Without a Spark

20-something who dips in & out of various fandoms. Currently obsessing over: Yuri!!! on Ice, Snow White with the Red Hair, The Good Place, & Check Please!. She/her, bi & aro-spec. May ocassionally be NSFW. Ao3 name: phoenixwings 

[otherwindow]

getting your first house in a video game

[nitrosplicer]

do you ever bite into a piece of cheese on bread and immediately find yourself as a true and honest shepherd boy in the 1300s who sometimes steals apples but is overall hale and truehearted

[mishalak-deactivated20200713]

Weird. I bit into bread and cheese and find myself mischievous knave from the 1500s as ready to drink an ale in good company as to cut the purse of a lord, but is an overall wastrel.

[the-courage-to-heal]

[cryptidcvnt]

It shouldn’t be a rarity in a relationship to be given room to breathe, time to spend on your own or with friends, or space to do things you enjoy.

You should never have to feel like you need to tiptoe around your partner in fear of their anger or disapproval at your desire and need for personal space or time apart.

You should never have to ask your partner for permission to spend time on your own, or with your friends, or your hobbies. Your partner is not your parent or legal guardian.

And while every relationship is different, with different boundaries and ways of communicating, a healthy relationship will never make you feel suffocated, controlled, belittled, or inferior.

This applies to all relationships, not just romantic ones. In your friendships, in your families, in your coworkers. Give people room to breathe. Give people room to be.

It hurts me to see the surprise on someone’s face when their personal space and boundaries are actually respected and encouraged. It should not be a novelty.

[acreaturecalledgreed]

sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”

unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc

just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”

abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?

[carnotaurus-sassytrei]

Important post.

Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.

[princesstigerbelle]

I’m watching that show too cute right now what y’all doin

[princesstigerbelle]

Tigerbelle loves watching the kitties on tv also 😂😂😂😂

[princesstigerbelle]

[24ozsteak]

hello would u guys like a pic of my son being, Bad?

[24ozsteak]

[honey-sunny-bee]

[averruncusho]

You guys have GOT to stop putting your jokes in the tags

[higgsboshark]

The thing about knitting is it’s much harder to fear the existential futility of all your actions while you’re doing it.

Like ok, sure, sometimes it’s hard to believe you’ve made any positive impact on the world. But it’s pretty easy to believe you’ve made a sock. Look at it. There it is. Put it on, now your foot’s warm.

Checkmate, nihilism.

[cheskamouse]

This is a powerful positive message..

[pluckyredhead]

I’m literally reading a book right now (Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski) that says this is scientifically sound.

There have been studies done on rats and dogs where they develop learned helplessness in the animals by giving them impossible tasks. Eventually the animals stop trying, even when the task stops being impossible. (I.e. put a rat in a maze with cheese it can’t get to until it develops learned helplessness, then put the cheese somewhere it can get to it and it won’t even try.) But once they show the animals they CAN do something - i.e. physically moving the rat to the cheese - the learned helplessness goes away.

No one can move you to your cheese for you, but the book says DOING something - which they define as “anything that isn’t nothing” can help. Make a food. Work in the garden. Clean a thing. Do a favor for a friend. Call your elected officials.

Knit a sock.

If you feel overwhelmed by existential despair, do something. It doesn’t have to be big. It just has to be anything that isn’t nothing.

[adhd-informative]

This is really good advice for ADHD people because when executive dysfunction gets bad it’s easy to fall into this pattern of thinking. Do just one thing. It doesn’t have to be your homework, or a chore. It can be something small, it can be something you enjoy. But do just one thing to remind yourself that you can.

[hyperactivehedgehog]

This is what “humans want to be productive” really means

We want to make things. We want to do something and at the end of the process see that something has changed. We want physical proof that we did something. We want to be able to point at something and say “I made this”. We want to be creators

[kittyknowsthings]

[noriannbraindripshere]

[postmastered]

STOP

[mrakmrakmrak]

[mysharona1987]

[bizarrolord-deactivated20241123]

If your partner feels threatened when you want alone time: RUN.

