borderline

borderline/ dependent/ avoidant

[bpdream]

Me: hey I'm not feeling good today and I need some time alone

Someone: oh okay I'll give you some space

My BPD ass: nO WAIT DON'T ABANDON ME

[niqabisinparis]

little self care tips

- apply Vaseline to your eyes, lashes, brows, and lips before bed

- never brush curly hair while it’s dry

- on that note, applying products/oil to curly hair while dry is useless

- use a t shirt to dry hair to avoid frizz

- sleep without pants. trust me.

- avoid watery body lotions like Vaseline’s lotion. only dries you out

- avoid crystalline, jagged scrubs (sugar, coffee. St. Ives, etc.). Use round/gentle ones like oatmeal

- avoid coconut oil on face. if you apply it to your hair wash your face afterwards

- don’t put lemon on your face. it might seem like it’s helping but it weakens its protective layer in the long run. if you do use it, dilute it and avoid sun for a while.

- no toothpaste on pimples either it’s a myth

- why do u have a bra on at home. take that shit off and live a little.

- apply deodorant before getting dressed so it doesn’t rub off on your clothes defeating the purpose

- reapply sunscreen every 3-4 hours

- don’t text the fuckboy he don’t care about you

- wake up 30 minutes earlier to have a more relaxed morning and avoid rushing

- wash panties by themselves so you don’t get the gross dirt and germs from your other clothes mixed in. dry them in the sun to kill bacteria if possible.

- hand wash all hijabs they’ll last longer

- don’t use rose water with added fragrance. always check label

- eat at least one fruit or vegetable a day

- leave menial tasks for the end of the day. don’t drain yourself before getting to the important stuff

- before saying something mean or a nasty joke, take 5 seconds to think about it.

- apologizing first doesn’t make you weak

- being vulnerable doesn’t make you weak

- exfoliate after using foundation or powder

- clean phone screen with rubbing alcohol/sanitizer

might add more later or y'all can reblog with your own tips

[alphabetsoupdiagnosis-blog]

Vaseline on my eyes sounds like the innermost level of sensory hell

[positiveautistic-deactivated202]

They must mean eyelids😂

[flowerinaflame]

[lolibabe]

i hate how i don’t feel like i actually exist. the only way i can help myself and the only motivation i have to do the right thing always comes from someone else. i don’t do things for myself because who even is that?

it’s difficult being self sustainable when you struggle finding your ‘self’.

[voulair]

[bpdream]

I want a penpal so bad! Does anyone wanna write nice letters to each other??

[ahsjdkflgl]

everyone knows the only real cure for depression is to do something drastic to ur hair

[theneurotypicals]

Five Types of Dissociation

1) Depersonalisation: a sense of disconnection from one’s self. 

2) Derealisation: a sense of disconnection from one’s surroundings, including not recognising familiar people.

3) Amnesia: a sense of disconnection from one’s memory, including difficulty recalling personal information.

4) Identity confusion: a sense of disconnection from one’s sense of self, including the difficulty to define yourself.

5) Identity alteration: the sense of shift in role or identity in such a way that others notice.

[bpdream]

it's been a long time since i've used this blog but i'm probably going to start again. a lot of shit has happened to me in the last year and i need this blog again i think. i've been dealing with some serious illness, and some serious relationship problems and the direction of this blog might switch a bit more towards that but it'll still at it's heart be about coping and overcoming these problems. i love you all

[smmamm]

friend: are you okay? me: *trying out coffins* why do you ask?

[chronicallyinvisible]

friendly reminder-

wanting attention is normal

if you find yourself seeking attention, it’s probably because you need it

you don’t have to feel guilty for that

[advicefromsurvivors]

Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about aren’t mad or upset, because to you, “there’s no evidence that they’re not angry” is the same as “there’s evidence that they are angry”

[solitarelee]

I have never heard this put into words before but it explains so much. Even as a kid I was constantly scared my mom was mad just when she was making a neutral expression cause she could go from 0 to 60 with no other warning. 

[ancient-string]

Omg I didn’t realise. I do this. I’m constantly checking that people are ok and not mad.

Because that’s what my dad did. 0-rage monster in a second.

[anguisettesnakedtruth]

Hyper vigilance over other people’s emotional state because of previous / repeated / continuous exposure to volatile people is seriously just…the most exhausting, fucked up, draining, relationship-fucking, driving-yourself-mad thing and it is so rarely explained well or talked about at all and I’m SO GLAD this post is going around.  If someone is even slightly less than being 100% positive/happy/approving of me I pick up on it right away, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I fret and stress and am on edge. Which is so unfair because other people are allowed to have feelings and they’re allowed to express those feelings and it’s almost never about me anyway.  And then trying to explain that you expect them to be volatile assholes when they’ve never shown any evidence of being that way, and trying to say that it’s not personal, is almost impossible. Because it’s always taken personally and how can they not, really? 

