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esperastra

#mystery solved

Ice on a cliff (at Mountain City, Tennessee)

sicklesium-moved-deactivated201

i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because:

i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live

most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person

im not a pissbaby

damncommunists-deactivated20180

my white friends that have reblogged this give me life

zelda-tempest

4. Sometimes I am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP

lallamariamhabibi

If ur white and like this post I fux with u

birdpapi-deactivated20171121

^absolutely

verdant-witch

5. It’s hard to be offended when white people jokes involve bland food/tourist dads in socks and sandals/white girls in yoga pants obsessed with pumpkin spice/suburban PTA moms and other harmless and mostly true stereotypes while jokes about POC involve them being called thugs/criminals/slurs/uneducated/illegal immigrants.

blackpoeticinjustice

i fucks with u heavy if ur white and you reblog this

sm0k3-ring-deactivated20160109

6. They’re usually really fucking funny and don’t perpetuate stereotypes that will ever affect me economically, politically, or cause me any true harm, let alone create risks that “justify” my murder and/or death

satyrical-prince

Waits for my white mutuals to reblog😌

anar-tea

yesyesyesyes

eggpla

7. I still don’t know how to season chicken

fourdollaremo

8. the dancing thing is right i can’t dance for shit

takeachillquill

If you spot this Green Quaker Parrot outside in the Chicago area or just in general, please please notify me. She escaped and I’m absolutely devastated. Please, please reblog and spread the word.

comicbookcovers

Superman #680, November 2008, cover by Alex Ross

angryjewishsuggestion

hey @ goyim could y'all reblog this if you're actually willing to listen to Jewish people and protect us?

we really need allies right now, and I know seeing this on people’s blogs could be comforting to other Jewish people.

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Bubbasaurus enjoys his glam pool. #quakerparrot #birblr #birds (at Bristol, Virginia)

#birds #quakerparrot #birblr

Why are you taking my picture? #catsofinstagram #cat (at Bristol, Virginia)

#catsofinstagram #cat

Poor baby got carsick on our ride. (at Bristol, Virginia)

marcusseldon

(note: I have no romantic or sexualized experience myself, so I admit *some* of these points rely entirely on secondhand stuff and media)

One thing I think is not talked about very much is that straight men live pretty much desexualized lives if we’re not actually having sex at that moment, and then there’s not much room to be the object rather than subject.

As I’ve said before, we men don’t have clothing options for “dressing sexy” in masculine clothing (there is cross dressing but that is different). There’s no male equivalent to the short skirt or low cut top. There’s no male lingerie that isn’t seen as a joke.

Further, we just don’t get validation for our sexuality outside of a sexual partner. We are almost never complimented for our looks or sexiness from platonic friends like women are, especially same sex friends.

There really aren’t many straight male role models for raw aesthetic sexiness in mainstream culture (besides unnaturally muscled men). In fiction, male characters are almost never attractive for embodying sexiness but rather for doing things (saving the world, being extremely witty, being a genius, winning the tournament, etc.). Their sexiness is non-aesthetic and sometimes is in spite of their aesthetics.

Anecdotally, it seems like a lot of men aren’t even called physically hot and sexy by their own sexual partners, who themselves focus on personality. There’s not much room to fulfill the role of passive sexism object for you partner for many/most men.

I think it is telling that a lot of porn for men ignores the man’s personality and has a woman just throwing themselves at the man, overcome with lust.

Also there the fact that women seem to rarely approach men and some seem to often expect the man to do most of the sexual escalation, especially in the early stages.

We talk about women of color or women who are disabled being sexualized, but we don’t talk about how all straight men are desexualized and denied the ability to be sexualized object.

argumate

oh my god… that’s why they send dick pics

“witness me!”

thefutureoneandall

There are occasional reddit threads about things like this: “guys who send unsolicited dick pics, why do you do it?”

The answer always seems to be some combination of slot machine mentality (“maybe this one will like it, and make the other 50 worthwhile”) and a desire for witness. Surprising numbers of people admit that it’s validation even if the reaction is negative, simply because they’re still being viewed in a totally sexual context.

At the very least that has obvious consequences for people trying to reduce dick pic sending. There’s some core of people who can’t possibly be reached with “it’s not attractive to women” because that was never their expectation.

More broadly, I think efforts to get (Western?) men to emphasize with objectification wildly underestimate the challenge they’re facing. It’s not just a sympathy shortage, it’s a totally unfamiliar feeling. Making things even harder, it’s a feeling a lot of men say they wish they could have.

