False Advertising

30 she/her LGBT+ / no time for tags

[sandersstudies]

Talking to my traumatized friends like “take your time responding and don’t feel any need to cater to my opinion in this matter just tell me the truth about what you feel. Your feelings are valid. ” and it’s about like choosing where to go to lunch.

[performing-personhood]

Y'all do not know how long it took for me to finally realize "telling other people what I think they want to hear" is not the nicest kindest choice for me to always make. And neither do I, because I'm still learning it, but as soon as I do I'll be sure to tell you How Long It Took.

Because, haha, it turns out? Most people actually don't need to be constantly right, always in control, and perpetually being reassured. And they'll feel funny (negative) when you treat them like they do. Because people mostly assume that how you treat them is a direct reflection of how you perceive them, and they will never assume you're treating them that way because of someone who literally isn't currently in the room.

Wild, I know.

In actuality, people already know you have a preference because that is a very normal thing to have. And because you're never as slick as you think you are, you definitely won't fool anyone by pretending you don't. So the actual kindest choice to make is to just be honest about what you want, because most people will feel most comfortable when they know for sure that the decision you've both made is truly a mutual agreement.

Genuinely? Mind-blowing concept. But a very helpful thing to remember.

[jthm-moved]

[hobo-rg]

“spicy pillow” jokes aside, I think @flowerkrone​’s tags deserve a serious reply:

#my old phone looks like this on my shelf lmao #im too scared to touch it to throw it away #idk what trash this even goes into when its at this point

The pillow-shaped object here used to be the phone’s battery. It’s not a battery anymore. Now it’s a balloon full of corrosive, pyrophoric chemicals and hydrogen gas and it’s one puncture away from burning your house down. I am 100% serious. You should be scared to touch it.

But you gotta touch it, because you gotta get it out of your house before the pressure builds up to the point where the balloon pops. This isn’t going to happen soon – there is no need to panic – but it will happen eventually.

And, indeed, it doesn’t go in the ordinary trash. You put this in the ordinary trash and you’re gonna set the garbage truck on fire. Don’t do that to the garbage collectors, their job is hard enough already.

The first thing you need to do is get a fireproof container. The most common household item that qualifies as a fireproof container is a cast-iron cookpot with a cast-iron lid – often sold as a “Dutch oven.” Any other cooking container that’s unreactive, has a very high melting point, and has a lid made of the same materials will also work: enameled or stainless steel, Pyrex with glass lid, etc.

However: Do not use a pot with a PTFE-based non-stick coating. If the battery does explode, the fire will probably be hot enough to degrade a PTFE coating, producing toxic smoke. (Not that you should breathe the smoke from the battery fire either, but PTFE breakdown products are worse.) Do not use a pot made of aluminium or copper. The fire might even get hot enough to melt those.

Whatever container you use, you might have to throw away along with the phone, so don’t use your good Dutch oven for this. Go to a thrift store and buy a cheap one.

Once you have the fireproof container:

Gently pick up the phone and put it in the fireproof container. If possible, gently tape the phone to the bottom of the container to prevent it from bouncing around. Don’t put any padding in there, that’ll just make a fire worse if it does happen. Put the lid on and tape it shut.

Put a label on the container, something like “DEFECTIVE LI-ION BATTERY – FIRE HAZARD”.

It is now reasonably safe to move the container around. However, if the battery does explode, the container is very likely to leak smoke and get hot, so keep it in a well-ventilated area and away from things that will be damaged by heat. Don’t leave it exposed to the weather, either.

You need to find either a hazardous waste disposal site, or an e-waste recycler that will accept defective Li-ion batteries. I can’t help with that because I have no idea where you live.

However, your local fire department, if you have one, will probably be happy to help. Call their non-emergency number. Nothing is on fire yet, so this isn’t an emergency, but things that can easily start a fire are still within the fire department’s responsibilities. Tell them you have a phone with a bulging lithium-ion battery, you put it in a fireproof container, and you want to know how to dispose of it safely.

If the fire department tries to tell you this isn’t dangerous or it’s okay to throw it out in the regular trash (with or without fireproof container), hang up on them and write a cranky letter to your local government representatives, then keep looking for a proper disposal site.

