The Idea_List

Student Affairs professional. Writer, MBTI junkie, Coffee enthusiast, and Explorer of food, music, and nature.

[bluegil222]

Interest survey for my residents!! I really like how I incorporated my door decorations as the background. My first floor meeting starts at 8:30 tonight and I’m all excited. I don’t think the fact that I just downed 2 cups of coffee has helped me either….Anyway, I have met 90% of my residents and they all seem happy and I don’t think I will be having much of any issue this year. Everyone says that Sophomore - Senior students aren’t fun and give you a hard time. I think that whomever made this statement is lying. They are only trouble when drunk or just plain jerks, and that’s not very often. However, this is just the very beginning, so I know there will be an issue here and there. Overall, the school year should be great. I have several athletes and I plan on making them feel special by hosting programs and making signs for them. I know I’m quite the ambitious fellow, so half the stuff I say might not actually happen, but it’s a great start by just thinking about it. All I have to do is plan and follow through. Wish me luck as the school year is about to officially start at 8:30pm tonight.

[bluegil222]

7 years later and I am now a Hall Director. 🙃

[justcatposts]

Two cats won’t give up on trying to enter a Japanese Art Museum, the war has been going on for 2 years now. 

(Source)

[alicentsgf]

[blackness-by-your-side]

oops

[eartha-zipp]

Jesus

[buttholewitchcraft]

[cumbursted]

rachel knows

[mercedesbenzodiazepine]

Get this out of my face I’m dead serious

[yameron-deactivated20181203]

😦 @xchvnge

[xchvnge-deactivated20190227]

😭😭😭😭😭

[holesareforfilling]

im fuckin crying

[dankmemeuniversity]

[luncheon-aspic]

Imagine showing this meme to someone one month ago.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[natebynight]

[worldcircus]

Kind of gives you chills .

[kittygory-deactivated20210901]

Good Lord, how delicious! I wanna do that! The next time I’m in a cathedral, I’m doing it. 

[youreyesblazeout]

As she stood inside an ancient and empty church in Montefrío, Spain, Malinda Kathleen Reese belted out one of the best Christmas carols of all time-“O Come, O Come Emmanuel” and the end result was just heavenly.

[derrieresandcankles]

I’m obsessed with this because A. Victorian Christmas Carols B. European Cathedrals C. It’s gorgeous and fuckin choristers are my favorite

[carlitos-guey]

[witchesversuspatriarchy]

If she was a siren singing at the bottom of the ocean, I’d jump right into it. No doubt. Totally gay :D

[bluegil222]

Got dam they have an amazing voice

[muyintedezante]

[doujenshi-deactivated20210310]

March Moodness

[bluegil222]

So one of my fellow RAs reallllly likes me and I think he's fantastic but I just want to be his friend. I've covertly told him this and that I don't want a relationship but I'm also a very flirty person and can't stop flirting back when he flirts with me. I know I'm sending him confusing signals and I know I'm being an awful person and friend. I don't really know what advice I'm asking you for, but I just kinda wanted to rant. If you have any thoughts or concerns, please voice them and help me.

Of course I can help! First off, do you like him? If so, then consider whether it’s worth getting into some sort of relationship with him. You could just be friends, as long you talk it out with him. If you would like more, talk to him. I mean, maybe something can be worked out. But from the looks of it, you want to maintain a healthy friendship and don’t want him to assume that you’re playing games with his heart. Has he openly expressed interest? Is there any way to clarify that he too may be a flirty person just as you are? Maybe he’s thinking that he’s giving you the wrong signals and it’s just 2 flirty people as a standstill wondering what the next move in the friendship will be.

Anyway, assuming the guy likes you, I recommend you overtly tell him that you can’t and don’t want to be more than friends. Tell him that you’re a natural flirt and that you hope your flirtiness isn’t throwing him off.

If he reacts with “I know you’re flirty and I thought we were just friends” (other anything of the sort) you’re in good hands.

