unadorned and honest

caroline & kerwey; secondary school students and best friends. readers. creators.

[asdfghjklstudies-blog]

missing the room 93 halsey </3 

art by @lilpeachythng

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cute stuff // vintage glitter polaroid by tamta giorgadze

[royvmustang-deactivated20221127]

I’m in class right now and the guy in front of me just opened up the registration website, dropped out of this class and got up and left

[livingthatlibrarylifestyle]

[studylustre]

ig: studylustre

[hyggehaven-deactivated20200904]

I think the weirdest thing about having teenaged boys yell: “suck my dick bitch.” at me is that there’s nothing I can say to them that will make them feel the way that makes me feel.

I have lived my entire life with this threat of sexual violence hanging over my head: I’ve experienced it too. They’re hitting me where I live.

Women can’t threaten men with sexual violence and make men feel small and want to crawl out of their own skin; it’s taken a lifetime of violent socialisation just like this (men leering out of cars since I was 12, peers reaching between my legs in junior high, uncles getting too close, sports coaches grabbing my hips, being groped on transit, being sexually assaulted) to provoke this visceral reaction in me. Men haven’t experienced this constant background radiation of violation that contextualises moment like this.

I get well-intended messages from men: “I’m sorry you had to experience that.” “Those kids are jerks.” I do appreciate people reaching out. The thing is: in the context of my life experiences, this wasn’t even a particularly traumatic incident, so much as an illustrative one. It’s one of thousands of these moments.

I made me sad and a little contemplative, sure, but I’ll get by; feminism really helps with that, because it gives me this (almost) unshakable belief that I am human.

But I don’t want to hear: “those [particular] kids are jerks.”

I want to hear: “I’m not going to tolerate misogyny in my own life, and among my social circle. This stops now; it stops with me.”

There is no threat I can make to a man that will make him hate the fact he was born in the body he was born in. The second I start thinking I’m a person, someone reminds me that to them, I’m just a hole. I’m a bitch. I actually can’t make them see I’m a person. That has to come from other men.

As I get older, I get more and more angry when men I know are hostile to feminism. Because it means they aren’t really listening, or even caring, when I describe the reality of my life. Feminism is my refuge, and the sole source of my belief that I’m not deserving of the way I’m treated. It is the only movement that has dared to put forth the radical belief that women are people.

I don’t even want to hurt the men who do things like this. I just want them to be kind. Yeah, I can carry my knife, or get a big dog in self defense, but I actually don’t have a lust for vengeance or causing people pain. That’s really the worst part of it: being better – being more human, more forgiving, more kind – than them, and still losing.

[smitethestate]

This is one of those pieces of writing that just makes me want to scream and bang my head on the wall and cry and give the author a gigantic hug all at once thank you for articulating this so well.

[asdfghjklstudies-blog]

here’s one more sad thing: the fact is that I relate to this so much more as a girl, a female human than an advocate. feminism isn’t a difficult thing. it’s a human thing, and it shouldn’t need to exist in the first place. 

[equaticns]

Hope all of you are having a great day and studying hard for your exams! Don’t forget to eat healthy, stay hydrated and take your medicines on time! Ily ♡

Taken from my studygram: @equaticnss

[study-nsp]

first masterpost, yay :] i’ve been in the studyblr community for a little while so i thought i should make a post with what i’ve learned about studyblrs! credit for the pic used for the banner goes to @thearialligraphyproject 

what the heck is a studyblr?

basically it’s all in the name - study + tumblr :]

it’s a blog focusing on studying, motivation, inspiration, tips, you can decide what to pay more attention to!

mine is a studyblr in case u need an example

what about the community?

the studyblr community is wonderful, since i’ve joined i have found nothing but amazing people!

it’s all about sharing experiences, resources, tips, supporting each other + giving each other motivation to keep on

everyone is great okay

check @studyblrcommunity to find resources/other blogs! :]

how do i get started?

pick a url related to studying

make a post introducing yourself to the community, asking for other studyblrs to reblog so u can follow them & tag it with #studyblr and #studyspo. 

+ u can also go to those tags to check blogs out and reblog stuff! :]

to gain “recognition” u can take pics of ur study stuff (notes, desk, flashcards, mind maps, whatever) and tag them w the same tags i mentioned before

also make posts with advice and masterposts w resources you’ve found if u want/can!

what are these clocks on the laptop screens i’ve seen everywhere?

the white clock with the black bg is a screensaver, fliqlo

the clock with the “good evening/morning, *yourname*” is either momentum or lanes, they are rlly cute chrome extensions

general study resources/tips

masterposts tag on my blog

101 study tips

concentration + studying masterpost

how should i study?

back to school masterpost

school supplies masterpost

note taking methods

i hope this helped anyone! i’ll probably keep making masterposts bc i really like them and i want to help u guys, if u have any suggestions + questions let me know! :] 

- sofi xx

[studylilacs]

— 29th july 2017 i have chinese school tomorrow oh no :,)

[wonderfullifee-deactivated20171]

How I tackle notes. Yeah I know this page is filled with tons of random things but I seriously just let my brain loose and this is what happened. 

