Ashlynn

I'm just a mid-thirties, white demi-girl (she/it) trying to make sense of things. I'm very vegan, a bit witchy, and a bit communist.

[ashlynnbun]

Because of Tumblr's long history of discriminatory moderation - especially against black, indigenous, and trans users - and the public actions of staff and the CEO, I will be shifting my focus away from Tumblr and making other social media platforms my primary home online. If any of my followers or mutuals wish to connect with me on Mastodon or Discord, send me a direct message here. 💜

[ashes2caches]

cuddling with a transfem and she starts to purr. she’s such a pretty kitty…

[ashlynnbun]

"It's not that deep." Nah, we're still in the kiddie pool, babygirl. I'll remind you to put on your floaties, when it starts getting deep. For now, just try to keep your head above water.

[beyond-a-name]

listen. newly out tgirl. I am grabbing your hand gently. do not EVER, ever ever ever, trust any tme person who thinks of themself as more of a lesbian than you, or more of an authority on women's issues than you. I promise, no matter how freshly out you are, it's not that you need to quiet down and learn. you are not tainted with some implicitly anti-feminist maleness that you need to atone for. you are a woman, unequivocally. do not trust anyone who makes you feel otherwise, not even for a second. there are no exceptions to this.

[delicate-viscera]

usamerican soldier STUNNED into silence when he learns that his willing and paid participation in the murder and neocolonization of foreign people is a huge red flag to everyone with a conscience

[fairyinthetrees]

i read a quote recently that said "I haven't felt like myself, I must be growing" and I think it's rewiring my brain

[puppygirllaika]

one of the most powerful tools you have at your disposal is the ability to be normal about stuff. be normal about sex. be normal about bodies. be normal about sex work. be normal about peoples kinks. and then, most importantly, when someone gets prudish, or puritanical, or conservative, recognize that you are the normal one in the conversation, and act like it.

"You think she should be ashamed? that's weird man. why do you care so much. You think that's gross? okay... kinda weird that you care though. you found out about her kinks? what are you, like, stalking her or something? what, you think her job sucks 'cause it involves sex? what's it got to do with you? you're really obsessed with other people man, it's kinda creepy."

the duality of shame and normalcy is not static. you get to decide what is normal and what is shameful, and you can do it by your own standards. If you let someone else make that decision for you, you're ceding more ground than you could possibly know.

[venus-starchild]

I just hope girls think I'm pretty

[crippled-peeper]

“You think every citizen should have access to free and accessible healthcare?”

Wrong!!!

I think that Asylum seekers and Migrant workers and The Undocumented and Everyone Else should get free healthcare too

I love immigration

[crippled-peeper]

This one made the fascists and the racists really really mad. I get hate mail daily for this post

Imagine getting mad because someone else’s child’s chemotherapy doesn’t cost them 100,000$ .

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

TLDR: this white queer person tried to hold other white queer people accountable for their racism and they DID NOT LIKE THAT

[chiefmuffinmuncher]

Not a trans masc thing, but is this how the snap back lesbian became a thing? White masc lesbians appropriating black culture? Oh no.

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

Yes.

[alpaca-clouds]

Something I keep thinking about is how a lot of people consider it a good thing that children cannot by themselves consent (or refuse consent) to medical treatments. Some people do kinda get it that maybe it might be a problem with stuff like kids not being able to access trans healthcare, or kids being refused vaccination by antivaxx parents. But in general I see that most people are actually okay with this idea for the most part.

And like... you do get that that is kinda insane, right?

Because this is something that so often leads to suffering. And I am saying this as someone disabled, who had so many issues due to this in his childhood.

Just three examples: when I was 7, I was supposed to get checked for autism. My mother did not want an autistic child. Since she just could have a "neurotypical" child by refusing diagnosis, she did just that.

When I was 12, my mother had decided I needed a certain plastic surgery (one that had a minor health benefit, but still was largely a beauty thing). I did not want it. I really, really did not want it. We still went through almost the entire process until thankfully there was a doctor who went: "Wait, this is elective. I am refusing to do this on a child that does not want it."

And when I was 14 my mother refused to get me to the hospital when I had severe food poisoning. She refused me hospital treatment for almost two weeks. By the time I got actually taken to the hospital I was almost dead.

And here is the thing: all of this should just not happen. The doctor when I was 12 was cool, but... he refused to do the surgery because he had the right to make a conscience call. Legally my mother was in the right to force me into that elective surgery. And that just should not be the case.

A lot of children die and suffer due to their legal inability to consent - or refuse consent - to medical treatments. And I wish y'all would understand that.

Whenever this is brought up, people will go: "Oh, but parents will decide what is best for the child." And here is the thing: No, they are not. There is so much stuff out there showing that indeed, a lot of parents suck at this. Some out of malice, some because they are religious nuts, and some because they literally treat their kids like some sort of doll or some shit.

[ladyshinga]

Monogamous people with dozens of exes and the most horrifying relationship history you've ever heard of in your entire life: "Well I just can't support polyamory, because those relationships never work out"

[scienceandfandoms]

Everyone needs to be kinder to trans women right the fuck now. ESPECIALLY you reading this.

[pocket-deer-belly]

i think in a world where the political right is aggressively trying to portray all trans women as pedophile invaders, making it your job as a trans person to hunt down trans women who you personally believe to be dangerous (based on, let's be real, information gathered through stalking campaigns from people who have nothing but malicious intent) makes you also a fascist

[pocket-deer-belly]

you are not solving a societal problem, you are not attempting to help children by addressing systemic issues that harm them, you are a cop.

[pocket-deer-belly]

you are a tool if you spread callouts about trans people on the internet. i mean this very literally: you make yourself very very useful to people who want trans women to not have any space in society.

[pocket-deer-belly]

i'm glad this post is taking off i hope you fucking mean it this time <3 protect every trans woman you meet

[ashes2caches]

girl who goes on estrogen and she looks in the mirror and feels so much more pretty and she goes outside and everything feels more beautiful.

[this-site-isnt-safe-for-me]

I LOVE INTRODUCING TRANSFEMS TO TRANSFEM MUSIC THROUGH MY TRANSFEM PLAYLIST AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH PLEASE LISTEN TO MORE TRANSFEM MADE MUSIC PLEASE!!!!

ily <3

[youmegravity]

Constantly accusing trans women of grooming is particularly heinous because you can use any genuine attempt to help and support others as 'evidence'

[youmegravity]

Sharing resources is grooming. Supporting each other is grooming. Warning others of transmisogynists is grooming. Making friends is grooming. Wanting a better future is grooming. Openly existing as a trans woman is grooming

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

"trying to draw other people close to you in any way is nefarious and suspicious, because you are nefarious and suspicious"

[houndmother]

this articulates something ive been trying to connect about the way that the social isolation of trans women works. They (whoever. TME transmisogynists and other girls doing lateral transmisogyny alike) isolate us. Through accusations of assault and abuse they remove us from our communities, and then every time we try to make new friends, support each other, build some kind of community or network (often of girls who have been subjected to the same smear campaigns we have), they accuse us of grooming. We’re punished for trying to survive no matter how we do it.