Dark Red Lips and Black Black Eyeliner

I can't tell you anything you don't already know. I keep on trying, I should just let it go. I keep on singing, you're eyes they just roll. It sounds like someone else's song from along time ago. You already know the story and the chords are just the same. You already know I love you, and I sound like whats-his-name. But you can't stop me, I want you to know. I know it sounds like someone else's song from along time ago. -Wilco

[figofswords]

Stuck.

(it’s 2am, and according to your therapist, you have “a whopping case of ADHD”

[melancholycatastrophe]

[ballroom-punk]

- Andrea Gibson

[eudaemaniacal]

this is from a real diary by a 13-year-old girl in 1870. teenage girls are awesome and they’ve always been that way.

[rhube]

Read this - oh my goodness, this girl was wonderful.

[lrlamauthor]

Where can I read this in full?

[caitiesith]

It’s from  Real American Girls Tell Their Own Stories, and that particular section is by Martha Carey Thomas who grew up to be a suffragist, linguist and renowned educator, as well as a badass lesbian.

[thatbrunettebarbiedoll]

Be a bad bitch with a warm heart. It's not cute to be rude and disrespectful. You can be confident, have no tolerance for insults and still be gentle and kind to people who deserve it. This is the dream combination that needs to be mastered.

[refinery29]

This judge had exactly the right reaction to the shameful way nonviolent prisoners are treated in US jails

A woman was denied pants or tampons after being arrested for not completing a diversion course that was part of her sentencing from a shoplifting charge. But see how the judge reacts when she finds out that the prisoner’s humiliating treatment is apparently routine.

Gifs: Raw Leak

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[scarletswalking]

This is why it’s so important to vote for your local judges after doing a minimal amount of research. Most people just pick whatever judge is there or has a funny name, but this woman is changing the way prisoners are treated and she was voted in by the county. Always do your research before voting for judges, but don’t discount it as unomportant. You may need someone like her on your side one day.

[uselesshunger]

[Interview on 7:30 report, 2004]

[theskunkcatcher-deactivated2023]

“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.”

—

[sosuperawesome]

tasia.m.s on Instagram / Redbubble

[sarenderpity]

Friendly reminder that if you shake hands with a guy you shouldn’t eat or touch your face until you’ve washed your hands.

[sarenderpity]

this isnt some Feminist Joke, btw, they basically teach this in food safety since so many guys think its fine to not wash their hands after they’ve touched their dick

[emilreloaded]

THIS IS TRUE AND I HATE TOUCHING ANYTHING AT WORK

I have to share this now.

I work at a tech company. One project had me interacting with a software engineer that kept installing new versions of the project over his previous work, causing us all sorts of headaches. I told him this was the software equivalent of cooking a meal after using the toilet, and he was making us all sick.

Fast forward a bit. I’m coming in to work and pass this individual on the way in to the gowning area/locker room/restroom (we have showers and changing rooms at work). He enters the bathroom area, washes his hands, THEN uses the toilet, and then LEAVES.

I can do nothing but stare disbelieving at his back. What is going on? Does he think the order of the steps isn’t important, as long as he does them? Is he doing this to spite me because of what I said?

The answer is none of the above.

Dudes just be like that.

[should-be-sleeping]

One of the first pieces of advice my doctor told me after I became immune compromised was to avoid shaking people’s hands but especially the hands of men. The second piece of advice was to go plastic and avoid handling cash ever, but especially cash back from clerks who were men (so if the clerk was a woman and I had cash I needed to offload go ahead and play roulette but credit/debit only if the clerk was a dude).

Then they showed me a study about the restroom habits of men complete with bacterial/viral/fungal cultures taken from hands of men who did wash, who didn’t wash, and who claimed to wash but hadn’t actually. It was real gross, y'all. There was a similar study for women but even the women who didn’t wash their hands had less contagion because they were not directly in contact with their genitals.

So like, big pass from me on hand shakes in general.

[garrettauthor]

???

I am…wow. That’s a wow from me, dog.

[prettybirdy979]

My parents were on a cruise when there was an outbreak of some bug - bad enough they started with some of the minor quarantine methods. 

One of which was putting a staff member in the men’s bathrooms to make sure all the men washed their hands. And men complained.

[hobbitystmarymorstan]

Just reblogging for that last bit.

[bendingsignpost]

This starts terrifyingly young. I have had to herd boys as young as four back into the bathroom because they think it’s entertaining to “escape” and then grab me with what I have openly dubbed “pee hands.”

Yes, I got pink eye working there, why do you ask.

[espressogal]

once you stop fantasizing about that ideal version of yourself and start working towards becoming that person by setting your alarm clock earlier and actually going to the gym and actually volunteering at places and actually eating healthier and not procrastinating and working just a little bit harder you’ll realize that it was so easy all along. becoming your ideal self will only ever exist in your mind until you make the decision to work towards becoming that person. get up!! get going!! it’s now or never!! there is no light at the end of the tunnel!! get that flashlight and pave your own path bitch bc no one else is going to do it for u!!

[thebootydiaries]

me: i want to feel something

emotions: okay here you go

me: Put It Back

[respectthefemalebody]

If a man says he’s going to hurt himself unless you do what he says, let him. You aren’t responsible for his actions. You are not guilty for what he does to himself, you don’t owe him, you are not his thing to control, you don’t exist to serve him, you are allowed to go on living your life.

[antiporn-activist]

well, you could give him the suicide hotline and go.