The usual narrative on not (politely) complimenting the appearance of unknown women is “sure, it’s nice if it happens once, but think about how annoyed you’d be if it happened all the time”. Fine in general terms, but I think a lot of men don’t have any way to intuit the emotional difference between too-frequent compliments and being pestered with too much of something totally innocuous like requests for the date.

The comments on those articles are frequently from men saying they’ve literally never received a single compliment from a stranger on their appearance, and can’t imagine what it would be like. The ones who have are often talking about a single, years-old compliment they still cherish. That’s not a framework that supports more than a purely theoretical understanding of what’s it’s like to be valued for your appearance too heavily - or at all.

Obviously that’s not universal, any more than all women are catcalled, but it seems like a really serious communication failure to appeal to a sense of objectification that much of your audience has literally never felt, and desperately wants.

incarnation-issues

Reblogged because thefutureoneandall describes exactly why I have trouble empathizing with feminism columnists.

corpus-vak

Can confirm, I’d take literally any compliment on anything at this point, and would cherish it.

argumate

one day we gotta get all the men and all the women to sit down together and hash this stuff out between them, how hard can it be.

arjan-de-lumens

This discussion kind of reminds me of a story that made the rounds about a year ago, where a woman, after having gotten a bit tired with dick pics, decided to try to get her “revenge” of sorts, by sending unsolicited vagina pics to 40 random men:

https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/los-angeles/we-sent-a-preemptive-v-pic-before-dudes-could-send-dick-pics-heres-what-happened

Let’s be honest: while I enjoy penises, I don’t necessarily want unexpected visual boners intruding on my day. I wondered, “What would guys do if I turned the tables and sent them an unexpected vagina pic?” And so, in my own twist on revenge porn, I sent 40 unexpected vagina pics to men on Bumble.

This … didn’t work out the way she apparently expected it to:

Overall, I was surprised that I didn’t get my, “Gotcha!” moment. I’d initially hoped the guys would see how invasive it is to receive such intimate photos from a stranger. When I’m excited to get to know a guy, his penis isn’t the first part of him that I want to know. But given that men like to send dick pics, I suppose their enthusiasm for v-pics makes sense.

So, basically, women experience dick picks as a net negative, as an intimacy violation, while men experience v-pics as a huge positive, as validation and an indicator of interest.

This seems consistent with the above discussion, where it’s a pretty common male experience to basically never receive any sexual attention ever and thus respond really strongly positively to whatever scraps come their way (or to start trolling for attention - with the point of some of these dick pics apparently being to get any attention at all, no matter how hostile), while a common female experience seems to be more like being flooded with unwanted sexual attention and wanting a way to make it stop -

resulting in an absolutely massive inferential gap - with the result that if you’re on one side of the gap and try to describe your feelings and experiences to the people on the other side, whatever words you have will just fall on deaf ears because the feeling and experiences you describe are … not just unfamiliar, but outright alien, to the ones on the other side.

This alienness is … mutual.

thej-key

For men, it feels like no men are sexy to women.

For women, it feels like all women are sexy to men.

It’s like one person dying of dehydration watching another one drown.

thesociaijusticecourier-deactiv

“It’s like one person dying of dehydration watching another one drown.”

amakthel-deactivated20180709

the conversation has gotten longer, so i’m reblogging

the-real-seebs

… This is so cool. It actually makes sense.

jumpingjacktrash

but of course women are wary of just giving men compliments, because attention-starved men are likely to take it as a come-on. what a dilemma.

lousidity

So what I’m getting from this… Is that my idea of taking popular types of fiction and essentially ‘flipping the script’ so that there are sexy male characters as ‘damsel in distress’ types would actually be very good and help a lot of people become comfortable with their sexuality?

jumpingjacktrash

it could well! i’m not the guy to answer this really, i’m queer and also i’ve always been pretty comfortable with being the one giving the compliments (and just asking for validation when i need it). but i do think there’s a place in the world for fiction where The Sexy One is male.

consider chris hemsworth in ghostbusters. that one’s a bit mean-spirited, with him being hilariously clueless, but you’ve got that dynamic where what he contributes is, he’s hot. that’s it. and i found it kind of a breath of fresh air, not because it was a fuck-you to sexist tropes, but because it’s never, ever enough for a guy to be attractive, but here it was, and that was fun to see.

