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so is it a thing in (american) english to use “texas” as a word for like, something that’s out of control or chaotic, or as like, “crazy”? like “that party last weekend was totally texas!”
because that is a thing people say in norwegian and i just think it’s important for americans to know that?
this is the best thing I’ve ever heard
i’m sorry wHAT
This is like the time I found out that in Israel “Ma po ze, Chicago?” (What is this, CHICAGO?) is a saying for when people are acting unruly.
in finland if something is far away or in an unknown place we can say that “se on huitsin nevadassa” (it’s in nevada) you can also politely tell that you’d wish someone to fuck off by wishing that they’d go to nevada
It’s good to know that other languages do the “pardon my French” thing.
The older I get the more fiercely protective I get of younger girls. I was heading into work yesterday and I saw that 12 year old (I mentioned her before, the one who wore makeup) talking to this older man. She’s normally really bubbly but she looked a little more subdued talking to him so I go over and loudly say “Hey sweetheart, who’s this?” And the guys just glares at me and she says “oh um his name is Justin.” And I’m like “Hi Justin, how do you know her?” And he gets nervous and is like “I just saw her jogging and thought I’d give her pointers.” So I just kinda tilted my head and looked at him for a minute. He literally asked me “are you a cop or something? I haven’t done anything wrong.” So I took her to the McDonald’s near by, bought her something and had a talk about not talking to strangers. Low key I’m debating the next time I see her parents (they drop her off at the gym and leave her there for hours) to maybe have a talk with them or something. Idk if it’s my place tho
Just to add because some messaged me saying that I was being a nosey bitch: so a woman who used to go to my gym (and my same university. Like I used to see her at my job and on campus) actually went missing not far from my intersection (literally a 5 min walk away from the major intersection) on may 10 and they found her body literally last week (June 19). Everyone has been on high alert lately so when I saw this random dude talking to this little girl, my brain immediately went into defence panic mode. So yeah call me nosey if you want
This world could use more nosey b*tches.
I’ll stop being a nosey bitch when males stop being predators
Always be a nosy bitch where young girls are concerned. Always be a nosy bitch where creepy old men are concerned
His first reaction was to go on the defensive and ask if she was a cop. HE WAS UP TO NO GOOD AND KNEW IT. That girl he was talking to was 12. TWELVE.
Be a nosey bitch til the day you die. No regrets.
Reminder, BE A NOSEY BITCH
Embrace being the mama bear/lioness the world needs.
There are middle-aged men who can have entirely innocent reasons for talking with a 12-year-old girl: Confirming that she’s not lost/knows the way home, noticing something amiss (shoes not tied, backpack unzipped, jacket is torn, etc.), she’s new in the neighborhood and he’s saying hi, he has a kid near her age, he has a dog that sometimes needs pet-sitting, he teaches at her school sometimes… whatever.
None of those reasons will result in him saying, “why, are you a cop?” to someone else who asks how he knows her. Instead, he’d say, “I don’t, we just met, and [reason he introduced himself].”
And he’s not likely to make her shut down and look nervous in the first place, because even when we can’t articulate why someone is creepy, we recognize creepy when we find it. Even if his reasons are not friendly - “I raise exotic flowers and I don’t want kids on my lawn!!” - it wouldn’t set off the creep-o-meter. And, again, he wouldn’t get defensive when someone else asked why he’s talking to her.
A guy who recognized her as Girl-Scout-aged and wanted to know if she’s involved in a local cookie drive, would not be dimming her normally bubbly nature.
Occasionally, autistic people will come across as creepy. This, again, is mitigated by asking him what he wants. An autistic person will not say “are you a cop?” He’d say something like, “I saw Wonder Woman on her t-shirt and I have a comic collection and wanted to know if she reads comics or if she likes the movie more.”
People who have a non-predatory reason to interact with kids will give that reason when asked. If pestered about it because the initial explanation sounds weird, they’ll double down on that reason, not jump to “why are you accusing me of wrongdoing?”
If the guy in this incident were a track star (”wanted to give her some pointers”) and he saw her jogging and wanted to correct her posture or tell her she’s got the wrong kind of shoes… he’d talk about how much he knows about running, not insist that he’s not breaking any laws.
TRUST YOUR CREEP SENSE.
I was just about to spiral into a bad panic attack, and my boyfriend goes "Stick an ice cube in your mouth." I'm not really sure where he got the idea, and I kinda laughed at it because I didn't see how it would help, but he was insistent. So I did it.
And now I'm on my second cube, because it worked.
He explained his reasoning to me when he got home.
1. I would initially think "what the fuck" and be distracted from the anxiety. (Correct.)
2. The cold of the ice would shock my system, bringing me back to the physical world and reality, drawing my focus to the cold in my mouth, and keep my brain away from thinking "I'm panicking, I must be dying." (Correct.)
