The Boot

Trans girls are rablwaa, and don't let anyone tell you different.

[air-so-sweet]

btw your fat friends notice when the first thing you criticize about a bad person is their weight

[narwhalsarefalling]

can axolotls survive in a gallon bucket of sprite

Yeah they can but you really shouldn't.

[starlightnecromancer]

Sometimes I think about how there's a lot of gender expression in the queer community that is just completely and entirely cut off for fat queers.

Like if you're a fat gay man you're a bear and that's the only gender expression you're "allowed". I've never, ever, seen someone refer to an effeminate fat gay man as a femboy. It doesn't matter if he's dressing the exact same way as the twink (who's gender expression is explicitly about thinness), the twink is a femboy twink and the bear is just a girly bear.

I see it over in sapphic spaces too. Butch is a word that yes is open to women of all sizes but Femme really.... isn't? Femme presumes that you're thin. Sure you can be a fat femme, but your fatness will detract from how femme you are and if you do anything less than High Femme Princess Peach ass shit then you'll be shoved into the Butch Zone despite anyone with eyes knowing that you're not butch you're just a fat femme who didn't have the energy to do her full Instagram Cottage Core outfit today

Its been a known both in and out of the trans community that fatness may as well be its own gender experiance. If you're a cis woman, but you're also fat, your gender is now fat. Oh people will still she/her you, but you're gonna be unpersoned because you're not attractive enough to be a woman. If you're a cis man it'll be the same deal, just repeatedly dehumanized because fatness isn't attractive to mainstream society and if people's boners don't activate then you aren't a real man/woman.

In the nonbinary community its extremely painful because the only view of androgyny is "Skinny twink who could pass for either". If you're fat and also some flavor of nonbinary you get to settle for "Mistaken for a trans man/woman" if you're visibly queer.

[steamandcream]

thinking about how when you experience a lot of shame in your formative years (indirectly, directly, as abuse or just as an extant part of your environment) it becomes really difficult to be perceived by other people in general. the mere concept of someone watching me do anything, whether it's a totally normal activity or something unfamiliar of embarrassing, whether I'm working in an excel spreadsheet or being horny on main, it just makes my skin crawl and my brain turn to static because I cannot convince myself that it's okay to be seen and experienced. because to exist is to be ashamed and embarrassed of myself, whether I'm failing at something or not, because my instinctive reaction to anyone commenting on ANYTHING I'm doing is to crawl into a hole and die. it's such a bizarre and dehumanizing feeling to just not be able to exist without constantly thinking about how you are being Perceived. ceaseless watcher give me a god damn break.

[steamandcream]

sorry to put your tags on blast on this insane breach containment post I have since muted, but you're right and you should say it.

It is defeatable. Go for the throat.

[thelightfluxtastic]

I have a research background in weight stigma and I currently work in mental health, often with LGBTQ+ clients.

I've met nonbinary people who struggle with disordered eating because they only ever see androgyny depicted as featureless thinness.

I've met trans women who struggle with disordered eating because they've internalized the idea that girls are meant to be thin, dainty, and delicate.

I've men trans men who struggle with disordered eating, because they feel women are allowed to be soft/curvy but men need to be muscular or thin and flat.

So many trans people are convinced that weight loss is the key to appearing as their desired gender, even when they want radically different gender presentations.

The societal idealization of thinness and fatphobia falsely invades and derails people's idea of what their "ideal body" should look like.

[thisisthinprivilege]

The social effects of privileging thinness are so damaging. Like, it's hard enough to deviate from expected gender roles and binary sexuality but now fat people have to do it on hard mode

[thyfleshc0nsumed]

I think so many problems online can be solved by either going "damn, not my problem" or simply sending a screenshot to a group chat

[pixelartpeach]

Hey do you guys remember when Google worked. Do you. Do you remember when it worked better than the Tumblr search function.

[jv]

Once more, Tumblr ends winning by just being there and doing nothing

[mikkeneko]

#*blows a kiss to the three remaining staff members making the buttons look Worse or whatever their latest project is*

[galileosballs]

Something that gets really lost in a lot of discourse is that what we would now call 'going low-contact' or 'going no-contact' with your family used to be so completely within the normal range of familial contact that there wasn't even a term for it. Sure, in the pre-IM pre-social media days some people were calling their parents daily, but I'd wager the vast majority of people were not. Long distance calling used to be quite expensive, after all. If your kid went to the big city to seek their fortune you might hear from them every few weeks, or every month, or once a year, and that wasn't particularly odd. This was even more the case before telephones were common, of course - people would send letters, but definitely not more than once a week and probably a lot less. It was just a normal, accepted fact that you'd hear from some family members who lived nearby often, and some who lived farther away very rarely.