roachpatrol

i once thoughtlessly complimented a guy on his jacket, because he and his friend rounded the corner and suddenly i was confronted with an extremely handsome young man in a very fashionable black leather jacket, and i blurted out ‘whoah, nice jacket, you’re looking good!’ and the look on his face was just this explosion of surprise and delight– he actually kind of missed a step. the next minute i was like shit shit SHIT what if things get weird JEEZ but he and his friend were already walking past, and his friend just started laughing. kind of this ‘whoah, cool, what the hell’ laugh, and when i glanced back they’d both kind of lit up and were elbowing each other as they walked away. i was extremely relieved to have like dodged a bullet of ‘if you let a man know you are attracted to them at close range GOD KNOWS WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN BUT IT’S GONNA BE OBNOXIOUS PROBABLY’ and then also pleased that i’d made that guy’s day. but also like. i guess now i’m realizing i probably made that guy’s decade…

i wish it was more common to compliment people– especially guys– in a casual way. but when you live as a woman you can spend a lot more time dodging men’s attention rather than soliciting it…

maybe male poledancing is like, the next big fad to cash in on? guys can enjoy getting hit on and girls can enjoy there being a specific space for that, that they, the girls, can leave afterwards.

fozmeadows

I’d honestly never considered this before; it makes a lot of sense. *internally recalculates a bunch of stuff*

bigbearstoys

Ok. I need to add to this. First, what you are describing in far more common for young men (under 25) than for older. I suspect it's that older women as a rule are less subtle in showing interest and older men tend to not be quite so affection starved.

So, how do we bridge the sexiness gap?

1. Effort: Guys, something you almost certainly don't comprehend right now, and may not for a long time, is that the difference between the girl that makes your eyes lock on her from across the room and the one your eyes slide across without noticing is about an hour spent in the bathroom each morning. The girl you find sexy as hell has put time, effort and money into makeup, clothes, hair product, etc. They have taken the time to learn how to make themselves look good. If you're anything like me as a young man, you probably shower and make sure you wear deodorant, then put on your least smelly jeans and head out. You can be born an 8, being a 10 takes work. Put in some effort.

2. Confidence: This is the biggest single thing. Confidence is sexy. Full stop. This is why girls date assholes. Assholes are cocky, and cocky asshole looks close enough to confidence to fool women the first few times they see it. Most "nice guys" who bitch about being friendzoned just lack confidence and wait too long to show interest. Fortunately, confidence is very much a fake it till you make it thing. Pretend to be confident and before you know it, you will be.

3. Appearance: Honestly, this isn't that important for most girls. If you can wear clean clothes, carry on a conversation, treat them like people and act like you like yourself, you're gonna do fine.

But in the spirit of examples, I'll tell you what my wife finds sexy. Every woman is different, so these may or may not work.

Cologne. Be careful with it! Fragrances are meant to be applied in small quantities to areas of your body with high blood flow, typically wrist and throat. The scent is altered by the pH of your skin oils and body heat. This is what makes it smell really good. If you put too much on, it can't work. A man's scent should be a reward for someone who gets close to him, not an advertisement smelled across the room.

Chest hair. Yup, she actually unbuttons my polos when she sees me wearing one. Some women prefer a shaved chest.

Clothes- study the color wheel. Learn about complementary colors and contrasting colors. Don't wear clothes with holes in them.

Hygene. Shave your neck. If your facial hair is patchy, don't try to wear a beard. If you shave, do it daily. Stubble is like sandpaper. Use a good shave butter with Shea butter in it. Gives you softer skin and helps control acne. Take a shower. Brush. Floss. Manscape. Yes, down there.

4. Entitlement. Remember at all times, she is a person, she wants and needs her own things, unrelated to what you want. She does not owe you anything. No matter how nice you have been, or how much emotional support you have given, you are not owed anything. Nothing will doom your chances of being sexy like feeling entitled.

That's all I got, guys. Hope it helps.

