Advices from the heart.

A tumblr advice blog. You're never alone. There may be times when you need someone who'll listen and try to cheer you up. And that's what we are here for, to listen to you and keep you going, because sometimes all you need are some comforting words to help you up. Whether it be problems or just rants/ just need to express something. You may remain anonymous, we promise for no negative rants , just, pure Sincere advices, from a kid who cares. :) I answer in pure english & tagalog. ASK ME HEREMy personal blog since 120113.

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[butimhereforyou]

I don't feel well. Hug please? :( even if it's a virtual one.. I just... don't feel loved by any of my real friends anymore..

/Virtual huuuuugs. Why not? please do tell me! :c or if you don’t want it to be public, I can answer in private!But I assure you, you are loved. Maybe you’re just focused too much on the negative thoughts that you forgot the ones that think positively about you. Please don’t let your problems/fears get away with you thinking that you aren’t loved because you are! :(Come by anytime for more hugs, ayt? /hug. n_n

[butimhereforyou]

So this guy I work with keeps on hitting on me via text and is saying real sexual things and stuff, but I don't like him. Like he was saying things like I could take your V cards and stuff. If he asked me a sexual question I would just politely ignore it because I don't want to be rude, but what do I do if this happens again!?

Just continue ignoring it, the thing is, people continue bothering/pestering you if you keep on entertaining them, because they know they have gained your attention so they continue provoking you. But if you show them/him you have no interest or you continue ignoring him, then he should eventually stop and get tired, if he continues on and you keep on ignoring him, there’ll be a point wherein he’ll give up and get tired of bothering you and might even look for someone else. Just don’t entertain him, because it will only encourage him more thinking you have an interest in him. Moreover, if he gets to the point where he becomes extremely rude, just get straightforward. Tell him you’re not interested and that he’s coming off extremely annoying, since you have the right to get angry anyways.

[butimhereforyou]

give me a reason to smile

The fact that you typed that and sent it to me is already a reason to smile. You're alive, you're moving, you're breathing, means that God gave you another chance to live and to make up for all your mistakes, to start anew and to pursue the dreams you've been dreaming. You are here. And you're here for a purpose. You have a reason, for living. So go spend everyday of your life, searching for that reason, but remember not to lose yourself while you're at it. You told me to give you merely a reason, shall I continue on and give you more reasons? 

[butimhereforyou]

A guy keeps ending the convo with take care--good or bad thing?

I've surveyed some of my guy friends for this.

Most of them said it's a good thing because it shows their concern and that they say it tells that he wants you to take care, nothing more, nothing less. It's just that. He's worried/concern about you. 

yet some said it's a bad thing to always end a convo with take care because they say it's like the guy's making an excuse to end the conversation or that they see you as nothing more than a friend.

Personally, I think it depends on the guy and it also depends on your conversation. You'll know. Just look at it based on the type of conversations you have before he says it. Does it look like he's saying it out of concern, or he's saying it to end the conversation? But don't go overthinking on things, it may also mean "take care", that he's just looking out for you and wants you to keep watching out for yourself and wants you to be safe.

[butimhereforyou]

why do all girls fall in love with looks first

“All.”Wow dude, that’s where you’re wrong. :cStop stereotyping us girls that we’re all the same, chasing after looks and all, I bet you wouldn’t feel nice when some girl you loved said the same thing to guys.Anyways, I know, it’s hard, nobody falls in love with your personality first. I mean, it’s always the outer appearance a person usually sees first, right? So they tend to fall for you immediately if you’re attractive, even if sometimes they don’t know you yet.But that’s not the point. Try to get to know a girl. I’m sure she wouldn’t judge you for it. Be the first to say hi, tell her that her smile’s beautiful because every girl deserves to be told that. Get to know her, explore her like she’s some kind of mystery you want to decipher. Soon, when you two get close, she’ll open up to you, you’ll know her fears, her flaws, the things that keeps her awake at night, the things that makes her happy, And if she does fall for you in between, then that’s when you’ll know she loves you for what you are, for who you are. Most girls, when they fall for you- the whole you, your looks would just be a bonus point to them. Someone who’d keep them secure and feel appreciated,

Now what’s more handsome than that? Haha.

[butimhereforyou]

What's the best compliment to say to a girl?

I think the best compliment isn’t the ones where you say "your eyes are beautiful""to me you’re perfect"or"I love the way you smile."But, the best ones are the ones where you appreciate every little thing she got, those ones which people hardly notice but you do, and you appreciate it about her. Those things like, "I love how your eyes curve when you smile""I love that little hiccup you do when you laugh""I love how you blush when you’re shy" "I like the way your eye twitches a bit when you’re angry"Those compliments which makes her know that you’re really appreciating her and every little detail she has, even her flaws. All her imperfections that makes her seem so perfect to you.(i honestly have this habit of rubbing the nails of my thumb against each other whenever I’m sad, and if a guy ever notices that I’ll be like gaaaaaah omg lol)

[butimhereforyou]

How do i tell my old best friends that i have family problems? because i've been disappeared these past couple of years. they don't have my number phone, they couldn't contact me. because i don't want to be bothered with all of these. and I was moved to a new school. so thats quite tough. about last week i said hi. But they were so curious on what had happened to me.. but will i be judged? how do i start the story of my life to make it clear and make them understand? they are not in my shoes?

