Seriously though, going back to the adele thing. Ive seen so many people be like “we’re just happy for her for realising a goal of hers” or “we’re just happy she’s confident now that she’s lost weight” etc, like no. You don’t know what her relationship to her body is like, you dont know why she lost weight, you dont know what her goals are, etc. You making any type of comment on her body is innapropriate, even if its just “congratulating her”.
And just in general, dont make unwarranted comments about people’s weight in general, even if its positive. Like body weight and loss has so many societal and psychological implications, as well as health implications, that its a really loaded comment to make. Unless you know exactly how that person would feel about a comment like that, which you probably don’t, then just dont mention it. One time a girl i was kind of friends with told me “omg have you lost weight? You look great.” I considered never speaking to her again, because that felt hugely innapropriate to me. I was fine with my weight and didnt even know if i had lost weight, and in fact made a conscious effort not to tie my self confidence and body image to it, so her saying that felt like a slap in the face. It felt like she was saying “you should care about these things, even if you know it would be unhealthy for you”. Another time, a friend of mine said that probably my aesthetic goal in life was jessica jones, because she wore all black like me at the time, had big blue eyes like me, pale skin like me, and was skinny. I had never expressed to her the want to be skinny, and in fact didnt have that want, even though i felt less confident than i do now. Again, this felt like a slap in the face. I can only imagine what comments like that must feel like to people who actually have eating disorders or suffer from dysmorphia, or those who’s body weight is tied to health issues they have.
