Can you explain why you dislike micro-labels and find them Biphobic? I personally don't think that it really matters and would be interested to hear your opinion.
First off, I should be paid things for answering asks like this.
All microlabels do is divide people who previously existed in solidarity with each other.
I'm gonna let you in on the "biromantic polysexual panopticism omniscient" crew's biggest secret, which isn't that they are just biphobic bisexuality, but that ALL of them are in response to the idea that bisexuals are inherently too sexual and too shallow, that they are attracted to multiple genders not due to sincere attraction but simply due to a lack of standards. We're too horny, too stupid, too greedy to actually just stick with the gender we're ACTUALLY attracted to.
It’s not even wrong to be sexual or have “low standards” or just want to fuck or whatever. And yet you’ll cave in to people saying it is just to clear your own ego--you want to separate yourself because you think it’s wrong.
Instead of standing up for bisexuals on the whole, these people choose to throw the rest of us under the bus. "THEY are everything you think they are but not me. I'm biromantic, I don't even feel sexual desire. I'm not horny like THEM. I'm pansexual, I don't even SEE gender! I'm not obsessed with genitals like you transphobic, horny fucks who are so sex driven you can't even see a person for their humanity. I fall in love with HEARTS not GENDER, unlike you shallow people with your low standards."
There is no solidarity, just a desperate tug and pull on the identity, splitting it apart at the seams, to get some scrap of dignity you think can't be found when the identity is kept together.
And you can't even fucking deny that? Why feel the need to clarify all these things if you think they're already included within bisexuality? Why isn't there a "trans inclusive" version of any other labels? Why can gay and lesbian and straight be used for aces but bisexuals can't be asexual? Why do we need to clarify that we "don't fall in love with gender" as if that's how it works for anyone else? As if lesbians' quota for a partner is just "woman" (transphobic definitions may or may not apply)? It certainly fucking isn't.
And like... I'm not even gonna get into how this death by a thousand cuts, none of us have solidarity with each other shit, makes zero sense. Like... do pansxuals need different resources or spaces than bisexuals? No, then why do they need different labels? What's the point? Why separate us on a linguistic level and create enmity based on that if there is no.. actual different needs?
Why demand every person attracted to all genders parse out their exact feelings (are you attracted based on shallow reasons or are you One Of The Good Ones because you: don't feel sexual attraction, don't "see gender," "fall in love with hearts," "see all genders equally") and put them on display? What is the benefit? Do I have to change labels when I have a depressive episode and my libido is dead and MAYBE I experience sexual attraction but I'm too depressed to like... actually feel or recognize it? Am I biromantic until further notice?
Whats the fucking point of it all besides separating us from each other?
Do we need separate labels for bisexuals whose primary point of interest is shared hobbies and bisexuals whose primary point of interest is actually finding someone with complementary but different interests? Different bisexual labels based on love languages (other fucking microlabel obsessed hogwash)? I'm a tits bisexual, are you an ass bisexual? Lets divide up our resources based on that.
I think if you met your partner and naturally fell in love with them, you should haev a different label from someone who met their partner on a dating app. If you met in high school, a different label from those who met in college or grad school.
How are any of those less valid than "I like every gender equally" separating us and creating this stupid fucking war that distracts us from the actual shit that matters?
Why are we so obsessed with setting ourselves apart when all we need right now is to come together? Why is your individualism more important than our collective needs?
