Studies in Internet

23/ Expat? / USA / not fussy on pronouns

[supplementes]

the man must put on makeup to become the joker. the woman must simply take hers off

[frasiest]

improv king

[doodle-empress66]

“Thanks Hank you really taught me a lot about propane and propane accessories!”

"And I tell you hwat, young man. I don't think I know hwat a 'heart of the cards' is, but I know for certain you've got the heart of a Texan."

[tamale-papi]

This is exactly how kingdoms hearts is like

[radkindoffeminist]

You know what crazy to me is I have body dysmorphia and if I told my therapist I was going kill myself if I can’t get a nose job she would rightly send me to psych ward and yet another group people make threats and they get whatever they want.

The funny thing is that, though I believe that some trans people are genuinely suicidal over this, so much of it is just socially spread bullshit. So much is just people saying ‘trans people will kill themselves if they don't get medications’ and other such guilt-tripping and abusive threats. There’s not an epidemic of trans people committing suicide due to lack of access (even though, yes, I admit that some do kill themselves but certainly not anywhere near the rates described). There’s an epidemic of threats.

And you know what? Even if there was an epidemic of suicides, all that proves is that it's another mental health issue and should be treated like such. Why are people allowed to threaten suicide if they don't access certain medication and then we simply just... Give it to them? And pretend like that's actually going to cure their suicidal tendencies?

[garden-owler]

Many of them (trans identified people) have said they feel or have felt justified in their threats because they believe they are owed justice in the form of a ‘reparative’ (some have gone so far as to call it a ‘reconstructive’) procedure that corrects their body/mind misalignment. The “wrong” body that the universe and society(?) provided to them will be ‘fixed’ by this procedure. After all they believe it’s the fault of a doctor that they were “assigned” this body at birth, and given the wrong version of the two default human life experiences, so nows the time for a better doctor to rectify that. It’s insane. The ideology is deeply and disturbingly delusional. Imagine if they targeted their anger at the people who actually assigned the dehumanising gender roles (clothing regimes, codes of conduct, etiquette, heteronormative sexualisation) to them? Maybe then we’d see some productive change.

I think transition should be treated as a form of body modification like any other. Not a human right, not a life saving operation to a terminal patient with the wrong soul. Just a voluntary form of body modification where the same logic of “you didn’t make this choice in a vacuum but no one can force you to their will” applies.

[vulva-o-queef]

Things I support:

dysphoric people (trans or not)

getting dysphoric people access to better healthcare

getting transitioning people access to better healthcare

getting trans people healthcare which presents treatment for dysphoria and transition as options and does not pressure anyone to do anything

scientific research into the health risks and long-term effects of various aspects of transitioning (binding, hormone therapy, psychological patterns, etc.)

safety and autonomy of trans people

detransitioned people

Things I do not support:

males in female spaces

female spaces being compromised into free-for-all “gender neutral” spaces (while male spaces are left untouched)

medically transitioning children

lesbians & gay men have to be “open to” dating transwomen/transmen respectively or they’re transphobic

lesbians & gay men should “re-examine” their “genital fetishes” (i.e. DIY conversion therapy)

presenting medical transition as the only route for dysphoric people

pressuring dysphoric and/or gender-nonconforming people to identify as trans

erasing gender-nonconforming women like joan of arc from women’s history by claiming they were transmen

erasing gay figures like marsha p. johnson from gay rights history by claiming they were trans

rapists, murderers and predators who hold (or held) positions of influence in the trans movement (biko, rivers, alok, etc etc)

“centering” males in female reproductive rights

silencing female issues to cater to transwomen’s feelings

silencing victims of male trans people in the interest of “not making transwomen look bad”

violent and/or intimidating protests, no-platforming, other intimidation tactics, as an attempt to ban women’s writing, silence women’s dissenting voices, and erase women’s achievements

people identifying as trans based on gender stereotypes, outdated notions of “brain sex,” or nebulous feelings rather than sex dysphoria

transwomen being allowed to pretend they were not socialized male

transwomen being allowed to pretend they do not, and have never held male privilege

transmen’s experiences with female socialization and sex-based oppression being silenced and transmen being thrown under the bus in order to make the previous two points appear legitimate

pushing false statistics, lies, and strawman arguments to demonize anyone who questions trans theory

