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[pessimisticgh0st]

I was talking to someone about Loveless the other day and they were going on about how 'sad it was' and whilst I get it's not a happy book etc, it's not really supposed to be sad in that way. It's supposed to be a book about accepting who you are, and learning that's its okay to be who you are, and aro ace people shouldn't be excluded from that

What is sad is that I forget how many people still view aro and/or ace people + anyone on the spectrum as 'broken' or as 'missing something' or 'lonely' or 'depressed'. Like we are NOT broken for god sake and my depression is definitely not from being ace. I'm not saying it's easy but I hate how we are often stereotyped

[poniesart]

late night aro blues - you are the priority in my life, and I'm not the priority in yours.

I'm not mad at them of course... just needed to express this feeling somehow, it's been tearing me up

[emergency-broadcast-system]

[nat-20s]

I'm not aromantic but I believe in their beliefs

[glimblshanks]

I don't know how much this has actually been discussed in online spaces, but when I talk to other aros irl it's pretty widely agreed apon that being aromantic is both an orientation and a political identity. By which I mean that being aromantic requires a massive shift in world view, including the dismantling of amatonormativity, the deconstruction of what the word 'love' even means, and the realization that you have control over what your important relationships look like.

All of those things can have a major impact on your political outlooks, social outlooks, and simply the way you view the world. I've said before that even if I did experience romantic attraction some day I would still identify as aro because being aromantic has shifted my view of what relationships even are to such a degree that like... romantic relationships barely make sense as a category to apply to myself anymore.

Everyone I know who identified as aro or questioned if they were aro before experiencing attraction and identifying as allo has ended up poly for what I suspect is this exact reason. Polyamory is one of the only relationship models out there currently that allows for romantic relationships outside of the typical amatonormative model and once you've done some work dismantling how society views relationships slotting right back into traditional monogamy doesn't have a lot of appeal.

So anyways op, I know a lot of folks in the notes are taking this to simply mean 'not wanting to date' (which is fine, that is still a radical notion in our society that I'm glad the aro community can make space for) but I think your tags are absolutely right about pushing amatonormativity out of our spaces as an aro value that people can (and should!) believe in and benefit from even if they're not aro.

[arotechno]

being aromantic is based actually

[alloaro-azelf]

remember that valentine’s day can be whatever you want it to be. this includes both allos and aros. sure, celebrate the day in its traditional rendition. go ahead and make it platonic to reject the status quo. but those aren’t the only two options. sometimes valentine’s day is forgetting that it’s a holiday and going about your day normally. sometimes it’s treating your dog to an extra treat just bc that’s how you want to show you care. sometimes it’s making inside jokes with friends. and sometimes it’s celebrating your queer orientation by yourself. nobody celebrates the same version of valentine’s day, and I think we should disband the romantic-platonic binary associated with it

[qilingxiong]

to every aromantic, aro-spec, or allo person content without a romantic partner who's feeling alienated this valentine's day: i'm sorry we live in an amatonormative hellscape that doubles down every february thanks to capitalism, but you're not in this alone. fuck the social norms and live the life you want. romance does not make the human experience, and you're not broken or pitiful without it. also i'm handing you a beverage of your choice and a hug if you want as reparations

[dimanchea]

Aces, Aros and Aroaces when it's time to take over valentines day

[aroalloarena]

Happy Be Obnoxiously Aro Day!

[dominosbrackets]

ARO SHOWDOWN: N VS. TULIP OLSEN

n (pokémon)

tulip olsen (infinity train)

i would just like to peek at the results please

Voting ended onFeb 5, 2023

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[aromanticbastards]

how can aro tumblr collectively be so tired?

[slow-drowned-angels]

sleepytired aro flag, for all your sleepytired needs.

[naswoop]

Haha whoops

Y'all there's an aro anti-dating sim game!!

[poniesart]

aromantic lovecore but make it ponies that have heart-related symbols. happy pride to my fellow arospec pony people! :)

daisy sweet (g1) is holding an aroallo flag, light heart (g2, with green mane from Changing Mane and Tail set) is holding an aro flag, and brights brightly (g3) is holding an aroace flag!

[purplish-green-sunset]

So the triple A battery is a running joke in the aspec community. I have MORE As tho lol ᕙ(⇀‸↼‶)ᕗ. Aro Ace Agender Anxious Atheist Asian Allergic Asthmatic

I'm like a scream personified..AAAAAAAA 💀

[nevver]

Jon Adams

[screenshotsofdespair]

[darkhopping]

[ID: An image of an empty romance section bookshelf. The next image is the same image with the aromantic pride flag overlaid on top of it. /End ID]

[greenteaandtattoos]

I feel pretty empowered with the aroace label, but I know that there are many who feel broken and guilty. Being sad that you can’t live up to something that society has ingrained into the human experience isn’t something to be ashamed of. It’s okay to feel those feelings. 

The fact that the human experience, especially regarding the concept of love, is so regulated is disgusting and I’m sorry that you are suffering because of it.