3. He assumed I hadn't drank much water today and wanted to keep me hydrated. (Triple correct.)
It also forced your mouth to make saliva!
When you go into fight or flight mode, non-crucial body functions stop working so you have more energy to do what you need to do to survive (oooor to spiral into a panic attack). By forcing yourself to make saliva it helps calm you down because since fight or flight is an all or nothing response, they can’t happen at the same time.
Learned that from my old therapist, who would use it with veterans with ptsd
I’m doing this right now and its working????
THIS! Do this!
Anxiety is an emotional thing BUT there are feedback systems in place in your body that pay attention to physical states as well, which is why you then experience raised heart rate and so on when anxious. Eliminate or confuse one feedback system? Reduce anxiety.
Go be free!
Sadly I get most of my attacks in public so I can't use this ice cube trick but spreading the word for my followers!
This is exactly why #VoteBlueNoMatterWho it’s fucking asinine and will literally get you a candidate worse than Trump. Trump had no power before he took office, he was just some loudmouth New York rich guy. Bloomberg has actually held public office and he literally used that office to actively abuse minorities. Like there is no understating or sugarcoating it: he actively empowered and encouraged Police to harass black and Hispanic people unconstitutionally for no other reason than a power trip which the data has born out as being utterly ineffective at stopping crime. To this day Bloomberg barely even acknowledges that this was a problem. Like the Tweeter said it wasn’t just some “misguided police tactic” that was ultimately harmless. This dude is a literal fucking fascist and only a fool would try and see past that just because he has a D next to his name.
Wilson Webb has photographed the cast of Little Women with the Collodion wet plate process. It was a technique developed in 1860s, when the story of Jo March and her sisters takes pace.
Cats Who Immediately Regretted Their Poor Life Choices.
What the fuck????? Do they have any idea how many lives dollar stores save?????
“If you can’t afford Whole Foods, you don’t deserve to live,” basically.
“Our low-income residents have poor diets because they’re shopping at dollar tree.”
How out of touch do you have to be?
wasn’t there some discussion a while ago about how dollar stars contribute to food deserts by how they only really have canned foods but because it’s so cheap people go there so grocery stores close and with that goes a variety of foods. (fresh fruit/veggies, seasonings, etc)
Yes, yes, yes, and they are;
The problem with Dollar Stores and their food supply is really a problem with the fact that a: companies aren’t paying enough, and b: gov’t assistance also isn’t paying enough.
If we were to institute, like, $15 minimum wage and/or up what assistance people can get (and raise the “income limit” that decides when they can get assistance) I’d bet dollar store food deserts would vanish.
Oh, and especially if we only had a 4 day work week.
Implement one of those things, the ban is unneeded. Implement two of those things and food deserts will start shrinking
This is a huge problem and 100% a pro life issue.
I’m curious if part of the reason they have high infant mortality is because they didn’t kill all the at-risk babies before they were born.
^ that’s probably so true. A late abortion/stillbirth sometimes isn’t considered birth since it’s not considered life and there’s no record of it in pro choice states
As someone who is passionate about birth rights and advocacy, who follows and reads from pro-choice birth workers and midwives, and is also working towards a midwifery education with plenty of reading material under her belt
here’s why they have terrible infant and maternal mortality rates:
lack of access to out-of-hospital birth (it is illegal in some states for care providers to attend them)
lack of access to non-nurse midwives (who specialize in safe out-of-hospital birth)
systemic racism in hospitals and care networks (black women and babies make the majority of the victims of overall mortality rates)
lack of accurate, low-intervention, holistic training on how to handle low risk birth and high risk situations for specialists such as OB-GYNs (which can cause unnecessary use of tools and procedures that increase risk of complications or death)
rural communities that don’t have easy access to specialized hospitals for when high risk issues come up (this is a particular issue that affects rural white communities and indigenous people living on reservations/ancestral land)
Literally none of those things can be addressed or avoided because of abortion. In fact, many of the system issues you find in these hospitals are also found in abortion clinics – this is because the OB-GYN, nurses, and others who work in the abortion clinics are given the same outdated and flawed info as those in hospitals. The only difference is that abortion clinics have been getting away with medical abuse and death for DECADES unless laws on safety standards are enforced.
Go follow any number of progressive-leaning, pro-choice birth group or organization. Listen to them talk about problems and issues with the US birth system as a whole. You’ll learn VERY quickly that they never once list abortion as a necessity to improving these issues. If they talk about abortion at all, it’s discussed as a family planning option/bodily autonomy issue, and it is never connected to birth justice. (At least, from what I have seen – of all the pro-choice birth advocates and professionals I have read from, none have done so.)