When you do find a a hazardous waste disposal site or an e-waste recycler, call them and make sure they will take defective Li-ion batteries, before showing up. That’s also a good time to ask if they will let you have the fireproof container back.

[lolbatty]

Reblog to save lives.

[bisexualbaker]

[Image: A phone with the insides visible, including a battery that has inflated like a balloon. The photo is captioned, “Pillow :33”]

[flock-of-cassowaries]

Reblogging because I would have had absolutely no idea what to do, either.

[inadvertently-biblical]

THE ADDAMS FAMILY (1991) Dir. Barry Sonnenfeld

[noreservations]

[reagan-was-a-horrible-president]

[micamicster]

They should invent a glasses that you can lay on your side in bed wearing

[whumpster-dumpster]

o7

[flamingwell]

I want to highly recommend two tools for helping you with this very sad situation, which you must use before it happens.

The first is this wonderful script that will automatically add key information (that you choose) like author, title, summary, etc to your bookmark notes so you at least know what got deleted.

The second is this incredible bulk downloader for AO3. Input any AO3 page (such as your bookmarks page) and tell it what format you want to download in and it will just.... DOWNLOAD IT ALL!! I run it every few months so that I have all my bookmarks downloaded in my preferred EPUB format. That way I know I always have my favorites downloaded in case they ever get deleted.

With the combination of these two, I can look in my bookmarks, see what was deleted, and easily find it in my downloads. It's such a relief to have my own fic library is all my favs!

[charlesoberonn]

There're 1.4 trillion reasons to hate Elon Musk, but if you love science and space exploration you should hate Musk more.

His siphoning of public and private investments into his failure of a space company pushed space exploration back by years or decades.

Every failure of his "Starship" to even reach orbit is time, money, labor, fuel, etc. that could've gone to a much better cause with NASA or even a different private space company.

[lostinhistory]

‘We genuinely have too many potatoes, I cannot stress enough’: 42,000 pounds of free taters headed to Denver

Twenty-one tons of potatoes are up for grabs at Potato Palooza on Monday.

The nonprofit’s set to receive a donation of 21 tons of tubers this weekend from suppliers in the Midwest. Hoping to get the starchy vegetables to people in need, the nonprofit will host a “Potato Palooza” event on Monday in Park Hill. “Anyone is welcome to come. They can bring tote bags, wagons, you could back up your pickup truck if you wanted to,” Hissong said. The event is 9 a.m. to noon at the Park Hill Food Recovery Hub, 6090 East 39th Avenue, on July 27.

This is the dream

[thekimonogallery]

The 34-year old Japanese artist @lito_leafart has been living with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) his entire life. Lito had been searching for an outlet where he could channel his above-normal levels of concentration and impulsive behavior when he discovered the Japanese art of kirie (切り絵, literally ‘cut picture’) and began experimenting, not with paper, but with leaves.

[liberalsarecool]

Watching 'Mountainhead'.

AI/Tech Bros have an obsession with "accelerationism"—the idea that tech founders should push rapid innovation and ignore the devastating consequences for society.

The 'escape to Mars' mindset is not about leaving a peaceful Earth, but a world on fire; the fires they are stoking.

[pebbleintheriver]

IF THIS CAN CONVINCE EVEN ONE MORE PERSON TO WATCH SEE YOUR LOVE I HAVE WON AT LIFE 🙏🙏

Incredible disabled rep? Biblically accurate height difference? Influencing each other for the better? Tears? It's got it all.

Out of context spoiler warning maybe?

Song: Lauv - I Like Me Better

[gotmehookedonthekpop]

"I didn't exactly have a choice."

Mok, that was savage. Lmaoooooooo

[teaboot]

You know that Margaret Atwood quote talking about how a major effect of existing as a women in a patriarchal society that objectifies women is that when you are a woman, even when you're alone, you can't escape that self-peception from the view of the male gaze?

The one that ends, "You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."?