You said they were your best friends, and if they really are, they'd understand you and accept whatever you're going through. If you feel like they're really your best friends, you just need to trust them. Trust in them that they would understand. It doesn't matter how you'll start your story, you could start with telling them that you've had problems with your family. It doesn't matter whether they can see things in your point of view or not, as long as they'd act as your best friends and understand you. Just, don;t be afraid to trust them if you're really sure, because your long period of absence will really cause confusion and misunderstanding, so it's up to you to clear it up to them. Tell me how it goes, goodluck~!! <3 

[butimhereforyou]

There's this girl I like and I can't seem to make her like me.. But as time passes by, this infatuation is turning into something else. Any tips on how to impress a girl? :c

. seriously? on my advice blog, seriously?! xD i’ll just think that you’re somebody i dont know and answer this like you’re a complete stranger mehehehe.

Be different. There’s nothing more surprising and impressing than that. Be different in a way that, you’re not just like all the other guys she has met before, or show her that there’s something, different about you to look out for, but remember not to lose yourself while you’re at it, be yourself. Be confident in who and what you are and remember that before loving somebody else, you need to learn to love yourself first. You don’t need to trouble yourself finding things on how to impress a girl, just show her how fun you are, or figure out what she likes/her favorites or just simply show her that you care, remember the little things, even the small details, remember her favorite things, there’s nothing more impressing than that. but most importantly, Just, be yourself. 

[butimhereforyou]

How are you? Is your life treating you well? if not how you deal with it?

Well,  I can say that in some ways ,life isn’t treating me well that much. I’m always insecure, I’m always stuck with untaken opportunities, I’m often put into tragic situations, Most of the people I care about, eventually leaves me, I give too much, of what I don’t receive enough back, but despite that I recently learned that it’s what’s making me stronger, it made me into a more matured person, I deal with depression, by reminding myself that It’s my choice whether to be happy or not, and not other else’s, and I chose to take the happy path. I’m more confident in myself, that I’d do great things, It might take time, and it might not be an overnight case, but I’ll shine as bright as a star, and it’s in these darkest times wherein i’ll find the light to sparkle. When life’s not treating you well, just prove to life, that you’re ready to strive. Life may be unfair, but sometimes, the wrong things, takes us to the right places and we’re in a certain situation for a reason. So yeah, and through these hard times I realize who's there for me, which makes me even more thankful to have them all. <3 You know? Sometimes you think that no one's backing you up at all when in reality, it's just you who's pushing them away, thinking they don't care when they do. <3 and how about you dear anon, is life treating you well? 

[butimhereforyou]

Please help me soon, I need advice as soon as possible :( I'm sorry to bother a lot 3

You don't need to say this, just tell me your problem right away. You sound so troubled. Hey, smile a bit? When life gives you a thousand reasons to frown, give it a million reasons to smile. It's alright, I'm not bothered at all~

[butimhereforyou]

Ate, pano mo nga ba malalaman pag mahal mo na ang isang tao?

uy, pinoy! haha. Pano mo nga ba malalaman kapag mahal mo na ang isang tao? Alam mo bang lagi kong tinatanong tanong yan? iisa lang ang laging nakakatatak o lagi nilang sabihin sakin. “Mararamdaman mo nalang yan.” Totoo naman, mararamdaman mo naman yan eh. Kapag nandyan sya, naeexcite ka, nalulungkot ka kapag hindi sya nagrereply back, namimiss mo sya kapag wala sya dyan, nasasayahan ka kapag kasama mo sya, para bang, bumibilis yung oras.  Pwede mo rin naman maramdaman yan sa iba, pero iba parin pag mahal mo na ang isang tao. Wag mo lang ideny toh, tip ko sayo, wag kang magsinungaling sa sarili mong puso. Dyan tayo nadadala eh, minsan, isinisigaw na nga ng puso natin, na mahal mo na nga sya, pero, dinedeny parin natin. Eh, minsan din naman ay sinasabe mo sa sarili mong mahal mo na ang isang tao, pero alam mo sa puso mo, na hindi pa naman talaga yun mahal. Kapag natutunan mong iaccept sya kung sino talaga sya, at iaccept ang mga flaws nya, kapag nakakaya mo syang mahalin kahit na gano pa sya kamessed up na tao, kahit gano ka-imperfect pa sya, is nakikita mo parin sya as isang napakabuting tao. Dun mo masasabing talagang minamahal mo na sya. Hinay hinay lang ah! Sige, update mo ko! <3

[butimhereforyou]

Hey im a New advice Blog ! Can you give me a shoutout? Im always Herr if you Need my advice! 24/7 !! :)

Oh sure, but you asked anonymously. :( anyways, shoutout to http://www.lovelyadviceblog.tumblr.com go follow her for her advices. :) 

[butimhereforyou]

I'm a lesbian and I have two problems. The first is that I just asked out a friend of mine that I don't really like LIKE THAT, but she likes me and I kind of flirt with her so I figured getting into a relationship with her would be better than leading her on. Help? The second is that with my gayness comes great anger, and I channel that into activism. A lot of my friends aren't too fond of that and constantly tell me I'm overreacting, or playing the victim when I point out oppression. (part 1/2)

(2/2) They're toxic to me and I've often taken to self harm because of them. My social anxiety makes it hard for me to stand up to them when they get like that, but lately I've gotten to the point where I can't stand them. I'd like to get them out of my life, but every time I try they just keep coming back. How do I keep them away?

