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@autogyn-ophelia
i wish androphobia in queer communities was real. tired of these mfs
instead every conversation has to include men and center their perspectives or we’re TRFs or baeddals or misandrists. we have to gentle parent them through their misogyny, if they allow us to talk about it at all without getting upset
you’re mommy’s little passoid aren’t you? you would never get misgendered at the DMV
One of my peeves with transandrodorks is that they'll see trans women talk about things that happen to trans women and assume that they're being erased since we're not talking about trans men. As if we're Big Media. As if we're Society. As if we're The New Show and we didn't include a single trans man blorbo. TMRAs literally do not see us as people discussing our own lives, they see us as a Platform. No wonder they have an insatiable need talk over us.
Princess girls and Puppygirls are both different manifestations of wanting to be loved in a way you haven't felt without having to kill yourself to earn it.
"Villainess" princess girls on the other hand can't accept they actually deserve that love or admit that they need is so they dress it up as something they are taking from you.
Cat girls want to be loved but don't want to be overwhelmed
Knight girls and maid girls are convinced they have to earn the love they're missing by becoming essential to someone else.
Being raised with the expectation that we would perform masculinity left us all with a hole in our hearts that nobody taught us to patch and we're doing the best we can.
I love you, trans women.
I need you to not make a post where a trans woman is talking about trans women's experiences about you. I need you to just not fucking do that for once. Can you just fucking not.
Transmascs I need you to recognize that things can just not be about you sometimes. I promise you will survive letting trans women have literally anything without you shoving your nose in.
idc. being trans requires actually wanting to transition. if you identify as trans but constantly assert your state assigned gender as an important part of your identity then you're either needing to work through a lot of internalized transphobia or you're just fucking cis
another day another humiliation ritual
trans men actually have a lot of visibility you just gotta look into any issue affecting exclusively or primarily trans women and you'll see that people loooove platforming trans men when it's at the expense of trans women which to be fair does seem to be their preference a lot of the time but it's fucking surreal and bizarre, like
court decision defending specifically transfems being excluded from from playing on women's teams? no transfems interviewed but here's some trans men we interviewed one of whom just wants to push his new book
panel on the transfem experience? no transfems speaking on it but here's three trans men larping as experts one of whom is just detailing his fetishistic fantasies about them with open contempt for transfem lesbians in particular
in the face of all the backlash against letting trans women play sports with other women, here's a story about a women's team letting a trans athlete on the team! no, trans women still can't play with other women, this is a trans man and we interviewed him while we and he and everyone else pretended it was a progressive cultural victory
hey OP I understand you are upset about the US women's sport shit and as a transfem woman myself I Get It, but can you not start a fucking fight with our brothers??????? Is that like chill with you?????????? We already have people that want us dead maybe don't do their work for them???????????????????? Not even joking this is some bootlicking CIA plant type shit.
hi sorry i'm just a stupid tranny can you answer a couple of questions for me so I can understand
so first! can you explain to me how a neutral reaction to something that frequently happens and continues to happen "starting" anything let alone "a fucking fight"
and second question, why do the trans men getting to speak over us about issues specifically targeting us who use the opportunity to push their book or present their sexual fantasies and contempt for us get to be our """brothers""" but when I so much as simply mention the indisputable fact that these are things that have happened I am a "bootlicking CIA plant"
looping back to the original point, let's not forget that SciShow had a trans man talk about feminising hormones and got it way wrong, because no trans women were consulted. you know, on the hormones that are primarily taken by trans women.
So a trans guy friend came over to my house for dinner last week. Somehow we got onto the subject of public toilets and bathroom bans, and I made the point that back in 2010-2011, when I co-founded a feminist society/pressure group at University in London, desegregation was basically our main policy position.
And this was not unusual for feminist groups at that time. There was a sense that we were close to the end of a century-long struggle to desegregate society: Universities and most schools were now mixed (my own former school had just become co-ed at this point), youth groups like the Scout Association had recently made it mandatory for all groups to admit girls, there was growing public pressure on men-only spaces like The Garrick Club to admit women, most modern swimming pools had co-ed changing facilities, and gender-neutral bathrooms were starting to become more common.
One of our campaigns was to make all bathrooms in the Students' Union building gender neutral. In the end this failed because of pressure from a group of (white, wealthy, English) men in the Conservative society who insisted that sharing bathrooms with women violated their devout Christian beliefs - they weren't even Christian actually but they managed to spook the lawyers enough in light of the recent Equality Act.
We also frequently discussed desegregating sports - it was widely understood by our (pretty much entirely cis women) members that sex-segregation was a misogynist project that resulted principally in women being paid less. The long mission to get equal prize money at Wimbledon had been won only a few years earlier, and there was pressure on other sports to follow suit. Now we were discussing introducing mixed-gender University sports teams to play competitively.
Bear in mind that the issue of trans women basically never came up in these discussions (mainly due to ignorance: the only reference to trans women I had ever encountered at this point was Ace Ventura). It was principally a matter of desegregation as a moral position that positioned the logic of segregation as part of the systemic oppression of women. The fact that it was right-wing men who were the ones objecting to desegregated toilets (something that has been true throughout the history of toilet segregation) just solidified this point.
Anyway, I gave all this as context to my trans guy friend to explain why I felt frustrated at recent attempts to paint bathroom bans as a win for feminism. That it's depressing to see the feminist activism of 15 years ago sacrificed on the altar of transmisogyny.
