Ray

He/Him, 25yo, Writer, Artist, Minors don't follow, Part of a System (not sharing name)

[remindertoclick]

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[an-ruraiocht]

not gonna lie i increasingly just find myself thinking... what are single disabled people supposed to do? basically everything assumes that either a) you have never been independent and are fully reliant on caregivers, whether this is parents or a paid carer that you are somehow funding, or b) you have a partner who can look after you, drive you to appointments, pick you up after you've had sedation, advocate for you, be your proxy, do the housework when you're sick, push your wheelchair, be your companion when travelling (e.g. handle the luggage if you're using a wheelchair), etc

and like. first of all even for people with partners that's assuming they're abled themselves and can handle all that. you can't assume that. secondly: what about people who are single, who live alone, who will probably always do so

"get someone to keep an eye on you when you start this new medication" who. "don't over exert yourself" nobody else is going to do the tasks. "this can be a walker or a transit wheelchair so your partner can push you when you get tired" my what

like it's not a coincidence that amatonormativity discussions started / developed in care contexts because it is so often the assumption that intimate partners will fill these needs. but I feel like this is often discussed in the context of "and this is too much to ask and puts too much unpaid labour on the unqualified partner" which is not untrue and needs discussing but like. also. what about people are single, independent adults who are neither emotionally nor geographically close to their siblings etc and are not Disabled Enough to have a paid carer (a group that grows as resources shrink). like are they just fucked then. they're on their own. punishment for failing to be enough of an adult to couple up.

[snakussy]

theres a reason people on disability in ontario are increasingly considering MAID (medical assistance in dying) and this is why

you can't marry someone because your disability will be affected. you have to really convince your worker that you're not romantically rooming with someone and that its strictly platonic, otherwise your disability will be affected.

this ultimately makes it far harder to find a roommate situation because they'll seriously assume you're common law if you give them any reason to assume you're romantically involved, even if that reason is just a difference in gender.

odsp isn't even treated like a genuine disability assistance, either. the premier doug ford treats it like a temporary stepping stone in getting you back on work, even if it's the only way you can survive. he outright admitted he thinks we're all being lazy and watching tv all day when we could be working.

theres a federal CPPD that could've been genuinely great for disabled people --- but you're required to have worked and thus contributed to your pension plan. this means anyone who became disabled at a young enough age and never worked can't get it.

so as a result: people on odsp here have to survive off of around 1436 a month in a province where cheapest one bedroom apartment that isn't a boarder situation is gonna be 1300. if you go a bachelor apartment, you might bring that down to 1100. and if you rent a room, you can bring that down to half --- but opps, the only people willing to rent to ODSP recipients are landlords that want to take advantage of them in some way. otherwise 99% of the market is asking for employment references which many ppl on disability just plain dont have

so in conclusion: the government's answer to "what are we supposed to do" is we just fucking die in a large enough quantities that they can rationalize lowing assistance, or they cling to the few family members we have left who don't hate us enough to abandon us when we show signs of disability and "leech" off of them until THEY die.

[badgersandbees]

Every single non trans woman who proclaims to be an ally absolutely needs to be posting about how goddamn transmisogynist staff is.

Because when trans women dare to speak up for themselves, Tumblr nukes their blogs.

We need to be fucking loud about this, daily, because Tumblr staff is specifically targeting and deleting trans women who are not breaking ToS and who often have fundraisers up FOR THEIR SURVIVAL.

By deleting these blogs repeatedly, Tumblr staff is saying loud and clear what they hope happens to these girls.

Are y'all okay with that? Because if not we need to be posting about it more because we have seen by now it's incredibly fucking unlikely this sites moderation will delete our blogs for it because we are not trans women

Tumblr staff and CEO Matt Mullenweg want trans women in need to not be able to post their fundraisers, meaning they are okay with these women dying.

[whydidisavethistomyphone]

[bpd-dylan-hall-deactivated20190]

reading a paper on quality of life among 45-to-70-year-olds with Down syndrome:

“Individuals expressed a desire to be allowed to go to bed when they wanted to.”

[queenshulamit-deactivated201602]

:(

[chavisory]

Imagine.

[fullyarticulatedgoldskeleton]

I lived in a room and board that failed the burrito test. (”If you’re not allowed to get up in the middle of the night to microwave a burrito, you live in an institution.”) No one stopped me from going to bed, but they did tell me I had to have my lights out by 10, and that I had to be out of the house by 10 the next morning. When I complained to my outpatient program that I needed more help than I was getting, they threatened me with board and care, where my cell phone would be taken away and I would lose contact with the outside world. My case manager sounded so damn smug, like he had caught me out, when he said, “if you’re really as helpless as you say, then you need to be in a board and care.” Like my only options were struggling to do things I couldn’t do, or surrendering my life to an institution.

When I tried to talk about these things with other people, they always rationalized it away. (I told my dad once that my caseworker was reading my e-mails as I wrote them, demonstrating extreme disrespect for my privacy, and he said, “Well, she’s probably making sure you don’t use the internet to goof off.” I was 22 years old.)