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official-north-korea-blog

Minimum wage: $7.25

$7.25 x 40 hour full time work week: $290

$290 x 4 weeks per month: $1,160

In every Southern state (didn’t have time to look at the rest of the country) you can find some sort of studio apartment for around $500 per month, sometimes less than that. Why bother lying about something so easily disproven?

father-of-hope-and-fury

Because Bernie Sanders supporters aren’t going to fact check him, and they’ll ignore any contrary evidence that’s presented to them anyways.

fartsandprayers

Things like this really tick me off and It’s not political or anything but it’s the fact that you think all that money is there. Here’s what I mean;

That weekly check comes to, according to you, 290. Most places DO NOT pay for your half hour lunch that is required by law. So your beginning number was wrong. $7.25 x 7.5 hours a day x 5 days a week only gets you $271.88. Most people in America get paid bi-weekly, so let’s double it to get the budget. $543.75. That’s GROSS, not NET. Out of that comes anywhere between 10% and 15% taxes depending on state so we’ll low ball it at 10%. Automatically down to $489.38 a pay check. Now health insurance. Usually anywhere from 70-100 a pay check for the cheapest plans. Again, we’ll low ball and go $70. So now we have $419.39 a paycheck. x 2 = $839.

Eight hundred thirty nine dollars. A MONTH.

But again, you seem to think that’s fair. So let’s proceed. You say rent is $500? Okay. This person now has $339 left to buy groceries for the whole month, pay utilities, car payment, car insurance, and gas money to get to work.

Those are the bare needs. You have to eat. You have to pay for heat, water, garbage removal, gas and or electricity because apartments do not always include things and rarely all of the above. Most cities in America do not have public transportation. Mine doesn’t despite the fact that our population is over 15,000 people, not counting a taxi. If you have a car, you have to pay that. If you have a car, legally you have to have car insurance. You have to pay that. You have to have gas in that car to get to work to make that money.

Now if you can tell me you can get all of that out of $339 you’re lying.

You are so focused on rent that you aren’t thinking about everything else people have to pay for. Rent was an example. This is a breakdown of the budget you gave me and it’s not possible to live off that in 2017 America.

And BECAUSE this person makes over $800 a month, they probably won’t qualify for financial aid or food stamps. $800 is the line in my state where they won’t help you. No food stamps, financial aid, or government housing if you make more than $800 a month.

Why does it bother you that people deserve to live above the poverty line?

elvenrealm

THIS.

thorrfin

So much THIS

bigbearstoys

Everything said above is fine, but ALSO, the standard for affordability in rent is that the cost of rent is one third your net income. I.e., if you net $1500 a month, you can reasonably afford to pay $500 for rent.

Just an example:

My wife and I together make $2800 a month net. Her before net includes our health insurance. So we can afford up to $866 or so. We pay $750 because small town. Then add about $80 for phone, $40 for internet, $250 for all utilities, and a car payment of nearly $390, we have about $1200 left to buy groceries, feed the pets, other expenses and hopefully save a bit for retirement.

We live in a tiny town, with a low cost of living. We have two incomes and no kids. We are educated and can get decent jobs. If you put us back in Seattle with the same income, we would be in serious trouble. A house like ours costs around $1800 a month to rent. that plus our bills would leave us $100 a month for groceries and gas and the rest. God forbid either of us ever got sick or hurt.

Now imagine I was a single parent. Now it goes from hard to impossible.

batmanisagatewaydrug-deactivate

reblog if you’ve ever been horrified by your own Customer Service voice

c-bassmeow

she is so FAKE

bigbearstoys

When I accidentally used it on my wife.

sisterofsilence

Do you have any pics of Emps in lab gear? It occurs to me he was a scientist, yet you only ever see him in armor or dresswear.

I exist to provide this kind of content, co-fault of @ultramarineblues this time. We were having a conversation about how unsafe His long hair is in a gene-lab environment…

ultramarineblues

As an ex-biologist and future quality, health & safety tech, this offends me deeply. Tie your fucking hair, Emps.

sisterofsilence

I shall braid it whenever next I draw a lab picture, Emps with His hair braided is such an undervalued look

littleclevercat

Ok, I had a question about how come that some Primarchs seems to be more similar to the Emperor that others, and my headcanon was that they got larger percent of the Emperor’s genes.

This pic explains how it happened.

sisterofsilence

OK, long, serious and unasked answer incoming -

DNA contamination is a problem in procedures that involve amplification of DNA material (e.g DNA chain polymerase) for identification purposes. It is a problem for one very important reason: amount of DNA you’re identifying <<<<< amount of DNA even in a single hair or scratched bit of skin. Its going to drown out the signal of your actual DNA by sheer volume. Thát is why contamination is a problem in labs and why we scream about people tying up their hair.