“TERF”

subsequent TERF witch-hunts, block lists, demanding that no one so much as hear what radical feminists have to say and instead blindly accept a strawman version of what we believe

ostracizing and bullying of anyone who expresses curiosity about radical feminist ideas, reveals that they’ve read radical feminist blogs, or so much as reblogs memes from radical feminists

denial of basic biology

denial of basic sociology

denial of sex-based oppression

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

something that infuriates me about the beauty industry is that only women are expected to do things that actively impede on their body's ability to protect them.

eyebrows are meant to prevent dirt and various particles from getting into our eyes, yet women are expected to put fine powder in them.

eyelashes are also designed to keep dirt, particles, and other things out of our eyes, yet women are expected to put literal glue at the base of them to attach fake ones. not only that, but women are expected to put liquid straight onto our eyelashes to make them darker and longer

our pores are made to regulate our skin's oil production and keep the skin healthy, yet women are expected to clog them with foundation, concealer, corrector, highlighter, etc etc.

body hair is meant to protect the skin, keep the body warm, and prevent dirt/other unfamiliar objects and particles from getting into places they shouldn't (wounds, orifices, etc), yet women are expected to shave it all off for aesthetic purposes

you can't tell me the beauty industry isn't purposefully doing this.

[dawsvaws]

I don't think that's the purpose but they sure as shit don't care as long as they can make the money and the rules

[jerithe]

I'd say the beauty industry doesn't care. They just want their money. Example: It's why cellulite was invented.

From wiki: The term was first used in the 1920s by spa and beauty services to promote their services, and began appearing in English-language publications in the late 1960s, with the earliest reference in Vogue magazine, "Like a swift migrating fish, the word cellulite has suddenly crossed the Atlantic."[14] The medicalization of cellulite (treating it like a medical problem) was popular for a time, as it drove sales of cosmetic treatments.

I HIGHLY recommend reading this article about the history of cellulite, from the coining of the word (which does not mean what you think it means originally) to how it came to be meant in pop culture today. It's absolutely fascinating about how it basically was a scam from the beginning to separate you from your cash. It's also about how the cellulite scam started the fat shaming culture we now live in. Before the scam "cellulite" was admired as a sign of health in women!! It was considered normal womanly flesh.

If the link doesn't work, it's Cellulite Isn't Real. This Is How It Was Invented by Kelsey Miller.

It's the medical and pharmacy professions that profit off of our being sick and injured caused by the beauty standards of society.

Fuck cellulite. Fuck the beauty industry with their unreal, unattainable, cash grab scams of their made-up fake beauty standards.

[rad-femmex]

Cellulite is normal female fat storage. Stretch marks are caused by quicker fat gain. Our fat stores release energy slowly to help us survive famines. Therefore, having cellulite and stretch marks are two of the ways in which we are biologically superior to men. There are many reasons we are biologically superior to men.

No cream or lotion can get rid of your cellulite or stretch marks because these are female secondary sex characteristics. If a company tells you that their lotions can get rid of stretch marks or cellulite, they are telling you their lotion can change the rate in which you gain fat as well as change the shape of your fat cells. Stretch mark and cellulite treatments are scams.

Men didn’t evolve to have cellulite or stretch marks because men are expendable. No one hates men as much as evolution.

[welladjustedindividuals]

very well adjusted individuals this is not a mental illness

[terfqueen-miku]

thinking about this constantly sounds exhausting.

[thenolanreport]

You know, for a bunch of people "living as their authentic selves", they sure do perform for an invisible audience a lot. Shouldn't this stuff all come naturally to them, if they're truly men inside?

If you have to Google search how to behave like something, you probably aren't actually that thing.