[stillstudies]

as scary as change is, sometimes it’s for the better. remember this planner I bought a while back that I had no use for? well, for my first year of college, I’ve decided that using this planner as my bullet journal instead of my usual bullet journal set-up would be a little easier on my heart. don’t worry; I’m never giving up using my old bullet journal! I love it way too much. I’ll probably still use it for special spreads and journaling that I don’t want to put in my school planner. but I’ve realized that planning in my old bullet journal has become way too time-consuming as I really just want to focus on my studies at the moment. I hope you understand xxx

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a lil throwback 2 booksactually an actual fave place <3

[educatier]

ig: educatier

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don’t even know why but tbH one of my favourite spreads ever. also caroline gave me that lil pack of polar bear goodies (amongst other stuff)!!! 

[educatier]

ok i just scrolled through and stringy cheese is one of the best things abt cheesy pizza. fite me.

stringy cheese on pizza is the only stringy cheese i accept

[asdfghjklstudies-blog]

quite the mess, but today’s history revision has been productive!!

[inritum]

reblog and make a wish! this was removed from tumbrl due to “violating one or more of Tumblr’s Community Guidelines”, but since my wish came true the first time, I’m putting it back. :)

[ghostdog07]

OH MY FUCKING GOD, IT’S BACK ON MY DASH.

THIS SHIT WORKS OKAY, I AM DEAD SERIOUS.

The last time I saw this on my dash, I didn’t think it would happen, so jokingly I wished I could go to a fun. concert.

AND GUESS WHAT, I WENT TO A FUCKING FUN. CONCERT.

THIS SHIT WORKS, TRY IT.

[deathklaue]

YOOOOOOO

I SAW THIS ON MY DASH THE OTHER DAY AND THOUGHT “ITS WORTH A TRY” SO I WISHED I COULD GET A 3DS

LITERALLY LIKE 4 DAYS LATER MY DAD SENT ME A PICTURE OF THE 3DS XL HE BOUGHT FOR ME WHILE I WAS AT SCHOOL

IM STILL FREAKING OUT ABOUT THIS

[doryishness]

holy fuck, I didn’t expect this to work, I was like psh, whatever it’s just a quick reblog, but I wished my Dad would actually respond back to me AND HE FUCKING DID A FEW DAYS LATER, I GOT A FUCKING TEXT FROM MY DAD TODAY WHO HASN’T SPOKEN OR RESPONDED TO ME IN MONTHS HOLY FUCK WHAT IS THIS MAGIC IT WORKS. 

[victoriaringsinyourears]

I WANTED TO SEE MY BOYFRIEND AND I DIDN’T THINK I’D GET DAYS OFF BUT THIS WEEKEND I’M HEADING UP THERE??? THIS IS CRAZY SHIT 

[lenshade]

SO LIKE I JOKINGLY WISHED FOR MY OWN LEN KAGAMINE AND THEN LIKE A WEEK LATER I GOT A LEN NENDOROID??? H ELP

[themixedbagofwhat]

WTF OKAY SO THIS SHOT ACTUALLY WORKS BECAUSE WHEN I WISHED, I HAD WISHED MY CRUSH WOULD LIKE ME BACK AND GUESS WHAT? I HAVE A BOYFRIEND NOW. WHAT THE HELLLLL?????

[wodkat]

ok I’ve said this before but IM DOING IT AGAIN THE FIRST TIME I SAW THIS, MY WISH DID COME TRUE SO I REBLOGED AGAIN AND SAID IT IN THE TAGS BUT THEN I WISHED FOR SMTH ELSE AND IT LITERALLY LITERALLY HAPPENED LIKE A COUPLE DAYS LATER WHAT THE HELL SO NOW IM WRITING THIS HERE FOR YOU BC I DONT BELIEVE IN THIS CRAP BUT STILL IT’S AN AWFULLY BIG COINCIDENCE

[acstiel]

THE BOY I FELL I LOVE WITH LEFT TO TRAVEL THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD AND HAS BEEN GONE NOW FOR 3 MONTHS. WE HAVENT SPOKEN SINCE BECAUSE I DIDNT WANT TO MAKE HIM FEEL TRAPPED TO ME AND NOT ENJOY HIS TIME SO I WAITED FOR HIM TO CONTACT ME FIRST. I SAW THIS ON A PARTICULARLY LOW DAY WHEN I WAS MISSING HIM SO MUCH I CRIED FROM THE PAIN, GUYS I REALLY LOVE HIM, SO I THOUGHT MEH WHAT THE FUCK, AND WISHED HE WOULD JUST LET ME KNOW HE WAS OKAY.

GUYS.

HE FUCKING CALLED ME 20 MINUTES LATER

20 FUCKNG. MINUTES. LATER.

GOOD THINGS DO HAPPEN. AND ITS IN THIS POST.

[juststrokemyglabella]

I wish for someone to leave something in my ask.

[adweeb-deactivated20160228]

OKAY SO I ASKED FOR A HEDGEHOG AND NOW GUESS WHO HAS A PET HEDGEHOG

[vermillionkill-deactivated20230]

worth a shot huh

[grascet]

WHY THE HELL NOT

[daarkmind]

Oh well

[netherbees]

Let’s go for it I guess ^^ 

[netherbees]

Holy shit it works ^^ my bf want supposed to be able to see me this week so i wished too be able to see him.. 3 hours later. Guess who’s coming over this Friday? My bf. 3 freaking hours. Aaaa.

[navybluenestea-deactivated20191]

Let’s go, I’m desperate

[afishtrap]

someone needs to explain to me how a simple post like this can violate tumblr’s ‘community guidelines’ but pornbots and white supremacists are a-okay