i wanna cry and fall in love, but all my tears have been used up

icon credit: fizzyflags aromantic/arospec sideblog. cupio + rose + gray + demi. potentially fray*. acespec/aceflux (unlabeled). *although considered opposite to demi, i think my attraction works like a hill on a graph (takes a long time to gain, lasts for a bit, then fades) romance-favorable.

[butcharo]

for my first (un)original post on this blog, i'd like to, respectfully and with credit, repost some arospec flags that were/are very important to me and that i'm sure others will find connection with too!! reblogs are greatly appreciated if you like them!!

the coiner + designer is @/L1M3S0DA on twitter, who has officially gone private for the foreseeable future. OP, if you see this and would like it taken down, whether because you are also on tumblr now or otherwise, just let me know and i will do so ASAP!!

1. STICKER AROSPEC

[ID: a flag with 5 stripes: white, lime green, hill green, forest green, and a greenish-gray. there is a lime green heart with a stiched outline in the middle. a twitter screenshot follows it, reading: "the sticker arospec flag!! for aro people who have only experienced romantic attraction once in their life, but that experience is an important part of your identity, like how a sticker can only be used once but can be in your journal or diary forever!! <3 #/inclustwt #/flagtwt" /End ID]

2. STICKER AROSPEC LESBIAN & BI

[ID: two sticker aro flags, edited in colors to match the sunset lesbian and original bisexual flags a little more. the lesbian one is the same but has a faded orange and pink replacing the bottom stripes. the bi one has the first two green stripes shifted to look more teal, while the bottom two are desaturated purple and pink, almost like a gradient. the lesbian flag has a pink stitched heart, while the bi flag has a purple stitched heart. they are followed by a twitter screenshot which reads: "the sticker arospec lesbian and bisexual flags!! for sticker arospec people who also identify with lesbian or bi. requested by (my username, which is censored for privacy reasons)!! #/inclustwt #/flagtwt" /End ID]

3. BLURRY AROSPEC

[ID: two flags, consisting of six stripes each. they are both the exact same thing, but the one on the left has a noise effect applied. the first three stripes are similar shades of hill green, getting lighter from top to bottom. the last three stripes are similar shades of gray, getting darker from top to bottom. there is a twitter screenshot below them, which reads as follows: "// possible eyestrain maybe? the blurry arospec flag!! for people on the aromantic spectrum who are sure they are arospec, but have trouble telling if they experience romantic attraction or not. requested by an anon!! #/inclustwt #/flagtwt" /End ID]

[sternenschaukler]

Lavender Ace Flag:

|| My version of a 5 stripe Asexual flag, that matches the aro, aroace and other a-spec/ LGBTQIA+ flags (and is way more aesthetically pleasing in my opinion because of the symmetry and the colours). It's a flag for anyone on the asexual spectrum. (Feel free to use this if you like it!)

Possible meanings for the stripes:

black: asexuality

grey: grey ace spectrum

white: sexuality

lavender: queerness/ the queer community

purple: the ace community

lavender already exists in the LGBT+ community as a colour representing queerness, diversity and acceptance.

That makes lavender a really good fit for this new ace flag!

[sternenschaukler]

Some more combo flags with this design:

Aroace flag:

AAA battery/ aro-ace-agender flag:

[themogaidragon]

Sensory Friendly Aloe Vera A-spec Flag

PT: Sensory Friendly Aloe Vera A-spec Flag /end PT

ID: a flag with six horizontal stripes, the middle one biggerr and the exterior ones very thin. Their colors are, from top to bottom, greenish black, yellowish green, white, pastel magenta and greenish black. In the middle of flag is a stylized magenta and green symbol of a plant. End ID

The aloe vera flag was redesigned by fandom user RavenFire803 on July 1th, 2021. @themogaidragon remade it to make it less aggressive to eye and better quality. The og aloe vera aspec flag (link) was designed by Tumblr users Sapphic-Squirrel and Hetaces​ with help from the Inclusionist Discord Server.

PSD file link.

