, as a heads up for people selling Bi Pride-themed items: this account has suddenly started claiming that they owned the copyright to the bi flag and is asking anyone who sees it being sold to report it back to them. They do not.

Please spread this around. I'd hate to see LGBT+ creators who dont know any better getting scamed into giving these shady people money.

[raavenb2619]

[ID: The seagull meme. The first panel shows a seagull saying “hey”. In the second panel, the seagull opens its mouth slightly and says “do you know what week it is?”. In the third panel, the seagull leans back and opens its mouth a lot. In the fourth panel, the seagull leans forward and screams “it’s aromantic spectrum awareness week”. The last panel is overlaid with the aromantic flag. End ID]

[bulliedbythetumblstaff]

If you want to appear sexy, you're still ace.

If you masturbate, you're still ace.

If you watch porn, you're still ace.

If you make sex jokes and understand innuendos, you're still ace.

If you have sex with someone, you're still ace.

If you're unsure about your asexuality because you did any of these, you're still ace.

[aaliyahbreaux]

I wonder how many gay people are actually transgender & dont know it because people thing being transgender is transitioning when it’s literally just not being cis.

[aaliyahbreaux]

like I had a friend tell me last night “all my life I wanted to be a girl. even to this day, like if someone told me I could transition & look like you or *insert another trans woman idk* I would do it in a heartbeat” and when I was like omg ur transgender he was surprised? like he was like wait just wanting to be a girl makes me transgender even if I dont do anything about it? and like its harder to pinpoint non binary people but if u have a desire be a different gender ur transgender. transitioning is a choice but being transgender is not.

[divinegaeity-deactivated2023101]

“One of the symptoms of being a girl is wanting to be a girl.” Don’t remember where I heard that but the quote is my life.

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

This is one of the posts I can explicitly pinpoint as helping me realize that I might not be cis. The biggest symptom of being trans is wanting to not be your gender. It can also be dysphoria, it can also be euphoria, it can also be presentation, but wanting to be something else is all you really need.

[aceofsquiddles]

#wait so ur telling me#‘i dont want to have a gender’#can mean#‘i dont have a gender??’ I would also like to know… for reasons

[accept-nothing]

Confirmed. How to know you’re agender: You don’t want to be anything else. You look at the options for gender and gender presentation and decide to go back to bed

[aceofsquiddles]

Bold of you to assume I got out of bed

Nah but seriously thanks for the insight

[avon-vila]

So, if I look at gender and say “this is some bullshit and I want no part of it”, I guess that makes me agender?

[saint-batrick]

if that’s how you wanna identify, yeah.

feeling anything mentioned in this post doesn’t mean you have to identify as trans, but feeling anything in this post is literally all that’s necessary to identify as trans if you want to.

fuck gatekeepers forever.

[zim-kinnie]

👏if👏you👏don't👏feel👏cis👏you're👏possibly👏not👏cis👏

[hasenfu]

i mean this is literally what jvn said

[deathcomes4u]

This is one of those things where you can go 25+ years of your life not realising that actually no not everyone secretly wishes they were some mashup of male and female and that you are, in fact, genderfluid as fuck.

[kyraneko]

You can want to be the other gender.

You can want to be another gender.

You can want to divorce all connection to the gender you were born into.

You can want to keep it as an origin point that shapes your journey.

You can want to be more than one gender at once.

You can want to be more than one gender, at different times.

You can want to be no gender.

You can want to be sort of in between genders.

You can want to be both genders.

You can want to be rid of gendered body parts you already have.

You can want to keep gendered body parts while also being another gender.

You can want to be rid of them but not want the side effects of excising them.

You can feel dysphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you don’t want.

You can feel euphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you do want.

You can change your mind or adjust your goals or refine your wishes.

You can be stationary and fixed in your identity.

You can be fluid and changing.

You can be extremely gendered in your presentation.

You can be not very gendered in your presentation.

You can be androgynous.

You can be a little of both.

You can be a lot of both.

If gender is a line you can cross, as the words trans (across/on the other side of) and cis (here/on the same side of) indicate, you can cross it in any way you like, including dancing on top of it.

Be happy.

Be you.

[desolate-avocado]

Um.

I uh…

I… might… be genderfluid.

I don’t know what to do with this revelation. 

When I was a teenager, I hated the whole fucking process of getting ready for school because I had to have “an outfit”, something “cute”: a pretty blouse and a skirt type thing like, my mom said that I had to wear something besides a t-shirt and some kind of pants or jeans and I’m like why?? My brother literally wears the same thing everyday why can’t I?? Which might just be a tomboy thing but, I distinctly remember multiple occasions declaring that I “wished I was a boy.”

