Ash | he/they

Reader and artist 📚🎨 I like PJO, THG, Merlin, Sherlock, Stranger Things, and many more 💚 arospec + asexual 🏳️‍🌈 trans guy 🏳️‍⚧️ Instagram: ashtreefrog 🖼 Reposts onto Instagram are fine (just tag me)

[squigglinmywaydowntown]

I’m a guy in the same way a bug you find on the ground is a guy

“Look it’s a beetle!! Silly little guy”

That’s me

[ashtreefrog]

fighting demons (not wanting to read a long and boring paper for uni and knowing there's a way to have it summarized but being so morally opposed to using said method that i refuse to use it in any way shape or form and thus will continue to sit here hating reading this goddamn paper)

[spacezeros123]

wanting and not wanting at the same time

a comic for asexual awareness week

[spacezeros123]

bringing this back today for the start of pride month. still overwhelmed by how well this comic went down and with how many people relate. it’s easy to think aro-ace people are all totally accepting of their identities and really proud of who they are. i guess on websites like this you see a lot of people proudly putting their identity in their bio, a flag in their profile picture.

in fact i think a lot of aro-ace people really hate that part of themselves, hide it, and struggle for a long time to ‘accept’ who they are and feel any sense of ‘pride’. that’s the feeling i wanted to capture here. the disappointment, the loneliness, upon realising that you can’t feel what is such a wonderful thing. the embarrassment of not being ‘normal’, of being some random sexuality that nobody irl has heard of, and letting down those around you because you can’t be who they want you to be. how desperately you want to change, how desperately you want to feel. but you just can’t.

i know not all aro-ace people feel like this. i know lots of aro and/or ace people feel able to be in relationships, to feel closeness and have partners in other ways. but i think it’s important to be aware that some aro-ace people do feel like this.

the comments on this comic have mostly been great but a few have been very frustrating. a comment it got a lot was along the lines of ‘aw!! you don’t need to have sex to be in a relationship!’. you completely missed the point, hah. this is not a comic about sex. it’s about a lack of feeling, the lack of something beautiful other people seem to have. another comment that popped up a few times was ‘maybe she’s a lesbian’. well maybe lesbians and aro/ace girls have more in common than people think - maybe they both often struggle to accept that they feel no attraction to men, even though society has conditioned them to do so, sometimes spending years trying to force themselves to like men in that way, when they just can’t.

this comic is called ‘wanting and not wanting at the same time’ because she wants to love. but when it comes down to the reality, she can’t fulfil the requirements of that. she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet. a sort of catch 22, i guess.

hope that makes sense. thanks for listening, and have a lovely pride month ❤️

[autistic-brainbug-deactivated20]

[ID: a comic with 22 panels - the first 12 panels having a light green background against mint green borders while the rest of the panels have a dark green background against the same mint green frame. The main character of the comic is a feminine presenting individual with light skin and long to mid-length orange hair with a blue heart on the left side of their chest that is. Every other person is shown with a red heart on their chest. Each person is wearing a simple green sweater and either matching green pants or a skirt. In the first panel, we can see the main character as a child with a neutral expression on their face, holding the hands of a masculine and a feminine presenting adult standing to either side of them. The second picture shows the same child from the back, watching two people kiss on a pink TV. The third panel shows the main character sitting in a bed with green sheets, reading a pink book that has a red heart on it. There’s a pink speech bubble pointing away from it, revealing some of its text, reading “He had tousled dark brown hair, which was thick and lustrous. His eyes were a mesmerizing deep ocean blue.” The following for panels show the person as they grew a bit older, listening to another feminine presenting person with long brown hair talk about a person they are fancying (shown in a speech bubble next to their head), or watching two feminine presenting people in green skirts, one with lighter skin and one with darker skin, kiss each other on the cheek as the main character is walking past them. Two of the panels also show close ups of different social media posts, talking about an unidentifiable masculine person with the title “OMG he’s so hot (heart emoji)”, or a selfie of a feminine person with long brown hair and the title “FANS self (heart emoji).” The bigger panel underneath then shows the main character from the back, staring at their laptop. The next four panels show an interaction between the main character with now mid-length hair and a masculine person with short brown hair. They can be seen walking side by side, laughing and having a seemingly good time. The person with short hair is leaning in for a kiss, to which the main character is turning away their head. We can see both characters standing next to each other with sad and partially disappointed faces as the main character is pointing at the blue heart on their chest. The following nine panels have a dark green background. They show the main character, laying in bed. As they are sleeping, there’s some pink and white dust appearing next to them, slowly forming into a blue shadow person with a red-ish, pink-ish heart. The heart on the main character’s chest also turned red/pink, and we can see them hold hands, kiss, have a child, and eventually grow old with the imaginary shadow person - all while still laying on bed. In the last panel, however, the shadow person disappears again, and the heart on their chest goes back to blue. Finally, the last three panels show the main character, still in their bed. With a sad look on their face, they’re looking down at the heart on their chest, reaching out to it with one hand before looking back to the now empty side of the bed. /ID end]

[ashtreefrog]

The way bologna is spelled vs. pronounced is baloney

[justheretobreakthings]

So within two days of each other, Fox News writes an article comparing aromanticism and asexuality to pedophilia, and then Matt Walsh releases a video saying asexuality is a mental illness and asexuals are tricking teenagers into having depression.

