Blood, Sweat, and Stories

I love to read and write. And reblog. Mostly reblog. One day it'll be an equal measure of both.

[ladyshinga]

[pangur-and-grim]

I feel so insane about ai. I've had face-to-face conversations with people who use it for therapy, who use it to calculate the safety of pill interactions, who use it for all their emails and grant applications and legal documents and academic papers and finance sheets and for every single question they have about the world, and if you tell them about the ecological costs they just laugh and say "I guess I've used a lot of water." and I've been in multiple gatherings of 10+ people where I'm THE ONLY PERSON who doesn't use chatgpt. it's turning me into a ranting raving pariah, because how don't you people see??? why don't you understand??????? this bullshit didn't exist five years ago, you absolutely do not need it, and it is destroying everything

[depsidase]

[evengirlierballs]

welcome to 2023 :) happy out of touch thursday

[transgendercyborg-deactivated20]

[mid-maryland]

[give-grian-rights]

happy holiday to those who celebrate

[fizziigoth]

First day of 2026 is out of touch Thursday - this better be a good fckn year

[ironinkpen]

an imperfect ally is better than a perfect bystander

[ironinkpen]

the old boomer who "doesn't get the gays" but still votes blue every election is still a better ally to you than every well-spoken, woke millennial who says all the right shit but didn't vote because they "didn't like either option"

the lady who voted for trump but has changed her mind since and is calling her senator every day is a better ally to you than anyone very politely apologizing for how awful things are and not doing anything to actually help

[depsidase]

[augustdementhe]

This is Dr. Sarah Stein Lubrano, and though I couldn't find the video that makes up this post, you can read/hear more from her here at her website:

Talks, panels, podcasts, and interviews I have been a part of — Sarah Stein Lubrano

on everything from emotional intelligence to instructional design, from autonomy at work to polyamory, cognitive dissonance to the role of f

[iwilleatyourenglish]

"sometimes you absolutely ARE required to do things in life for the good of other people, even if you hate it" loud incorrect buzzer noise

pure individualism is a disease that kills communities, isolates individuals, and leads to things like the anti-vax movement.

you are not so important that you aren't bound by social responsibility and decency.

others are not so insignificant that they don't deserve help and sacrifice.

[unstrungbones]

there are many things tumblr as a whole has to learn but one of them is “someone can reblog a post without them endorsing every action the op has ever taken, we are not beholden to do background checks on the producers of every shitpost on the internet”

[kryptoncat]

[kurganfilledwithbearbones]

a mutual made this point and a prominent youtuber tried to dox her

[karrakazz]

not sure if this will make sense to anyone besides me but: the antidote to negativity is not positivity, its warmth

[karrakazz]

positivity tells a sad person that there is no reason to be sad. warmth asks the sad person if they want to go get some ice cream

[ares-skittles]

Been a moment since I saw this. Glad it’s back on my dash when I needed it.

[knightbell]

wait, this is freaking eye opening

[escuerzoresucitado]

[borderlinereminders]

The other day, I asked my partner, “What are you doing?”

Simple question, right?

Except… he suddenly got defensive. His tone changed. I could feel tension building, and I had no idea why. So I took a breath and asked, “Wait, what did you hear me say?”

He paused, thought about it, and said, “I thought you meant ‘Why aren’t you doing anything?’ Like you were mad I was being lazy.”

But that wasn’t what I meant at all. I’d genuinely just been curious.

And that moment reminded me how easily things can go sideways when we assume intent. Our brains, especially when we’ve had messy pasts, trauma, or relationship anxiety, tend to fill in the blanks with the worst possible meaning.

But that one question, “What did you hear me say?”, turned what could’ve been an argument into understanding.

It gave both of us a chance to clarify before our brains made up a story that wasn’t true. I was able to explain, and he was able to listen. Understanding what I meant changed his tension entirely.

Sometimes the fight isn’t about what was said. It’s about what was heard.

“What did you hear me say?” can defuse a storm before it starts.

[katestewartt]

"Try our new AI tool", "Use ChatGPT", "Our AI assistant can help"

[northofantastic]

This is me.

[depsidase]

[johnfkennedaddy]

Bella in all of Twilight: why tf did he say that?!?

Edward in all of Midnight Sun: why the fuck did I say that?!?

[bloodsweatstories]

That’s it! That’s the whole book!

[myfootyrthroat]

Always a little discomforting when you have a minor complaint about something, and then people will defend that thing in a way that indicates deep troubles within.

"Ugh, it's annoying when people are really drunk on the bus."

"Oh, so you think people with substance abuse issues should just be banned from society? They should be locked up and executed?"

"Uhhh, no. I think that being annoyed sometimes is part of life and am capable of just sitting on the bus and being mildly annoyed. Do... you think that people who annoy you should be banned from society and executed?"

[homunculus-argument]

If you're having a private phone conversation with the phone off your ear, no headphones, and the speaker on in public, that's a public conversation now. That's an open invite, and I'm going to chime in if I have an opinion. This is now OUR disagreement about your boyfriend's spending habits.

[resident-wof-expert]

Lemony Snicket, at the beginning of every book: Things are going to get even worse for the Baudelaires than last time.

Me: I hope things at least get a little bit better for the Baudelaires this time.

Things: *get even worse for the Baudelaires*

Me: How dare.