I still hate having to present as feminine all the time; I want to feel like a boy sometimes…I want to “dress like a boy“, I refrain from wearing certain things because I’m always told that it looks masculine, that I look too girly to wear such masc. clothing… Does everyone not feel this way?? I thought everybody felt this way?? I feel like a girl most of the time but wanting to physically present differently is not a universal feeling?? What??

This might be fused with social conditioning but…. reading “You can be more than one gender at once” and “You can be more than one gender at different times” was like…. Oh

[elfwreck]

Can confirm that not everyone feels that way. I am cis. I have never wanted to be a guy, never thought I might be a guy, never wanted to not be a girl/woman, never wanted a different array of body parts, never been unhappy with the parts I have (other than occasional discomforts - I have been unhappy when they hurt, but in the say way that I’m unhappy when I have a headache or I’ve twisted my wrist. I want them fixed, not gone.) 

I have had the occasional random, “gee I wonder what it would be like to be a guy” thought, much in the same way that I sometimes think, “gee I wonder what it’d be like to be a dolphin,” or a tree, or a telepathic superhero from Krypton. I have more than occasionally wished I got some of the privileges that guys get; I have not even considered “pretending to be a guy” in order to get them. (I mean. That’s work. I’d have to learn a whole new set of clothing styles and social rules.)

If that all sounds alien and weird and wrong to you, and definitely NOT how you experience gender, you may not be cisgender. (I want to say, “you are probably not…” but my understanding of other ways of doing gender is pretty damn limited.)

If you yearn to be another gender, or no gender, or multiple genders… you probably are. Cis people, in general, do not wrestle with these concepts.

I looked at the list of “You Can…” that @kyraneko set up, and… nope. Not a single one of them applies to me. If even just one of those applies to you, is something you want to do… you may not be cis.

[fuck-me-potter-i-mean-fight-me]

As long as I remember myself, regarding gender, I always felt like neither and both at once, I always craved to be MORE than damn one or two. In my teens, I was astonished to discover that not everyone (in fact, no one around me) felt the way I did.

So yeah. Yes to all this. I’m 1000% non-binary.

However, I still struggle to label it between genderfluid and agender, and only recently I realised and accepted that I, in fact, don’t have to label it.

[primrosesafterdawn]

so uhm I kinda don’t feel like a girl but at the same time I don’t feel like a boy either. I don’t think I’m enby though I do feel like a girl sometimes but only sometimes but this is just confusing gAh

[theacespacegalaxy]

[queer-all-year]

Urban dictionary, but make it queer!

This is a resource for anyone questioning their own identity or looking to learn about queer words. Have a well-meaning parent or str8 friend who won’t stop asking you what aromantic means? Link them to Queer Undefined and be done with it 🌸

Follow on IG @QueerUndefined

[snootyfoxfashion]

Honk If You’re LGBTQ+ Badges from OneInHundred

Queer // Gay // Lesbian (Pink) // Lesbian (Orange/Pink) // Bi Pan // Ace // Demi // Trans // Nonbinary // Genderfluid // Ally

[a-spec-tacular]

I think one of the most important things we can do, as we move beyond the initial surge of “ace dis/course”, is begin documenting our community history and circulating that information.

We are a community that’s been damaged, and we will need time and work to heal. A lot of folks came into the community during years of intense strife, fear, and growing shame.

Now, the community is beginning to pick itself back up again. We’re poking our heads out of the closet, and looking around to see if the dust has settled.

In the wake of all that’s happened, it’s more important than ever to talk about where we’ve come from as we decide where to go.

We come from a deep sense of community, from supporting and uplifting one another, and from a place of establishing traditions and finding meaning and connection in our experiences. Let’s talk about that, revive what we can, and move forward from a place of hope for our future and love for our past.

[snootyfoxfashion]

LGBTQ+ Scarves from SpacerobotStudio

Gay // Gay Infinity // Transgender // Nonbinary Bi Infinity // Bisexual // Genderfluid Genderqueer // Pansexual // Pan Infinity Agender // Demigirl // Demiboy

[fuckyeahasexual]

I’ve said a number of times why I don’t like twitter but ‪@hobis_pouch’s twitter alone makes it worth it!! They don’t have a tumblr but said I could post the images so I just screencapped like a days worth to entice you go follow.

I’m sorry for such an image heavy long post but look at the joy here! Look at the college organization. The photo skills. 10/10 💜🖤

[queerlection]

[Image description - Images of the queer, bi, aromantic, asexual, demiboy, demigirl, genderfluid, intersex, nonbinary and queerplatonic pride flags with the text: I am fucking queer. Stop trying to tell me I’m not. End description.]