The minimum amount of contact with family that is expected of people in the groupchat-facetime-instagram era is so much higher than at any previous point in history. The ceiling is about the same, since then and now multiple generations often live under the same roof, but the floor is higher by orders of magnitude.

How many adult children who are 'no-contact' or 'low-contact' now would also have been the ones who moved to the city and sent a letter every three months then? Is family estrangement an actual current problem, or is it just an illusion caused by smartphones?

[hyperlexichypatia]

When I complain about increased surveillance, control, and infantilization of older kids and young adults, it's often a level of surveillance and control that wouldn't have been possible, or at least practical, in previous generations. At minimum, it would've been escapable.

[snapscube]

Bechdel test GO!

i’m so good at this. literally i can do this all day without stopping its so easy to be a woman talking about anything. i knew id amount to something. if only my dad could see me now.

[april]

ⓘ Tip If you feel unfulfilled by how you spent your time today, you can stay up late to try to combat the sense of dissatisfaction. This will ensure that you feel even worse tomorrow.

[hyrmamoras]

[nongunktional]

when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

[unpeeled-human]

i literally dont care what your excuse for using AI is. if you didnt put your own effort into making it im not putting my own effort into interacting with it.

[unpeeled-human]

"buhbub uhbubuh its just a tool!!" yeah youd know about being a tool wouldnt you

[our-lady-of-haymakers]

Samus Aran is the most transfem character ever because she's had to become so very strong and well-prepared to operate in environments where everything wants to murder her, but for all her training and equipment, there's still situations in her life where the only way she can move forward is by balling herself up into the tiniest possible shape and rolling along the path before her. But eventually she gets to expand her options with explosives, and that's what every trans girl needs to urgently procure.

[cursedwoman1859]

internet safety we were taught as kids: don't share ANY personal information with ANYONE EVER the british government: you don't want to give these random third parties your photo or driving licence showing your name, birthday, address and signature? are you perhaps a nonce?

[murraysiskind-deactivated202511]

It’s so crazy that suicide prevention is just people going awwww don’t!! Awwww come on noooooooooo stopppppp

[allhailklisz]

[yokelfelonking]

One of the best ones I saw was a thing noting that every single one of the few survivors of suicide jumps off of the Golden Gate Bridge realized, on the way down, that the problems they were killing themselves over actually were fixable or could be worked through...except for the now - extremely unfixable - problem of gravity.

[authortobenamedlater]

Went to the Holocaust Museum in DC once. There was a video interview of an Auschwitz survivor who said he and some other prisoners stayed up all night with a man who wanted to kill himself. The man didn’t kill himself and survived to liberation.

In the video the survivor said “Never seek a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And they’re all temporary problems.”

Hearing that from a guy who survived the Holocaust rewired my brain a little bit.

[drgrlfriend]

I think something a lot of people don't understand is that depression is not suicidality, and suicidality is not depression. People can, and are, depressed without being suicidal, and sometimes suicidality peaks as people are emerging from depression. Suicidality is a wave, and the trick is to allow that wave to crest and subside WITHOUT acting on it. Whatever it takes to ride it out. For some people that's distraction, like watching television. For others it's calling a friend -- not to talk about the suicidality, but just to talk. For others it could be as simple as going to sit in a coffee shop or library, because the presence of other people is a huge diminisher of suicide risk. That's what suicide safety planning is about. It's like having any other type of emergency plan, like a plan for fire or evacuation. It's making a plan when you are in the frame of mind to do so, so that you can just DO the plan without having to think about it when the occasion arises. When you're in the midst of suicidal ideation, or even intent, you're not in a problem-solving mood. So knowing past!you, with the help of a therapist hopefully, came up with the plan and all you have to do is follow up until the wave crests and subsides, is what allows you to see another day.

ETA: Here's a link to a safety plan. https://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/988-safety-plan.pdf

[why-i-love-comics]

DC Pride #1 - "Master Planner" (2025)

written by Jenny Blake art by Sara Soler