[theechrysalisamidst]

welp

[rashemibabe]

thats creepy

[thank-you-for-the-vampire-money]

This applies to you boys too- if your girlfriend won’t let you hang out with your friends, RUN

[snakebitcat]

No matter what gender you or your partner are, if they refuse to let you spend any time with your friends that’s a big sign of danger.

[ganymedesclock]

People who try to tell me things are ‘not that deep’ fundamentally misunderstand me, I am not a fish desperately in search of the ocean, I am a magpie that roves the canons, searching for shiny things to put in my nest. Whether or not it actually is given deep narrative weight by canon itself is of secondary importance to the fact that it has the potential to be interesting, and thus, I covet it.

[tailornorata]

“It’s not that deep”

Maybe not originally, but the ground is soft and I’m ready to dig.

[copperbadge]

“The ground is soft and I’m ready to dig” is the best description of the fanfic attitude I’ve ever seen. 

[solarsyrup]

Still blows my mind how quickly capitalism self-destructed streaming tv

Like netflix rejuvenated a dying market and made it way more afforadable and accessible, and then… everyone needed a slice of the pie and fucked the whole thing up

Incredible

[solarsyrup]

An actual genius: What if we made television convenient and inexpensive again?

Corporations: What if we milked this money cow until it fucking DIED

[acadjonne]

Hey @bassicallyelora I made you a meme

Template was made by spacey_mars on twitter

[thesadghostclub]

If today felt impossible, if it took everything you have just to get through. Rest easy with the knowledge that you never have to do today again. It’s over. You did it <3

[speakbeastypodcast]

We ❤️ these house pride Nifflers!

Show us your house pride in the comments! ❤️💙💛💚

Fantastic fan art by instagram.com/naomi_lord

[tockthewatchdog-deactivated2020]

i love that i have to go to menswear to find a shirt a human being in the world would wear and then when i do it takes me .5 seconds to find it. I love that

[tockthewatchdog-deactivated2020]

me: i need a plain black t shirt

target women’s section: would you like to have a giant scoop neck that would definitely like completely show at least one of your boobs. would you, an adult woman, like to wear a crop top? would you like to look like a human piñata. BLACK? I think you mean jewel tones babey!

target men’s section: yeah sure. it’s the first thing you see as you walk into the shirt aisle. have a good one

[themadcapmathematician]

Women’s section: would you like a shirt made out of tissue paper that costs $34.99??

Men’s section: here’s 25 normal tshirts for a quarter

[dare-to-dm]

Women’s Section: Would you like to play fucking guessing games with our arbitrary sizing systems and style names?  Also, we added a bunch of fake pockets for your personal inconvenience!

Men’s Section: Here’s a bunch of pants organized by the exact inch length of your waist and legs.  With pockets that can hold more than just a credit card.

[sammit-janet]

Women’s Section:  Oh you want a plain tee-shirt?  Here you go, it’s completely see through so you either have to a) wear something else over it or b) let everyone see your bra!

Men’s Section:  Here’s an amazingly comfortable shirt that no one can see your undergarments through.  Have a nice day!

[gutter-adonis]

Women’s section: if you’re a nerd? I guess you wanna show titties and have glitter huh???

Men’s section: Here this has the hogwarts crest on it and it’s like five bucks

[i-tried-and-i-lost]

Women’s section: you want shorts? I guess that means you want something really short huh??? Might even see your butt??

Men’s section: Here’s comfortable shorts that are longer than like 15 cm long, have a good day

[domiingoenfuego]

i found the post again

[small-town-spooks]

Women’s section:you want a hoodie? Well here’s one that’s tight fitting and accents the one thing you don’t want to be seen, miss!

Men’s section:hoodie? Oh sure, here’s a loose fitting one that is perfect for hiding lumps of death have a nice day young man

[astrophelos]

Women’s section: pockets? Yeah sure of course! We’ll give you fifty fake pockets.

Men’s section: you can put your first born in one of ten pockets and still have room for more things