 People tend to mock the idea that telling an adult when to go to bed, when to eat, etc., is a human rights violation, even though they would find it outrageous and absurd if anyone came into their lives to do the same thing to them.

And this is what people seem to think when they tell disabled activists we’re just not disabled enough to understand that some people really do need to be locked up and deprived of all autonomy.

[phuk-ewe-deactivated20221207]

Here’s the paper:

https://library.down-syndrome.org/en-us/research-practice/06/3/quality-life-ageing-down-syndrome/

[librarycards]

You all need to be reading Dave Hingsburger’s “Burritos and Cherry Pies.” Hingsburger z'l is the originator of the Burrito Test, referenced upthread. The test is a useful heuristic for determining whether or not one is living in an institution. An institution is a space, according to this framework, where one cannot get up in the middle of the night and microwave a burrito. (Or, as the case may be, have assistance in doing so). People living in hospitals, group homes, residential facilities, prisons, homeless shelters, nursing homes, and other carceral spaces cannot do this. Most children living in their parents’ homes are also, in this framework, institutionalized. Many disabled people nominally living “in the community,” too, are institutionalized, trapped under the thumb of their aides and ‘care'givers who are often unwilling to do the bare minimum to feed and bathe them. This is the norm, not the exception, for people regarded as unproductive and unprofitable.

And in the future, try to live a life like Dave’s (alt text included):

[notjusthespongenextdoor]

For a city to be walkable. It must also be sittable.

[notjusthespongenextdoor]

#every time I read this phrase the same thing happens#I read it as shittable and go wait that can't be right#oh right they were talking about public benches that makes more sense#but public bathrooms available without fees should also be a thing tho#cities should definitely be shittable#it happens EVERY SINGLE TIME

it must also be shittable

[dailyhistorymemes]

The Choctaw-Irish Brotherhood(via)

[paula-of-christ]

[im-the-princess-now]

I love stuff like this. Didn’t a tribe in Africa send America some cows after 9/11? Like this is holy and the most valuable thing we have. We hear your suffering and want to do anything in our power to help

[dresshistorynerd]

It was not a potato famine. The famine didn’t happen because of the potato yeald failing. Ireland was actually producing more than enough food. However it was almost all land owned by Brittish landowners, who took all of the food out of the country to sell in UK. Potato was what the Irish farmers ate, because it was cheep and could be produced in worst parts of the land, where more profitable food couldn’t be grown. When there were no longer potatos, the decision for the farmers was to either starve and sent the food as rent to the landlords or loose their homes and then starve.

The Brittish goverment was unwilling to do anything for two reasons. First was the laissez-faire capitalistic ideology, that put the rights of property owners to make profits above human lives. Rent freeze was unthinkable and they even were unwilling to do proper relief efforts as free food would lower the cost of food. The second reason was distain for the Irish, and the thought that they were “breeding too much” and the famine was a natural way to trim down the population, aka genocidal reasoning.

This is why it’s important to stress it was not a potato famine. The potato blinght was all over Europe but only in Ireland there was a famine. The reasons behind it had nothing to do with potatos and everything to do with the Brittish.

Apparently what made Choctaw want to offer relief to Irish was the news about the Doolough Tragedy. Hundreds of starving people were gathered for inspection to verify they were entitled to recieve relief. The officials would for *some reason* not do that and instead left to a hunting lodge 19 kilometers away to spend the night and said to the starvqing people they would have to walk there by morning to be inspected. The weather conditions were terrible and many of them died completely needlessly during the walk thoroung day and night.

This apparently reminded the Choctaw of their own very recent (and much more explicit and bigger scale) experiences of ethnic clensing, where they were forcibly relocated. It was basically a death march and thousands of Choctaw died from the terrible conditions also completely needlessly.

In 2015 a memorial named Kindred Spirits was installed in Southern Ireland to commemorate the Chactow donation.

[trickstertime]

Then in 2020:

Irish people donate €2.5m to Native American tribe devastated by coronavirus

Navajo Nation say Irish generosity is the ‘good in all of the bad that is going on’

[jennybobenny73]

Choctaw Nation has now added a monument of their own:

Eternal Heart Sculpture to Honor Choctaw/Ireland Relationship to be Unveiled at Choctaw Nation Capitol - Choctaw Nation of Oklahoma

A sculpture honoring the relationship between the Choctaw Nation and the people of Ireland will soon be erected on the Choctaw Capitol groun

[t4timekeeper]

sometimes people will insist a character is butch/masc and then you look at the character and they’re just fat. or muscular. or black. or indigenous. or some combination of the above.

[librarycards]

i think fat girls should walk around in crop tops booty shorts buzzcuts dyed hair piercings no bra killing and maiming all who stand in their way with weapons before sitting down for some yummy ice cream and so forth. it's the only way.