[the-inherent-question]

This is swayromantic(i couldn't find a better name also if the flag looks bad I'm new to this)

Swayromantic: is an identity on the aro spectrum where one feels little romantic attraction but when they do they choose the person and they actually start to like them swayromantic individuals may also be able to control when they stop liking the person other times the crush kinda fades (it doesn't always have too that's just my experience and I made up the identity so I'm biased to my experience)

The Colors: Green = Aromanticism, Red = Romance, White = The Spectrum, Gray = The Gray Area, and Black = Control(please tell me if i can do better this is my first time doing this)

This is swaysexual which has the same definition just switch romantic attraction to sexual attraction (sorry I got kinda lazy)

The Colors: Black = Control, Pink = Sexuality, White = The Spectrum, Gray = The Gray Area, and Purple = Asexuality

Sorry if this is bad please tell me if I should change something about the flag or name I'm new to this just don't be an asshole tho

[saveyourhelplessspite]

strongest bitches out there are the aro's that maintag their aro headcanon posts tbh

[saveyourhelplessspite]

ESPECIALLY THEN. bravest people on this entire internet undoubtedly.

[aromanticofficial]

truly the best of us

[sunnylovesgirlythings]

I feel the phrase “Aro/Ace people can still date/have sex” has just morphed into a new version of “you just haven’t found the right person yet.”

Yes we can. But it’s our call if we do. And it’s certainly not gonna be with anyone who tries to use the fluidity of our experiences as a clap back to break firmly set boundaries.

And that fluidity doesn’t make sexual/romantic repulsion that some of us experience any less true or valid.

I’ve never had sex and I never will. The sheer concept of it viscerally disgusts me.

I’ve never experienced any form of sexual attraction and know at this point i likely never will. I have zero framework for it when people talk about it. It confuses me.

“Little to no romantic/sexual attraction” has a no in it for a reason. Because aro/ace people who don’t experience sexual/romantic attraction at all regardless of circumstance are in fact real.

Other ace people have different experiences. They’re allowed to. Their experiences aren’t mine or anyone else’s to make. Nor are mine theirs.

Sexualities are complicated and often fluid sure. But one thing they’re not is negotiable.

Ace peoples boundaries are ours to make and yours to respect. No ifs or buts. You don’t get a say in it.

[runwiththerain]

more people need to be aware of the term alterous attraction (a desire for a close emotional connection with someone, but it's not completely romantic or platonic) and use it instead of calling everything a qpr. because by calling everything a qpr you are turning that term into a label instead of what it actually is - an umbrella term for many non conventional types of relationships.

[squidfreak]

Rosey Cupid's Aro

Doesn't have a meaning, just an alternative Cupid's Aro flag!

Made for aromantic awareness week!

[bloomshroomz-deactivated2026041]

Cupid's Aro Pride Flag

I had this idea to make an aromantic pride flag based on the concept of Cupid's arrow. "Cupid's aro" is a pun that I've seen every now and then, but as far as I can tell, it doesn't have any assigned meaning within the aromantic community. This term has been floating around in my brain for at least several months, and I wanted to make something of it. So, here's my coining:

"Cupid's aro" is a term for aromantic people who have a notable connection to attraction, romance, love, affection, intimacy, and/or partnership. For example, this includes:

People on the aromantic spectrum who experience some level of attraction, regardless of whether that attraction is romantic or not. This includes greyromantics, aroallos, oriented aroaces, etc.

People on the aromantic spectrum who are romance-favorable, romance-indifferent, or otherwise have feelings towards romance which can't be described as wholly averse or repulsed.

People on the aromantic spectrum who are partnering, regardless of whether they are romantically partnering or not.

People on the aromantic spectrum who experience love.

People on the aromantic spectrum who enjoy being deeply affectionate and/or intimate with other people.

People on the aromantic spectrum who enjoy aesthetics like lovecore, and/or enjoy holidays like Valentine's day.

It's an intentionally loose term because I'm not the first to come up with it, and I won't be the last. I'm mostly coining this for fun.

Here are some variants featuring different identities:

You don't have to identify as a "Cupid's aro" to use any of these flags. Using them as flags for the identities they represent, without "Cupid's" attached, is also fine.

[squidfreak]

Aroflux-allo & demiaro-allo

Flags for beings who are aroflux and allosexual, or demiaro and allosexual!

[butcharo]

it might make more sense visually for demiaroallo to swap the green/yellow stripes with the top and that way the middle stripe can be white like the original, while the gray of the demi flag can stay on the bottom and the colors will be in the right order. does this make sense?