Not sure what’s going on right now over in Conservative World, but it’s a hell of wild U-turn for them to suddenly switch from “Oh no! The left is sexualizing our children!” to “Oh no! The left is asexualizing our children!”

[ohnoitstbskyen]

It’s a reminder, I guess, that they’re coming for all of us. The fash and the white supremacists will not make nice distinctions between the queers when they put us up against the wall. There is no gatekeeping, no label-policing, no purity-purging and no assimilation that any of us can do that will save us. They want us dead, and while they’ll start with whoever is most vulnerable at any given time, they’ll get around to all of us eventually.

Queer solidarity means all of us because the fash are coming for all of us.

[karmiccollector-deactivated2024]

All Dividers are Feds. Stand united or die separately.

[hazel2468]

ANYONE who is trying to divide our community is a fucking Fed. That includes other queers who like to argue about who is and isn’t “allowed” in our community.

[ashtreefrog]

The announcement reel on Instagram, as a comic strip

[pinkcarabiner]

if your friend asks you to misgender them in front of their family, do it. if your friend asks you to refer to their partner as their roommate or friend, do it. if they ask you to deadname them, do it. allyship is about prioritizing the saftey of marginalized people, especially when it comes before your desire to fight their oppressors.

[mobilis-in-mobili]

"I know that all the gay activists are saying that silence equals death, but my silence, at least right now, equals my survival."

– Benjamin Alire Saenz

[wizardnuke]

LESS movies about the lgbtq experience MORE movies about people who just happen to be lgbtq. is it really that hard to understand

[wizardnuke]

I don't wanna see another story abt a teenage boy coming out to his parents and closed mouth kissing his boyfriend at prom where's my spy thriller action heist movie w a cast made entirely of dykes and femme gay men you know what I'm fucking talkinf about. I'm tired of The Queer Struggle I struggle every stupid day I know what that's all about and honestly none of the coming out stories are cathartic or whatever to me. I don't care. I wanna see a nonbinary person fight a dragon

[aledradio]

Do you ever have moments that can be summed up by this image?

[eobardthawneallen]

:3 yes, and this as well

[lily-wholockian]

I also like this one

[ashtreefrog]

Any other aros feel this weird almost pain but not quite feeling kind of in your stomach when you’re watching (usually happy) queer shows that are usually mostly romance-centric (ex. Heartstopper, rw&rb, etc.) like I’m happy for them, I like seeing queer people getting to be happy and just seeing queer stories, but also ow, I wish there wasn’t so much romance stuff or just more non-romance (or non-romance-centric) stuff because it’s like is all people see in the queer community couples? Like it kind of hurts but you’re still happy because ‘yay queer media’ but also ‘ugh romance’ and it’s just this weird feeling that’s super hard to articulate and is low-key painful and very confusing. Like yes of course I’m cheering for byler, I desperately want them to be endgame, but also I’m just so done with seeing so much romance and i just want to watch a fun show without the romance and UGH. Like this is why representation is so important, but especially more diverse and specific representation for everyone. This is why Isaac (heartstopper) is so important to me and i literally cried in his scene at the art show because finally, FINALLY some representation, someone starting to figure themselves out, and it’s not by kissing someone or something, it’s just finally learning about your queer identity and starting to accept yourself, and it not the same romance story. having that OH, That’s ME moment when talking to someone, or learning something, finding the words for yourself.

I don’t really know what I’m trying to say, it’s so hard to articulate, but i see why aros can get shit on for seeming homophobic when really we just want a break from romance, period, no matter who it is. And I’m not trying to diminish the importance or queer romances in media either, because i know we all just want to see ourselves, but it’s kind of like i want some representation too? Like kind of jealousy but i still want you to have what you have, i just also want my similar thing too.

I don’t know if this post make any sense, it’s kind of all over the place, but yeah, more aro rep please

[salemontrial]

I adore Imogen being queer in any way, but I kinda want her to be a lesbian soley because it would be funny if both of the Nick Nelson Love Interests Who Aren't Actually At All ended up being lesbians

[queerism1969]

[lurks-no-more]

A tweet from @RowanJetteKnox:

When I came out to my kids as a trans guy, they had a lot of questions:

"Are you going to start grilling?"

"Do you need an apron with 'kiss the cook' on it?"

"Are you taking me fishing?"

"Ugh. Do I have to remember Father's Day now?"

