If you have ever known anyone with a kink for being hit, or beat up, or raped and you're okay with them, you also gotta be okay with the people who's kink it is to do the hitting, the beating, or the raping. At the end of the day, we're adults playing pretend, and that's it.
With every single sub i have the first thing we ever do is establish the safe word (stoplight system), and the non-verbal safe word in case they can't talk for any reason. If I can't tell where the sub is at, I will ask them point blank what is their color, and if they can't give a response, we stop. The goal is to make the other person feel good, including pain, and the most important part us knowing your subs limits and LISTENING to them. I will *never* hurt a sub in a way that they have not explicitly expresssed interest in.
Makes sense to me. The “getting hit” kink requires a “hitting” kink. It’s like Transformers. Megatron can’t exist without Optimus Prime.
yes Steve, its exactly like Megatron and Optimus Prime from Transformers
So, where does Starscream fit in?
Oh, so, see:
Optimus Prime and Megatron was about narrative. Everyone honors Optimus Prime because he’s the hero but his whole thing doesn’t work without a bad guy. Megatron is his bad guy. Hating the scene for including Megatron is incoherent. You can’t have a functional Optimus Prime without a bad guy to oppose him. It just doesn’t function.
Similarly, in a sex scene, you need someone with a “hit” kink and someone with a “hitting” kink. The scene doesn’t function optimally without the “hitter”. As the comments suggest, willingness to hit isn’t necessarily enough for the “hit” person to get off. The “hit” person needs the “hitter” to enjoy themselves too. So for this reason, demonizing the “hitter” is contrary to the well-meaning sentiment. If the goal is to protect the “hit” person and help them achieve self-actualization then the environment needs to be supportive of the other half of the scene, the “hitter”.
As for Starscream, he’s in the cuck chair.
