SFW ALPHABET HEADCANONS FOR…
Also for my sake assume that you live in the universe of Minecraft
A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?)
Derek isn’t very affectionate if I’m honest
He’s completely fine with his partner being clingy and wanting love, he enjoys it and will comply, but he doesn’t find himself craving it all that often. It’s usually up to you to initiate things like cuddling and such.
When he does want it, it’s usually in tiny ways like holding your hand or sitting so that your legs are pressed together. Nothing really major, but it does it for him.
B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?)
Part of me wants to say it was kinda difficult to become friends with him not because he didn’t want to befriend you but because he’s always off on his own adventures and nobody knows where he goes. Think of Sebastian from Stardew Valley and how he’s basically impossible to befriend until you actually get to enter his room where he’s guaranteed to be.
C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?)
Do not take this to heart but I imagine the first few times you request to cuddle he will end up rejecting you because he doesn’t want to take off his armor.
He loves you a lot—he wouldn’t be dating you if he didn’t—but his armor is his safe space (as weird as that probably sounds). He’d feel incredibly vulnerable if he didn’t have it on but he knows it’d be uncomfortable to cuddle, so his compromise is to just not cuddle at all.
If you do manage to make him feel safe enough to cuddle, I think he’d enjoy positions where you are basically all over him. You literally laying on him, him being the little spoon, just any position where he feels protected.
D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)
I doubt he’d be in a rush to move in with you but he’s definitely ready by the time you are. Derek would prefer it if you moved in with him rather than him moving in with you or you two buying a whole new house, but he can be talked into another option if you’re not alright with that.
He’s ASS at cooking. He lives off of granola bars and packaged foods, do not let him cook for you if you want something actually good. He’s alright with cleaning, though he doesn’t make much of a mess in the first place. Honestly it’s as though he’s not even living with you!
E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?)
Very clean and simple break ups are what he goes for. He does it in person to make it clear that the break up is definite and also guarantee any questions you have are answered.
He feels bad, obviously, but he doesn’t want to keep the two of you trapped in a relationship that isn’t working out. He’s not the type to go back to someone after a breakup either so once it’s done, it’s done.
F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?)
He’s already committed by the time you’re dating but he takes his time with proposing. It’s just not a priority of his. If it isn’t a priority for you either you might just never get married! To him it’s just a piece of paper and an event. A nice piece of paper and event, but they aren’t necessary at the end of the day.
He’d propose in a very quiet manner. He doesn’t make a big deal out of it as he leans in and asks if you’ll marry him. Hell, if it’s not important to you, he may not even have a ring!
G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?)
Despite his appearance he is a very gentle man. He’s always hyper aware of how tight he might be holding you and makes sure to handle you with care. Sometimes you feel like a package with fragile written all over it.
He has a lot more grace for you than he does for himself when it comes to emotions. You can mess up as much as you’d like, he’ll still treat you so good. If he messes up though, he may as well be dead. Sometimes he may lash out at you because he’s been annoyed or frustrated by something and suddenly he’s the worst person on earth. If you did it, though, he totally gets it.
H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?)
Much like cuddling, he’d refuse hugs a lot. He won’t shove you off of him if you do hug him, but he feels awkward. He’s so scared that his cold, hard armor is gonna pinch or scratch you somehow that he refuses to initiate.
Hugging him without his armor on is nice, though! He’s warm underneath that second skin of his and he’s very comfortable to lean into.
I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?)
I think he’d be too nervous to be the first to say it. Please tell him you love him first otherwise neither of you are gonna hear it from the other.
He’s just scared of rushing you. Once you give him the green light by saying it first, he says it very often.
J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?)
Derek does not get jealous. You’re probably expecting me to come out and say “however…” but I’m not! Derek is very aware of how amazing you are and isn’t surprised when people try to flirt with you, but he trusts that you won’t cheat on him at all. Other people can be annoying, yes, but he knows you love him so why would he be jealous?
Just to satiate you though (because who doesn’t want a hot man being jealous?), he’s not ashamed of his jealousy. He’s very willing to tell someone to back off when he needs to and he’s proud of himself afterwards.
K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?)
Derek’s kisses are quick and sweet. He’s not against making out with you but he likes the butterflies little pecks give him. However, as easy as these kisses are, it can be a little awkward with his helmet on. He has to press both of your faces against the cold metal just to give you a kiss.
His favorite place to kiss you is on the cheek! Some may say it’s overrated but he enjoys it!
He doesn’t have a specific place he’d like for you to kiss him, he thinks all of your kisses are good. He does find it cute when you kiss his bicep or shoulder, though!
L = Little ones (How are they around children?)