However, there could be another situation in which he becomes upset and things may get awkward because he is now confused and has to realize that reality isn’t what it seems to be. In this case, assure him that everything will be fine. You can still hang out and be friends and staff, but it’s that you’re not ready for a commitment of any sort. It may take time for things to get back on the ball.

I’m sure your staff, just like mine, frowns upon having a inter-staff relationship unless the two can maturely be together. However, it would be better safe than sorry. Sounds like you two get along great as friends though. Don’t worry though! I know you can get this resolved. But communication of some sort is key. If you want him to know, a conversation is going to be brought up…or he may try to make a move and that’s when things may get more difficult for you.

Finally, you are NOT a terrible person because of this. Don’t put yourself down because of this. It’s alright. Plus, if the guy turns out to like you, he will understand that you weren’t being intentional with your flirtation. He’ll understand that it’s in YOUR nature to be that, so it’s something he is going to have to accept. Good luck and I hope you find something useful out of this.

-Gil

[bluegil222]

At thw time of this, I was strongly in denial that my co-worker wrote this about our friendship. When i brought this to her attention, she denied writing it, despite it fitting our situation. We became distant, still friends, but we stopped talking to each other once the year wrapped up. She’s doing great things and that’s all that matters. To “anon”, if you still have tumblr and are active, I hope you are doing well.

[bluegil222]

A third-year RA retired!!!! She has decided to focus on her bigger passion, her sorority. I’m so proud to be on staff with her. Her energy, amazing decorations/crafts, and advice were great. I was upset, but I’m happy that she’s following what she loves. I can’t hate on someone who is willing to drop a job to do what their heart wants. I support her and I can only look up from this encounter. However, the person who comes in has big shoes to fill and I look forward to helping them out, even if I’m only a first-year. We’re all in this together.

[bluegil222]

Her replacment ended up being a close friend of mine. When i visited my home, We were able to catch up, reminisce about our RA days, and talk about how we’ve applied RA skills to our life. Very cool.

[jennifergearing]

Some advice for if you have compulsive apologisers in your life.

Y'know, the kind of people, often but not always women, and often but not always people with abuse history, who apologise for talking, or for taking up space, or for basically existing, as though they’re afraid to breathe.

I’m one of those people, and I’m a lot better than I used to be, but my trajectory is not a straight line, and it’s still difficult.

I’ve known people who will respond with “Don’t apologise” and whilst the intention of that is good, it often doesn’t work the way people think. If you know them well, and they’re actively trying to break the compulsion, it may be useful, but I’d probably suggest talking about introducing that response if they think it might help them.

Because sometimes “don’t apologise” will prompt another apology, and will feel to them like something else they’ve done wrong, rather than a reminder that it’s okay for them to be speaking and taking up space.

So, I’d like to suggest a slight change in wording to “You don’t have to apologise”, or “Apology not required”, or similar. For me, at least, it acknowledges what’s happening, and telling them it’s ok for them to speak/etc, without telling them that the apology is something they’re wrong to be doing.

[sharpestrose]

The only response that really works when I get into the apology loop is “it’s okay”. 

[infjconfessions]

For people who do the apologies, I once read a tip regarding trying to break the cycle that said “instead of apologizing, try to thank them”, if you’re with someone you trust and love, the knowledge might be there that it is okay, and that they’re okay with it, but even reassurance doesn’t always work. It said, that with a thank you, you don’t just get reassured that it is okay, but could go beyond, you could get reassured that you’re loved, and sometimes that makes all the difference in healing.

Something like: “Thank you for putting up with my weirdness,” instead of “I’m sorry to be so weird.” If someone loves you, it’s not putting up, your ‘weirdness’ is part of why they love you.

Seeing it this way, really helped me, I still apologize a lot but I’m much better now :) hope it helps someone else.

[bluegil222]

I used to be the apologizer!! While working a summer job, my employer noticed and worked with me to stop the habit.