The cries of traumatized children.

[matttheenbydraws]

Reblog this if you think that asexual, aromantic, agender, or any type of aspec folks should have more important roles as main characters

If you have any good ideas on what type of aspec main characters you can think of, share your ideas

[radios-silent]

The way charlie just says "no" so calmly

[finnicksannie]

I love the way Elle smiles in the background. Because let’s not forget that Harry was her bully too. She was stuck in a class with him, where he made transphobic comments to her. And not only out of ignorance - it was because “Harry thinks it’s fun to pick on people.” So while Charlie is standing up for himself here, he’s also standing up for her too (and Nick, and Tao, and anyone that Harry has made feel like shit).

[whydidisavethistomyphone]

[whydidisavethistomyphone]

I love to read the notes on this post, you guys are amazing!

This is satire worth of the onion

[elainiisms]

percy:

annabeth:

nico:

piper:

reyna:

hazel:

leo:

frank:

jason:

[radiolightning]

In case anyone is having a bad night:

Here is the fudgiest brownie in a mug recipe I’ve found

Here are some fun sites

Here is a master post of Adventure Time episodes and comics

Here is a master post of movies including Disney and Studio Ghibli

Here is a master post of other master posts to TV shows and movies

*tucks you in with fuzzy blanket* *pats your head*

You’ll be okay, friend <3

[meanwolfs-remade-deactivated201]

i will reblog this everytime it shows up because any of my followers could have a bad night right now

[becausewhatiam-iswhatimnot]

All these links, besides the first, are broken. So here’s some more.

Here’s an emergency compliment

Here you can play 2048

Here’s a playlist of Bob ross

Here’s a website to watch movie’s and shows for free

Here’s a website to watch documentaries for free

Here you can to nothing for two minutes

Here you can break something. It’s good for anger

Here’s a button to press to make everything okay

Here’s a site to cut something up (TRIGGER WARNING)

Here’s a site that makes you a website depending on a song you choose

Here’s a gay comic. It’s adorable

Here you can spend Bill Gate’s money

Here you can draw your own island

Here you can learn about patterns website’s use

Here you can get your life stats

Here you can listen to the Tucker Zone (Headphones needed)

Here you can see how fast you’re moving

Here you can see the progress of time

Here you can see the future of the universe 

[becausewhatiam-iswhatimnot]

Want some more? 

Here’s the butterfly project

Here’s a snickerdoodle mug cake

Here’s a link to some free audiobooks

Here’s something to read when you feel like a burden

Here’s a secret

Here’s my playlist of some sea shanties 

Here’s another secret

Here’s a link to some cool websites 

Here’s a blog that gives you recipes for when you’re low on spoons

Here’s some Brony Headcanon’s

[becausewhatiam-iswhatimnot]

Some more? I’ve got plenty

Here’s 100,000 stars

Here you can control the weather (TW FLASHING IMAGES)

Here you can weave silk

Here you can make a castle of your own

Here you can make a kaleidoscope drawing

Here you can explore recursion

Here you can play a jelly block game

[becausewhatiam-iswhatimnot]

I’m back with some more! 

Here you can draw with pasta

Here you can draw logo’s from memory

Here you can play this is sand, here you draw cool sand designs

Here you can play The Organ Trail

Here’s a customizable white noise website

Here you can simulate gravity

Here you can create your own guardian of the galaxy

Here you can make your own galaxy

Here’s a website you can get some support at.

[becausewhatiam-iswhatimnot]

to find later

[addiewho]

Here you can split circles into smaller and smaller pieces (I found this really satisfying)

Here you can have images of people point to where your pointer is

Here you can paint someone’s nails

Here you can grow a garden across your screen (Audio included)

Here you can try out all kinds of mind illusions (Trigger Warning: Flashing Lights)

Here you can see how many miles you have scrolled

Here you can watch a website load forever, although you might be getting enough of this on Tumblr mobile

Here’s a rickroll

Here you can remind yourself that you’re awesome.

Here you can throw trash into a dustbin only for it to bounce right back out (Audio included)

Here you can make sand dunes using sand (Audio included)

And here you can generate more cool websites like these

[boy-in-the-stars]

pinning thissss

[fiddlepickdouglas]

And yet more!!!

Here you can listen to a gentle rainstorm

Here you can make snowflakes

Here is a Line Rider feature film with relaxing music

Here is the entire script to the Princess Bride (many don’t need it but it’s fun to read anyway)

Here is an abbreviated script for the entirety of Book 1 of A:TLA that I made out of anger at the film that definitely doesn’t exist

Here is a playlist of the top 10 most relaxing songs ranked according to science

Here’s a site where you can make a dude beatbox with fun animations

[nyxsomnia7]

I’m fully aware I will need this at some point.

[rain-droplet]

for all of my mutuals, you deserve good days and better nights