Re: susceptibility to 2014 faux feminism: its bc like that anon said, a lot of these transfems engaging in this new nonsense brand of pseudo “transfeminism” have not actually thought about misogyny at all before transitioning, they did not notice the misogyny that the cis women around them experienced at all, they did not gaf and did not think about it. That doesn’t mean they werent treated badly already in ways that i personally have no trouble seeing as a fom of patriarchal violence , whose victims definitely will enrich feminist discourse if their experiences and thoughts are added to it. But the thing is, once they transition and start experiencing 10x more violence and negative outcomes in general, instead of corectly ascribing this to the fact that they are now more visibly and clearly women, and are now receiving treatment that people thought to be girls/women receive from childhood through adolescence through adulthood, they go “oh! I’m treated like shit! It must be because im a TRANS woman. This is TRANS misogyny.”
this is because they fundamentally do not see cis women, and trans/nb people AFAB, as capable of going through the same complexity of experiences on this earth as them. Because forget transmascs/afab NBs/whatever, if any single one of these women had so much as spoken to a cis woman in confidence and vulnerability before transitioning/early in transition, she would have been disabused of her hallucinatory belief that what she goes through is MASSIVELY different from regular misogyny. I know this for a fact, because throughout the years ive met vast amounts of normal, actually feminist trans women, and they all had this in common: strong ties to the women/girls in their life since a relatively early age, and a great sense of camraderie with cis women and trans/nb people afab because of the recognition that what they went through was very similar and ascribable to the same root cause (patriarchal violence, as upheld by [mostrly straight] cis men).
while i agree with most of what you're saying here i feel pretty uncomfortable with how you're minimizing transmisogyny. how trans women are treated is definitely attributable in large part to transphobia and the hypervisibility trans women experience due to the culture war. there are definitely unique experiences with misogyny that come with being a trans woman specifically.
also patriarchal violence is upheld by misogynists and the elite, not cis men generally. yes this is an important distinction. alienating men is what we're trying not to do here.