I say it ALL the time, but for the love of women’s health: ACTUALLY LEARN ABOUT WOMEN’S HEALTH. Pro-abortion advocates continually spout out statistics on maternal and infant mortality as a prop for their child-killing beliefs, yet too few of them who do that actually know anything about birth justice. And furthermore, they rarely are part of the movement themselves or know much about obstetrics. The pro-choicers who DO know what they are talking about never seem to claim that abortion is necessary for protecting or improving mortality rates in birth.
I know the point of this post was to make these pro-life states “look bad” and was not necessarily about abortion + birth justice, but mortality rates are a very real problem that both pro-choicers AND pro-lifers can work together on. Start by lobbying state leaders to increase access to midwives, learn from your local doulas, know about birth justice groups and utilize their resources, etc. But don’t you dare use the body of dead children to shame a group of people who don’t believe in killing those children when still in utero. It helps no one.
One of the most bizarrely cool people I’ve ever met was an oral surgeon who treated me after a ridiculous accident (that’s another story), Dr. Z.
Dr. Z. was, easily, the best and most competent doctor or dentist I’ve ever encountered – and after that accident, I encountered quite a number. He came stunningly highly recommended, had an excellent record, and the most calming bedside manner I’ve ever seen.
That last wasn’t the sweet gentle caretaking sort of manner, which some nurses have but you wouldn’t expect to see in a surgeon. No; when Dr. Z. told me that one of my broken molars was too badly damaged to save, and I (being seventeen and still moderately in shock) broke down crying, he stared at me incredulously and said, in a tone of utter bemusement, “But – I am very good.”
I stopped crying on the spot. In the last twenty-four hours or so of one doctor after another, no one had said anything that reassuring to me. He clearly just knew his own competence so well that the idea of someone being scared anyway was literally incomprehensible to him. What more could I possibly ask for?
(He was right. The procedure was very extended, because the tooth that needed to be removed was in bits, but there was zero pain at any point. And, as he promised, my teeth were so close together that they shifted to fill the gap to where there genuinely is none anymore, it’s just a little easier to floss on that side.)
But Dr. Z.’s insane competence wasn’t just limited to oral surgery.
When I met Dr. Z., he, like most doctors I’ve had, asked me if I was in college, and where, and what I was studying. When I say “math,” most doctors respond with “oh, wow, good for you” or possibly “what do you want to do with that after college?”
Dr. Z. wanted to know what kind of math.
I gave him the thirty-second layman’s summary that I give people who are foolish enough to ask that. He responded with “oh, you mean–” and the correct technical terms. I confirmed that was indeed what I meant (and keep in mind, this was upper-division college math, you don’t take this unless you’re a math major). He asked cogent follow-up questions, and there ensued ten or so minutes of what I’d call “small talk” except for how it was an intensely technical mathematical discussion.
He didn’t, as far as I can tell, have any kind of formal math background. He just … knew stuff.
I was a competitive fencer at this point in time, so when he asked if I had any questions about the surgery that would be necessary, I asked him if I’d be okay to fence while I had my jaw wired shut, or if it would interfere with breathing.
“Fencing?” he said.
“Yes,” I said, “like swordfighting,” because this is another conversation I got to have a lot. (People assume they’ve misheard you, or occasionally they think you mean building fences.)
“Which weapon?”
“Uh. Foil.”
“No, it won’t be safe,” and he went off into an explanation of why.
Turns out, he was also a serious fencer – and, when I mentioned my fencing coach, an old friend of his. (I asked my fencing coach later, and, oh yes, Dr. Z., a good friend of mine, excellent fencer.) (My coach was French. Dr. Z. was Israeli. I never saw Dr. Z. around the club or anything. I have no idea how they knew each other.)
So this was weird enough that later, when I was home, I looked Dr. Z. up on Yelp. His reviews were stellar, of course, but that wasn’t the weird thing.
The weird thing was that the reviews were full of people – professionals in lots of different fields – saying the same thing: I went to Dr. Z. for oral surgery, and he asked me about what I did, and it turned out he knew all about my field and had a competent and educated discussion with me about the obscure technical details of such-and-such.
All sorts of different fields, saying this. Lawyers. Businessmen. Musicians.
As far as I can tell, it’s not that I just happened to be pursuing the two fields he had a serious amateur interest in – he just seemed to be extremely good at literally everything.
I have no explanation for this. Possibly he sold his soul to the devil.
He did a damn good job on my surgery.
#op your oral surgeon is an immortal
Some god is slumming it on Earth with maxed-out stats helping people and his dive bar of choice is oral surgery.
How do you catch a hawk?!