I really do think that pushing this concept precisely one degree further in the other direction would explain a LOT about how we ended up with this whole "Incel, looksmaxxing, manosphere" clusterfuck, I just need 20 minutes and an antidepressant to articulate how

[teaboot]

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LEVEL 0: People exist

LEVEL 1: "Man" and "Woman" roles are constructed; posed as a strict binary with discrete and disparate traits and roles.

LEVEL 2: Man wields power; Woman relies on Man's approval. One role is perceived and valued as better, stronger, smarter. Requiring Man's approval, Woman cultivates inner "man" in order to see herself from Man's perspective as a tool to better anticipate Man's desires.

LEVEL 3: Man perceives Woman's "inner man"; Man perceives anticipatory and appealing behavior as deceptive and manipulative. The potential ability of Woman to manipulate and deceive Man places Women in a position of power above Man, which Man perceives as a threat. In response, Man cultivates "inner woman": a tool which he uses to perceive the "inner man" who Woman uses to predict and appeal to Man.

LEVEL 4: Man "sees" the caricature of "Man" further distorted by the caricature of his conceptualized "Woman" and feels threatened and inferior, but at the same time trapped by the binary which generates this power struggle. Inside of him is a deceptive and threatening "Woman" who he rejects; inside of HER is the Ultimate Man, who this image of Woman supposedly desires the approval of.

If Woman can predict Man, then Woman is an opponent who leverages power through engagement with Man. The only way for "Man" to escape the Threat that Woman poses is to cease engagement. He retains "victory" (escape from woman) by maintaining distance from Woman, and because explicitly admitting the possibility that Woman could ever hold power over Man is Losing, has no option but to tell himself that this is not Fear of Losing Control, but a natural consequence of Posessing Control.

Man rejects any but the most surface-level engagement with Woman, but because "Hiding From Woman" means "Woman Is Threat", and BELIEVING "Woman Is Threat" is unacceptable, Man attempts to cut Woman from the narrative.

LEVEL 5: Man, possessing the "inner woman"'s "inner man" but determined to escape the influence of "woman", mentally erases "Woman" but retains the caricature's caricature of "inner man", who is desirable to BE.

Man possesses exaggerated image of Man, who now exists solely as the Ultimate Desireable Form. In order to achieve this form, Man must constantly see through his eyes, but in order to remain safe in his position of power over Woman, he must erase any trace of evidence that he is DOING this for Woman.

Man must Be the Ultimate Man, because [redacted], who requires Man's Approval.

Having bought in to this dichotomy and fearing the terror and uncertainty of the unknown, unable to shake the foundations of the reality he must now experience, Man forces himself into choosing between floating without purpose or structure in a void where he has no control at all over his environment, or a world where he Cannot be afraid of Woman, he is Superior to Woman, and there is nothing more important that Being The Ultimate Man Receiving Approval from the Ultimate Man

[teaboot]

terfs and radfems fuck clean off by the way, I'm a trans dude and you're both weird, but ANYHOW

My theory is this:

If we construct an environment where the rules are

"There are two parties that cannot survive without assistance from the other"

"One party dominates the other"

"Control is domination", and

"To be dominated threatens your survival",

it's pretty much inevitable that at some point we will end up with a significant population of the Dominant party whose psychological state is very much like a traumatized sailor who, after cannibalizing his crewmates for survival, cannot recognize bread as food and instead attempts to eat his rescuers

[liberalsarecool]

Trump built a $10 billion trap and walked right into it himself. #BBC #discovery

[skulandcrossbones]

THELMA & LOUISE (1991) ↳ dir. ridley scott

[startrekladies]

Nyota Uhura & Erica Ortegas 4.01 "Valles Marineris" STAR TREK: STRANGE NEW WORLDS (2022–)

[mikuni14]

The Prosecutor's Proposal - Eps 9-10 (Finale)

The Prosecutor's Proposal has ended, and I'm devastated. This series has practically all the elements that make a good BL for me:

Absolutely brilliant characters who have genuinely serious moments and genuinely funny moments, characters who are complex, realistic, and very human, characters I genuinely like and root for

These characters create an emotional, believable, hot, tense and complicated relationship in which BOTH are involved