He started off by casually bringing up the fact that I apologize. Then, he said that he would point it out every time I did it so I would notice the frequency. My reaction was “I do? I’m sorry…” He gave me a look…that’s when it hit me that apologizing was habitual.

It was a work in progress, but I thank him for pointing it out. It got to the point when I would catch myself and not apologetic. I mostly got stuck in the apology loop. I would get flustered as I tried to not apologize for being flustered for almost apologizing that I was about to apologize.

Needless to say, almost a year later, and I hardly apologize as much I used to. In fact, I’m working with another apologizer, because I know their situation.

[bluegil222]

Many years later and I no longer aplogize. In fact, I tend to take the advice of this post and say “thank you.” I spent a lot of time checking myself that apologies are no longer habitual, more intentional, and less reactive. I’m on the flipside where I am now an employer who has a couple aplogizers on my staff. How the turns have tabled.

[ecalc]

How do Australians flirt?

[ecalc]

G’Date me

[bluegil222]

I’m back (for now)

[bonduelle]

Apartment hacks masterpost

Kitchen

How to clean up kitchen (particularly the sink, burnt pots and small aplliances)

How to take care of kitchen stuff so that it lives longer

10 commandments of a clutter-free kitchen

Organizing kitchen mini masterpost

5 things to do in the kitchen before you go to bed

What is soapy bowl and why it’s awesome

How to organize your fridge (also here, here and here)

Thins you should know about your fridge

Adding more storage space in a tiny kitchen

Cleaning

Lots of cleaning tutorials and tips. And some more

How to clean up pantry

How to make your house look cleaner than it really is

How to wash pillows

Cleaning the bathroom

How to clean the nastiest places (and get rid of bad smells, etc.)

Floor-to-celling guide to spring cleaning

Recaulking your bathtub

Cleaning grout

How to dispose of toxic waste

Cleaning the medicine cabinet

How to make chores more fun

You mustn’t skip these chores, but you can delay these if you’re busy

Easily forgotten things that you should clean/replace

Why you need a catch-up day

Small cleaning tasks to do in under 15 minutes (also here)

Looking for a flat/moving

First apartment checklist

Where too look during an apartment hunt (and some more tips)

Negotiate these things with your landlord

What to do first in a new place

What do clean before moving out

How not to get crazy during moving flats

How to downgrade to a smaller place

Organisation, storage

10 habits for better home organisation

How to store off-season items

10 storage ideas for small spaces (more here)

Storage secret weapons

How to organise your closet

Things to do before twice-yearly closet switchout

How to store and maintain your sweaters

Decluttering

Why it feels great

How to get rid of clutter

How to declutter (not only a flat)

What needs to be thrown away from your flat

How to let go of the things you no longer need

Things you own too many of; you can throw away these too

Decuttering the bathroom

Decluterring masterpost

Decorating

Projects for every room in your home/flat

Add style to your home

DIY decorating ideas

How to use negative space

4 common decorating mistakes and how to avoid them

Questions to ask yourself before buying something new

How to choose furniture that’ll be easier to clean

Season-specific tips

Things to do before the cold season

Household hacks for winter

Preparing for Christmas

Green thumb 101

How to take care of succulents

Never kill a plant again

Living alone / Sharing a flat

How not to be lonely when living alone

12 things you can only do when home alone

What you learn by living alone

Things you learn while sharing a flat

What to pack when leaving for a dorm

How to seamlessly share a kitchen (or a flat in general)

Safety issues to discuss with flatmates

Benefits of living with strangers

And also how to turn a house into a home

[iamhannalashay]

Just kinda wanna be braless and eat fruit in peace tbh

[amorphousursa]

So did Eve and look where that got her

[teawitch]

I don’t know about you, but there are days when I could go for being braless, eating fruit and bringing about the downfall of man. 

[defydamage]

Reblog if all you want to do is be braless and eat fruit and bring about the downfall of man.