[lightanddarkkh]

Also you could baker act him. If he says hes gonna kill himself if you break up with him. Break up with him and call 911 saying you suspect this person at this address is going to kill themselves. Like chances are they are lying and trying to manipulate you but if you are scared and think you might feel guilty, you can do that.

Don’t stay woth anyone that pulls that shit. Drop em.

[askagenderfluidandgenderflux]

Dropping this here because abuse isn’t limited to straight people.

[stegosoreus]

goes for anyone of any gender

[kyraneko]

People who hold themselves hostage do not get to be treated only as the hostage. They are the hostage-taker as well, and they are trying for a second hostage.

Also, the ideal wording for a 911 call after someone has threatened to kill themselves is that the person themselves has announced their intention to kill themselves, or said they were going to kill themselves, something like that. “I suspect that they’re going to kill themself” is subjective and vague; “they have said that they are going to kill themself” is a factual statement that communicates useful information about their stated intentions, and if there’s any suspicion that the person is being dishonest about those intentions as a manipulation tactic, it preserves, documents, and centers their dishonesty and releases you from the responsibility for sorting out the person’s true intentions.

Somebody threatening suicide or self-harm as a means of control is trying really hard to be your problem. Yours specifically. Punting that problem to the emergency services and medical system that is trained and equipped to deal with such problems is not only the proper thing to do, but makes it clear that you aren’t about to be guilted into assuming any responsibility that person wants to dump on you.

[ballroom-punk]

This ^ omg this ^

I was in an abusive relationship where the person used my self harm as well as his depression and suicidal tendencies against me. He said he loved me but all he did was manipulate me into staying with him. And that really fucked me up. Until one day I realized that I was more help to him by leaving and telling someone what was happening, then by staying and enabling him. He blamed me for his wanting to kill himself, but then a few years later became valedictorian when we graduated, and then moved on to go to university and even run for city council. I have no regrets.

Leaving and telling someone his intentions was the best move for both of us. Please don’t ever be afraid to take care of yourself first.

[abbf26]

oh and can cis people stop announcing which of their friends are trans?

i have no fucking need to know who is or is not trans, all youve done is outed them and proved to me that i cant trust you. the first thing i find out about your friend shouldnt be that they trans. actually i should never find that out about your friend from you

sick and tired of cis people using my existence near them as a diversity token. stop telling me about your childhood friend whose trans. stop telling me their deadname. all that does is show me that you’ll tell the next stranger my deadname and how im trans and it makes me feel physically sick

[abbf26]

cis people can reblog this as long as you dont demand i fucking coddle you and forgive you for outing trans people to strangers

[spearmint-milkshake]

i just saw a fb post where a man was arguing with a woman about the best way to make macarons and he kept insisting that she was wrong, and then eventually he was like “I’ve never personally made macarons, but if you think about it what I’m saying makes sense, i’m simply stating the obvious. i’m sure there are plenty of youtube tutorials that would show you the same thing.” and the woman replied by linking him to her instagram business page and she makes fuckin macaron towers for parties for a living and i’ve been laughing about it for a solid 5 minutes.

[cocksmasher69]

Men automatically assume they’re more of an expert on something than any woman on account of their dicks. I’ve never met such an ignorant and narcissistic creature as a male

[cheekless0nion]

I’ll never forget a time when a fb friend of mine posted that she’s on her way to hospital to give birth. Women commented with “good luck” and other encouraging messages. A man’s comment was advice on how to give birth. 

[celean0]

You have got to be kidding me

[wreathedinscales]

So I was talking about Jekyll & Hyde (the book) at a writer’s museum while we were looking at an Robert Louis Stevenson exhibit. I was giving my take on Jekyll, and my brother tried to counter it. I countered back easily, and then he said “well I’ve never read the book”

My dude………..stop

[coffeebuddha]

my ex, whose baking experience was pretty much limited to frying premade biscuit dough in boy scouts to make ‘donuts’, would constantly try to correct me or give me advice on baking

i’m a fucking pastry chef

[gotlostintheuniverse]

met a dude at a party who was talking about physics and asked if i’d ever listened to any online physics lectures bc he listened to all of this one series and they were so helpful and maybe i could learn some physics too

i have a degree in physics

and am a published coauthor in astrophysics

[sxpositive]

the best part is that the woman who invented the term ‘mansplaining’ (her name is Rebecca Solnit and i highly recommend her collection of essays) came up with it when she was at a party one night and a man tried to explain a book to her, and wouldn’t let her speak long enough for her to tell him that

she wrote the bloody book he was mansplaining to her

[saltiestsoprano]

You know I have plenty examples of this but that last one takes the cake so imma just let it be.

[poinsciuri]

stop calling every piece of fabric with a plaid pattern “flannel”

flannel is a soft, warm cotton. it has nothing to do with what pattern is on the cloth

[tasmanianstripes]

I see there’s drama in the plaid fandom

[poinsciuri]

im a lesbian

[mx-hexide-sk8er]

So am i and i say every plaid is flannel! You can’t change my mind! See that plaid blanket over there?? That’s flannel. The latitude and longitude grid on world maps? That’s a nice flannel you got there buddy

[poinsciuri]

hey are you free this saturday night. id like to meet up and have a passionate discussion with you

[jumpingjacktrash]

i can’t tell whether that’s a callout or an ask-out

[spectacledotter]

enemies to lovers, fabric store AU, 40k words

[libertyninteriors]

[hell0-there-lady]

V A C C I N A T E

[hell0-there-lady]

[hell0-there-lady]

sign in a doctor’s office

I have decided to make this a master post of healthcare PROFESSIONALS calling bullshit on anti-vaxx