Ari.

26 please, love yourself.

[wetheurban]

How long are you going to punish yourself for not being where you thought you'd be by now? Progress takes time, and I promise you’re further along than you realize.

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

You're not actually a better friend for not articulating and respecting your own needs, limits and boundaries. Your lack of communication and boundaries is not some impressive sacrifice. You're not doing anyone any favors by acting like you're okay with things you aren't okay with. You're just building burnout and resentment that will eventually damage the relationship in question. And when you eventually snap and walk away because you silently overburdened yourself to be a "good friend", it won't be the other persons fault

[wetheurban]

Protect your nervous system. At all costs.

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[rrouhi]

at the end of the day im the love i give, not the love i get

[scorpionlafemme]

[free-my-mindd]

[bakwaaas]

maturity is learning to move with grace and patience even in situations where you feel disappointed or upset

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

being unkind to yourself won’t make life any more kind

[bakwaaas]

it’s okay to say ‘this isn’t for me’ or ‘I’m not happy here’ and leave… you don’t have to wait for things to be really bad

[scorpionlafemme]

[girlnumbersix]

resilience is not sustainable we are not supposed to endure life we are supposed to live it

[bakwaaas]

I do feel like this whole self improvement culture thing can go too far where people are never happy with who they are and where they are because they’re constantly trying to be better or do better and they’re always waiting for some sort of glow up or achievement or therapy realisation that will make them feel complete but that isn’t real and life is actually in the every day

[identitty-dickruption]

being abused or neglected really makes it clear how many things are skills that nobody really treats as. skills. exercising autonomy is a skill. listening to your body is a skill. resting is a skill. being liked and being loved are skills. nobody tells you how to do this shit because nobody even told me I was supposed to have learnt these things when I was a kid. I kind of just have to manually figure out what makes me freak out and work from there. unfair as shit

[borderlinereminders]

Are you really not making progress, or are you just constantly raising the bar?

It’s likely you’ve made more progress than you realize. It’s easy to get stuck on seeing how far we have to go, and we often forget about how far we’ve come.

We also are a lot harder on ourselves than we would be others. Would you be proud of the progress if it was a friend and not you? That might be a sign you’re being too hard on yourself.

And sometimes, we do go backwards and that’s okay. It doesn’t erase your progress. And you can get back to where you were and beyond.

You deserve to be proud of yourself for everything you’ve made it through, for making it to where you are and surviving.