The Aspec Place

Welcome to the aspec mafia blog! This blog is a place for all aspec people to talk about their experiences, learn more about the spectrum and have a safe space for aspec people. :)

[aspec-mafia-official]

Welcome to the Aspec Mafia

A blog by aspecs for aspecs! This blog is for all aspecs, with a focus on bringing awareness to all parts of the spectrum! The blog is named after the acespec mafia tag, isn't the "official" blog of the tag & @crystalsandbubbletea created it, not anyone on the blog. :)

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Daydream! I'm transmasc + 100 other things, just use he/him pronouns --- I am arospec, acespec, aplspec, asenspec, and afamspec! @daydream-the-demon (intro post) I'm also available for art commissions! Message me on Discord at evil_is_upon_us or DM me on my main!

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Luna! I'm not sure about my gender but I'm going with some mix of enby/agender, omni-oriented aroace & in a qpr with two partners. I use any pronouns except he/it and lean more towards they/them & neopronouns. :) (intro post)

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Bluebird! I'm a transmasc demiboy and quoisexual/achillean, I use he/they pronouns. I'm autistic with adhd as well. (intro post)

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Baggins! I use any pronouns though my preference is they/he/she/etc.I'm an aroace lesbian and in a QPR, as well as being trans agender/nonbinary and aplspec. I'm a science nerd, fanartist, and harpist mainly. I'm also physically disabled and a mobility aid user, so I care a lot about disabled aspec intersectionality.

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[bovid-beauty]

"Fascism"—New Federal Rule Would Require Federal Funding Recipients To Deny Trans People Exist

The rule could have heavy impacts towards trans people across society.

Last week, the Trump administration quietly released a sweeping new federal rule that would use funding threats to force institutions across the country to reject transgender people. The 400-page proposed regulation would codify the administration's anti-trans executive orders into binding federal policy, imposing a blanket prohibition on federal funds going toward "gender ideology"

The proposed rule, formally titled "Regulation for Federal Financial Assistance," rewrites the government-wide framework governing all federal grants across every agency. Among its most consequential provisions, it requires that before a federal grant recipient can receive money, the award must pass a "pre-issuance review" conducted by a political appointee—not a career expert or peer reviewer—to ensure it is "consistent with applicable law, Federal agency priorities, and the national interest." The regulation explicitly instructs these appointees to screen for "denial by the recipient of the sex binary in humans or the notion that sex is a chosen or mutable characteristic." [...] An institution that acknowledges transgender people exist—through its policies, its training, its healthcare, its bathroom access, its HR procedures, its name-change processes—could be deemed to "deny the sex binary" or to “support the notion that sex is mutable” and have its federal funding blocked.

Importantly, the gender ideology prohibition has no age limitation—hospitals could be targeted not just for providing care to minors but for providing gender-affirming care to adults, because prescribing hormone therapy to a transgender patient of any age could be deemed promoting the belief that "sex is a chosen or mutable characteristic."

[junequeer]

THIS IS OPEN TO COMMENT UNTIL JULY 13, 2026

[featherandstorm]

This is all very bad and horrible, but I want to be clear that it’s worse and more sweeping than just eliminating trans research.

This torches everything. And I do mean everything.

A very abbreviated list of its ramifications include (but are not limited to):

ending funding for ALL DEI related initiatives

allowing the government to terminate grants at any point for any reason

preventing researchers from publishing, going to conferences, and being part of academic societies

requiring that topics must support the president’s agenda.

What this means, and if anything I’m under selling it, is the death of science and research in America. It allows the government to restrict any topic they please at a whims notice, putting officials who have no background in the topic in charge of deciding funding continuity. It controls what gets researched and if/how researchers are allowed to share their discoveries. There are no books to burn if the government never allows them to be written. This is fascism plain and simple.

Please, if you only ever write one public comment, this is the one to do.

[genderkoolaid]

Bringing back this guide to writing an effective public comment. This gives you the basics you need to know, what you need to include, a basic outline you can follow, etc.

Public comments are not a vote, it is a chance for you to say "here is an issue with this law I think you need to address" and provide justification for legal challenges if it goes forward:

"Comments raise the bar that agencies have to meet when making a rule; “if an agency fails to adequately respond to significant, relevant comments in a final rule, members of the public may seek to challenge the rule in court on that basis and claim it could be struck down.ˮ"

But also, if possible, don't stop at writing a comment. Don't stop at calling your representatives. You should ideally be talking to people in your community about this and organizing resistance on-the-ground; there is a good chance people are already doing that even if you aren't hearing about it.

[cherrispryte]

Some added 101-level context from someone (me) who’s worked in federal grantmaking for 20 years and is literally certified on this document - this is a document that governs all federal grantmaking. It’s been around for over a decade and is a mega-document that combine multiple previous smaller documents that have been around for ages. It is updated every few years and generally the updates are minor - a notable change in the previous update was raising the small procurement threshold from $10,000 to $15,000 for example. Deeply dry boring minutiae that no one outside of federal grantmakers need concern themselves with. It was also federal GUIDELINES, which means there was flexibility.

This year’s is different. They are now federal REQUIREMENTS, which means there’s no flexibility. As was said previously, the 400 pages are not singularly devoted to being absolute shitheads to trans people. Theres a lot of stuff in there, some of which is the standard dry boring grants stuff, some of which is the horrible ideological warfare outlined above.

This document is issued by the OMB, the Office of Management and Budget, which is currently lead by fucking Russell Vought, the principal architect of Project 2025. This is how they’re going to implement all the horrible shit in there that wasn’t covered by Executive Order. Russell Vought is actively coming for my job, my marriage, and my kid, and most of my friends lost their jobs last year because of him. He is the fucking arch villain behind the heinous shit the current regime is doing.