[cactusringed]

But seriously though. Learning to draw fat people will make you a much better artist. Understanding how skin and fat behaves and folds in certain poses, and being able to adapt complex poses to fit a fat body (as usually references are with thin models) will help you TREMENDOUSLY. Drawing fat being properly affected by gravity will aid you in ALL figure drawing in the future. Like if you have any sort of interest in drawing humanoid figures (AND furries) you really ought to learn how to draw fat of all kind.

[learn-how-to-love]

That “cringe” nonbinary xenogender genderfuck therian who uses neopronouns and may or may not go on HRT while being loudly, proudly themselves will always be more revolutionary and subversive than a binary trans person who aggressively reproduces the cis status quo and shames anyone who doesn’t do the same.

[stephanisoejono]

happy new year -------------_--------------------

[calamity-aims]

[juicetrump2]

Chick-fil-A mounts PR campaign to push back against its anti-LGBTQ+ reputation - LGBTQ Nation

The chicken chain was told to "cluck off" the last time it tried to move into the UK. This time, it hired bigger guns.

[tehjleck]

me: "have they tried not being fucking ignorant religious bigots?"

article: “I suspect that a bit of the steam has gone out of the LGBT thing,” Backman told the right-wing outlet, staying ahead of the issue. “There may be the odd protester, but if they have got armies of PR people laser-focused on that then I suspect it may be OK.”

me: no surprises there... fuck them

sandwich recipe

[warriorsmurf]

We go through a lot of pickles here and this recipe is a good way to use leftover brine.

[jfk-blown-away-blog]

The thing that pisses me off the most though is the fact I know so many LGBTQ+ individuals that still go there, and they are surprised when I actually don't. It's literally like that tweet.

[untitled67344]

One of the most fucked up things about terming NSFW blogs is that their posts aren't taken down. They now have no control over the fact that their images are still being spread, because they have no way to delete their posts if they want to. This is a violation of consent because consent must be continuous, and one must be able to revoke it.

At the bare minimum, people should have the option to "delete all posts" when their blog is termed.

[untitled67344]

In the meantime don't rb images from termed blogs, unless OP has remade and shared their new url linking them to their content. In that case, do them a favor and rb the version with the new blog.

[eldritchbauble]

Hey, it's my old stuff.

[demilypyro]

All things considered, the human body is quite incredible. The fact you can just feed it the right cocktail of hormones, and the body will adapt and start behaving in accordance with the opposite sex without any issue or complaint... like business as usual... It sounds a little fantastical, doesn't it... We sometimes feel sad about the lack of "gender change magic" in our world, but it really is perfectly attainable if you secure the right dose... Ease of access is a moral obligation, I think.

[cybergirl-cathy]

What fucks me up is that the actual concentration of estradiol is so small it's measured in picomols (pico = one trillionth). If there's 750 pmol/L in you, that amounts to only about a single microgram in your whole body – one billionth of a gram. What the fuck??? For comparison, my daily Adderall dose is 40,000 times that much!

[demilypyro]

I guess that's how even just absorbing it through the skin can be effective.... it's strong stuff...

[dappled-moon-light]

People really do underestimate how effective it is! It's not just anatomical changes but physiological ones too!

It's not just the tits, but they also work like cis women tits. It's not that my body is shaped like a woman, it behaves like a cis woman's. Almost like I am one or something.

[closet-keys]

as a teen, i was constantly harassed by adults enforcing ''dress codes'' on me. I very much experienced this as sexual harassment. I think this is one of many cases where people would more easily understand this as sexual harassment if I described it as if it happened to an adult.

imagine being on your lunch break, and your supervisor comes over to your table, tells you to stand up in front of everyone. they draw everyone's attention to your thighs. they tell you that you have broken the dress code because of the length of your shorts. they tell you to go change (so you do not get the rest of your lunch break). they do this every single day at lunch. every day. so you read the whole dress code front and back, and you choose your clothing carefully to not break it. you bring a cloth tape measure with you to work because they will not believe you. this time when your supervisor tells you that you're breaking dress code, you pull out your tape measure and show that you are within the limit. your supervisor says "I bet you wouldn't want me to bring you to the boss and let him measure it, would you?" it's clearly a threat: if you don't obey then you will be put alone in a room with your boss and he will touch your thighs. you don't know how to respond. you're taken out of lunch again.

this was my experience at school. replace supervisor with "teacher" and boss with "principal." this was sexual harassment. fuck dress codes.

[superdaisypowerhour]

"if i had a time machine i would go back in time and kill hitler"

I would put sea mines around medieval britain. i would give hannibal barca ww2 era heavy artillery and tell him not to stop till he starts seeing gauls. i would give boudica a fucking abrams. i would appear before jesus like an angel and tell him "you gotta stop. not cause theyll kill you, youre fine with that, surprisingly, but because your fanclub is gonna spend about 1500 years making everything worse for everyone, everywhere." I would take a glock back in time and shoot romulus, shoot remus, and shoot that damn dog too just to be safe. i would be on the side of christopher columbus' ship in a scuba suit planting c4 on that bitch like rainbow six siege. i would be waging a one woman campaign of terror across andalusia to prevent the reconquista. i would be getting way out in front of that shit is what im saying,