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Do you actually ship them or do you want them to be trapped together in a cave-in where one of them is injured and they have to talk to keep them distracted and stay sane while they wait for help, and end up opening up about their vulnerabilities and bond and then grow desperate as one starts to slip from consciousness while the other begs them to stay awake—

dathen

To all the “both is good” tags: this is an aro post asking you to question if what you really want to explore is the vulnerability and intimacy, and whether romance/sex is the only way to achieve that.

acearojomarch

I'm going to say something so controversial and so brave right now-

queer fandoms have gotta stop acting like the only path to queer happiness is through a relationship. It's reductive and exclusionary. It's bad enough in a fandom context and worse when it bleeds into real life. Queer joy comes in many different forms and that's what makes it beautiful. Take your ship goggles off for a second and expand your horizons

shadowpuppetteer

They're all trying their best ❤️

emptydragonseverywhere

On November 7, 2024, Denmark used a racist, culturally biased "parenting competency" test to remove a 2 hour old baby, Zammi, from her loving indigenous Greenlandic Inuit mother, Keira, because her native language, which uses minute facial expressions to communicate, will not be able to "[prepare] the child for the social expectations and codes that are necessary to navigate in Danish society." This test had been recommended not to be used at the federal level before this happened but certain municipalities, including the one this happened in, chose to continue to use it regardless. Not only is this blatantly racist but also violates multiple declarations and conventions that Denmark has signed that protect the rights of indigenous people.

Please sign this petition to help Keira to get her baby back.

Can you spare a minute to help this campaign?

emptydragonseverywhere

Hey, it's really important for Keira to get 50,000 signatures on this petition before her court date in early April 2025. Please sign if you haven't already to help a mother and a people stand up to colonialism and for indigenous rights.

hydrattan

This is a strong contender for my favorite exchange I’ve ever seen on the internet

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alphacrone

when you drink all the wine in the house and then you have. :( no wine in the house

podcastwizard

me when i excuse myself during a dinner party to sneak outside and milk more cabernet sauvignon from the Creature

podcastwizard

had food poisoning when i posted this

martinkhall

Well if you'd pasteurized the Cabernet Sauvignon you milked from the creature maybe you wouldn't have gotten food poisoning from it.

podcastwizard

oh suddenly everyone's an expert on the Creature i milk

crookedtines

I dropped all my other projects to finish this in time for pride and it's finally done!! I wanted some cool aro merch (since I have absolutely nothing so far), and what's cooler than dragons?

The heart shaped flag was embroidered on afterward, and if you look closely, there are a bunch of tiny flags woven into the border.

My original intention was to use this as a long patch for the back of my denim jacket. But it makes a pretty cool necklace?? If only I didn't have to chop off half the design to realize my vision... (I have yet to commit, this is just tied on with a big ol bulky knot in the back)

a-study-in-bullshit

"I love you , I'm glad we're friends"

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[Image IDs: Image #1: Tumblr post from elytrians reading: big fan of platonic expressions of devotion actually. yeah we're best friends of course i'd find you and hang out with you in every universe.

Image #2: Tumblr post from alterouslyInLove reading: what if we cuddled for so long we were both warm and we smelled like each other. what then.

Image #3: Tumblr post from wlwDayDreamms reading: im curious about what made you you. im curious about your taste in music. im curious about the way your mind thinks. im curious about how your body likes to be touched. im curious about your late night thoughts and how they make you feel. im curious about every single thing about you.

Image #4: Text reading: You're my best friend, I'll love you forever

Image #5: Text reading: Sure I have time. I always have time for you. Sure, whatever you need. Whatever you need. (S. Bear Begman's piece from his book, "Butch is a Noun")

Image #6: Tweet from analog heart (@/ possumFan777) reading: hahaha dude your friends only like you because you radiate joy and two minutes in your company is enough to brighten their day significantly lol. they only keep you around because they love you dearly and cherish the place you have reserved for them in your heart lmao

Image #7: Tumblr post from killingMyselfButNotDying on Jan 28 reading: "Friends dont look at friends that way" Coward. I look at my friends with awe in my eyes, my chest is filled with love, im glowing because i get to be near my friends. I look at my friends and i would give them my everything. So Skill Issue, look at your friends with all the love that you have /End IDs]

adiabat

i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs

adiabat

for me being bi has contributed a huge amount to noticing all the ways in which romance and friendship run together and i think in general people would benefit from recognizing that romance and friendship are socially constructed categories used to describe a vast, nebulous, and often overlapping range of feelings

arroscnleche

eye twitch,….…no you are not "demolishing the relationship hierarchy", harold……… you're just putting friendship next to romantic relationships.…… you're not actually demolishing anything……

adiabat

i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs

adiabat

for me being bi has contributed a huge amount to noticing all the ways in which romance and friendship run together and i think in general people would benefit from recognizing that romance and friendship are socially constructed categories used to describe a vast, nebulous, and often overlapping range of feelings

arowitharrows

I think it's important to understand that discussions around amatonormativity usually aren't (or shouldn't be) asking people to see their individual romantic relationships as less important, because wanting a long-term monogamous romantic relationship isn't inherently amatonormative.

Amatonormativity is about the bigger picture of how society treats romantic relationships. It's about placing romantic relationships at the top of a hierarchy and then claiming that most meaningful close and intimate connections to other humans are only accessable through them. Amatonormativity is the assumption that everyone wants to end up in a monogamous long-term romantic relationship and then decrying anyone who wants a relationship that doesn't fit into that very narrow category.

Every individual person has to figure out for themselves which types of relationships they desire or don't desire and how much importance they want to give them. Amatonormativity criticizes the fact that that's not a question you are normally asked in the first place, because the answer is always assumed.

I think if in the end someone decides to prioritize their romantic relationships, they will still have defied amatonormativity simply through consciously making that decision, and through not assuming the same for everyone else. To me, dismantling amatonormativity is about deconstructing the assumed hierarchy of relationships, giving people the chance to actually think about what they truly want, and opening the pathways for those possibilities.

adhd-hippie

In case people don't realize everyday things that are amatonormative

This is not a comprehensive list, just some examples.

Making fun of people who've been married multiple times.

Giving preferential treatment (first choice on holidays, no overtime requirements) to married persons or people in long term relationships.

Expecting people to bring romantic partners to functions for work, social groups etc. rather than a person who would enjoy the event best.

People respecting "I'm seeing someone" more than "I'm not interested".

Asking new co-workers, strangers, etc. about their marital status, which assumes 3rd parties have a right to such info (they don't) and that everyone has an interest in marriage.

Laws that prevent non family from supporting single friends but allow spouses and romantic partners to do so in times of crisis.

Laws that give financial benefits to the married for no reason other than they're married.

Laws against poly marriages and relationships even if all parties involved are happy in the relationship and want to get married.

Single people not being permitted to carry friends on their insurance while married people can carry their whole families (this essentially creates a pay gap as the married person is getting more benefits than their single co-workers are permitted)

Discrimination against single people in the rental and housing markets.

And things that are not amatonormative

You being in a romantic relationship with one other person and being happy and prioritizing that relationship in your life.

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i think a lot of people would be happier if they viewed labels like homosexual and transgender as social technologies rather than identities

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that is to say, "transgender" is a useful way for me to convey how i move through the world to others rather than some essential qualia. i am of a class of people with an infinite number of relationships with their genders