The other thing that this does though is that this immediately tells the doctor that your symptoms are affecting you in such a way that people around you are noticing them.
It's similar to how the pain scales that spell out what each level means are more effective. Pain is very subjective and depends a LOT on how the person experiencing it categorizes or measures their pain. If 10 is the worst pain you have ever experienced, that is going to vary wildly from person to person. Someone whose 10 on the pain scale is "I kicked the coffee table and stubbed my toe really badly" is going to measure pain differently than someone whose 10 is "I fell down a flight of stairs and broke multiple bones". In both instances if someone went into the doctor and said "I'm in pain please help," both need treatment, but the treatment one needs is WAY different than the other.
Pain scales that work well are ones that provide OBJECTIVE baselines to work from, like "I can go about my day normally," "I have difficulty doing physical activities but can still function" and "I am incapable of thinking about anything except my pain". These are more objective and help the doctor understand what a patient means when they say their pain is a 7.
In a way, this "shifting the blame" is actually communicating something objective to the doctor. It tells them that your symptoms are affecting or impeding your ability to function, enough that your loved ones or other people around you are noticing it. This is an actual objective benchmark that changes how doctors approach the issue and what kinds of solutions they look for.
How much something affects a person's ability to function is a serious indicator medically about what KIND of solution they may need. For example I experience a lot of symptoms of ADHD. But until I can speak to a doctor and explain that it is affecting my ability to function in day to day life, I am not diagnosed. This means the solutions my doctor will offer are DIFFERENT than the solutions that would be offered to someone who has been diagnosed with ADHD. It does NOT mean that the doctor doesn't want to help. It just means that the kind of help the doctor is offering is not the scope of the help I think I need.
Medicine especially in the US is a hot mess. And there are historically a lot of groups whose pain has been underrepresented, downplayed, or intentionally obscured by the medical community. This makes it especially difficult for some people to get the help they need quickly and effectively. But a lot of doctors do genuinely want to help.
Doctors need as much objective information from you the patient as possible, to correctly understand what you are experiencing and judge the scope of the help that you need. Saying "Hey, my parent/sibling/spouse is worried that it could be this" communicates important information to your doctor that tells them more about the scope and significance of your symptoms, and encourages them to look at bigger, more serious possibilities than is "normal" for the average patient.
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