going to therapy is so humiliating. gotta explain symptoms like I know how this sounds and I know what you’re gonna say. and the therapist is like it sounds like you’re having symptoms
it's always the fucking symptoms
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going to therapy is so humiliating. gotta explain symptoms like I know how this sounds and I know what you’re gonna say. and the therapist is like it sounds like you’re having symptoms
it's always the fucking symptoms
why do so many animated hugs look like the coldest, most uncomfortable embraces ever?
two people in a cartoon: *hug*
me:
Meanwhile, Stuido Ghibli:
now THATS a hug!!! look at the movement!! look at the the arms and the closeness!!!!!
Can we make this a Studio Ghibli hugs appreciation post?
Like this one! The joy!! The pure happiness and delight!!!
yes yes yes
Seriously though like, I missed the boat on this whole radical honesty thing. I guess everyone wants to be true to themselves now? That’s…great…but like you’re really only ever going to meet a select few people you can be totally honest with about everything. Lie to strangers! Lie to authorities! Like damn didn’t you have parents that told you never to tell people on the phone that you were home alone? When the interviewer asks if you ever experimented with drugs, you say no! This is not a therapy session! He’s got no business asking you that anyway! Lots and lots of people are not entitled to your vulnerability. Damn.
I follow my grandmother’s rule: it’s only a lie if they have a right to know.
“It’s only a lie if they have a right to know.” !!!
Pssst… If you want to make someone feel awful for being nosy, make the lie super obvious.
This is how real change is made, through direct action.
sometimes change is made by a as many people as possible saying “i know i techincally cant stop you, but i can Not Help you and that will have Some Effect”
We’ve waited a year to reblog this. Happy Bread Anniversary!
Because it’s important to celebrate the little victories in life.
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can’t talk rn i’m doing hot girl shit
*dissociates*
Shoutout to Howl’s Moving Castle for nerfing a ton of my internalized ageism back when I was 13. Like, society saying I’ve gotta be young and beautiful is so much less compelling than seeing Sophie being “90″ and just getting to go absolutely feral.
A comic reassuring my friends and family that I'm not ghosting them because time simply does not exist.
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Wait, I might be dumb for asking this, but aren’t feminine men called dandies?
in like the late 18th to early 19th century Britian, “dandy” referred to men who paid a lot of attention to personal appearances. later on it referred to a handful of kinda playfully GNC artist guys, but I don’t think it’s ever been a universal term for all feminine men
also while I was double-checking my info i found this
which is just *chef’s kiss*
hail the motherfucking king
“Language is also a place of struggle. I was just a girl coming slowly into womanhood when I read Adrienne Rich’s words: “This is the oppressor’s language, yet I need to talk to you.” This language that enabled me to finish graduate school, to write a dissertation, to talk at job interviews, carries the scent of oppression. […] We are rooted in language, wedded, have our being in words. Language is also a place of struggle. The oppressed struggle in language to recover ourselves—to rewrite, to reconcile, to renew. Our words are not without meaning. They are an action—a resistance. Language is also a place of struggle. Dare I speak to oppressed and oppressor in the same voice? Dare I speak to you in a language that will take us away from the boundaries of domination, a language that will not fence you in, bind you, or hold you. Language is also a place of struggle. The oppressed struggle in language to read ourselves—to reunite, to reconcile, to renew. Our words are not without meaning. They are an action—a resistance. Language is also a place of struggle.”
— bell hooks, “On Self-Recovery,” in Talking Back: Thinking Feminist, Thinking Black (via sacredbathos)
I have a lot of feelings on how indigenous groups who didn’t build permanent structures like cities aren’t seen as being as sophisticated as ones who built large cities, without accounting for the fact that maybe it’s in our values systems to leave as light of a footprint as possible and it’s important that our structures are easily taken down or fade with the passage of time because it’s easier on the landscape, but ya know.
This made me think of the story one of my Coast Salish acquaintances tells of how her family would travel from the Puget Sound up Mt. Rainier every year and, sure, following herds but also they had berry bushes and trees and prairies (with camas is the one she always talks about but I’m sure other foods) that were in the care of specific families so they also followed the plants through the year. They cultivated and cared for them, not just coming to gather and move on to the unknown. They came back and to the same places, the same plants and trees every year.
I think a lot of people mistake what a huge connection that is to land and territory. They hear “nomadic” and dismiss it without realizing. It doesnt mean you dont have roots in the area. It means your roots are so ingrained in the area outsiders dont even see them there.
i’ve been on hold at my library for a book about asexuality for a few weeks and i just read an article about some concepts in the book re: consent. and holy shit. blew my mind. i’ve NEVER read about consent in the context of a relationship with an ace and an allo that resonated so strongly with me, and as a person in such a relationship!! it’s so!!! i’m even more excited for the book now.
for anyone interested, the article is How to Negotiate Better Consent: An Asexual Perspective and the book i’m waiting for is Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex.
god okay, just to gush about this more, the author suggests using the categories of enthusiastic, willing, unwilling and coerced consent (rather than just “enthusiastic consent” or “no means no”). i really recommend reading the whole article linked above, but what blew my mind is the distinction between enthusiastic and willing consent. it gets broken down like this:
Enthusiastic consent:
When I want you
When I don’t fear the consequences of saying yes OR saying no
When saying no means missing out on something I want
Willing consent:
When I care about you though I don’t desire you (right now)
When I’m pretty sure saying yes will have an okay result and I think maybe that I’d regret saying no
When I believe that desire may begin after I say yes
and like!!! it made me realize i may have never actually enthusiastically consented in my life, but like, that doesn’t mean i have never or cannot consent! i almost always fall into the “willing consent” framework and i’ve never seen that….validated anywhere. anyway, it’s just given me this perspective about my sexuality and consent in general and better ways to relate to my partner and!!! idk!!! thank goodness for other ace people, is what i’m saying.
This is very useful and a lot of sex work can also be best understood as willing consent, where the indirect consequences of having sex (getting paid) are what is desired and the direct consequences (having probably-mediocre sex with someone you don’t actively desire) are not considered so negative that they outweigh the indirect consequences.
Which is a definition of consent that gives sex workers agency and sees their consent as a choice made again and again based on the pros and cons, not something that is coerced and also not something that always exists by default simply because they are sex workers.
Recognizing willing consent is probably validating for a lot of people who have consent to sex without meeting the definition of enthusiastic consent.
Now, I’m not saying romantic relationships are inferior, or that they’re useless, or that you being in one or that you shipping some characters romantically is Bad or something off the walls like that. What I’m saying is that two people (or characters, since we’re talking shipping here) can be just as devoted to each other, love each other just as deeply, mean just as much to each other while being in a platonic relationship. The end point of caring about someone doesn’t have to be romance.
Friendship isn’t a stepping stone between strangers and romantic partners, it’s a different path. And you can follow that path as deep into the wood as a romantic one if you want, and neither is inferior to the other, they just have different views.
reblog my aro posts you cowards
been seeing this tag on ao3 called “mutually unrequited” and i dont mean to nitpick but like….thats not…..what it means…………..
“mutually unrequited” okay so they just don’t like each other
Wait this is actually a hilarious concept, they both think the other is in love with them but they both are very not in love with each other but they try to be nice and end up going on dates to not hurt the other’s feelings while trying to figure out how to let the other down gently but it keeps spiraling
One of them finally cracks at the wedding and says they can’t go through with it and the immediate relief of the other can be felt in the entire room.