[jennifersbodyodyodyodyody-deact]

when tras do this thing where they're like "a terf interacted i just wanted to remind yall trans women are women trans women are women trans w-" are you gonna say hail mary 3 times next?

[watermelinoe]

what it really reminds me of is a mantra obsessive-compulsive people use in response to intrusive thoughts or "contamination." there's an entire subgroup of ocd devoted (no pun intended) to religious ocd because it's so common. gender is a belief-based system that functions just like religion. i'm not trying to diagnose like millions of people bc a disorder is an exceptional case, but when i go to mantras it's because i'm trying to "cleanse" my brain by flooding it with the right thoughts.

disorders are extreme, debilitating versions of behaviors that lots of us have. i don't have ocd, i have obsessions and compulsions. so this post really just struck me bc yeah, that's what it looks like! except at least i'm aware it's bad when i do it :/

[blackfemalerage]

i'm reminded of tra advice posts that were like "if you misgender someone, immediately use their preferred pronouns in five sentences in your head" and it sort of all makes sense

a "terf" merely interacting with your content means that you didn't do a good enough job of making sure your content is 100% trans-approved. if terfs engage with your posts, it means that something is wrong with your posts, and by intension, you, so now you must perform penance to escape punishment, hence the repetition of their asinine mantras. this is why libfems who regularly post feminist content explicitly say things like "women (and this INCLUDES TRANSWOMEN you filthy radfems)" or "terfs dni" or "radfems don't ever touch this"

[thenolanreport]

Anyways, trans activism is a cult.

[blossoming-witness]

The concepts of acesexuality and demisexuality have functioned as tools to erase feminist concerns about sexuality and relationships. Feminism began criticizing violent sex, hypersexulaty in our culture, the ideas that every woman should be available for sex whenever a man wants, and many other ideas like those. But now, women and girls who feel alienated by patriarchal culture don't have a support system based on a critical theory of our society... they have labels. Hypersexuality is not a cultural issue, it's a personal one, and if you don't like it it's your problem, and I hate how much of feminism we have lost thanks to identity politics.

[rf-times]

Micro identities have meant that tons of categories are now based on how comfortable you are with a particular set of beliefs and also combined with the idea that you're not allowed to criticise those beliefs if you're not a member of the group. So you end up in this catch 22 of these beliefs never being criticised

Like someone being like

A: "I hate femininity, it feels really uncomfortable for me."

B: "Have you considered the fact that you're nonbinary?"

A: "Maybe I am...but I still think femininity is harmful."

B: "Well you're not a woman so you shouldn't comment on that."

[blossoming-witness]

Yeah that's exactly what I'm talking about. Identity politics derail conversations that try to confront issues that should be analyzed under a social lens and turn them into individual choices.

In the case of hypersexuality it goes like:

"I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having one night stands and having lots of partners"

"oh maybe you're demisexual"

"maybe, but I still don't like that women are expected to be available all the time for men"

"well, if they're doing it it's because they like it, so criticizing them is anti sex-positivity"

[bloodyfeminist]

No offence but almost every “trans boy” or ”non-binary” female I’ve ever known has just been blatantly anorexic and presented their symptoms in the exact same way anorexic teenage girls always have. Binding isn’t new, teenage girls saying they want to “have a body like a boy” when they’re struggling with adapting to their pubescent body’s new wider hips and weight gain etc. is not new, it’s been a thing among anorexics and those with body image issues forever so why are we suddenly diagnosing girls who have obvious eating disorders as being hecking valid trans boys wit gender dysphoria instead of helping them with their obvious body image and eating issues. Me and my friends all used to say we wanted a boy’s body all the time and what we actually meant is that we wanted to be thin and shapeless. There has been a 4000% increase in girls being referred to gender identity clinics in the UK where they’re all being given “gender affirming care” instead of dealing with the roots of the issues. We’re failing teenage girls so much n it rly upsets me

[moonstonetombstone]

[seranavolkirad]

Where is the lie thou

[its-still-rogi]

Wait… so people are mad at Taylor Swift for casting a 19 year old girl and a 30 year old man to play a couple… in her All Too Well film…. Which is about her relationship with J*ke Gyll*nhaal….. I’m no expert but like… isn’t that the whole fucking point ???