So yes, please comment. You don’t have to read all 400 pages before doing so, it’s dry and dense as fuck, but I thought this information might be helpful. Also, while there is a public comment period, this isn’t voted on by Congress. The OMB just fucking issues it. Pressuring your elected officials into publicly saying “hey what the fuck are you doing here” is good, though.

[mikkeneko]

Please note the comment period is open through JULY 13th, not JUNE 13th. I saw a lot of relogs yesterday saying "last day!" and I just want to say it is very much not too late.

[grison-in-space]

As of today, 7/8/26, we have five days for public commentary on this to go through. I am begging y'all: if you care about independent science in the country that produces the most global science funding in the world, please leave a comment.

[aspec-mafia-official]

Anyone who is able, please comment on this. This regulation would have massive negative impacts on both trans and queer people and scientific research as a whole in the US.

[neptune-scythe]

shout-out to all the aspecs who's orientation is because of trauma

shout-out to all the loveless and heartless folks who became that way because of trauma

shout-out to all the queer people who's queerness is tied to trauma

shout-out to everyone who lost some part of themselves or changed fundamentally because of something that happened to them

shout-out to everyone with anger and resentment for losing things about themself or for being changed beyond their control

shout-out to everyone who carries the grief of what they used to be along with the joy of who they are now

[some-kind-of-robot]

Sometimes you'll see a character that's not canonically aromantic but when you see them shipped with another character you think "ok this feels like aro erasure"

[bellugawale]

Fuck you calling qpr ships 'romance lite' i don't care if they're fucking, not fucking, kissing, playing board games, whatever, because guess what the nature of qprs is that there ISNT a standard, qprs can be whatever the fuck the recipients want it to be!!!!

[some-kind-of-robot]

Sometimes you'll see a character that's not canonically aromantic but when you see them shipped with another character you think "ok this feels like aro erasure"

[feralboo-the-weirdo]

I think one of the wildest parts about discovering you're asexual is realizing almost everyone else isn't.

[hiveswap]

you guys would actually date your favourite characters? ngl i always gag a little thinking about that as a concept

[voscra]

ACE PRIDE!!! I survived the last episode and heat and can finally draw again.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

do you guys like remember when I made that post about how I hate sharing beds and people were like fr sending me anons going like "you need to STOP spreading this DANGEROUS MISINFORMATION about BEING AROMANTIC... many of us are TOTALLY NORMAL and LOVE TO SHARE BEDS and CUDDLE like NORMAL FUCKING PEOPLE you are just a MEAN FREAK and you're making us all look BAD" like what the fuck was that

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

oh well I'm aro so everything I say reflects on The Community lmao

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

everyone responding to this who isn't aro but also hates sharing their sleeping space you are so brave and I will fight alongside you in this stupid war forever

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

and also other aro people who are specifically talking about being touch repulsed and don't want anyone in their bubble ever, bed or otherwise, that's not my particular bag but we're all in this together on Team Stay Out Of My Bed

[aspec-mafia-official]

People are allowed to like or dislike anything disregarding their romantic (or even sexual) attraction. Because surprise surprise, aromantic people are, well, people.

[magicalshopping]

♡ Ace Pride Bubble Tea Sticker by Jelly Parade ♡

[a-little-revolution]

what part of disability activism do u wish queer people knew/engaged in more?

Gosh, so much -

I wish they would include real accessibility when creating their "safe spaces". Dismantling social structures needs to be accompanied by breaking down physical barriers - you can't preach acceptance and equality past a flight of stairs. You can't say "all are welcome" when not all can enter the space and move about it freely.

(It is truly so devastating to enter a space that is suppose to be all about love and acceptance, and still feel strange and unwelcome. So many queers in my area don't even know how to Talk about my disability, let alone accommodate for it)

I wish they would read up more on disabled history and teachings, because they'll discover a plethora of transferable knowledge. For many (white, abled) people, coming into their queerness or trans-ness is their first introduction to medical rights, cure vs. care, public access and visibility, marriage rights, anti-sterilization, and more. But these issues are at the core of the disabled experience, especially for those born disabled (and poc), and our knowledge is vast, developed, and transferable.

(If you are unfamiliar with "nothing about us without us", the crip crawl, the social model, or the curb cut effect, you've not even covered Disability 101)

I wish for kinky queers to learn from kinky disabled folks! They make up such a large portion of the kink community, as the culture allows for so many assistive devices, tools, suspension, unique positions, and breaking down the many ways people can have sex! There are so many sexual educators who are disabled, and they have such valuable knowledge!

I wish queer people could invest as much time and energy celebrating July (Disability Pride Month) as they do June (Queer Pride Month). Be outraged that we still can't get married without losing our medical coverage! Celebrate the disabled folks in your life! Spread awareness and boost disabled educators, activists, and artists!!

Elliot (they/she)

[green-is-gay]

i dont WANT pride months to be over,

on the other hand...

[liebelesbe]

june is over... goodbye pride month, hello disability pride month!!

[liebelesbe]

let's all be disabled this month... together 🤝

[liebelesbe]

if you're not disabled yet: no need to worry! i can help. come closer.

[aspec-mafia-official]

How are y'all feeling at the end of pride month?

[blanklier]

a little late in pride month but since the joke came up: happy pride to my fellow triple a threats

[serregon]

I know we make jokes about the proverbial asexual pervert who has written hundreds of thousands of words of smut on ao3, but also shoutout to the aces who aren’t perverts. to the aces who skip the sex scenes and wince at sex jokes and awkwardly leave the conversation when your friends start talking about sex. your boundaries aren’t childish and fuck anyone who says otherwise.