Derek is a fucking LOSER around kids. Much like with you, he’s way too scared of his armor somehow pinching their fragile skin, but it’s even worse with kids because take one look at any kid you know and tell me they wouldn’t be curious and trying to hang off of him.
If the two of you are, say, babysitting, you will be doing all of the work unfortunately. He is just horrible around them.
M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)
Mornings are very slow. He’s very hesitant to get out of bed, away from the warmth that you and the blanket provide for him. Try all you’d like, it’s impossible to get him up before 10 AM
N = Night (How are nights spent with them?)
Nights are usually quiet. He’ll have a book open and he’ll have a cup of water and that’s how you’ll know he’s ready to settle down for the night. Unfortunately though, much like mornings, he is very stubborn and stays up later than he probably should to continue his reading.
O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?)
Oh yeah good luck he’s not opening up for SHIT
He’s terrified that you might think he’s insane or a liar and decide to hate him, or worse; pity him. He knows you don’t mean to make him feel pitiful, but it tends to happen anyways.
He feels horrible for keeping quiet, I promise, but he’d much rather have you blissfully unaware than anything else. He will do anything to keep you smiling and happy, even if it means having to suffer on his own for the rest of time.
P = Patience (How easily angered are they?)
Derek is the type of guy to believe he’s patient when he really is not. A false nonchalant, if you will.
It’s not like he blows up on you when he does lose his patience though! He tends to just stay quietly frustrated unless whatever it is you’re doing is putting yourself in danger. Depending on who you are, that might be worse than him raising his voice, though.
Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?)
Derek has trouble remembering incredibly specific details, it’s just a thing that happens when the human brain is overloaded with all the knowledge in the universe. Seriously, there’s no way he REALLY knows everything. It’s all floating in there but his brain blocks out a lot of it.
It’s not like he wants to forget things about you, though, and he does his best to remember as much as possible. He’ll write down small reminders on things like your favorite foods, trinkets, and other such things. Be patient with him if you ask about something he hasn’t written down, it may take his brain a second to search for what you want.
R = Remember (What is their favorite moment in your relationship?)
The first time you ever said you loved him is one of the few moments he will always vividly remember.
It wasn’t like he didn’t know you loved him, you had to love him if you were willing to put up with him, but it was still a magical moment. The way you said it, the way you looked at him as you said it, all of it was burned into his heart the second it happened. He was very quick to say it back and the way you chuckled at him made him so happy that this—what you both have—is real.
S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?)
He may not be very obvious with it, but he is incredibly protective over you. He is on high alert any time you enter a potentially dangerous scenario, which, depending on who you are, can happen quite often.
If he lost you he wouldn’t know what to do with his life. You are literally the only thing he has.
He doesn’t think he needs any protecting. He has brains, he has brawn, why would he need to be protected by you? It just doesn’t make sense to him. You shouldn’t spend any of your energy trying to keep him safe.
T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?)
He puts a good amount of effort into everything he does for you! He does his best to remember important dates and anniversaries, setting multiple reminders up and constantly checking the calendar just in case he did forget. The last thing he wants is for you to feel unloved, so he will do whatever he can to make sure you know he’s trying his hardest.
U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)
As mentioned earlier, he doesn’t think he’s worth protecting. It’s not like he’s insecure or anything, he just thinks your energy would be wasted on him. It takes a while to convince him to let you take care of him and even then he tries his hardest to decline all the love and care you give him, suggesting you do other things instead. It can be frustrating, but I think you can handle it.
V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?)
He isn’t the most concerned with his looks. He likes to make sure he doesn’t look horrible, but don’t expect much from him. He actually gets a little embarrassed when he has to spruce himself up for dates and stuff, he doesn’t wanna seem like he’s an egotistical jerk!
Says the guy wearing gold armor btw.
W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)
I mentioned this earlier but you are the only thing he’s got going for him. Please don’t leave or die or do anything that would cause him to lose you.
It can be suffocating at times, honestly. Imagine being one of the only reasons a guy hasn’t fallen into madness, that’s gotta be stressful for you.
X = Xtra (A random headcanon for them.)
His hands are very calloused and warm. You don’t see them very often because of how he dresses, but he does very much enjoy hand massages and can fall asleep if you give him one.
Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)
Someone intentionally ignorant or someone that acts oblivious can get on his nerves. I know some of you like to act cute and stuff but he finds the whole “stupid” act annoying.
He also doesn’t like people that are just plain stupid, even if it isn’t an act. He doesn’t expect you to have every formula of math memorized and he doesn’t expect you to know tons of old, long words, but he does want someone at least somewhat knowledgeable.
Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habits of theirs?)
He has a sleeping habit of not sleeping at all. It feels like the only time this man sleeps is when you literally drag him to bed or when he passes out. It can be frustrating when all you want to do is cuddle or even sit in bed with him and he’s just up doing who knows what.