[wiredd0llie]

꒰ ೀ‧₊˚ limiromantic ︶꒷꒦︶ limisexual !!

limiromantic ⸝⸝ an aro-spec identity in which one is only romantically attracted to unachievable people ( for ex. celebrities ) ,, and has very limited romantic attraction for those they know in real life .

limisexual ⸝⸝ an ace-spec identity in which one is only sexually attracted to unachievable people ( for ex. celebrities ) ,, and has very limited sexual attraction for those they know in real life .

coined by me / morutefawnn 4/26/24 on both tumblr and twitter / X

[aroaceenjolras]

Love-integral aro

An aro identity in which love, however one defines it, is placed at the center of one’s identity and considered to be integral to how one moves through the world. 

[This term was not coined in opposition to loveless or lovequeer– merely to provide an identity label for those in our community who embrace love as a central part of their identities and lived experiences. I support all good-faith identities and ways of experiencing the world, even if I don’t understand them.]

[isobug]

Sensory-friendly edits of the Love-integral Aro flag

I use the term Love-Integral Aro, but the original flag is very hard for me to see because of my disabilities and sensory issues so I made these flags for myself! Anyone can use them though

The first has higher saturation on the blue and green in the flag, to make it easier to distinguish from the white. The second is the first flag but with lower brightness to avoid eyestrain!

The flag was originally made by @aropearl, you can find it here! All credit still goes to them!

( Image ID. A flag with four stripes, all equally sized. in order they are sky blue, white, bright green, and white. in the center of the flag surrounded by a white border is a sky blue heart. an upside down "V" shape lays across it, it is bright green. this shape has a white border on the outside, and a white border on the inside, making it look like two smaller bright green "V" shapes.

The next flag is the same as the first, but darkened. All of the sky blues are now blue, all of the bright greens are now green, and all of the white has been turned into grey-white. End IDs )

[butcharo]

here's a working link to the original post mentioned above

[dhddmods]

Pocket Orientation!

Pocket Orientation: a sexual orientation, romantic orientation, or relationship orientation that is used by only a small group of people, and is not well-known to the general queer community.

This encompasses pocket sexualities, while also including romantic orientations and relationship orientations. It goes alongside with pocket genders.

The black is for a-spec, ater-spec, or non-partnering orientations and/or attraction to genderless or partially-gendered people.

Blue is for orientations that include attraction to masculine genders and/or include alterous attraction.

Pink is for orientations that include attraction to feminine genders and/or include romantic attraction.

Green is for orientations that include attraction to neutral genders and/or include sensual attraction.

Yellow is for orientations that include attraction to outherine or xenic genders, and/or include platonic or queerplatonic attraction.

Purple is for orientations that include attraction to androgynous genders and/or include sexual attraction.

White is for orientations that include attraction to multigenders/fluid genders/flux genders and/or include other non-rose attractions.

[butcharo]

oh, i think sticker arospec fits perfectly under this umbrella!

[paws-pride-storage]

Aro Pusheen icons!

Stickers : https://stickerd.tumblr.com/post/163526099901/pusheen-the-cat

[knifearo]

daily gentle reminder that the words we use to describe ourselves are labels. they're not immutable states of being, they're not all-encompassing, they're not permanent, they're not universal; labels are just words that we use to indicate something about our experience that we find important enough to communicate to others. if your experience with attraction is significantly different enough from a typical allo experience then aspec labels are there for you to use as long as you want them; and conversely, what aspec labels communicate is just that someone's experience is aligned enough with what we describe as aromanticism/asexuality to warrant telling people about it. you never need a label, you never need to keep a label, you never need to justify a label, and you never need to use a label for anything besides what you want it for. it's not a contract. it's an adjective that you can choose to use or not to use. all it needs to do is be useful for you. 💚🖤

[butcharo]

do any other rose + cupio identifiers on the spectrum out there really struggle with internalized arophobia and/or amatonormativity, especially those of us who are super romance-favorable? i wish more than anything to have a romantic partner but i haven't had any crushes (on a real person) in many years. i'm a hopelessly romantic individual and i enjoy engaging with such relationships in fictional media, though i can't seem to mimic that idealistic lifestyle for myself unless i force it into repulsion. it probably doesn't help that i'm also gray + demi and that just makes my selection incomprehensibly small.

i guess another way to explain it in simple words would be through the song "another love" by tom odell, which feels like a very sticker arospec experience to me:

and i wanna kiss you, make you feel alright i'm just so tired to share my nights i wanna cry and i wanna love but all my tears have been used up on another love, another love i wanna sing a song that'd be just ours but i sang 'em all to another heart and i wanna cry, i wanna fall in love but all my tears have been used up