“Sadie Sink is literally a teenager! Wtf this is gross!! Idc if it’s legal it’s still so wrong” yeah babe…..Congrats on ur critical thinking skills ur so close to getting it

[butts-mcgee]

I am reminded of the Crown, in that the actor who played teenage Charles continued to play the adult Charles when they depicted the marriage to Diana.   It made you forget about the significant age difference.    Casting correctly aged actors for real people is important. 

[foothive2-deactivated20190813]

[d3nt4l-d4m4g3]

Busted Kneecaps #1: “Support”

(This isn’t actually a series but reblog and comment if you want it to be !)

[gothicroses]

This might be considered controversial but I really don't care

I remember seeing this post on radblr a while ago (if you know the op please don't tag them. It's possible they changed their opinion and I don't want them getting unnecessary hate) basically saying in the name of bodily autonomy it's okay for women to abort disabled children

This could be my personal feelings as a disabled woman but it felt very similar to eugenics

If you're pregnant and the minute you find out your child isn't "perfect" you decide to abort it that's not okay

What's going to happen if they don't pick up on a disability or the child develops a disability later on in life or are in some kind of accident that leaves the child disabled

Committing to child means committing to everything that can possibly happen

Your love for your child you're bringing into the world should be unconditional regardless

I'm sorry if this is not the right thing to say

It just really hurt and was on my mind tonight.

[swag-smartwomenabolishgender]

Abortion on demand, for any reason, without apology. There is a responsibility to see the Child cared when they are brought into the world, yes. Abortion ensures there is no child brought into the world in this particular instance.

[gothicroses]

It's eugenics to abort disabled children especially considering not every disability shows on a scan or through tests

If a mother can't handle a disabled child she should not have children

[swag-smartwomenabolishgender]

"if a mother can't handle a disabled child she should not have children" and this hypothetical woman is having an abortion, ensuring that she isn't having a child. She should be able to have the choice regardless.

[gothicroses]

You should just admit you support eugenics

It'd be easier on you

[swag-smartwomenabolishgender]

I absolutely don't view a while hypothetical, individual choice as something to be described as eugenics, so in that we're in disagreement. Your viewpoint as explained here isn't in alignment with body autonomy and a women's right to choose, basic principles of radical feminism.

I do not appreciate your response especially when your Tumblr bio tells others to not put words in your mouth, so it's a touch silly for you to say that to me. I'm not interested in continuing any sort of discussion if you're going to be like that.

[motherrr]

@lunarradfem women's right to choose whether to terminate a pregnancy is not conditional.

There is no such thing as an immoral abortion.

Women do not have an obligation to carry a pregnancy to term, for any reason.

[gothicroses]

So if they develop a test to see if a child in the womb is going to be lgb and women start aborting their children

Or women who abort their daughters because they don't want a girl

Guess that's fine in your mind

[opisaterf]

yes. literally. I do not care what the rationale is. our rights are not won in women’s wombs.

[gothicroses]

Okay sexist homophobic ableist lady

[opisaterf]

np forced pregnancy enthusiast

[butts-mcgee]

In addition - surely we should blame a broader system that provides inadequate consideration and care for disabled people, over mothers who are not able to care for children.

Low income women who want to be mothers but know they couldnt take on the finicial costs of a special needs child shouldnt be blamed for making the choice to terminate a pregnancy.

Children are expensive. Caring for them is expensive and time consuming. Saying that the only people who should have kids are people with money has some very disturbing implications.

Just like women worrying about the social implications of carrying a girl to term in a patriarchial society, women choosing not to carry a child to term with a disability have been failed by a broader system.

[trans-activists-are-mras]