[gwschoolhiatus-deactivated20161]

I wonder what the discourse looks like to people who don’t have this

[recovery-saved-me]

Abuse:

Domestic Violence and Abuse

Help for Abused and Battered Women

Help for Abused Men

Child Abuse and Neglect

Elder Abuse and Neglect

ADHD:

ADHD in Children

ADHD Parenting Tips

ADHD and School

Teaching Students with ADHD

ADHD Treatment in Children    

ADHD Tests and Diagnosis            

ADHD Medications

Adult ADHD                    

Coping Tips for Adult ADHD                  

Treatment for Adult ADD/ADHD                  

Adult ADHD and Relationships

Addictions:

Alcoholism and Alcohol Abuse                  

Alcohol Recovery                                                        

Drug Abuse and Addiction                                      

Drug Addiction Recovery                        

How to Quit Smoking                                  

Substance Abuse and Mental Illness                

Gambling Addiction and Problem Gambling                  

Internet and Computer Addiction

Anxiety:

Anxiety Disorders and Anxiety Attacks

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)                

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)                                      

Panic Attacks and Panic Disorder                    

Phobias and Fears                                        

Social Anxiety Disorder and Social Phobias                    

Therapy for Anxiety Disorders                                      

How to Stop Worrying                    

Anxiety Medication

Autism:

Autism Spectrum Disorders                    

Autism Symptoms and Early Signs                    

Helping Children with Autism                                      

Autism Behavior Problems

Bipolar:

Bipolar Disorder Signs and Symptoms                    

Bipolar Disorder Treatment                    

Bipolar Support and Self-Help                                        

Helping a Loved One with Bipolar Disorder                  

Bipolar Medication Guide

Depression:

Depression Symptoms                    

Depression Self-Help                  

Depression Treatment                                      

Antidepressants Helping a Depressed Person                                

Postpartum Depression                    

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)                                                          

Depression in Women Depression in Men                                      

Depression in Older Adults                  

Teen Depression: For Parents              

Teen Depression: For Teens

Eating Disorders:

Anorexia Nervosa: Signs, Symptoms, Causes, and Treatment                    

Bulimia Nervosa: Signs, Symptoms, Treatment, and Help

Binge Eating Disorder: Symptoms, Causes, Treatment, and Help              

Eating disorder treatment and self-help                        

Eating Disorder Treatment and Recovery: Tips and Strategies for Overcoming Anorexia and Bulimia

 Helping Someone with an Eating Disorder: Advice for Parents, Family Members, and Friends

Emotional Eating: How to Recognize and Stop Emotional Eating

Family & Divorce:

Children and Divorce                    

Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents                    

Step-Parenting and Blended Families                                        

Coping with a Breakup or Divorce

Grief & loss:

Coping with Grief and Loss                    

Supporting a Grieving Person                  

Coping with Pet Loss                                        

Coping with a Breakup or Divorce                    

Saying Goodbye: Terminal Illness

Personality disorders:

Borderline PersonalityDisorder

Helping Someone with a Borderline Personality Disorder    

Finding a Therapist Who Can Help You Heal                  

Emotional and Psychological Trauma

PTSD/Trauma:

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)                  

PTSD in Veterans                    

Traumatic Stress                                      

Emotional and Psychological Trauma                    

Helping Someone with PTSD                                      

Substance Abuse and Mental Health

Relationships:

Relationship Help                    

How to Make Close Friends                    

How to Find Lasting Love                                    

Fixing Relationships with Humor                  

Attachment and Adult Relationships                                      

Effective Communication                    

Conflict Resolution Skills                                      

Nonverbal Communication                  

Anger Management

Schizophrenia:

Understanding Schizophrenia                    

Schizophrenia Treatment                                                          

Helping Someone with Schizophrenia                    

Substance Abuse and a Mental Disorder

Sleep:

How to Sleep Better                    

How Much Sleep Do You Need?                  

How to Stop Snoring                    

Sleeping Pills and Natural Sleep Aids                                      

Can’t Sleep?                  

How to Sleep Well as You Age                                                                  

Sleep Disorders and Sleeping Problems                    

Sleep Apnea                                        

Narcolepsy                    

Restless Legs Syndrome (RLS)

Stress:

Stress Symptoms, Signs, and Causes                    

Stress at Work                    

Job Loss and Unemployment Stress                  

Caregiver Stress and Burnout                    

Preventing Burnout                                      

Stress Management                    

Stress Relief in the Moment                    

Relaxation Techniques for Stress Relief                    

How to Practice Yoga and Tai Chi                    

12 Ways to Reduce Stress with Music

Suicide Prevention:

Suicide Help                    

Suicide Prevention                                        

Depression Symptoms and Warning Signs                    

Dealing with Depression                                      

Dealing with Bullying                  

Dealing with Cyberbullying

Teen Issues:

Teenager’s Guide to Depression                    

Cutting and Self-Harm                    

Dealing with Bullying                      

Dealing with Cyberbullying                                                          

Suicide Help                    

Alcoholism and Alcohol Abuse                    

Drug Abuse and Addiction                  

Overcoming Loneliness and Shyness                                                        

Help for Parents of Troubled Teens            

Parents’ Guide to Teen Depression                  

Suicide Prevention

Work & career:

Finding Meaningful Work                    

Job Networking                    

Interviewing                    

Volunteering                                        

Stress at Work                    

Preventing Burnout                    

Job Loss and Unemployment

[bpd-reminders]

Your excitement isn’t as annoying as you think it is

[asarlaithe-deactivated20220528]

please remember that in a healthy, adult relationship (romantic or not), you should be able to talk about things that are bothering you. if you are bottling up your emotions and holding it against someone when you haven’t told them what is wrong, you’re not engaging in healthy behaviour. but also, if your friend/significant other makes you feel as though you can’t talk about what bothers you- i.e. has made you feel guilty/gotten extraordinarily angry when things were brought up in the past- they are not engaging in healthy behaviour.

[marst-n]

It’s Borderline Personality Disorder awareness month and you know what that means. Be aware of me. Please give me attention I have BPD and need reassurance that I’m not hated by everyone around me.

[bpdream]

It's so hard to stay positive. It feels like everything is so shitty and it'll never get better and I have no one to help me. I can't do this on my own.