I'm a poly bird, in a poly world.

30-something year old polyamorous, omnisexual woman. In a polycule and mom to 2 useless cats. 

[wovi]

[eunnieboo]

pink in the night

[yocalio]

“It’s just an oasis. A beautiful,… exciting,… romantic,…. oasis.”

[zombeesknees]

#2 things are excellent about this scene:  #1. Evie’s amazing long coat of light cotton in that coppery check (adventuress chic)  #and 2. the way rick is transparently and devotedly in love with his wife  #he’s trying to be chill about it to avoid agreeing to immediately going travelling again  #but he’s LOST  #FATHOMS DEEP  #that third gif when she comes back around and he’s just PINING for his OWN WIFE  #oh children

[polyamzeal]

[animentality]

[hubblegleeflower]

The great thing about huge declarations is that the most times you're ever going to have to deliver on them is ONCE. And even that is vanishingly unlikely. The dishes happen every day. My feet hurt now. The kids need a lift to piano lessons every week. The grenade is hypothetical.

[themythicalcodfish]

You’d die for me? I’d prefer someone who’d live for me, thanks.

[polyamorousmood]

It really says something that a lot of monogamous people consider polyamorous and aromantic to be "opposites" but every polyam person I know took one look at aromantics and said "they're just like me for real"

[silosworld]

Poly folks x aro folks in the sense that "alloromantic heterosexual monogamous people view love and sex as an entirely different entity than me, and that makes life kinda strange"

[rincent-van-uggh]

[afloweroutofstone]

Way, way too real (source)

[naamahdarling]

We all need to get a LOT more comfortable doing this.

[lemuel-apologist]

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

Kill the part of you who cringes

No really

It's a fucking life skill

[forestkodama]

@saxifraga-x-urbium tags are correct

[zenosanalytic]

Just to be clear: The Above Tags are the essay's ultimate conclusion. Really worth a read, if only for the books it mentions.

[thememedaddy]

[the-final-sentence]

I'm not sad about the summer ending, because this time, I know it won't be our last.

Alex Crespo, from Queerceañera

[dk-thrive]

When I slip beneath the quilt and fold into your warmth, I think we are like the pages of a love letter written thirty years ago that some aging god still reads each day and then tucks back into its envelope.

— Ellen Bass, Getting Into Bed On A December Night (The Sun, February 2017) (via Regina Rosenfeld)

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Rejection Sensitivity

Neurodiverse Journeys

[kai-cooper]

In support of this post: If you have ADHD your brain isn't always telling you that people give you more negative messages than they do; you legit get more negative messages than other people do.

Rejection sensitivity is not a delusion, it's a reaction to a reality that you live in.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Thank you @kai-cooper

[polyamzeal]

[polyamzeal]

wanted to ask for some advice...

me and my nesting boyfriend (let's call him A) have been together for almost 4 years, which is a long time for the young adults we are. i love him so much, he means the world to me. he's always been there, he's always been so compassionate and loving, hes absolutely wonderful.

im polyamorous, and currently have one other boyfriend (let's call him T), who i've been with for almost 2 years. T and i are long distance, and T has another boyfriend (let's call him P) irl. me and P get along amazingly, me P and T have never had any troubles surrounding our polyamory.

A knows all about me and T, and vice versa, and i feel as though we had a good balance going on. A gets insecure, and we've talked about it a lot before, and while i make sure to reassure him and keep him updated on everything, i just dont know how to help.

both A and T are so so special to me, i really want them to have a good relationship if that's possible for them, as right now, while A doesnt dislike T, A's insecurities get in the way. A's told me that (while he knows it's not true) sometimes he feels like he's not enough for me, and that can hurt him. even if A and T never become good friends, i'll be fine with that, but i just really want to help A. he is more than enough for me, i love him so much, but i dont know how to help, and he says he just needs time to get over his stuff, which is completely okay, but i just really wish there was some way for me to help.

recently, the balance A, T, and i had got disrupted, i got asked out by a girl that i kinda like (let's call her V), we're set to go out in a week-ish. T was super happy for me, as i kind of expected he'd be, but A isnt as excited about it. hes said i can go, that he doesn't have any problems with it, and i believe him, but i know he's still having those insecurities and doubts in himself. i really want to go out with V, but i also need to make sure A's okay and to help him however i can and i just. i never want A to feel bad, which i know is completely unrealistic, that emotions ebb and flow, but when he's feeling bad because of stuff related to me i feel even worse. if that makes sense?? A is so selfless, loving, and i am completely happy with him, he deserves the whole entire world, and i dont know how to get him to truly believe that

I think listening to A is key here. Time is a great healer and problem-solver. It would nice if there was am miracle formula that instantly solved our problems over-night. But big stuff like this is often a work in-progress for a long time. Things get better, get worse, and get better again. I think the best thing to do would be to setup some timely check-ins with A. Monthly or maybe even weekly. Where you can listen to how A is really doing and he feels comfortable making requests of you. Lean into love languages, maybe he just needs some extra cuddles or he wants to go on a certain date with you but doesn't know how to ask. I think as long as you have this system of actively checking in with each other then there is no blame or guilt. Everybody is doing the best they can and you will work out the hard insecurities in time.

[apolybird]

I definitely agree with the above advice for this acute instance of the issue, but I want to weigh in as someone who's been where you are. Since this isn't an isolated incident, but rather an issue that is aggravated by additional partners, it might be a good idea for A to seek some therapy. Not like... scary medication therapy, but he sounds like he could benefit from speaking his insecurities out loud to another person who is a neutral party and can help him find better internal narratives and coping mechanisms. But also... does A want to date anyone other than you? My partner getting a second partner was a big lightbulb moment for him. It didn't solve everything, but it definitely cast a new light.

[huffylemon]

happy pride month

[obeliskthetormentorsfeetpics]

Long game people, it’s all about the long game

[gwen-daria-deactivated20250720]

[aethersea]

Reuters article about it

[fromkenari]

Nah, you really gotta read the article. They're gonna force insurance companies to separate from the stupid mandatory specialty pharmacies that they own that they force anyone insured who needs a "specialty medication" to use. I used to be able to get my specialty medication at the regular fucking pharmacy, and so did everyone else before they started up this nonsense. They cost more, and I've never had one that didn't fuck me over every single year when I have to redo my prior authorization. Like I have to get every specialty prescription filled in advance, even if I don't necessarily need it right now, to have a stockpile of 2-3 months of medication in case they fuck it up again and I lose that buffer. Most people don't have that buffer. Caremark, Express Scripts, Optum, and there so many more. Call your fucking congressperson and tell them to support this legislation. PLEASE.

[polyamzeal]

[flippantsmeagol]

Minutes apart. Looking North and South along the road to Sacred Mountain in Sedona.