This guy has been medically transitioning for a little over a year, and has been discovering feminism in that time too. He recently learned about things like the gender pay gap, and will try to explain it to me like he thinks it's news to me. The gendered nature of domestic abuse is also a favourite topic of his. Before he transitioned, back when he referred to himself as a woman, he tended to take a more liberal normie "men and women are equally oppressed by gender expectations, just let everyone do what they want" line, but tbf we didn't talk about feminism much back then anyway.
The combination of being an early-transition trans guy who is also learning baby's first feminism can be a really dangerous one. He is only now discovering how much he has suffered at the hands of this form of oppression called "misogyny", but at the same time he is a man. He is reading all this literature that positions "men" as the oppressor but also positions people like himself as the oppressed. The easiest way for him to resolve this conflict is to mentally transpose "men" with "AMABs" and "women" with "AFABs", even if he's not aware that's what's happening in his brain.
So in response to my frustration with bathroom bans he starts saying all this stuff about women's reasonable concerns about male violence, how it's difficult to balance the various needs of different groups, how trans men are "obviously" not a threat to women so they should clearly be allowed to use women's toilets. He views the existence of trans women as a spanner in the works of an otherwise rational system with cis men on one side and AFABs on the other.
I try to point out that toilet segregation is actually a real concrete problem for me, the flesh-and-blood person in front of him who he has been friends with for years. That I am risking violence no matter which toilet I use, no matter what clothes I'm in, no matter whether I'm wearing make-up or not. If I use the women's I will get harassed for sure. If I use the men's I have a high chance of being assaulted. His only response is that he also is nervous about using the women's because after a year on T he already passes for cis in nearly all situations. The idea that he should just use the men's since he's a man who looks like a man gets a blank look from him: why should he not be able to use the women's, he's experienced "AFAB oppression" too, hasn't he?
By this point I'm getting quite frustrated. We're talking about feminism as a leftwing movement and I bring up the kind of socialist guy we all know well who says stuff like "misogyny isn't really a priority for me". He hasn't really been listening but he hears me quote this hypothetical man and assumes I'm saying it in earnest. "Did you say misogyny isnt a priority for you?"
Suddenly I, the woman who has been involved in feminist activism for 15 years, am having to defend myself against accusations of misogynist bigotry from a man who discovered feminism a year ago because he decided to not bother listening to what a woman was saying until it was something that sounded incriminating as a soundbite.
At this point I sigh and put my head on the table, exhausted of trying to explain this to him. Later he messages to say that the way I behaved made him feel really shit about himself, like sighing is the rudest thing he's ever heard. I apologise for sighing and go and wash up the dishes from the meal I cooked for him. He goes home and thinks about his innate connection to womanhood.
I used to be a passionate advocate for transmasc lesbians. My logic was this: lesbianism is a social culture that is defined not by rigid boundaries but by a shared language, in-jokes, memes, signifiers, etc etc. I argued that even a cis man could be a lesbian in theory (but that if "he" is there is definitely something queer going on with "his" gender so "cis man" is probably not the most apt descriptor). I pointed to other examples of queer words whose meaning has changed over time (e.g. "bisexual") to indicate that there is no need to insist on WLW as a definition (or its "non-men" equivalent) even as the reality of the use of the word "lesbian" is shifting right before our eyes. I took a descriptivist approach to "lesbian"="whoever calls themselves a lesbian".
But in all my activity along this line, I never even noticed that not a single transmasc lesbian (nor cis lesbian) had ever reached out to me to say "you are welcome in our community". I was putting in all this work to advocate for a group of people who didn't even want me around, and there is no way in hell they'd put in the same effort for me. I was doing the intellectual work of justifying the inclusion of a group that benefitted from my exclusion.
I think that when I realised that this was happening was when materialism really clicked for me. Who actually is excluded from lesbian spaces? Who actually needs help being included? Who doesn't need that help because they are already included? For all I heard online about the demonisation of transmasculinity, you can't move for transmascs of all stripes in my local lesbian scene, while there are maybe one or two transfems willing to put up with the indignity of how they are treated there.
My views on transmasc lesbians haven't really changed, I still agree with all that in principle. The thing that has changed is I no longer spend time and energy advocating for a group of people who will accept my advocacy only to slam the door in my face.
one group can choose when they're men and when they're pure innocent "afabs" on their own and i don't get to choose when i'm a woman and when i'm the evil predatory "amab". everyone else gets to choose for me
Non-passing trans men out here like white people going "Just got a tan, and a little kid gave me a weird look. So I know exactly how racism feels now. Yeah now I'm racialized. Race is all about social perception."
Except somebody thought they were a trans woman and looked at them funny in the woman's bathroom, so now they think they're TMA and understand transfeminism better than actual trans women who they refuse to listen to and constantly talk over.
TME people love acting like 'TME' isn't a category that consists of around 99.6% of the earth's population
transmisogynistic transmascs are so funny when they say shit like "these evil trans girls doing forcefem encourages transmascs to detransition" because it's not only untrue but just complete terfesque projection. nobody wants transmascs to detransition more than transmascs and it shows with the way so many of y'all are so determined to cling to your cagab and be perceived as women who are pretending to be men 🤷🏿♀️
I may feel like super brick man 64, but if you fuck me so good the guy voice comes out, don't you dare stop when I start crying
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