(1) How do you really feel about her? don't get into a relationship with her if you're not that serious, or if you know how serious she is about you yet you don't feel the same way, getting in a relationship with her rather than leading her on is like you're just pitying her, you should be true to what you feel, and if you think your feeling's developing, then that's good, but if not, don't flirt with her in a way that she would feel and assume like she's so much more to you than what she really is. (2) Stand up to them. deeply, voice out what you really feel. You can't really call them 'friends' if they don't love and understand you for what you are or if they don't see the things troubling you. Just stand up to them, voice out how you really feel and how they make you feel. And, they're not worth the stress, they're not worth the self harm so you shouldn't trouble yourself what they feel about you, as long as you're comfortable in your situation. If you're stressing out too much and you're becoming uncomfortable, then you should defend yourself. Society's a bitch nowadays, but you gotta learn to prove to them that you're not just what they see in you. And, if you stand up to them, it will let them know that you could defend yourself, you're braver than what they think you are and they wouldn't bother pestering you anymore. Your social anxiety might get in the way at times, but find people who are willing to understand you, who are capable of making you comfortable and stick with them, or maybe even ask help. Just don't let undeserving people trouble or worry you.

[butimhereforyou]

I like someone, but that someone was hurt from their past relationship and made a wall, I really really like her but she seems too broken from her past ones that she doesn't open up to new ones anymore. How am I supposed to get her. I wanna give up already!

No. Don’t give up too easily. Just because she’s hurt doesn’t mean she won’t open up to anyone else anymore. I highly doubt that. And yes, it may take long for her scars to be fixed again, but what’s the point of giving up. It basically means giving other guys the chance to make her fall in love again when it could’ve been you. And remember, the girls who are hard to get, the girls who have a crooked smile, a broken heart, are the ones who are worth it. They are the ones who are worth the love. If she’s that precious to you, you wouldn’t give it a second thought. You’ll immediately wait for her without holding back, being there for her, making her realize constantly that she’s got you. Girls have soft hearts, sometimes even how much they try to harden or give out a cold aura, all of us, just needs that someone who can make us realize how important we are again to somebody, we just need someone who actually cares and is willing enough to wait and heal what has been done.If you don’t like the idea of waiting for her for that long, then I suggest you give it up now, she had most likely been left broken by that somebody from the past and she doesn’t deserve to experience that again.

[butimhereforyou]

Can I ask for help? I really need it...

Sure go ahead, you don't need to ask permission just get straight to it. :) I'll listen, okay?

[butimhereforyou]

So since a little time, I saw a very cute guy in highschool. I asked some of my friends for his name, info on him things like this...  and one day,one of my friends told him that I think he is cute, so he knows. He sent me an invitation on facebook (best day of my life) I accepted, I liked his photo and he did the same. And now, I'm so afraid of go talk to him, and he said to my friend that I can go talk to him, he wants to know me... But every times I see him in highschool, I always feel ridiculous and ugly, I always give him a little look to show him that I like him, and he looks at me too but ... I just don't find me enough good for him, I don't see how he could love me... My friends told me that he seems to like me too, but I'm so afraid to go talk to him on facebook and maybe he would be nasty and tell me I'm a rubbish or something... idk if I should wait that he comes talk to me, or if I have to do it..I'm so shy, and how can I start a conversation ? :/

He's already showing motives that he's into you! :) I find this cute because I once felt exactly the same way you did. The thing is, we're not afraid of confession, or being the one who'll talk first. We're afraid of rejection and the thought of not being wanted the same way. But, if we're always going to let our thoughts bother us, most likely nothing will happen. Guys are so meek nowadays, sometimes they're just waiting for the girl to talk to them. It might make you nervous, but it's better giving it a try instead of endlessly troubling yourself thinking "What if, I talk to him?" or "What if I told him?" You'll be stuck with too many 'what ifs'. And If you did make the first move, what will you lose? You may even gain a friend. Just remember not to expect too much as of now and don't keep your hopes up as well, but unless you don't try it out, you'll never know what he thinks of you and you'll never clear things out. You might feel like you're not good enough for him, but hey, in the movies and in the stories, there are times when this over-the-top guy eventually falls for this average-plain girl, right? Yes, movies might just be movies, but sometimes it also shows you that things like that could be possible. Don't be too hard on yourself, and remember to take initiative. You may start out in facebook, go chat him and say "Hey!" and ask him things like "How are you?". Your friends already told you that he wants to get to know you, so see that as a shining opportunity. Go ahead, don't let the chances slip out on you. :) Update me soon if you can, goodluck~!