Top-notch intimate scenes, the kind where the actors know how to convey desire from simple gazes and touch, through kisses that can only be described as "consuming" to sex. Glorious bonus: Ju Taeseon and his obsession with putting objects in his mouth that were just in Lee Chaeha's mouth 👄

Their shared, tragic history, all the dramatic circumstances, the dark shadows in their lives and their relationship, setting the tone for their relationship. A high-quality drama, almost Shakespearean, a cursed, doomed love

an interesting plot

excellent actors

This is a truly amazing series that has jumped into the top of my favorite KBLs, alongside Semantic Error, The Eighth Sense, and Love for Love's Sake. Now I want to watch the whole thing from the beginning as soon as I have a free time which is probably never. My only regret is that the series was so short, and when I reached a fever pitch of my obsession… it ended. I would have given anything for ten HOUR-LONG episodes, one per week, to fully experience and enjoy this series.

.............

I liked the last two episodes, although they had a few flaws. I'll start with them:

the tension dropped, although that's understandable. Their central conflict, which set the tone for their relationship, disappeared with the revelation of The Secret. Even their separation didn't create a new conflict, as both were pathetic and miserable, just counting down the minutes until reconciliation 😅

I definitely felt the last two episodes were rushed

the predictable resolution of the crime

too little time was devoted to them being forced together by such tragic circumstances, by fate. I'd like them to talk about it, to confide in each other, to have Taeson talk about the time when he couldn't speak. About his hatred for Chaeha. There are so many interesting things they could talk about, and I would have eaten it up. For me, the entire episode could have been just them sitting and talking about themselves, about their trauma...

Unfortunately, the finale featured many scenes that were, in my opinion, simply stupid, or showed them (by them I mean Chaeha mostly) acting rather foolishly and unprofessionally, all just to push the plot in the desired direction. For example, how Chaeha, a former police officer, couldn't handle a guy armed with a knife was incredibly unbelievable. But Chaeha was supposed to have a dramatic scene on the roof and be stabbed again, so the plot had to lead him to that point, sacrificing his intelligence and professionalism 😑

The fact that Chaeha was stabbed again, and in almost the same place, was funny to me, I genuinely laughed. The sequence of stupid events that led to this incident, the second similar wound, and the sad scene in the hospital stripped it of its drama. That being said, for a moment I was worried that the show would kill Chaeha off, like, I was seriously worried for a few seconds...

I missed the make-up sex, I mean come on! it was just begging for it! I think we were all waiting for their scene when they would finally be affectionate with each other, finally open up and face each other 😳

What did I like?

The complete change in Taeseon's acting and demeanor, even his face, where the tension and permanent scowl were completely gone. Gosh, I love it when a big, angry wolf transforms into a pathetic, wet kitten because of love 😌

I liked how Taeseon didn't hesitate to apologize to Chaeha repeatedly, explaining himself, that he hadn't shut himself off, but rather that he really wanted to communicate his feelings to him. Even if he didn't manage to do it 100% the first time, which is understandable to me, because this guy has a million traumas and unresolved issues, compounded by a complicated relationship and unexpected feelings for a guy he knows he should hate. They were both hurt and very human in these scenes. Despite everything, it was very beautiful, it moved me. I always pay attention to the portrayal of true regret, acknowledging one's mistakes and sins, and trying to make amends for the wrongs done

the fact that even in his greatest misery, Chaeha remembered that he always wanted to apologize to the son of his father's victim. That he finds kindness and compassion in his heart for other children in tragic circumstances, Taeseon, and the abandoned child of murderers

that even when they broke up, Chaeha was still waiting for him

that Taeseon outright called Chaeha his weakness

how open Taeseon has become about his feelings, that he has no qualms about talking about them, that he's abandoned all pretense

the way they look at each other 🥺

how romantic they can be together

the happy ending (I was really worried for a second)

In summary, it's a very good BL. Finally, we have a real kdrama with crime, mystery, and investigation, with personal dramas and secrets, a true enemies to lovers, and a hot GAY romance. Please more of this!

Thank you, Ju Taeseon, you will always be my favorite freak 💖

Thank you, Lee Chaeha, my angel 🥺