I am relatively sure such a contamination on a forming zygote (which is what the primarchs at that stage would be) would do nothing to it, unless said hair happens to carry for instance a bacterium that could infest the serum (which it generally does, our bodies are coated in microscopic creepy crawlies, many of them beneficial to us). I doubt the DNA in the hair (which is in the cells, in the nucleus, where it belongs) can get out and then into the zygote (in its cells, in the nucleus, where its native DNA is) and then somehow merge with it and/or replace existing parts. Just like that.

Like, I get that intuitively it makes sense - you add DNA to DNA and so there’s MORE DNA of that type. But I don’t think that’s how any of that works.

However, what you COULD do is that more of the Emperor’s DNA was spliced in there, either accidentally or otherwise. He can jump up and down all He wants, but He’s going to need a bunch of eggcells from somewhere. Wether that’s Arlette, some random servant, a literal sow, or wether He somehow managed to artificially construct one (that sounds like a mighty needless chore when there’s perfectly good ones available from people/animals).

We know the Primarchs are not 100% clones, I mean, obviously, or they’d have been literally identical twinsies to Him. All 20 of ‘em. So, there’s some other DNA - which, as you all know, I like to pretend is Arlette’s from her Unification life - now he could splice more of His own DNA in there by use of novel techniques currently being developed for gene therapy - for instance the virus splicing I keep talking about in connection with the geneseed. He could also simply have made like 200 zygotes, typified them, and picked the ones that have the highest percentage of His genes.

How it could happen accidentally? I have no idea. Let me stew on that for a while.

As an aside, about likeness. Physical appearance is… really ill understood in connection with DNA. Considering Arlette and the Emperor share a genetic heritage, the odds of any random combination of them looking a metric ton like them is pretty high. This is, in part, why I rolled with that. The fact that they both have very dark hair, and He has dark eyes, also allows for a lot of hitchhiking recessive alleles, such as Roboute his absolutely randomly blond hair or Horus his super blue eyes.

I was going with this somewhere, but anyway. I think, the fact that a bunch of primarchs look a lot like Him, and several do not, is simply the gene lottery at play. Its quite possible some that look the least like Him have a lot of His DNA, just all the recessive alleles He carries around showing against someone else their recessive alleles. In addition to the fact that a different hair/eye colour will make people look REALLY different (like putting on glasses, or a hat).

In other news, I like drawing the Primarchs all with bone structure a lot like Emps and/or Arlette, while holding more to canon where it comes to complexion. I mean. Those two stood at 10-8.000 BC at the literal cradle of modern man, if anyone has all the varied genes of humanity pre-umpteen bottlenecks still in their cells, its them.

Uh. Yea. Things to say. I got them.

ultramarineblues

Ok this is not how any of this works, unless you’re using words in a very different way from how I understand them (in that case, they would lack accuracy). The only way one of the embryos would have more of Emps’ genes than another one would be if his genome was present in the “maternal” (artificial or otherwise) DNA. I’ll let you imagine how that could happen because yuck if those eggs are not synthetic, DNA included. Both the parents give 50% of the DNA, unless there’s an anomaly like trisomy for example. Though that accounts for nuclear DNA only, the mitochondrial DNA being transmitted by the mother only, since it comes with the egg.

I think what you meant is that some primarchs inherited more of dad’s traits, so phenotype, which would happen if they got his dominant alleles expressing as dominant too ?

But yeah, more than 50% Emps juice isn’t going to happen unless he literally reproduced with himself by putting his DNA into the egg to replace the mother’s (which would be like cloning so unless he played pick-and-choose with his own chromosomes or alleles), or if (sorry) he actually chose one of his own descendants as… egg provider. Which, to be fair, could happen accidentally if he got around a lot.

Unrelated : my phone now auto corrects genes to geneseed. Thanks, 40k.

bigbearstoys

My thinking on this is that it's not a mistake that each primarch is "the best" at something. The Big E was making generals for the ultimate war. I think he took his own genome and spliced it differently in each case, attempting to hyperexpress certain traits that would be vital to war on that scale.

Charisma, aggression, guile, math, geometry, creativity, passion, artistry. Each of those traits is given form in one or more primarchs. Horus was always meant to be his#2. He was built for it, from the ground up. Of course he looks like the Emperor. He was designed to be followed.

I love this so much.

I can’t stop thinking about crocodiles for some reason so here’s some cool pictures I found of probably the second largest one in captivity, his name is Utan: