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Theres one line in the books (i forget where, i gave my copies back to the library) where Murderbot says something along the lines of "ARTs reply doesnt translate to human words, but trust me that it was very rude"
And it has convinced me that they cuss each other out using archaic malware attacks
Consider:
Or possibly:
Or perhaps even:
My mother is all into homesteading and off-grid living videos right now. Every time I check up on her, this is what she wants to talk about.
It gives her a sense of peace and purpose I guess. Which is good, sheās been struggling to find that with her injuries and condition. Sheās learning skills, and feeling prepared for āthe worstā. Like I canāt get her to stop watching conspiracy theory bullshit on YouTube so at least this kind of content alleviates some of the anxiety the other content amplifies, because she feels like she can do something now to secure her safety later.
But to get through these conversations, I have to tell myselfā hey, if natural disaster comes our way, some of this might be useful. But I know sheās not just thinking a big storm or natural disaster. Sheās preparing for the collapse of society. And I donāt know how to break it to her that we wouldnāt survive that. You can make long lasting candles with crisco? Cool. Where you going to by crisco when society collapses? Youāll stock up now? Ok cool. What will you do when it runs out? Honestly, before it runs out, what will you do when people with guns come to take your various stockpiled supplies?
If we hit a point where society collapses, weāre done for. Food, medicine, etc. we canāt survive without society, without a world where people are working together trying to help each other out.
So, Iāll go through with this shit in the name of natural disaster preparedness, and because it helps her. But thatās as far as Iām willing to put energy into it. I refuse to prepare for, bet on, or hope for the collapse of society. Iād rather spend my energy trying to prevent society collapsing, what little part I can play in that. Iād rather spend my energy supporting people in my community. Iād rather work and build towards a better future, not prepare for the worst.
OP, if your mother is physically able to do the following, I strongly suggest it:
Get her into a fibercraft. Sewing, knit, crochet. Because hereās the thing:
At first, you can pitch it as āweāre all still gonna need clothes and these idiots with their doomsday bunkers canāt even thread a needle.ā But after awhileālet this take a bit of time, not so long that she gets bored but long enough that sheās like āIāve DONE this alreadyāāintroduce her to a slightly more advanced concept. She was practicing on circle skirts? Check out how to make darts. Crochet blankets? There are SO MANY cool stitches.
And then when the craft has a decent grip as a hobbyā¦.THEN you introduce her to a crafting social group.
One of the best ways to stop people falling down a conspiracy theory rabbit hole is to make sure they have active and diverse community, and being able to make tangible things has been shown to have a positive influence on mental health. If cost is a concern, I literally have spare crochet hooks I could send you to get her started and all Iād ask for them is cost of postage, which is like. Maybe three bucks. You can even find halfway decent yarn at the dollar store now. Itās not amazingly high quality, but itās good enough for practice and learning.
I cannot recommend the above enough. My dad is a prepper and was falling in with a militia. Like the white supremacy militias.
So I started casually mentioning i wanted to do Search and Rescue- knowing my father is incredibly competitive and will try and out do me.
I was all "but we can't rely on the government to find people!"
Now he has been on 6 different tours in the US. He is a field commander and the most successful in state history.
He independently made a partnership with a Black and Missing coalition and partners with them on searches for Black Ohio and.
He called me the other day so proud he has " a Trans and a nonbinary whatever that is" on his search team. So is he perfect? No. But now he isn't toting a gun around and threatening people.
He's getting better. Sure he built a secret bunker in the basement. But he's recovered multiple bodies and reunited people with loved ones.
Sure we still can't have a conversation without him divulging into some bigoted speak here and there.
But he's been lead in recovering teens trafficked from our state and successfully recovered them in Georgia in 10 hours.
Sure he isn't perfect. But he didn't fall completely and maybe he will become even better on his own.
The secret is: is they aren't going to become themselves again but you can help them not crumble completely. You can still have your parent even if they are a bit.. ahhhh.... hurtful. But they aren't hurting anyone and that's the important part.
We are what we become. So help people become in a good direction.
Part of the reason people (particularly white people) of a certain age fall down the doomsday preparation hole into conspiracy theorist is
there is very little community for non-churchgoing white folks.
There is such a push in white culture to get your kids out the door and settled in their own home after you've raised them nearly exclusively alone for 20 years. Your work friends are your work friends. You retire and they don't see you anymore.
You don't go to church? All of the church groups don't see you.
Because the prevalent culture among white people is go it alone. If you're lucky and not divorced, you get your partner, but usually the go it alone is so pervasive that even working as a team with one other person is usually too hard, not to mention the stress of only having one person and how you have no place to vent about that person when needed (and everyone sometimes needs to vent about their loved ones no matter how good the relationship.)
So you get to this place where your culture has led you and you have grown-up kids, no spouse, no friends, and a whole lot of undefinable resentment about your life that you're not supposed to feel.
And this person on youtube comes along and says "Fuck them all, society will collapse any day now."
And you nod along in agreement.
But if you have a hobby, and start making friends from that hobby?
Suddenly that support system vents all of those icky building resentments and you can depend on people and make friends and have relationships and the world doesn't feel so bad.
Honestly, white culture takes a pack animal and puts it in a cage alone and then wonders why so many white people are miserable, racist pricks.
I highly recommend amateur radio as another community-building hobby. My Dad has been involved in it for decades, and heās told me about the various right wing prepper types who join the chats and slowly become better people.
People who are isolated and alone are a lot more likely to assume that nobody is helping anybody, and that society will collapse and nobody will help them. That has predictable emotional fallout, which has predictable behavioral impacts.
I realize I was already here, but since people have added SO MUCH good stuff (seriously you guys this is one time when you should definitely read the notes), I want to add something important I've been saying a lot lately that relates to many of those wonderful notes:
"Neighbor" is a verb.
A neighbor is not something you are. Neighboring is something you do.
The guy next door to you is a crabby old fuck and you don't even know his name, but it snowed last night and he uses a cane? Shovel his sidewalk. Neighbor.
The people across the street had multiple police cars with lights on at their house last night? Take a casserole over and say you don't know what happened but you worried about them. Neighbor. If you want to level up here, a lot of people don't know the Dish Return Etiquette anymore (I have permanently lost my three-quart pot to this and I'm sad about it), so go to Goodwill and pick up some cheap plates/casserole dishes/etc. to use specifically for this purpose. If it never comes back, well, you've also given them a dish they needed. Neighbor.
There's trash on your street? Get a grabber and some trash bags. I did this on a particularly nasty corner along my commute and lo and behold people who are not me are now trying to keep it cleaner. Neighbor.
Whenever I help someone and they ask how to pay me back, I always say the same thing: "someday, things will be better for you. And you'll be in exactly the right place at exactly the right time with exactly the right resources to help someone. When that day comes, help, and ask the same payment of them that I'm asking of you."
Get those conspiracy folks into neighboring--but know that means you have to neighbor, too.
Claude Monet in shades of purple | āEveryday I discover more and more beautiful things. I have such a desire to do everything, my head is bursting with it.ā Claude Monet
Perfection
Heās like, āWe were prepared for everything except the goddamn poodles.ā
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I needed that today.
recently came across some plates and bowls that would be perfect for a children's hospital
ONE
SINGLE
JOKE
*weeps uncontrollably at 9 o'clock in the morning*
God, I love randos on the internet who just want to be kind.
weirdest part of being an adult is the fact that you can put off watching a movie for nearly a decade and barely notice
Sherlock Holmes having a universal ace experience -- expressing disinterest and immediately getting called an inhuman robot.
#images#sherlock holmes#sorry i don't turn rabid and marry the prettiest girl in sight at the push of a button my dear watson
Watson is like "of course I proposed marriage to a girl I met two days ago, I'm normal and make rational decisions"
#I read this part just the other day#He literally proposes within two days itās crazy
Every Sherlock Holmes remake that tries to make Watson the straight man does him a great injustice. Mfer is a total madlad. Everyone's like "oh he's not addicted to hard drugs and doesn't do chemistry experiments in his bedroom for fun" there are subtler ways to be completely unhinged.
The thing is, Watson may or may not instigate the Situations & Shenanigans, but he voluntarily spends most of his Sherlock Holmes, who DOES!
āāNormalāā people do not do that.
Watson will show up at Holmes' place and be like "are you doing any investigations of super weird shit today" and Holmes will be like "yes I am cornering this dangerous mass murderer, you should come and bring your gun in case anyone tries to shoot us" and Watson will do it without question, thinking "I'm so glad he's got something wholesome to distract himself with so he doesn't take more cocaine".
Ok I have to share the horror. Going to try and put it under a cut for anyone who doesnāt like topics of vomit or unexpected things in your mouth.
I can now say a truely horrifying sensation I never thought of, has happened to me.
My tooth brush fell apart in my mouth while I was brushing my teeth in the shower.
My mouth filled with bristles which feel like tiny insect legs and I proceeded to have my body try to throw up everything Iāve ever eaten- as I havenāt eaten yet today it was bile, the water Iāve drunk today and tooth brush bristles.
Bending over in the shower had the water hit my back and bounce out of the shower and soak the floor and cupboard that is at the end of our over bath shower.
I feel the universe could have found a nicer, less traumatising way of telling me to buy new tooth brushes and to mop the bathroom floor!! š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤·š»āāļøš¤¦š»āāļø
Iām now focusing on ANYTHING else so I stop gagging š
I feel I have a new found (un)appreciation of having reflux. The taste and sensation suck a LOT!
Anyway, this is your friendly neighbourhood reminder to regularly change your tooth brush and if you have a time blind brain like mine, put a regular 3-6 month reminder in your phone.
š¤·š»āāļø if I know how often I should replace my tooth brush. I have an electric one that I replace the heads on a 3-4 monthly basis, a regular tooth brush on the bench and one in the shower. So anyone tooth brush gets used approx a third of the amount of someone that only has one toothbrush.
nothing on this god's green earth can convince me that peter parker doesn't have an ao3 account where he is elbows deep in a 'rise of skywalker' fix-it fic. like, fully invested in it, been writing it pre-spider bite with ned, who is just as enthusiastic about it. but the thing is, it's really hard to do updates when you are literally spider-man.
every three months he'll post and in the author's note there's some shit like "sorry this took a while, i got shot seven times :/" or "i know it's been a minute, i literally got hit by a bus and then stabbed in the leg, but i'm all good!" or sometimes ned would log in and post with a note "hey i'm a friend posting on the author's behalf, they're healing from severe hypothermia but promised an update, so here it is!"
and the fic just gets increasingly more popular for the author notes alone. a good handful of the comments are something along the lines of "i'm not even in the star wars fandom, i'm just here to see if the author is good" or "every update i cheer for another day the author gets to live at this point"
and any reader who is a native new yorker kind of pieces together that holy shit the author might be spider-man because the timeline adds up, and they just fully embrace it. spider-man will stop a robbery and the guy behind the counter will ask when the next chapter will be up. spider-man returns a stolen backpack to a girl and she'll tell him that he "really got poe's voice down so well, it's really impressive."
ned thinks it is hilarious. mj finds out about the fic from twitter, to peter's absolute horror, and changes peter's contact name to "friendly neighborhood ao3 author". but the worst thing to happen is after an avengers battle where peter took a pretty big hit and ends up in med-bay. and during a press conference, when someone asks how spider-man is healing, tony just drops "spidey won't be down for too long. the star wars fic will be updated within the week, probably."
ao3 goes down for two days.
Op your brain. You are 1 million percent correct. This is canon.
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I love funky wildlife services. I aspire to be as funky and know as much about wildlife
Important information for writers who arenāt British but like to try to sound British in their British-y fanfictionĀ
āYou need teaā - you are having, or just had, a medical emergency. This tea will have like 3 sugars and milk in no matter how you normally take your tea.
When I gave birth they kept bringing me cups of very sweet tea until I drank one
Even when covered in blood and being stitched up
āDo you want some tea?ā Iāve something to say and Iām nervous about it
āDo you want some tea?ā
Iāve something to say and Iām
nervous about it
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
āIāll put the kettle on.ā Iy has been the longest, hardest, and most physically/emotionally draining day of our lives, tea is non-negotiable.
{ID - tweet from @/nickocdw reads: British Tea Translator
āCup of tea?ā Welcoming a guest. āTea?ā I find this situation awkward. āSpot of tea?ā A foreign guest has activated Hyper-English, Mary Poppins mode. āPot of tea?ā Trying to impress in-laws. āIāll make some tea.ā There has been complete devastation.
END ID}
āIāll just put the kettle on, shall I?ā = I will leave the room so you can dry your eyes / put yourself together / hide the sex toys / dispose of the body.
*in glaswegian accent* yer teaās oot
= youāre about to get such a kicking
This is an awesome use of what is probably a master's degree if not a doctorate and I am 100% thrilled that she shared it even though it was embarrassing and she squeaked.
She said her P.h.D. is in it, so.....yeah....I think that's doctorate
